How to Let Go Of Resistance So Your Desires Can Manifest

Do you ever find yourself thinking, "I'm way too emotional about this. I shouldn't want it so much"? Especially if you've been hurt before... burned deeply by a desire that you desired. You wonder if you've set the bar too high, or if you simply want something too much.

Social media marketer Kim Orlando felt this way. She was worried about being too emotional about her success. Had she gone overboard... desiring success too much instead of sailing through a take-it-or-leave-it (non-resistant) attitude? It created a contradiction; making her wonder if she was too attached to what she wanted.

When we have a really strong desire, we often have somewhere within us an exact opposite energy... some kind of fear. It's the nature of duality. Part of us wants this, and part of us wants that. (Or part of us wants this, but not if that will hurt us.)

If we aren't feeling any emotion (good or bad)... if we're feeling indifference... then our desire isn't big enough. So how much desire is too much desire?

This is a favorite game of our Ego. It's a game of cat-and-mouse at its best. If Ego can make us look at impending disaster, then it can summon resistance. It tingles with delight when we start looking at potential problems. This is why we sometimes need discipline to train ourselves to not look at the problems, but to look only at the desired outcome. Yes, there's that word "desire" again!

Kim knew this was her hidden power, to look only at her desired outcome. She knew the easiest way to let go of resistance was to look ONLY at her desires, and we can do the same. So go ahead... let's feel free to sprinkle positive energies all over our desires. In changing our perspective from potential problems to desired outcomes, it changes our vibration and invites success.

Helpful tip: When you're feeling stuck, it's never the situation that has you stuck... it's your energy that's become stuck, by the trigger of negative emotions that can come from past situations or events.

In other words, it isn't the pain of the situation; it's the pain of not being connected in the natural energy of who you really are... of being connected to that magical part of you that's a creative vibrational being who can use positive energies to create what you want and bring it into physical manifestation. Part of this process is to allow your manifestations to materialize, and not get stuck in the negative vibrations that block them.

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How Dreams Can Enhance Your Creative Abilities (By Doug Bannister)

I am recently retired from the decorative concrete industry having achieved a certain level of acclaim and material benefit. The world of dreams may seem like a curious interest for someone who has spent the majority of his life working with something as dense as concrete, however concrete is pliable for a period of time. In that short window of time the craftsman is charged with using the resources available to him to bring about the desired outcome. In life too, it behooves us to use our resources to the best of our abilities. Dreams offer us great value provided we receive their wisdom.

As a child I received attention from adults due to my ability to draw. I loved drawing and working with color. I was able to accurately reproduce what I saw with my physical eyes. As a junior in high school I took a two-hour art class. I soon discovered there were other good artists, some of whom were more imaginative than me. As I mentioned my strength was drawing what I saw in front of me. In preparing us for a career in art the teacher assigned us project and due dates. I knew my best art came when the spirit moved me. Now I was facing arbitrary subject matter and deadline dictates. It felt forced. I was not inspired. I was intimidated. My imagination went on strike. For years I had allowed my creativity to be dependent upon an outside source. Now I felt so inadequate that I dropped the class after the first few weeks. I gave up on my childhood dream of being an artist because I didn't think I had the imagination to keep us with the other students.

Even so, I became a successful artist in the unlikely field of decorative concrete. I learned to transform functional concrete into beautiful and colorful countertops, driveways, sidewalks, pool decks and even city streets. There was a particular moment, however when I made a quantum leap in the way I saw creativity and how I regarded my imagination. This took place one morning during my decorative contractor days in a meeting where the homeowners and I were determining the colors and textures for the exterior concrete work on their new home. The owners asked me to design something totally new and unique for them, something different from any work I had done in the past. Their request brought me the same feelings of anxiety and intimidation I felt in my high school art class. They were not the cause of my anxiety. They simply wanted their home to be distinctive. Nonetheless for a moment I felt something akin to panic. It was an occasion for me to redress my lesson about creativity that I was not willing to face in high school.

I breathed deeply and made an effort to gather myself so I could offer them something, anything. Surprisingly clear images from a recent dream came to me, almost out of nowhere. It was as if I were watching a romantic travel movie or documentary. I was on horseback in the dream. I was enjoying the beautiful view from high on a bluff overlooking the river valley below. It was like seeing the old west before power lines and highways. I could immediately see the dream images as being the answer to the unique design they desired. I held my breath as I shared my quick sketch to them. What a moment it was when they smiled excitedly signaling their approval. It was exactly what they wanted, something unique.

Years later I studied dreams in earnest and I still record them and interpret them. I investigated various methods and also joined an international organization dedicated to bringing people who cared about dreams together. While the members hold a wide variety of views about where dreams come from and their relevance to the everyday life, all are fascinated with them. The method for understanding dreams I find most helpful suggests that the dreamer view the dream as a custom produced movie designed expressly to aid the dreamer in understanding his/her previous day's experiences. In other words, dreams are symbolic and come from the inner part of our whole mind that is inherent within each of us. One guiding principle is that each person, place and thing in the dream represent a part or aspect of the dreamer. The key to understanding dreams is to study the meaning of these universal symbols. At the time I received the driveway dream I didn't know how to interpret it. I just knew It was a momentous occasion to have this experience of "miraculous inspiration". I realized at the time that dreams had significance. I came to see that I had resources available to me that I had shut out before. I believe this is universally true - that we have much more creative mind substance available to us than we acknowledge.

