How to Get More Done in Less Time

Multitasking slows you down and burns you out. Use this schedule trick to get focused and productive.

Have you ever spent all day working, but at the end, after at least eight hours of straight desk time, you have nothing to show for it? How is that even possible? And how can you fix it?
By doing something unexpected: working for less time. It sounds backwards, but working less can up your productivity. As more demands are placed on you and your life gets busier, you often compensate by working harder and for longer periods of time. Instead, you need a smarter system that allows you to get more work done per hour. And to do that, you need to remove the activity that clouds your mind and slows you down: multitasking.
The human brain is not built to multitask. Ask someone to walk fast in a straight line and solve a difficult math problem; their walking speed will slow down while they try to calculate the answer.
When you do two things at once, your brain is “context switching.” When you stop doing task #1 to start task #2, you have to mentally bookmark what you were doing and where you were to then come back after you finish task #2 to start task #1 again. This confusing chain of events is called a context switch—and just like a computer, your brain slows down when you give it multiple commands at once.
Many people live in a “mixed mode”—they’re not fully focused on work, but they’re not completely switched off, either. It slows them down, burns them out and drains them of all their energy. Think that might be you?
Signs You’re Stuck in Mixed Mode:
1. You work until you’re distracted. You work on one task until you get sidetracked, then you start a new task until your attention is diverted again. You have trouble focusing.
2. You are always multitasking and never fully disconnecting. You’re at a social dinner but you talk about work, or you’re at home with your family but you check emails constantly. You never completely relax and recover, so you feel tired all the time.
3. You don’t take breaks. You tend to work on tasks until they are 100 percent complete. By ignoring the mental cues that you need to take a break, you run down your mental energy faster. When your concentration evaporates, you don’t have the energy to reboot, so you get stuck in mixed mode.
Our bodies have natural “work and rest” cycles built into them. A runner who runs without rest will damage their body, but a runner who over rests will become weak. The solution? To run and cause a little stress to the body, then have a period of rest where the body recuperates and makes itself stronger.
The secret to personal performance is to work in a similar way. If you work without breaks, you will burn out—mentally and physically. But if you unplug too often, your performance will weaken. So to maximize your output, you need to focus your working time in 90-minute chunks (“focus mode”) and follow up with 30-minute breaks (“stop mode”).
You should try to get your first “focus mode” completed as early in the day as you can—logging 90 minutes of focused, uninterrupted work first thing will give you something substantial to show with just one session.
Next up will be your first “stop mode”—that 30-minute period where you’re completely disconnected from work. The idea is to switch gears, to switch modes. So get away from your desk. Don’t even think about work. Unplug and unwind. When you come back to your work, you should feel recharged.
If you run the “focus mode” session four times a day, you'll get six solid hours of work done, which is much better for you than working eight straight hours. And it’s definitely better than eight straight hours of being in the “mixed mode.”
Your thoughts will feel clearer because you’re focused. You'll feel more energetic because you're not wasting your energy in the mixed mode any more. And you'll get more work done in less time.
http://www.success.com/article/how-to-get-more-done-in-less-time

HOW TO BEAT LONELINESS


We’ve all felt lonely from time to time. But sometimes, things can get out of hand. Psychologist Guy Winch lays out some straightforward tips to deal with the pain of deep loneliness.

