Showing posts with label constructive criticism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label constructive criticism. Show all posts

Message From the Universe: May the Force Be With You


"No matter what "they" say and no matter what they do, and no matter what they don't say or don't do, they actually love you.

I know because they told me.

I love you,
The Universe"

When you speak to people about your goals and dreams, even with family and friends, you may encounter some resistance. Some might try to discourage you and consider it as constructive criticism about your intentions. WE all should welcome constructive criticism but you need to take it from people who experienced it themselves. Someone who have never taken any risk in life, have worked their 9-5pm job for the past 25 years aren't in a position to tell you what will work and what won't. So what do you do? Listen or ignore advice from family and friends? Well, it is really up to you. As you know, your family will always LOVE you no matter what you do, as long as you keep things legal and safe for everyone. However, you can't let others dictate your dreams by telling you if your venture will work or fail. Let's say you experience failure, the best thing that would come out of it is a lesson right? So it is CRUCIAL for you to fail in life, and fail not once, but many many times. There is NO better school than life experiences. Take advantage of those lessons and as long as you learn from them, you are gold.

You want to live your life to the fullest so start doing that TODAY. Do not wait for the best timing, or when you finish your studies, or when you have a better job, or a bigger home or this or that. You want to make changes today and whatever obstacles you will face along the way, just deal with it and move on. There is no better time to do things than NOW, right at this moment. Every human beings in this planet are seeking the ONE thing in common, being happy. Some will use money for them to reach that happiness, others will be health, or any other venue to reach that ultimate level of joy. The key here is to apply what you've learned and most importantly avoid making the same mistakes over again. You want to move forward, not backward. Just like the Big Bang, it all started with the concept of singularity, where all matter was so dense within that infinitesimally small point that everything exploded with such a force to create what we see today, OUR UNIVERSE. We also started as a tiny egg in our mom womb to become who we are today. We constantly change for the better, at least I hope, but it really never ends. Just like everything else in life, we all need to grow and become the best we can be. That is why learning is a lifelong journey, because knowledge never really ends, unless you allow it to happen.


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Inspiring Others - Demonstrating a High Level of Motivation


Most of us feel bogged down in life with stresses, pressures and challenges. Have you ever thought of rising above these factors and standing out? Why not set a bright example for others? In fact, how can you demonstrate a high level of motivation in order to inspire others? Read on for getting insights.

There are several solid ways you can stay motivated and also inspire others. Have a look at the following scenarios.

· Your wife and child are both sick at home. You are extremely worried. But the moment you reach your office, you start to carry out your duties with such enthusiasm that you forget your family for the time being. At lunch break, you share your personal story and everyone is startled that in spite of that, you are able to work so spiritedly. One hour before the office closes, you give a round-up of your work and drop in a line that you have to leave the office early because of your personal problem. Nobody minds including your boss. You have worked hard and demonstrated it all. So you are well off; you are good to return home and look after your family.

· Your boss criticizes you badly in front of others. He points out the flaws in your work project and rebukes. There is pin drop silence all around. You just say humbly, "I will work it out. " Over the span of the next few days, instead of being gloomy, you take your boss's words as constructive criticism and work in all angles, heeding your boss's requirements all along. By the end of the week, you give a finishing touch to your work project and come up with a smart presentation in front of others including your boss. There is a big round of claps and applause. You not only made it but also were an inspiration to everyone.

· One of your colleagues is stuck with her work project. She doesn't know how to begin. You give her a boost with a few keywords to work on and Google over the web. Your colleague grabs them and gets the head start immediately. In fact, you have inspired her to begin her project avidly.

· Your colleague has been criticized badly by your boss in front of others. He is feeling sulky and embarrassed. You uplift his confidence by pointing to him what options he has to rectify his mistakes. You present to him a few scenarios and tools as well to work with. Your colleague regains his composure and starts to work zealously on what you have just demonstrated.

These are a few ways that you can be a source of inspiration for others, standing out from the rest, setting yourself as a brilliant example for others.


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6 Ways To Boost Happiness

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People often wonder why happy people are so happy. Do they have special powers? Of course, not! However, they do have ways of mastering their own happiness. They spend time expressing gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savoring life's little pleasures, etc... But guess what?

Happiness is available to everyone. Help yourself to it! - Thich Nhat Hanh

We've listed 6 ways you can find your happiness!

1. Mind Your Business:

Yes, this may sound harsh. However, this is a key to happiness. Not allowing yourself to become consumed by others business. Helps you! The energy and time you spend wondering all the "What if's" You are creating negative spaces to dwell in. Instead of worrying or creating anxiety for yourself. Create peace and harmony by removing the discord from your life. Albert Einstein once said, "From discord find harmony". Here's his entire quote:

"Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity."
- Albert Einstein

2. Seeking approval of others:

Oh my goodness! I can't begin to tell you how many people are affected by approval. No matter from whom you seek approval. You're always dancing with no audience. When you allow yourself to receive judgment for yourself from outside sources. You invite insecurities into your mind. Everyone has some type of insecurities, however, not everyone needs a judge to approve them. If this is you STOP IT! You are enough! You do not have to get approval to be you. Acceptance is key not approval.