If I were to have that dream today I would say interpret it from the conventional way, which is to say that during the previous day or so that I was using my will (horse) to appreciate how my conscious life experiences (river) flowed through my subconscious existence (prairie). The short interpretation would be that during that time I was using my will to combine my everyday experiences with my inner thinking to bring about what I wanted. If fact, I was creating a new business at the time born from the knowledge gained from my contracting experience.

That particular dream served an inspirational function for me because I didn't have to interpret it - I saw immediately how I use it. It seemed so obvious to me that this dream WAS the driveway. The experience also caused me to reflect on the wondrous nature of dreams and the expansiveness of our minds. Of all the dreams I may have had rattling around in my subconscious mind on that day, this one leapt forward to say, "Here I am!" The dream also shows me that the interpretive style I have chosen to adopt for dream interpretation is accurate, in this case some years later when I have the advantage of historical perspective for confirmation.

That dream experience forever changed how I view creativity and the importance of dreams. We all have inner resources available to us. The inner mind, the place where dreams come from, can objectively reveal the truth, when we are open to receiving it. I encourage everyone to be open to receiving from the inner self. The inspiration may come from a gut feeling, a hunch or coincidence, synchronicity, deja vu or a partly remembered dream. Inspiration often comes as we draw, doodle or work in the garden, anytime the busy conscious mind is relaxed or taking a break. The inspirational nugget may be a solution to a problem or an idea for a new creation. To cultivate the ability and practice of receiving from that inner part of ourselves, to trust it and to be willing to act upon it is what is important. Happy dreaming everyone!

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Just Because We Know Doesn't Mean We're Not Scared

It's been said that "knowledge is power" and it is true. We are emboldened when we possess the knowledge of a topic or situation. Why then should we feel fear?

Wouldn't it be great if by simply having the knowledge necessary to obtain a desired outcome, we could act boldly and achieve our desired results?

Some years ago I attended a seminar where we were taught how to eat fire. It's a simple task that includes suffocating the fire in your mouth long enough to extinguish the flame. Of the hundreds of people in the room, every one executed the task without incident. And so did I.

But that doesn't mean I wasn't scared.

Many years earlier I engaged in a dumb challenge at a bar with some friends. The challenge was putting matches in our mouth and striking them to light them. The person who was able to strike the most would have his bar tab retired by the others.

It's funny what we'll do for a few free drinks. Actually, it's dumb.

I took an entire matchbook and when it went up in flames, so did my upper and lower lips. It took a couple of weeks of aloe treatments to get back to normal.

And thoughts of that past pain came back when I saw the flaming cotton ball at the end of the stick I was about to eat. All I could think of was how much it hurt to burn my lips, how much pain I endured, and how much embarrassment I suffered.

Now I was about to do something similar that could have the same result. And this time, not only did I possess the knowledge of the pain; I was sober too!

I could have allowed the previous experience to prevent me from a successful result. I could have been one person in the room that was too afraid to do what we'd been taught to do. Who knows, if I had not eaten the fire that day maybe others would have allowed my fear to expose their fear. Perhaps I would have prevented someone else from achieving his or her goal with my fear.

But I overcame my fear. I realized that I now possessed new knowledge. I knew exactly how it would work this time if I only followed the process. And I did.

But that doesn't mean I wasn't scared.

How did I overcome the fear? I focused on what I knew I needed to do and ignored that which I didn't want to do.

As we make changes it is important to remember that we must act proactively with confidence in our new knowledge.

If we're trying to avoid mistakes of the past while trying to employ knowledge of the future, fear will hold us back and we'll fail to act, or worse, we'll pull back with catastrophic results.

As the flaming cotton ball approached my mouth or as it was inside, had I remembered the pain I experienced before, I might have opened my mouth, exhaled, and given more fuel to the fire. I would have not only burned my lips but likely the inside of my mouth and much of my face too.

We must act boldly and confidently in the knowledge we've gained. Change is at hand. We know what to do and all we must do is do it.

But that doesn't mean we're not scared.

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Choose Your Affirmations

Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down - as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go. Melody Beattie

Sometimes positive affirmations are no match for the overwhelming emotions that many of us can be feeling. We try to be disciplined and write them every day, only to begin to feel that they really are not creating the desired outcome. Yet we know that many successful people affirm the process and even go so far as to demonstrate how they have created the manifestation desired.

Doctor Joe Pace, a recognized performance psychologist, in his video 'Affirm Your Way to Success' talks about how to use Reticular Activity System (RAS) within our brains to help attract the things and experiences we want in our lives. He also gives us an understanding of how we can actually help them show up more often using tools like affirmations.

Some of the key take-aways from the video can be don't give up too quickly on your affirmations and be more mindful of events that are being delivered up to achieve your goals. If you need a check list of activities you can do to enhance your success with affirmations and to reduce the self-talk negative cycle, consider some of the following suggestions...

1. Personal: Ideally, affirmations are written with the word "I" in them. You can only affirm for yourself. The desired change will come about because of something you do, and it is your own inner picture that will change because of your affirmation. This is why we encourage your goals to have action steps, otherwise they appear to be only wishes.

2. Positive: Always describe what you want in your affirmation. Describe what you want to move toward, not what you want to move away from. Checking your mind chatter and negative thoughts is an important first step.