Loneliness is a subjective feeling. You may be surrounded by other people, friends, family, workmates — yet still feel emotionally or socially disconnected from those around you. Other people are not guaranteed to shield us against the raw emotional pain that loneliness inflicts.
But raw emotional pain is only the beginning of the damage loneliness can cause. It has a huge impact on our physical health as well. Loneliness activates our physical and psychological stress responses and suppresses the function of our immune systems. This puts us at increased risk for developing all kinds of illness and diseases, including cardiovascular disease. Shockingly, the long-term risk chronic loneliness poses to our health and longevity is so severe, it actually increases risk of an early death by 26%.
EMERGING FROM LONELINESS IS FAR MORE CHALLENGING THAN WE REALIZE.
There are many paths to loneliness. Some enter loneliness gradually. A friend moves away, another has a child, a third works a seventy-hour work week, and before we know it our social circle, the one we had relied upon for years, ceases to exist. Others enter loneliness more suddenly, when they leave for college or the military, lose a partner to death or divorce, start a new job, or move to a new town or country. And for some, chronic illness, disability or other limiting conditions have made loneliness a lifelong companion.
Unfortunately, emerging from loneliness is far more challenging than we realize, as the psychological wounds it inflicts create a trap from which it is difficult to break free. Loneliness distorts our perceptions, making us believe the people around us care much less than they actually do, and it makes us view our existing relationships more negatively, such that we see them as less meaningful and important than we would if we were not lonely.
These distorted perceptions have a huge ripple effect, creating self-fulfilling prophecies that ensnare many. Feeling emotionally raw and convinced of our own undesirability and of the diminished caring of others, we hesitate to reach out even as we are likely to respond to overtures from others with hesitance, resentment, skepticism or desperation, effectively pushing away the very people who could alleviate our condition.
DISTORTED PERCEPTIONS HAVE A HUGE RIPPLE EFFECT, CREATING SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECIES THAT ENSNARE MANY.
As a result, many lonely people withdraw and isolate themselves to avoid risking further rejection or disappointment. And when they do venture into the world, their hesitance and doubts are likely to create the very reaction they fear. They will force themselves to attend a party but feel so convinced others won’t talk to them, they spend the entire evening parked by the hummus and vegetable dip with a scowl on their face, and indeed, no one dares approach — which for them only verifies their fundamental undesirability.
Breaking free of loneliness and healing our psychological wounds is possible, but it involves a decision — a decision to override the gut instinct telling you to stay away and to play it safe by isolating yourself. Instead, you must do three things that require both courage and a leap of faith:

Take action

Accept that loneliness is impacting your perceptions and understand that people are likely to respond more positively than you expect. If you feel socially disconnected, go through your phone and email address books, and your social media contacts, and make a list of people you haven’t seen or spoken to for a while. If you feel emotionally disconnected, make a list of five people you’ve been close to in the past. Reach out to them and suggest getting together and catching up. Yes, it will feel scary to do so, and yes, you will worry about it being awkward or uncomfortable. That is why it is also important to:

Give the benefit of the doubt

It is fair to assume that someone who enjoyed your company in the past would likely enjoy spending time with you in the present as well. Yes, maybe they’ve been out of touch, maybe they never called after promising to see you soon, but you must accept that the reason they’ve been out of touch or the reason you haven’t been close lately might have nothing to do with you. In all likelihood, it is their busy lives, their competing priorities, stresses or opportunities that led to the “disconnect” between you. In many cases, there might not even be a disconnect — in other words, the reluctance you assume on their part might not even exist. So reach out to the people on your list but remember to:

Approach with positivity

Yes, you fear rejection and yes, you’re not in the best frame of mind, but this is one situation where it might be important to fake it. When contacting the people on your list, try to put yourself into a positive mindset. One safe way to do that is by using text or email so you can use emoticons to create the smiley face you might have a hard time manufacturing on your own face. Review your messages before you send them to make sure they sound appealing. Avoid accusations (“You haven’t called me in months!”) or statements of disconnect (“I know it must be weird to hear from me…”). Express positive sentiment (“Was thinking about you!” or “Miss you!”), an invitation (“Let’s grab coffee,” or “I’d love to get dinner and a catch-up,”) and be specific in terms of time frame (“How’s next week looking?” or What’s a good day this month?”).
Loneliness is extremely painful, but once you recognize the perceptual distortions it causes and the psychological trap it creates, you will be able to marshal your courage, take that leap of faith, and plan your escape. Freedom will be sweet once you do.

Tim Ferriss: 7 Great Principles for Dealing with Haters

Dealing with negativity online can be tough, which was why we were all ears when Tim Ferriss, author of The Four Hour Work Week, took the stage at The Next Web '10 event in Amsterdam to discuss how to learn to love haters. 