3. Seeking happiness from others:

No one can make you happy but YOU! Happiness is a temporary emotion and it's constantly fleeting. You need more and more to stay happy. It is unfair and unrealistic to assign someone to your happiness. When you're forging for happiness you lose the essence of that happiness. Personally, I like finding joy. Joy is everlasting because it's not tied to an emotion. It's based on a sentimental meaning (family, friends, significant other, accomplishment, etc... ). Find your joy source? What's your joy source?

4. Not letting go of the past:

Wanna getaway? OK, this is not a SouthWest Airline commercial. However, it is a commercial for much-needed vacation from your past. Carrying about additional baggage does not bring good into your life. It does exactly the opposite! Just like airlines, you can only have one carry-on and one personal item. Everything else you will be assessed a fee. In life, extra baggage comes with an additional cost as well. But there's good news, it's called opt out! You can opt out of the baggage claim at any time. Letting go is very hard to do. Not moving forward is even harder. How to let go: Forgive him, her or them for their offenses. I tell people to use this sentence I learned years ago. First take a deep breathe then say, I forgive you for ______ and I forgive myself for allowing_________.

5. Negative environments:

OK, this is one of those return to sender situations. I'm always there to comfort any person hurting from a situation. However, I will not take up residency in negative spaces. Staying in negative spaces too long will result in you losing your happiness. I believe in emotional climate control. Just like climate change for the earth. There are outside forces working together with some intentionally and some unintentionally. You have to decide how long will you let your atmosphere be impacted by outside circumstances.

6. Taking on the truth:

This is the most important and trickiest of them all. Truth... it will set you free or make you run and hide. The intent of truth is for correction or bringing light into darkness. You know, truth uncovers lies. Lies we tell others but more importantly lies we tell ourselves. Some lies are fancy aka fantasy! Fantasy is a great and scary phenomenon. In many ways, it can protect you, however, an over exposure or prolong period of fantasy may cause damaging effects on the psyche, whoa it just got real! I've started a series on our Podcast about fantasy and loss. Believe it or not, people grieve a fantasy loss just like grieving a personal loss. You can actually go through stages of grief after a fantasy is lost. Having friends or close confidants that are truth tellers are a blessing. At times, it may not seem that way, when they give you honest feedback or constructive criticism. If they sting you by telling you the truth. Don't end the relationship! Teach them how to deliver truths to you in a non-threatening way. Then you both can Namaste together!

I hope these tools are helpful...

Until next time... Be Happy!


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The Ultimate Guide to Learning Anything Faster

If only I could have learned Spanish three years ago…”
“If only I learned about investing when I was still in my early twenties…”
If only.
For many of us, there are more things we want to learn than we have time for. And as information becomes more readily accessible online, the number of things we want to learn has only increased. That means that the only variable we can actually control is the time we spend learning them.
Shortening the learning curve is a topic that’s been studied for many years, and this guide will cover the fundamental core principles of learning faster. Were these principles perfectly in place, you could leverage them to push yourself to learn faster and master any category of learning, including languages, business skills, musical instruments and more. To quote Tony Robbins: "One skill you want to master in this day and age we live in, if you want to have an extraordinary life, is the ability to learn rapidly." 
So, here are those principles:

1. Don't reinvent the wheel.

Why reinvent a wheel that’s already been created? The common tendency we all have when learning something new is trying to master it alone and underestimating the amount of time and effort that can be saved by getting help from someone who’s already learned it. 
Think back to a time when you first learned how to speak a new language or obtain a new skill. You probably had a steep learning curve initially, but after a few years or even months of experimenting and making mistakes, you could design a shortcut to help a friend avoid those same mistakes you made early on.
In order to achieve mastery faster, our first step should be to consult the top players in the field, and model the path they have already carved out for us. As Robbins puts it: "Many great leaders have proven that the fastest way to master any skill, strategy or goal in life is to model those who have already forged the path ahead. If you can find someone who is already getting the results that you want and take the same actions they are taking, you can get the same results 
"It doesn’t matter what your age, gender or background is," Robbins continues. "Modeling gives you the capacity to fast track your dreams and achieve more in a much shorter period of time. In this day and age, it’s possible to retrieve almost any solution that’s out there in the form of books, blogs, training videos, consultants, someone in our network -- the list goes on."
To quote yet another wise individual, this time Pablo Picasso: "Good artists copy. Great artists steal."