3. Present Tense: Affirmations are written as though they are happening right now. This requires using your imagination and becomes easier with practice. This present tense also helps you break down your affirmation and goals into smaller bits attached to what is really possible.

4. Indicate Achievement: Eliminate words such as, "can, will, should, and want to" etc., from your affirmations. Include phrases such as, "I am, I do, or I have." It is important to give your subconscious a clear picture of the end result as though it is already accomplished. If the achievement is too big for the mind to consider all at once, try describing your goal in increments to make it achievable in your own mind.

5. No Comparisons: Comparing yourself to others is ineffective. The technique of affirming is a personal process. Your measurement of growth is based on yourself. So affirming that you will be number one suggests comparison and may need rewording so that it is your goal.

6. Action Words: Use terms that describe and trigger action pictures, such as "easily, quickly, thrive on, energetically, confidently," in your affirmations.

7. Emotion Words: These are of critical importance. The more positive emotion you feel when picturing your accomplished goal, the faster your affirmation will work for you. It has also been suggested that physical pictures supporting the affirmation help with the emotion and visualization.

8. Accuracy: If an affirmation is written in general terms, the picture may be too vague, and it gives you too many escape routes. For example; if your goal is to exercise regularly, what kind of exercise? Is it jogging, walking, swimming, aerobics, or something else? How regularly? Three times a week? If so, on what days? What time of day and for how long? This is how accurate your affirmations must be.

9. Balance: Set goals, and write affirmations in all areas of your life. You never know if a goal around mental health or physical health can somehow create the synchronicity of the financial goal.

10. Realistic: After you have written your affirmation, close your eyes and picture it. Can you see yourself there? You need to be able to see it, visualize it, and imagine it. So if you want the 2.5 million dollar house in a warm destination, try the $300.0K house first and sell it profitability to then keep moving up the housing market to the $2.5 million dollar property.

11. Confidential: Most of your personal affirmations need not be shared. Share your affirmations only with those you are certain will support and help you achieve them. These are personal and do not need judgement by those that may want you to play small with your dreams and goals. Research seems to support that people who use affirmations successfully manage to bypass their conscious mind so it doesn't reject the new thought. The subconscious mind gets programmed with repetition. So, if you keep at affirmations, eventually the awkwardness stops. These people also keep up with the process and are mindful of negative self-chatter, as well as the synchronicity of events building to our accomplishing our goals.

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Don't Count On Motivation, Because Discipline Is The Key

Discipline Is King

Motivation is a fleeting state that requires a certain mental or emotional approach to reach a goal.

It fluctuates depending on outward conditions.

In contrast, discipline can help you conquer the toughest challenges.

For example, you may wake up with a cold or flu and have a 10,000 word report to write, yet not be motivated to complete it.

However, discipline commands you tackle the work knowing it must be completed, regardless.

Success depends on discipline because motivation comes and goes. It entails chipping away at a goal until the desired outcome is realised.

Motivation is interrupted by excuses and fades steadily. This is why your motivation at the beginning of the year contracts towards the latter part.

"In other words, if you are an effective manager of yourself, your discipline comes from within; it is a function of your independent will. You are a disciple, a follower, of your own deep values and their source. And you have the will, the integrity, to subordinate your feelings, your impulses, your moods to those values," states author Stephen R. Covey in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

You mustn't wait until the perfect conditions to begin a task. Rather, tackle it boldly until the conditions become perfect.

Motivation is an overused word, apparent in the corporate world where managers try desperately to inspire their employees.

Yet, in the sporting world motivation cannot be relied upon by athletes for success.

Winning athletes know discipline is the cornerstone of success. They consistently show up to training when they're less inclined. Unforeseen circumstances may interrupt their preparation, yet they are determined to put in hours of dedicated practice.

Life has a way of dragging you every which way if you let it. This means if a crisis or unplanned event arises, you may be unmotivated to take action on your goal.

This scenario happens all too often.

If you think back on the previous week, did something unexpected affect your motivation?

Did it wane during the week or were you disciplined despite the interruption?

Author Jay Samit states in Disrupt Yourself, "By carefully studying your environment and analyzing your daily frustrations, you'll find that opportunities for disruption start to jump out at you. Daily discipline is the key to this exercise. I tell my students to write down three things they notice could be improved every day."

Get Feelings Out Of The Way

You must disassociate feelings with actions to reach your goals. This is the biggest impediment affecting people because they are dictated by their emotions, instead of seeing the goal as the prize.

You will enjoy reaching your goals more than the immediate gratification of succumbing to your emotions.

If you rely on feelings, you are less inclined to commit to the task at hand because you are dictated by short-lived emotional states.

Discipline means showing up time and again, irrespective how you feel. The goal has a greater purpose, so it is incumbent on you to stay committed until the end.

It's clear, you don't undertake a goal to play small. It's about winning and achievement that make the pursuit exciting.

"The discipline of consistent action is what self-management is all about. It's the only way to win and keep winning," affirms author Larry Weidel in, Serial Winner: 5 Actions to Create Your Cycle of Success.

So, how can you be more disciplined and avoid counting on motivation?

First, create regular routines without over-committing in the early stages. If your goal is to exercise four times a week, build gradually instead of going all out in the first week.

The greatest impacts on your life will result from taking the first step and improving on it.

Gradual Improvements

In the sporting world there's a term known as, marginal gains popularised by Sky Team's cycling manager, David Brailsford. It is a concept referred to as the "aggregation of marginal gains." According to Brailsford it means, "The 1 percent margin for improvement in everything you do."