While Mashable recently offered you advice on how to deal with negative feedback specifically in the social media realm, Ferriss takes the concept a step further with advice on how to contend with — and benefit from — criticism across all platforms. 


We caught up with Ferriss backstage at the event to find out more about his seven principles for dealing with haters. 


Read on for some interesting ideas and let us know which work for you — as well as your own strategies — in the comments below. 


1. It doesn't matter how many people don't get it. What matters is how many people do.



"It's critical in social media, as in life, to have a clear objective and not to lose sight of that," Ferriss says. He argues that if your objective is to do the greatest good for the greatest number of people or to change the world in some small way (be it through a product or service), you only need to pick your first 1,000 fans — and carefully. "As long as you're accomplishing your objectives, that 1,000 will lead to a cascading effect," Ferriss explains. "The 10 million that don't get it don't matter." 


2. 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it.



"People are least productive in reactive mode," Ferriss states, before explaining that if you are expecting resistance and attackers, you can choose your response in advance, as opposed to reacting inappropriately. This, Ferriss says, will only multiply the problem. "Online I see people committing 'social media suicide' all the time by one of two ways. Firstly by responding to all criticism, meaning you're never going to find time to complete important milestones of your own, and by responding to things that don't warrant a response." This, says Ferriss, lends more credibility by driving traffic. 


3. "Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity." (Colin Powell)



"If you treat everyone the same and respond to everyone by apologizing or agreeing, you're not going to be recognizing the best performers, and you're not going to be improving the worst performers," Ferriss says. "That guarantees you'll get more behavior you don't want and less you do." That doesn't mean never respond, Ferriss goes on to say, but be "tactical and strategic" when you do. 


4. "If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative." (Scott Boras)



"This principle goes hand-in-hand with number two," Ferriss says. "I actually keep this quote in my wallet because it is a reminder that the best people in almost any field are almost always the people who get the most criticism." The bigger your impact, explains Ferriss (whose book is a New York Times, WSJ and BusinessWeek bestseller), and the larger the ambition and scale of your project, the more negativity you'll encounter. Ferriss jokes he has haters "in about 35 languages."

5. "If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid." (Epictetus)



"Another way to phrase this is through a more recent quote from Elbert Hubbard," Ferriss says. "'To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing." Ferriss, who holds a Guinness World Record for the most consecutive tango spins, says he has learned to enjoy criticism over the years. Ferriss, using Roman philosophy to expand on his point, says: "Cato, who Seneca believed to be the perfect stoic, practiced this by wearing darker robes than was customary and by wearing no tunic. He expected to be ridiculed and he was, he did this to train himself to only be ashamed of those things that are truly worth being ashamed of. To do anything remotely interesting you need to train yourself to be effective at dealing with, responding to, even enjoying criticism... In fact, I would take the quote a step further and encourage people to actively pursue being thought foolish and stupid." 


6. "Living well is the best revenge." (George Herbert)



"The best way to counter-attack a hater is to make it blatantly obvious that their attack has had no impact on you," Ferriss advises. "That, and [show] how much fun you're having!" Ferriss goes on to say that the best revenge is letting haters continue to live with their own resentment and anger, which most of the time has nothing to do with you in particular. "If a vessel contains acid and you pour some on an object, it's still the vessel that sustains the most damage," Ferriss says. "Don't get angry, don't get even — focus on living well and that will eat at them more than anything you can do."

7. Keep calm and carry on.



The slogan "Keep Calm and Carry On" was originally produced by the British government during the Second World War as a propaganda message to comfort people in the face of Nazi invasion. Ferriss takes the message and applies it to today's world. "Focus on impact, not approval. If you believe you can change the world, which I hope you do, do what you believe is right and expect resistance and expect attackers," Ferriss concludes. "Keep calm and carry on!"


