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Persisting Through Resistance

The story of Nelson Mandela's fight for freedom is a great example of the quality of persistence. Born on the 18 July 1918 in Mvezo, a small village in South Africa to Nonqaphi Noskeni and Nkosi Mandela, he was originally named Rolihlahla Mandela.

Nelson Mandela took keen interest in the apartheid rule dominant in South Africa upon hearing his elders recount stories of his ancestors' bravery during the wars of resistance. He was determined to contribute to the liberation of his people. The years that followed saw him sacrifice more than twenty-seven years, fighting relentlessly for racial equality in South Africa. Although the journey was full of bumps - betrayals, defeat, trials and even convictions, his efforts finally paid off, as generations to come will still feel the impact of his legacy.

Now, while striving towards building a global business, a career or fighting a cause, throughout your journey there will be resistance, sometimes from external sources and at other times from internal sources. This could appear in form of fear, defeat or low self-esteem. How do you persist through them? Here are three suggestions to guide you.

Set your eyes on the prize

The prize is synonymous with the motivations for your aspirations. Simply put, what do you stand to gain after you have attained that goal? All Nelson Mandela wanted was for racial discrimination to end in South Africa. This quote from his Dock speech at the Rivonia trial of 1964 provides insight into his motivation.

"I have fought against white domination and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and equal opportunities. It's an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if needs be, it's an ideal for which I am prepared to die."

Setting your eyes on the prize helps you to endure and also propels you to go the extra mile in your endeavors.

Learn from your mistakes

You will make a lot of mistakes along the way, but a mindset that failure is part of the process will help you move forward. Hence, focus more on learning from them and moving on quickly, and remaining resolute. The Harvard Business Review recommends that business leaders should study causes when analysing a failure event. They should create an environment that counteracts the blame game and encourages employees to feel more comfortable with learning from their failures. The result of this, in the long term, is strong controls and secured processes.

Shut out Negativity

Psychologists agree that people are likely to remember unpleasant memories than they will pleasant ones. It is OK to agree that you are not getting your expected results if that's your reality. You can always review your methods and devise new strategies to meet your goals. Look out for constructive criticisms and try to resist the urge to dwell on the negativities.

Your focus should be on the goal at all times. Whenever you are stuck, remember the popular Nelson Mandela quote: "It always seems impossible until it's done."

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Message From the Universe: May the Force Be With You

"No matter what "they" say and no matter what they do, and no matter what they don't say or don't do, they actually love you.

I know because they told me.

I love you,

The Universe"

When you speak to people about your goals and dreams, even with family and friends, you may encounter some resistance. Some might try to discourage you and consider it as constructive criticism about your intentions. WE all should welcome constructive criticism but you need to take it from people who experienced it themselves. Someone who have never taken any risk in life, have worked their 9-5pm job for the past 25 years aren't in a position to tell you what will work and what won't. So what do you do? Listen or ignore advice from family and friends? Well, it is really up to you. As you know, your family will always LOVE you no matter what you do, as long as you keep things legal and safe for everyone. However, you can't let others dictate your dreams by telling you if your venture will work or fail. Let's say you experience failure, the best thing that would come out of it is a lesson right? So it is CRUCIAL for you to fail in life, and fail not once, but many many times. There is NO better school than life experiences. Take advantage of those lessons and as long as you learn from them, you are gold.

You want to live your life to the fullest so start doing that TODAY. Do not wait for the best timing, or when you finish your studies, or when you have a better job, or a bigger home or this or that. You want to make changes today and whatever obstacles you will face along the way, just deal with it and move on. There is no better time to do things than NOW, right at this moment. Every human beings in this planet are seeking the ONE thing in common, being happy. Some will use money for them to reach that happiness, others will be health, or any other venue to reach that ultimate level of joy. The key here is to apply what you've learned and most importantly avoid making the same mistakes over again. You want to move forward, not backward. Just like the Big Bang, it all started with the concept of singularity, where all matter was so dense within that infinitesimally small point that everything exploded with such a force to create what we see today, OUR UNIVERSE. We also started as a tiny egg in our mom womb to become who we are today. We constantly change for the better, at least I hope, but it really never ends. Just like everything else in life, we all need to grow and become the best we can be. That is why learning is a lifelong journey, because knowledge never really ends, unless you allow it to happen.

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The Magical Happiness Formula

While in school, we studied numerous formula. Things were easier to analyse and control, when defined by a formula. Knowing a formula tells us what we need to change in one of the inputs to cause an impact on the output.

Imagine how beautiful our life could be, if Happiness also had a defined formula and if we precisely knew the factors it depended upon. It will all be so easy and logical if we knew what needs to be changed to increase the Happiness content of our lives. So, here we go. Let's learn the Magical Happiness Formula.