At the senior level, most professional athletes are of a similar ability in terms of: performance, dedication and skill. What separates first from second or third is the smaller gains, the 1% such as: sleep, nutrition and recovery.

The 1% increments add up, leading to marginal gains. Therefore, discipline becomes the means to success.

"Success is actually a short race - a sprint fuelled by discipline just long enough for habit to kick in and take over," state authors Gary Keller and Jay Papasan in, The One Thing: The surprisingly simple truth behind extraordinary results.

The key is to start small and make small increments towards your goal.

Second, discover your underlying motivation for pursuing the goal. Find a convincing reason to take daily action, even if it's the smallest task, you are likely to stay committed.

People who have a compelling reason are disciplined until the goal is accomplished.

The desire must be imbued with enthusiasm, you will stop at nothing to achieve it.

"As Samuel Johnson said, "The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken." Anyone who thrives in any endeavour develops this discipline, the ability to be still, to stay the course, to grow down - no matter what. No matter how the world receives them. No matter what results they get initially," affirms Derek Rydall in Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change.

The forces of life conspire against you in the form of resistance. If you succumb, your efforts will be in vain and your success squandered. Yet, if you take them into account, you will stay resolute irrespective of the circumstances.

Persistent action in the face of fear is paramount, as Susan Jeffers writes in her acclaimed book, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway. With this approach, you reinforce your self-esteem each time you commit to a task.

Authors Gary Keller and Jay Papasan state, "When you discipline yourself, you're essentially training yourself to act in a specific way. Stay with this long enough and it becomes routine - in other words, a habit. So when you see people who look like "disciplined" people, what you're really seeing is people who've trained a handful of habits into their lives."

You must learn to think with the end in mind as Stephen R. Covey states.

Discipline replaces motivation because you show up consistently. The goal is too important to allow feelings to get in the way.

The late American motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, "We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret."

I advise you not to allow regrets to impose upon your success.

After all, it is much too important to leave to chance.

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Happiness & Success Begin With Not Desiring Them

To desire happiness or success proves you don't "think" you have it within you. So, if that's what you think, that's what you get. Desire for happiness does not bring happiness; desire for success does not bring success; desire for anything doesn't bring it. You have to already have it, and you do already have it.

"Thinking" otherwise sabotages the creative process. This explains, for instance, why certain people who have lost all their money tend to quickly regain it. It's because they have a pre-existing mindset of happiness and success that's based on reality not desire. They consciously or unconsciously tap the foundation of success - which is always within and from the Subconscious Mind.

Their happiness doesn't come from money or success of itself, but is realized via the game or process of creative action toward some greater good. There's a saying, "Nothing succeeds like success." This means success breeds more success, and happiness breeds more happiness.

To "think" otherwise is operating under a false pretence so brings failure or an unfavorable result. If you're not happy now, you won't be happy after you've achieved every goal you think will make you happy. You're never satisfied. You're always wanting something more or different. While there's nothing wrong with wanting more and more for creative purposes, there is something very wrong with wanting more for the purpose of happiness. It's a subtle distinction.

True happiness is an inherent, innate, non-emotional part of human being. It's not acquired externally but is realized internally. You can acquire pleasure but not happiness. Pleasure is emotional while true happiness is impersonal or spiritual.

You can't think or desire your way to happiness. You have to already be happy, and the beautiful little secret is that you already are happy. You were just looking for what you already have like a dog chasing its tail. You were looking in all the wrong places, in all the wrong ways, for all the wrong reasons.

Think of the erroneous translation, "Money is the root of all evil." The correct translation and true principle is, "The desire for money is the root of all evil." Now just change the word money to happiness and you'll have the problem correctly defined. It's the root of all evil because, again, you're operating under the false premise that true happiness is not who you truly are.

Think of happiness as a euphemism for any desired outcome. Don't set goals based on what your reward will be, but on being creative in, of and for itself.Just for the natural good of it and reality of it. Creativity is its own reward. It's the nature of being a joyous, powerful, fully functioning human. It comes from the Subconscious Mind while thinking and desiring come from the personal, self-centered mind. One is spiritual; the other, egotistical.

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5 Steps to Creating Your Dream Life

"You did not come to face reality, you came to create reality." - Abraham-Hicks

Take a moment and imagine your very best life: you live in your dream house, you have a loving partner, a healthy body, fulfilling work, supportive family and friends, and more than enough money to meet all your needs and wants.

How does your current reality compare with the life you just imagined? Does it even come close? If not, it's time to make some changes!

You are continually in the process of creating your life experiences, but most people are unaware of their power and are creating unconsciously, by default. As long as you believe that anyone or anything outside of you is controlling you, you will operate more from habit, or influence, and continue on in sameness.

You are not at the mercy of your circumstances. You were born a creator and have the power to shift and mold your reality into the life of your dreams.

Here are the 5 important steps to create your life intentionally:

1. Learn How Deliberate Creation Works

Deliberate creation is the intentional focus on something that is wanted with the purpose of creating a desired outcome. The process consists of 3 basic steps:

1. Ask for what you want
2. Believe that it is coming to you
3. Allow it and receive it

Everyone is a creator and has the power to create. By learning to harness this power through awareness and conscious involvement in the creation process, you can become a creator who has consistent results and a life of your own choosing. Your life can be an ongoing journey of fulfillment and joy, rather than one of only occasional moments of fleeting happiness or temporary satisfaction.