3 Game-Changing Mindset Shifts To Attract More Money

Do you set intentions to have more money every year? Do you create vision boards or visualizations to attract more abundance? After a couple weeks, do your intentions of wealth turn into long lost dreams and more financial struggle?
This year, you can do the same process and hope that you'll finally attract abundance, or you can change it up and move out of "living paycheck to paycheck" land forever.
Here are three steps to add to your intention-setting practice so that this year will be your most abundant year ever.
1. Investigate your thoughts about money.
Do you believe that money is hard to come by, you have to work really hard to earn money, or that there isn't enough money for everyone to be rich?
If so, your thoughts about money are unconsciously manifesting more financial struggle.
You're a master manifester, and you're constantly manifesting your reality. This may be a tough pill to swallow if you're struggling with money, because it means that you are manifesting your current struggle.
When you understand that you manifest everything in your life, from the ups to the downs, it means that you can finally step into your power and begin to consciously manifest what you want to experience.
Investigating your thoughts about money is the first step to becoming a powerful, conscious manifester.
If you think you have to work hard for money, the law of attraction will reflect your thoughts in your reality. You will attract circumstances that require you to work really hard to get money.
If you think that there isn't enough money in the world and money is hard to come by, once again you will attract circumstances into your life that make it difficult to obtain money and reflect the scarcity in your mind.
To interrupt this process of unconscious manifestation, ask yourself the following questions to release your money story:
What did I learn about money as a child? Is that story still serving me? What do I want my new story about money to be?
2. Ask from a place of abundance.
When you put a picture of a mansion on your vision board, and year after year you find yourself still living in a cramped apartment, it means that you may be asking for that mansion from a place of lack.
The law of attraction is based on your mindset, not your words and vision board.
Lack mindset attracts lack.
Abundant mindset attracts abundance.
To find out if you have a lack mindset, ask yourself the following questions:
Why do I want a mansion? Do I want it to impress others? Do I want it to get love? Do I want it to be worthy of approval and attention?
If you dig deep into your intentions and find that you want that mansion to be worthy of love, approval, or attention, that means you are asking from a place of lack. Your mindset is: "Right now, I'm not good enough and I need something outside of me to be worthy."
Therefore, you attract more circumstances into your life that mirror your mindset: "I'm not good enough."
To begin manifesting from a place of abundance, investigate your mindset to see if you are manifesting from a place of lack or abundance.
3. Live from a place of abundance.
When you spend money, is there a fear that you may not have enough in the future? Do you constantly seek out the best deal for fear of not having enough if you spend too much?
If you do, you could be living from a place of lack and therefore unconsciously attracting more lack.
If your focus is fixed on saving and living cheaply, there is no space for financial abundance in your life. Your thoughts most likely are based in a deeply ingrained fear of not having enough and therefore your reality will constantly reflect that.
This step is not about living outside your means or pretending that you have millions of dollars.
Living from a place of abundance means that you know that you are abundant no matter what material possessions you have. In addition, if you want to purchase something from a place of abundance rather than a place of trying to prove your worth, you will attract the right resources at the right time.

10 Psychological Strengths, Including the Most Valuable 2

A new study reveals which qualities may best help predict personal success.