2. Deconstruct the skill.

The next step to hacking the learning curve is to deconstruct the skill you see into its basic, fundamental components. Break down the parts and find the most important things to practice first. (See Pareto’s Principle, which describes a goal of generating 80 percent of results by putting in 20 percent of the effort.)
It turns out that this concept can apply to almost anything in life, including:
  • Business (80 percent of sales comes from 20 percent of customers)
  • Employee efficiency (80 percent of results comes from 20 percent of employees)
  • Happiness (80 percent of happiness comes from 20 percent of relationships)
  • Travel experiences (80 percent of our travels may be summed up from 20 percent of our highlight experiences)
Embracing this way of thinking only goes to show that very few things actually make a difference in any aspect of our lives, including learning. Our goal then, should be to separate the 20 percent of our learning materials that will give us 80 percent of the result.
As it turns out, fast-learning experts have already embraced this ideology, and have provided some concrete examples on how to do this effectively. In his TED talk, Josh Kaufman said he believed that you don’t need 10,000 hours in order to master a skill. Instead, the key is to embrace the first 20 hours, and learn the most important subset skills within that time frame to get the maximum amount of impact. Numerous studies in the fields of motor and cognitive skill acquisition have established that the first few hours of practicing a new skill always generate the most dramatic improvements in performance. (See Parkinson’s Law.)

3. Stop multitasking.

Multitasking is a guilty pleasure we’ve all developed in the age of constant notifications and mobile applications. From checking our emails every ten minutes, to scrolling through our Instagram feed, to welcoming co-workers coming by our desk for a “five-minute break”: Multitasking can be one of the biggest hurdles preventing us from learning faster.
Think about your own computer. When you have 20-plus different tabs open on your browser, your computer begins to slow down and it takes longer to process every action afterwards. Studies have shown that when an individual gets distracted, it takes an average of 25 minutes to return to the task at hand. What’s more important to note is that a study by the University of California Irvine found that a worker applies himself or herself only 11 minutes before becoming distracted.
The same thing applies to our long-term focus. Many of us aren’t able to dedicate the six-to-12-plus months it takes to learn a skill because of the countless new projects, ideas, or hobbies that come our way. And when we decide to shift our focus to a new distraction, it’s much more difficult to find the same passion and drive to focus on the previous skill.
Once you have deconstructed the subset skills that will give you the maximum amount of results, focus solely on improving those skills and avoid learning anything else until you’ve mastered them.

4. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

This is the part where most of us struggle, and what many of us don’t want to hear is the rule that mastering anything faster requires practice. Learning requires frequency of and persistence in performing the same skill over and over again, until you can do it subconsciously, without having to think about it.
The best performers in the world understand this “secret” to learning faster and become the best, yet rarely talk about its importance because of how unsexy it sounds.
Expert-level performance is primarily the result of expert-level practice, not due to innate talent. As K. Anders. Ericsson, a scientific researcher from Florida State University, elaborated in a paper: “People believe that because expert performance is qualitatively different from normal performance, the expert performer must be endowed with characteristics qualitatively different from those of normal adults. This view has discouraged scientists from systematically examining expert performers and accounting for their performance in terms of the laws and principles of general psychology.”

5. Seek immediate feedback. 

In 1960, while they were still an unknown high school rock band, the Beatles went to Hamburg, Germany, to play in the local clubs. The group was underpaid. The acoustics were terrible. The audiences were unappreciative. So what did the Beatles get out of the Hamburg experience? Nonstop hours of playing time, practice and immediate feedback that forced them to get better. That’s the key difference that elevated the Beatles to the top, according to Macolm Gladwell in his book OutliersThe band didn’t just practice in a garage for the sake of practicing; they strived to get in front of a live audience that would provide them immediate criticism and constructive feedback.
As the Beatles grew in skill, audiences demanded more performances -- giving them more playing time. By 1962 they were playing eight hours per night, seven nights per week. By 1964, the year they burst on the international scene, the Beatles had played over 1,200 concerts together. By way of comparison, most bands today don’t play 1,200 times in their entire career. This is why at Rype, we’re solely focused on connecting you with native speaking tutors, who can give you immediate feedback during your lessons.
 

6. Go Long. 

Unfortunately, many of us give up before or during what Seth Godin calls “The Dip.”
Godin says that although it’s important to know when to quit, many potential winners don’t reach success because they quit before the dip. According to Godin, five reasons you might fail to become the best in the world include: 
  1. You run out of time (and quit)
  2. You run out of money (and quit)
  3. You get scared (and quit)
  4. You're not serious about it (and quit)
  5. You lose interest (and quit) 
Psychologists have also studied what’s known as the transition cycle. This is the cycle of progress we go through whenever we’re experiencing change or a novel event, such as a tragedy or the opportunity to learn something new. There’s a sense of euphoria we all experience when we begin something new. That's why we’re so addicted to seeing notifications on social media, because dopamine gets released each time.
Once the honey-moon phase fades away, we experience the “dip” and our progress begins to plateau or diminish. This is when most of us quit. The reason why this is important is that if you can predict that a dip is coming, when you’re learning anything new, it’s easier to fight through it. More importantly, the dip is there because those persistent enough to stick it out can ride the upward wave that is at the end of the tunnel.
So, to restate these points on how to hack the learning curve:
  • Model an expert who’s been there, and don’t reinvent the wheel.
  • Deconstruct the skills that will deliver 80 percent of results.
  • Stop multitasking.
  • Practice those reps, reps, reps! Then seek immediate feedback.
  • Go long and don’t quit before or during the dip.