Deliberate creation allows you to truly live rather than merely exist. You no longer feel like you are the victim of your circumstances because you are in the driver's seat and are in full control of the vehicle.

2. Connect With Your Inner Being

One of the most important steps of successful deliberate creation, the one that most teachers fail to tell you about, is to consciously connect with your Inner Being (also known as your Higher Self or Soul).

This non-physical part of you is always with you, loves you unconditionally, and is in every moment guiding you to your very best life. Your Inner Being is your expanded, loving, and compassionate self. It is the wise teacher within you that knows everything about you, including why you have the challenges you have. Your Inner Being is the essence of who-you-really-are, has no limits, and assists you in knowing your true identity.

As a deliberate creator, connecting with your Inner Being is crucial to creating your life on purpose. You may have some degree of success on your own but without this connection, there will be limits to what you can accomplish, and your life experience will be less meaningful, less satisfying, and considerably less productive. Making this conscious connection is the key to creating a spectacular life with consistent results because you are tapping into to the greater power and infinite wisdom of the Universe.

3. Get Clear on What You Want

It is through your dreams and desires that you grow and evolve. You are an eternal being and will forever have desires. It is a key element in the expansion of life; not only yours, but also the Universe. Without desire, you cannot evolve and would cease to exist.

Your dreams and desires may come to fruition eventually on their own without deliberate intent, but why leave it to chance when you can manifest what you want more quickly? This is where clarity comes in. Getting clear and focusing on exactly what you want to create in your life speeds up the process.

Consider each of the following areas of your life and write a list of what you want:

• Your Values: What is most important to you - success, freedom, happiness? Identifying your values will help you to get clear on the essence of what you want and will serve as the foundation for your dream life. If you do not have the life you want, you are probably living from a different set of values than is required for what you want. Consider reprioritizing your top values to create more of what you most want.
• Ideal Self: Identifying the traits of your ideal self will help you to reclaim your true identity and align you with the person your were born to be.
• Health and body: What is your ideal for your health and body? How much do you weigh? What kinds of foods do you eat? Do you exercise? If so, how and how often? How do you feel physically? What do you look like?
• Financial Abundance: What does your ideal financial situation look like? How much money do you make? What are your sources of income? How much money do you have in your savings account? Do you invest?
• Career: What is your ideal work situation? Do you work with others or alone? Are you your own boss, maybe an entrepreneur? What activities are you doing? What skills do you use?
• Intimate Relationship: Think about your ideal intimate relationship, how does it look and feel? What does your lover look like? What character traits does he/she have? What kinds of things do you do together? How do you feel when you're with him/her?
• Other Relationships: What does your ideal relationship with others (family members, friends, co-workers) look like? How do you feel in these relationships?
• Home Environment: Where do you live? Who do you live with? What kind of house do you have? How many bedrooms and bathrooms? How do you feel at home?
• Spiritual Life: What are your spiritual beliefs? What activities do you do (meditation, attend church, etc.)?
• Fun and Recreation: What activities do you do for fun? Where are you? Who is with you?

Add or change things on your lists as you think of them. Over time your vision will become more and more clear until eventually your life will begin to unfold as you have described.

4. Release Resistance

Resistance is the only thing that prevents you from having what you want and living your best life. It comes in the form of belief in lack, scarcity, or unworthiness. Negative emotions such as anger, fear, frustration, etc. is a signal from your Inner Being that you are in a state of resistance. If you catch it in the early stages, before the momentum gets going, it's easy to shift back in to allowing and in the direction of what you want.

Resistance lowers your vibration and slows your energy down, which in turn slows down your manifestations. In order for the Universe to deliver what you want, it has to receive a positive energetic signal and an open channel to receive.

Since releasing resistance raises your vibration, it is worth taking the time to let go of anything that is not for your highest good, such as negative emotions and old limiting beliefs. When you're in a high vibrational state, you feel more aware, connected, energized, and tuned in.

Here are the 3 most powerful ways to release resistance:

1. Appreciation. Appreciation is the absence of resistance. It raises your vibration and aligns you with what you want and the creative person you really are. If all you did was look for things to appreciate you would live a happy, joyous life.
2. Meditation. When you relax and quiet your mind, your attention is turned away from the thoughts that hold your vibration in a lower place. It only takes 10 to 15 minutes a day of meditation to significantly improve your life.
3. Tapping. Also known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), tapping is basically acupuncture without needles. It is an invaluable tool for releasing negative emotions, letting go of old beliefs, and neutralizing the charge of unpleasant memories from your past. If you are not familiar with EFT tapping, I highly recommend taking the time to learn.

5. Stay Focused and Move Forward

To create your life deliberately and successfully, it is important to develop the ability and skill to focus your thoughts. The best way to do this is to have an alignment plan.

Alignment is the absence of resistance and gives you the leverage to create what you want faster and more easily.

Your alignment plan can include any processes that you enjoy, such as meditation, scripting, affirmations, appreciation lists, or vision boards. Anything that helps you to stay positively focused on your desires, let go of resistance, and raise your vibration.

The more you practice alignment and focus on your dream life, the faster it can come to you. You are a powerful creator and have what it takes to succeed! Move forward confidently and joyfully, and allow the most magnificent life you can imagine to unfold.