The derivation of the Magical Happiness Formula actually got triggered when one of my readers, Biswajit (name changed) interacted with us and expressed his unhappiness over having to stay away from his family because of the nature of his job. He was sad. Could he be happier? Is there anything good in staying away from one's family? Could he look at the given situation from a different perspective, or rather from the perspective of a formula?

Biswajit's 'unhappy situation' arises from his belief that Happiness lies somewhere within his family, or the belief that he will feel happy only when he is able to share things with his family and spends more time with them. While this belief may seem so natural to most people, the fact is that different people are impacted differently by the same situation.

So, let me try and give you the Happiness formula and allow you to re-think over the entire situation.

Here we go with the Magical Happiness Formula:

Your Happiness = Your Internal Resilience / (divided by) External Pressure Situation

So, essentially, there are two factors controlling your happiness. Let us take them one by one.

Let us take the second one first.

1/ External Pressure Situation

Your Happiness is inversely proportional to any External Pressure Situation.

This means that more is the external pressure or worse is the external situation, lesser will be your Happiness.

Now, let us understand a few things about this factor: 'External Pressure Situation':

1/ This factor always comes from outside you.

2/ It could be in the form of any unwanted situation. It could be seemingly big situations like work pressure, health issues, relationship challenge, death of a closed one, accident, low grades of your child, intense competition, worsening business environment, financial mismanagement - or even relatively smaller situations like missing the bus, reaching office late, stuck in a traffic jam, your favourite side losing the match, unexpected tax deduction, your child not obeying you, a scratch on your car etc.

3/ You hardly have any control over this factor, especially in the short term. You can only react to it - mostly.

In Biswajit's case, this factor happened to be the lack of his family members being with him - an outside factor, where he hardly had any control. it was impossible for him to tag his family along wherever he travelled. The more was the time he spent away from his family, the worse was the situation, the more was the pressure created by this external factor, and lesser was his happiness content.

In the short term, there is no immediate influence we can exercise on this factor, but we can surely think, plan and strategise our life so as to reduce or even remove the influence of this factor in the long term. As of now, Biswajit cannot quit his job to stay with his family or suddenly change his job overnight to find a job where there are less of travelling assignments. But over the next few years, he can look out for the right job or even plan for his financial freedom - where he is not dependent on his job anymore - the way I did. Yes, that's a long term strategy but that's the only thing which works on this factor.

2/ Internal Resilience

Your Happiness is directly proportional to the resilience (or resistance) you offer to this external pressure. This resilience can be different for every person. The more resistance you offer to the external pressure situation, the more is your resilience and therefore, more is the happiness content of your life (being directly proportional).

The most important point about the Internal Resilience factor is that this factor is internal to you - which means that you can develop full control over it, and you can influence this factor to ultimately influence your Happiness. You can build your internal resilience with time, much like building your muscles.

Your internal resilience is defined by how you think and act, after knowing the fact that the current external situation is reducing your Happiness.

How can you influence or improve your Resilience:

Since Internal Resilience is all about thinking in a way to offer more resistance to the external pressure situation, let us continue with our dear friend Biswajit, and his situation. Here are a few thoughts which I recommended him - which would have helped him improve his internal resilience:

1) Think about what this job has given you and your family. Has this job given you money to feed your family - a privilege which not everyone has? or to pay your bills? Is your family not better placed today in the society because of your job and the money it brings in? What if you did not have this job?

2) Think how temporary distances can help us value each other in the long run. These distances will surely help you value the positives of each family member - resulting in better and stronger relationships.

3) Think about what gifts you would take for your wife and your children when you go back home.

4) Think about some other surprises that you would want to give them when you go back - like a new hairstyle or a fresh beard.

5) Take some pictures from the place you are in, send them across. Do more regular video chats with them.

6) Read some great books when alone. Become a better, wiser person before you go back and meet them.

7) You have time to get fitter. Work on your body. Surprise them with your fitness.

8) Try out some new places, new dishes around the area where you are staying, and write down your new experiences to your family.

9) Make a surprise visit to them or send them surprise tickets to come and meet you.

... and many more.

Do whatever it takes to improve your resilience. Our mind is very powerful. The more you think on these patterns, the more ideas it will generate to make you feel better - thereby ensuing a chain reaction and improving your resilience even further. This improved internal resilience, given the external pressure situation, is therefore going to increase your happiness content (being directly proportional).

Why should you improve your Happiness Content?