It is nearly impossible to sift through the hundreds of articles published each year on psychological strengths. I empathize with parents who want to know which strengths are most important to cultivate in their children, as nothing is to be gained by trying to develop every valuable attribute. I empathize with organizations, including schools, first responders, and social entrepreneurs who want to create a culture in which each person can maximize their potential. All of us are deluged by too much information.
But there is another insidious problem in psychology: Too many researchers focus their energies on their favorite pet construct, never adequately testing if it deserves more attention than the alternatives. There are researchers who specialize in gratitude. Others specialize in forgiveness, and others in self-compassion, or optimism, or grit, or savoring. Some are hyper-focused on happiness—and a competing group is hyperfocused on meaning and purpose in life. Each research team spends a lot of time showcasing how their baby predicts a satisfying life, healthy relationships, physical health, and other elements of well-being.
Money is at stake—if you can show that what you are working on is the most valuable investment. Reputation is at stake—to stand out from the crowd, people want to show they are the world's leading expert in a single topic by writing papers and books, giving talks, and producing workshops on their primary idea. 
Although the research programs by many of these specialists are appealing, the list of psychological strengths, motivations, and belief systems associated with well-being is enormous. The next step should be to directly compare these different attributes on their ability to promote adaptation and adjustment.
To winnow the large number of psychological constructs with ties to well-being, researchers need to examine them simultaneously over time. This is what my colleagues and I recently did with an international community sample of 755 individuals. We compared 10 psychological strengths on their ability to:
  • predict goal attainment
  • predict the greatest changes in well-being that result from goal attainment.
Using this approach, the psychological strengths most highly (or uniquely) predictive of whether people are successful at attaining their goals and deriving well-being from these pursuits are the characteristics most worth promoting or developing.  
Which 10 strengths did we throw into the mix?
  1. Grit
  2. Gratitude
  3. Curiosity
  4. Savoring
  5. Internal sense of control
  6. Presence of meaning in life
  7. Strength use and knowledge
  8. Attitude of pursuing happiness via maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain
  9. Attitude of pursuing happiness via engaging activities
  10. Attitude of pursuing happiness via meaningful life pursuits 
All 10 of these psychological strengths have been linked to well-being in multiple studies, albeit most of the studies have been cross-sectional. In this study, all 10 strengths were administered multiple times over the course of a year, along with measures of goal attainment and subjective well-being—defined as a combination of life satisfaction, frequent positive emotions, and infrequent negative emotions.
What did we find? As for which of the 10 strengths uniquely predicted a greater increase in goal attainment over time (two separate 6-month periods), the answers were: curiosity and grit.
However, since people sometimes become passionate about the wrong goals with few benefits, the more important question was: Which strengths boosted the effects of goal attainment on subjective well-being? The only strength to boost the effects of goal attainment on subjective well-being across a 6-month period twice over a year wascuriosity. (Grit boosted the effects of goal attainment on subjective well-being across one of the 6 month prospective periods.)
Thus, the benefits of curiosity and grit emerged as more enduring and consistent than the other eight psychological strengths under study.
These results are exciting but here are some important caveats to keep in mind: By no means was the list of psychological characteristics related to well-being exhaustive and there are other important outcomes to consider besides those in this study—including life satisfaction, positive emotions, and negative emotions. Imagine that we used a different outcome. Which strengths "win" when the focus is on maintaining a satisfying, intimate, passionate romantic relationship? Which "win" for being productive at work? Creative at work? Raising autonomous, kind children who feel confident and loved? Which strength combinations work best? There is so much great research that awaits us. That being said, this international, longitudinal study is a promising extension of smaller studies on how curiosity and grit enable people to find continual sources of enjoyment and satisfaction in meaningful life pursuits.
Forget the dodo verdict: Let's start putting our ideas about what works best for whom under which conditions to the test. Over and over again.

To Perform Best in Life, Remember These 6 Ziglar Truths

Zig Ziglar explains the best ways to approach—and improve—your personal and professional life