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Turn Intentions Into Behavior With This Simple Formula (By Julie Marsh)

Why don't your intentions result in the necessary behavior to achieve your goals? Why do we do the things we don't want to do and not do the things we do want to do? This age-old dilemma impacts us all at one time or another.

We intend to get in shape. We intend to stick to our budget. And we really mean it. But then our intentions don't turn into our behavior.

During January of a brand new year, intentions tend to take the form of resolutions, which seem to be guaranteed statistically to fail. In fact, most don't make it through January before abandoning their good intentions.

This doesn't appear to vary with the type of intention, be it exercise, diet, or some other self-improvement goal. It is also true regardless of when you resolve to do something.

What's the problem?

We intend to take the action, but we never do. Why? And, more importantly, how can we change that?

One of the frustrating things about intentions and behavior is though they often have a wide gap between them, the gap doesn't occur every time nor in every situation.

For instance, when under deadline, or under someone's expectations, behavior is more likely to follow our intentions. While we may not start as early as we should, we typically will get the job done, on time. Does this mean that we are motivated by others' perception of us? If so, can we use this to help us achieve our intentions more frequently?

What's the Plan?

Research indicates clearly that an intention-behavior relationship is made stronger when a plan is formed for how and when intentions will be turned into behavior. This implementation plan seems to delegate control of the action or behavior to some external circumstance. This could be an alternative explanation to why we act when under deadline. The external control of an externally imposed deadline might serve to motivate us to action.

This idea of creating a plan is corroborated by Todd Rogers, a behavioral scientist at Harvard University who studies the gap between intention and action. In a Tedx Talk, Rogers explained that in various studies they have found three things that seem to turn intention into behavior. He conducted this particular research in the area of voter mobilization, but said that the three things will work in other areas connected with intentions as well.

The first is prompting to make a plan. "People are more likely to follow through when they are prompted to make a plan," Rogers said. This follows what we have already discussed.

How, specifically, will you take the action to follow through on your intention?

Can Peer Pressure Be a Good Thing?

Second, Rogers said to leverage peer pressure, in this case positive peer pressure. He used the example of people being more likely to follow through with voting when they believe other people are taking that same action.

Negative peer pressure certainly impacts behavior, so why shouldn't positive? For example, we work on completing our portion of the big presentation at work, at least in rough form, by the next meeting in order to meet the expectations of our presentation partners.

If kept in a healthy context, building positive peer pressure into your implementation plan can work well.

What You Think Matters

The last item that Rogers discussed was the self-concept. He said that, "People are more likely to follow through when their relevant identity is reinforced."

This suggests that by reinforcing our self-concept as it relates to a particular intention could be a useful component of our plan.

The theory of reasoned action connects behavioral intentions with beliefs about the likelihood of the desired outcome. In other words, when you believe that a specific action is very likely to lead to a positive outcome, you are more willing to follow your intentions with behavior.

Not only that, but your belief about your ability to perform a particular behavior is also connected to following through on intentions. You may say you want to do this or that, but if you don't actually believe in your heart that you have the ability to do it, you will procrastinate and put off acting on your intention. This typically comes dressed up as something else, one of any number of excuses.

The Connection Shortcut

Rather than spending a lot of time trying to figure out what you believe and analyzing your past, you can take advantage of the connection shortcut.

There is a connection between what you believe about your likelihood of success from some action and the implementation of that action.

For example, when I decided I was going to go back to school and finish my degree, the process of completing all the paperwork and additionally needed credits (9) took less than a month. I was certain that completing this action would lead to getting a degree, which I also believed would allow me to focus on the type of work I enjoy at a higher wage. In short, it would lead to increased income.

Conversely, I have more than 60,000 words written on a fiction story that I began a number of years ago (more than eight) and continue to plug away at. I certainly intend to finish it.

While my daughter and husband insist that readers will love it, I tend to focus on the publishing industry and the difficulty in getting published. It's not that I don't think it is a good story or that readers won't like it. I do. I just have doubt about the likelihood of publishing. However, the potential outcome is the same as getting a degree; increased income.

It is the belief in the outcome that directs behavior.

So what does this mean? How can you use this information to help you to do what you want to do?

Begin With A Plan

To put this information to work for you, follow this four step formula.

1. Find a way to build in peer pressure, or accountability

2. Tie the behavior to a self-concept

3. Find a way to increase your belief in your desired outcome

4. Increase your perception of your ability to perform the task

One way to accomplish this is to break the intention down into a smaller unit, something that would feel more doable.

For example, if my goal is to complete my fiction book and submit it to publishers, the approach might look like this:

Set a definite time of day that I will work on the story for a specific period of time or number of words written.

Send the unfinished manuscript to three friends who will want to know how it ends, or, send a query package to agents prior to finishing, knowing that I better have the whole thing done if they ask to see it.

Tie the intention to my self-concept as a writer and storyteller.

Change the focus of the goal from "getting published" an outcome I have less belief in, to "finish the story and submit it." I believe I have total control of this outcome.

By using this formula, which is research based, you can move away from "good intentions" (which apparently make good paving material) and toward successfully translating your intentions into the behaviors you want.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Turn-Intentions-Into-Behavior-With-This-Simple-Formula&id=9459040

Letting Go of Impatience

In any given moment, you are already walking the shortest possible path towards the manifestation of your dreams. In fact, there is nothing else than the shortest possible path existing!