One may argue with the basic fact that why at all should we work on ourselves and improve our Happiness content at the first place. Well, you ought to do that - not for anyone else, but for yourself. Your own Happiness is the end purpose of your life. There is no purpose bigger than this. All your goals, passions and dreams are linked to your ultimate desire to feel happy. All your love and care for your family is linked to the fact that your family's happiness gives you happiness. All your social work and the zeal to elevate the world around you stems from the fact that these things make you feel happier. God has sent us on this planet to experience happiness at the maximum and enjoy this beautiful journey of life. Do not get hooked to your end goals.

The end is the same for all - a happy journey is all that matters.

At the end of the day, Biswajit's happiness is his own responsibility. Having known the Magical Happiness Formula, it is up to Biswajit to see how he can influence both the factors to start improving the Happiness content of his life. It is up to him to change the long term situation as well as to make the best use of his stay away from his family.

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Manifestation is Absolutely Real

Throughout the ages, many leaders and common folk, religious and otherwise, have demonstrated the ability to manifest out apparent nothingness something that was required for the moment. Loaves and fish, great journeys, military conquests and lives of enormous luxury are the result of manifestation. These magnificent events in the history of humankind exist because the authors decided with conclusive certainty to allow them to exist. The people that accomplished great events were enlightened Manifestation Masters. Their power is available to you too.

Manifestation is a process used to create or allow circumstances, effects or material to exist. The beginning step is a conscious decision and absolute conviction to allow that which you have realized that you truly desire to be real. It cannot start until you know exactly what it is you really want. Vague ideas produce vague results, if any.

Once you determine and define that which you strongly desire, be it fame, fortune, love, inner peace or anything else, Manifestation can begin. You must be able to concentrate on what you desire, though, not the lack of it. To spend time wishing for something that is not there puts all your energy into creating more of its absence. Proper training into where to direct your thought energy is necessary for most people. Fortunately the material has already been gathered for you, for to search through centuries of writings of Manifestation Masters would take up a large part of your lifetime.

You must learn to concentrate in the very present moment, without distraction or resistance. Your thoughts must not be watered down with imagined worries or fears of what may or may not happen. To gather all of your energy together and imagine the worst case scenario of the existence you truly do not desire gives it a life of its own and you may well manifest this instead of what you do want.

The contemplation of what does not exist right now is why you begin your practice of manifestation, so this immensely powerful process must be trained on the correct targets. According to Quantum Physics, nothing ever can be created or destroyed, so therefore everything must already exist. You must learn truthful and accurate ways to manifest the proper outcome, or destroy your life in the process. Many people with enormous perceived potential spend their lives wandering aimlessly, because they concentrate on the lack of prosperity instead of the unfailing lavish abundance that already exists throughout the universe, and is available to anyone with the access to the keys.

When your thought energy is channeled along the right vectors, nothing that you can imagine cannot be created by you. All you have ever dreamed of is waiting for you choose, and manifest into existence for yourself. Manifestation is an omnipotent force that cannot be reckoned with, once set into motion. Learn the absolute reality of manifestation Computer Technology Articles, and all you crave is yours to accept.

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Open The Floodgates of Abundance (By Jeanna Gabellini)

If you want the floodgates of abundance to open wide for you, here's a surefire way to do it.

It's truly not an intuitive strategy. Many of my coaching clients resist it. I also must confess that I sometimes resist it too. It's a hard one to swallow when your life or business gets intense.

Are you ready for the number-one secret to solving every challenge you have?

Chill out.

That's it. It's the best strategy on the planet to rake in the abundance.

Anytime you feel the push that you must work harder, take more action, or figure out how to solve a crisis, simply take a step away from your current focus.

I spent almost two decades working on my business whenever I felt inspired.

Now my time is very limited since I had two children. Gasp!

Early on I set my intention that my life would be more balanced as a result of having babies and that I would make more money. I've had to remind myself of that declaration many times as I practiced letting go of all my "to-dos."

I am thrilled to tell you that my business is currently the best it's ever been. The added bonus is that I started reading again as soon as I had baby #1. I used to only read business and self-improvement books. Now I read for fun. The more time I spend chilling, water-skiing, and out of my office, the more inspiration I have.

More opportunities and clients come my way, too!

I noticed this same phenomenon in the real estate industry. I was coaching a whole office of realtors, and they joked about how every time they went on vacation, their business thrived. They thought it was unique to their industry. Nope. It's a Universal Law.

When you release any resistance or stress in your life, you allow in the abundance that is your birthright.

This law is the reason we benefit from sleep, walks outside, meditation, movies, good music, and great conversations. These actions pull us away from any worries and toward more joy. Even an afternoon of hooky or play will allow you to get back to your life with a fresh perspective. Change your perspective and change your life.

Is there a topic in your life where you need to let go of all thought? A mini vacation from that issue will allow you to reconnect with your inner guidance. Once you've allowed yourself to come back to your power source, you'll easily and naturally find the next step to take.

As they say, "Let go and let God."

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