Beloved author and motivational speaker Zig Ziglar taught timeless lessons of success before his passing two years ago this month. He encouraged people to live a life of no regrets in his last book, Born to Win!
Here, in an excerpt from the book, are Zig Ziglar’s six principles of performance—how you can improve yourself and accomplish valuable, holistic success in life and in business:
1. We generally get from ourselves and others what we expect. It is a huge fact that you will either live up or down to your own expectations.
If you expect to lose, you will. If you expect to be average, you will be average. If you expect to feel bad, you probably will. If you expect to feel great, nothing will slow you down. And what is true for you is true for others. Your expectations for others will become what they deliver and achieve.
As Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
2. The difference between good and excellent companies is training. The only thing worse than training employees and losing them is to not train them and keep them.
A football team would not be very successful if they did not train, practice and prepare for their opponents. When you think of training as practice and preparation, it makes you wonder how businesses survive that do not make significant training investments in their people.
3. Actually, companies that do not train their people and invest in their ability don’t last. They operate from a competitive disadvantage and are eventually gobbled up and defeated in the marketplace.
If you want to improve and move from good to excellent, a good training strategy will be the key to success.
4. You find what you look for in life. If you look for the good things in life, you will find them. If you look for opportunities to grow and prosper, you will find them. If you look for positive, enthusiastic friends and associates who will support you, you will find them.
On the other hand, if you look for ways to cheat, you will cheat. If you look for ways to justify leaving your spouse, you will find them. If you look for justifiable reasons to hold a grudge against another person, you will find those, too.
It is a natural tendency of us all to look for things that will justify what we think we need or want. If you are not living by the foundation stones of honesty, character, integrity, faith, love and loyalty, you will be drawn to seeking selfish gratification, and that leads to misery and unfulfilled dreams. Whatever you have will never be enough. Always look for the good and for ways to help others.
5. Never make a promise without a plan. Far too many people make promises they can never keep. They may have the best intentions in the world to keep their promise, but if they have not made a plan to keep it, they will not be able to do it.
Business leaders who make promises to their employees will not honor them if they do not create a plan on how the promises will be kept. If you make a future commitment, you must understand and be willing to do whatever it takes to complete that commitment.
One of the reasons marriage commitments fail so frequently is because the husband and wife do not understand what it takes to have a great marriage. They do not plan for or understand the sacrifices each must make for the other to enable a long-lasting relationship.
6. Happiness, joy and gratitude are universal if we know what to look for. I believe you can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.
All people want happiness and joy in their life, but you have to know what produces real happiness and how to do the things that produce it. The moment you begin to worry about the things you want and the things you don’t have in life is the moment you will lose your gratitude for what you actually have. If you are ungrateful, you will never be satisfied or content or joyful about your life. The greatest source of happiness is the ability to be grateful at all times.
http://www.success.com/article/to-perform-best-in-life-remember-these-6-ziglar-truths

Reducing Stress and Anxiety Is As Simple As Five Minutes

REALIZE YOU STRESS POINTS
Everyone has a situation or environment that creates stress in their life. Right before they pull up to their job or right before they take their kids to school. These stress points are critical. When stress and anxiety build up, they have a compounding effect. It becomes a snow ball that builds in the back of your mind like white noise from a TV in an empty room. You may not consciously know it is there, but it is. The key to ensure you reduce your stress and anxiety is to stop it before it starts.
To do this, make sure you inventory your stress points. Where do you start to feel anxiety? Where does uncontrollable stress come into play? Identifying the stress points are critical in preemptively striking before it starts.
BREATHING IS NOT JUST GOOD FOR YOUR BODY
Before you start reducing your stress and anxiety, you need to learn your coping techniques. One of the fundamental mediations used to lower stress and anxiety is a basic breathing exercise. Sit with your back straight, head up and eyes closed. Breath in through your nose slowly at a 4 second cadence and exhale through your mouth at a 4 second cadence. Repeat the exercise 10 times just to start. Put a primary emphases on the exhale and focus on the breath leaving your body. Eventually, increase the length of the breathing exercises until you are able to complete 1 3 - 5 minute exercises.
BREATHING EXERCISES AT YOUR STRESS POINTS
After becoming accustom to your breathing exercises, it will be time to put them into action. Take inventory of your stress points and identify preemptive times to practice your breathing exercises. For example, a stress point may be right before entering your job or going to work. If this is the case, your breathing exercises should be done right before exiting your car to walk into the office or right before you leave the drive way in your car from home. The goal of the exercises are to focus your mind and prepare it for the stressors about to be engaged.
PRACTICE YOUR BREATHING EXERCISES AS NEEDED
Do not limit yourself to one or two sessions of breathing exercises. The day is never stagnant and is ready to throw your way stresses and place you in anxiety building situations. Be aware of these variables. You may not be able to do your breathing exercises every time but incorporating them into your day to battle these unforeseen variables will go a long way to alleviate unwanted anxiety and stress.