So, why do many things seem to take so long to manifest?

Because you simply hold too many other contradictory thoughts about your desired outcome, or have so many doubts...

The path towards your desires is always the shortest possible one at the given moment, considering the sum of all your thoughts regarding the desired output. More rubbish inside your thoughts about the desired outcome simply produces a "bumpier" variation of the shortest path possible at the given moment. On the other hand, joyful and loving thoughts about the desired outcome will always produce a much "smoother" and shorter path.

What is impatience, then?

It is just another expression for the total sum of all the related negative feelings about the desired outcome, which are, as an effect, producing the obstacles towards it, and therefore, at the given moment making the shortest possible path a pretty long one!

What we call impatience is really just a sum of many negative feelings related to the desired outcome. Our anxiety, coming out from what we call "impatience" is, in fact, just connected with the negative, conflicting thoughts and beliefs, we still hold about the desired outcome (so then, in our subconscious mind, the it might not be as desired as we think of it at the conscious level).

But when you think about it more deeply, you will realize that impatience is an enormous gift.

It is a tremendously helpful reminder telling us that our desired outcomes still can't be manifested, because there are still too many negative feelings behind the desired outcome, which need to be let go.

So, once we let go this kind of feeling that we usually call "impatience" (it is just labeling), what we really let go, are the negative feelings and contradictory thoughts and beliefs behind the desired outcome, which hold us back from producing a different shorter path towards its fulfillment and manifestation.

Once we let go of these feelings, we will finally start experiencing peace about the desired outcome, and, as a result, we will finally know for sure that the outcome will come exactly at the right moment, through the shortest path possible. So, the feeling of impatience will simply vanish.

And once we even let go of the outcome itself, the path to its manifestation will finally be the shortest of all the shortest paths possible.

This is the paradox of life, which I believe, many of you have already experienced: Once you "give up" on the desired outcome (let it go); once you stop pushing, making any effort, all of a sudden, the desired outcome will manifest almost immediately.

Why?

Because you let it go, which is the foundation of most manifestations.

But already letting go of impatience is a huge step ahead that will definitely lead you to the shortest path possible with hardly any bumps, which, from linear thinking, will be way shorter (and faster) than the current one. Just letting go of all (or most) of the negativity behind our desired outcomes will completely change the course of events towards the manifestation of the outcome (with some additional effects, like a sudden increase of synchronicity).

Here is the letting go process for impatience:

1. In a quiet place, close your eyes and bring up all the feelings of impatience related to the desired outcome.

2. Start embracing and experiencing these feelings fully.

3. Don't try to label these feelings in any way, rationalize or analyze them. Just let them come out and experience themselves.

4. Start surrendering yourself to these feelings slowly, let them express themselves fully all over your body (or any other part where you feel them most intensively). Don't push them back; don't block them or act on them either. Just let them be in their natural way and instead, be an independent observer of them, as if they weren't even yours.

5. After a while, make a decision about letting them go once and forever, and then let them actually go and disappear.

6. Because the amount of negative feelings related to impatience can be quite often pretty intense and deep, you will probably need to repeat steps 1-5 several times.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Letting-Go-of-Impatience&id=9472420

The Cost Of Taking Shortcuts

How do you define someone who is successful? Maybe they have results to show for their work - a lot of money, expensive car, big house, etc. This may look like success to you, but you don't really know how they achieved it. It could be luck or it could be doing the appropriate things to get them to that point.

I like to define success as your ability to achieve your desired outcome.

If your goal is to be a successful network marketer with a certain amount of money coming in every month and you have no idea how to achieve that, then you will start making the same mistakes that many others make.

Don't focus on what you think you must have to be successful. When you do this, your focus will turn negative when you don't see these things happening as fast as you would like. Now you find your motivation has changed and this will stop you from achieving what you want.

Change your definition of success. It's not about the results, but your ability to achieve those results.

You probably have big goals for your business. Maybe you want to quit your job, travel extensively, be around more for your family, time freedom, etc. But first you must develop certain abilities to get you to your goal.

Set milestones for yourself along the way. These will lead you closer to your goal instead of that mysterious, elusive goal out there in the future somewhere. Chunk it down. What is the closest, smallest, most achievable and believable goal you can achieve for yourself right now?

Once you start shifting your focus, things will become much easier because it's not longer a big, mysterious unattainable goal. Learn one skill at a time to get you there. Whether it be writing blog posts, creative emails, captivating videos, driving traffic to your website...

Become great at that skill. Learn it, master it and then become great at the next step.

This will almost make your success inevitable because everything will start to flow naturally. You are becoming that person and now have the ability because of the skills you are developing.

One more important thing is to make sure you have the right spirit behind your actions. Ask how you can serve other people. Do your best to serve others with the skills you have developed. Give value. Continue to do this and it will become like a ball of energy that keeps bringing you closer to your goal.

If you have the spirit of serving in mind, people will feel that. Focus on doing the things that will bring you results by developing your ability and serving others in the process. This will not only bring you the results you are looking for, but will also be much more fun and less stressful along the way.

http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Cost-Of-Taking-Shortcuts&id=9415950

5 Most Common Distractions Many People Are Challenged With Every Single Day

We live in a world where almost everyone is in a rush - whether it's getting to a meeting venue on time, submitting work notes on schedule, beating traffic so as not be late to work or school - these are just some of the common scenarios that mirror how hectic our schedule have become. With so many things to do in 24 - hours, we seldom get the chance of getting everything done. When did things get so complicated???

Sometimes you have to sit back and ask yourself honestly: When was the last time you felt good because you were able to clear out your to do list? Can't remember? That's not surprising at all.

Now, if we've been spending hours rushing to get from one meeting to another or working from one project to the next, why is it that we never ever get to finish something up? This is because there are so many distractions in our world now and we are constantly multi tasking. Ultra productive people know that in order to accomplish a massive amount and, importantly, to feel great about their accomplishment & balanced, you have to be single minded in your approach. Eliminate distractions so we can focus on completing the things which really matter.

Here are what I know to be some of the most common distractions many people are challenged with every single day.

#1 Unnecessary Meetings

You know there is a problem in our working culture when there are books out now called 'Death By Meeting'. This is a book by Patrick Lencioni and it is awesome. Have you ever wondered how much time you have wasted being in meetings where your attendance seemed pointless or a waste of time? Where it just seems to be a meeting for the sake of a meeting which goes on for ages made up of mostly dribble and then at the end no real actionable items coming out of it?

Shoot me now. Here are some tips to make meetings effective:

Make sure there is a point and a clear desired outcome that must be reached before you go into the meeting

Try having stand up meetings

Set a time limit, where as soon as that time is up, everyone gets up and leaves - there is nothing like a bit of pressure to get a result

Ask: do I really need to be involved in this meeting?

Ask for the agenda prior to the meeting and that the pre-read materials be sent to you

#2 Email

We are in a culture now where people expect instant responses. Someone sends an email and if you don't respond within 10 minutes they are wondering if you are OK? This is a productivity killer. How many times a day do you check your email, honestly? 10 times a day, 20? Is it open all the time, just desperately waiting for that next earth shattering email to arrive? Seriously, most emails are a waste of time and don't get me started on the need for people to cc the entire world in on emails.

Top tips:

Set specific times each day where it is only then that you check email. For me it is 11am in the morning and 3pm in the afternoon and I check it for about 30 minutes at a time.

Condition others not to expect instantaneous responses from you (unless this is your job of course). If you don't condition others, they will expect you to live by their conditions

Set up rules and filters

Get someone else to check them for you. I have a virtual assistant who manages my email for me and sorts them into one of four boxes: Action, review, Archive, delete. I have given her a clear set of rules to follow and it clears the clutter. (Stay tuned for a later blog on how to do this effectively)

Finally, turn off that bloody pop up you've got mail or the 'ding' or the little envelope. As soon as it is there, you know you can't help but check it. Curiosity will get the better of you

#3 Social Media Sites

Can't resist looking at your phone or logging in to your pc to check your Facebook, Twitter, or YouTube? Social media is fun but it can be a huge time-waster especially when you begin to lose track of how much time you spend updating people with your status posts, reading your timeline or tweeting people back.

You can help minimize the time you spend with social media by designating a set amount of time each day for online social sites.

In 15-20 minutes, you can update your status or send a few tweets and once the time is over, log-out so you don't get distracted by social media notifications and start working.

It will take a lot of self-control to accomplish this, you know it will, but you will thank yourself for practicing restraint especially after you plough through one project to another.

#4 Office Chit-Chat and Random Distractions

Ever noticed how a 5 minute small-talk with a co-worker can stretch into 30 minutes, even a full hour? There is nothing wrong with socializing but when it begins to eat up your time and affect your productivity, then you have to do something about it. Minimize office chit-chat by communicating to colleagues your need for focus time. Hang a sign/symbol on your doorknob or outside your cubicle to discourage people from chatting with you and to send a signal that this isn't a good time to interrupt your work and learn this phrase:

"Bill, I would love to talk to you, but I have an urgent deadline right now, can we chat later?"

People will tend to leave you alone when you say you have something urgent to complete with a deadline. We are conditioned to respond to urgency in this day and age.

#5 Multi Tasking

I should really have this at the top. How big is your to-do list? Massive I bet, if you are like most people. Now I actually don't like to do-lists, they are ineffective and can be very overwhelming, there are much better systems based on outcomes, values and priorities, but this is for another time. Still, even this is better than nothing for most people who just let all of the things they have to get done rattle around endlessly in their heads and live in this constant state of reaction and drama.

I am only going to give you one tip here. There are many more I can add but I reckon that this is so vital that if you did it, it could completely change your life. It is one question:

"What is the one thing I could do right now, that if I did it and made major progress would do more to advance me in my life and career than anything else? "

Now, do that one thing.

Then, you guessed it, ask the same question again, and do that one thing.

Then ask again 

You get the point right????

If you let them, these distractions will suck away a major portion of your life and can hold you back from reaching your potential in work and in life.

Here are the 3 real themes to practice in your life:

Focus on simplicity and taking strategic action on one thing at a time.

Set up your environment around you and systems to eliminate distractions and ensure you stay on track.

Remember, that you are not playing life like most people are, you are extraordinary and are not going to follow like a sheep what everyone else does. So condition the people around you to your way of working. If you don't, they will expect you to conform to their way and society's norms which are totally ineffective.

One of the greatest things I learned when I first started out on my growth journey at a young age was to become ultra productive and it is a skill set and habit which has taken me a long, long way and allowed me to outperform the majority of others around me. Any successful person loves time management. Do yourself a favour and become a time master.

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