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Showing posts with label a way of life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label a way of life. Show all posts
Slave Mentality
When a person thinks and lives their life with the intent of being a slave or working for someone throughout their entire life and never being free from that is slave mentality. Most of us were subconsciously trained and taught to think this way because of the actions of our ancestors. And not only do many of us think this way but have accepted it as a way of life. After all, it's crazy to think that you will ever be free, right? Most people don't plan on living long lives, so they don't plan on not working to survive, so essentially they plan to work their entire lives.
Most people don't save their money. Most people don't have the discipline to save their money. For some crazy reason, people think about dying when they get a little bit of money and start to think that they may die before they get to spend that money. They win the lottery, they get an inheritance, a bonus and they go on a shopping spree. A common saying/thought process is that you can't take the money with you when you die. That's what rich people want you to think. But... who cares about that, most people just feel better spending their hard-earned money. Don't get me wrong, saving money doesn't really make money, but at least the money is not being wasted and it's there when there is a real need for it or a real investment opportunity shall arise. It's OK to have money in the bank.
Most people don't invest their money. Material items, such as; electronics, clothing, furniture, appliances, cars, car accessories, etc... are not investments, but worthless merchandise once purchased. The longer these products are possessed, the more worthless they get. Many people tend to purchase products that are more expensive, because they believe that they are better products, and sometimes that is true, but most of the time, it is not true. With all the different name brands to choose from, most people have convinced themselves that the more expensive the better it is, which is simply, not true. Besides that, even if it is a better working product, it may not even pertain to your particular need(s) and at the end of the day, it is still just as worthless as the less expensive product. A house is an investment. Not only can it be worth more in the future, but it can also provide housing in the meantime. Many people won't even consider it, because of many personal reasons, but as long as we pay rent we are making someone else rich and paying their mortgage/investment. Stocks and 401k plans are a good investment, but many people choose not to participate in planning for the future. Many companies are even willing to match a percentage of contributions made.
Many people live check to check, but that should be a temporary thing. If a person is spending/wasting most of their daily income, then it's slave mentality, because they are living above their means. People should not have to live check-to-check for years, but many people get accustomed to this life-style and they accept it as a way of life. So, even when they do get a little extra money they go out and blow it on something worthless. A person can actually survive making minimum wage, but they would have to cut a lot of corners, skip a few meals, and buy the least expensive everything, but that should be a temporary thing. There is no way a person should work for minimum wage for over a year working in the same industry. As a matter of fact, a person should not work for the same wage for over a year, because experience is gained every day, every month, every year, which means a person should be worth more every single year. Most of the time, nowadays, the cost of living goes up every year, so if you're not getting a raise to accommodate basic economic needs then you're actually making less.
Bad habits are the worst for most people, because no matter what else happens, the bad habit addiction has to happen. Whether it's drugs, alcohol, gambling, porn, eating or whatever it may be, it costs money and time, yet it's going to happen. While the bad habit is being performed no income is being generated. The whole thing with bad habits is to waste time, until it's time to go back to that horrible job that you love and cherish, where you have to work and be a slave and do things that you don't want to do. It's really the main reason for the bad habit. So instead of trying to make life better for themselves they find a better way to deal with or justify continuing their misery, because I guess... they believe they can't do any better.
Just for the record, no matter how old a person is, schooling is always an option. Learn a new trade. Obtain a personal computer. It never ceases to amaze me at how many people don't own a personal computer.
Growing up, many of us were taught that life is what you make it to be. Only you have the power to change your life. I like to believe that we work to live, and not live to work. We were not put on this earth to work for others or be someone's slave, by no means. RIGHT?
https://ezinearticles.com/?Slave-Mentality&id=9662895
Are You Addicted to Complaining As A Form of Control? (By Margaret Paul, Ph.D)
Complaining is a way of life for some people. It was certainly a way of life for my mother. I don't remember a day going by without her complaining, endlessly. I don't think I ever heard a word of gratitude out of my mother's mouth. No matter how good things were, she would manage to find something wrong. No matter how perfect I was - and God knows I tried to be perfect! - she always found something wrong with me, as well as with my father.
Over the years of counseling others, I've noticed that some people start every session with a complaint. They can't seem to help it. Like my mother, they are addicted to complaining.
Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain?
People who complain are generally people who have not done the emotional and spiritual work of developing a loving, compassionate inner adult self. They are operating as a wounded child in need of love, attention and compassion. Because they have not learned to give themselves the attention and compassion they need, they seek to get these needs met by others. Complaining is a way they have learned to attempt to get this. They use complaining as a form of control, hoping to guilt others into giving them the attention, caring and compassion they seek.
Complaining is a "pull" on other people. Energetically, complainers are pulling on others for caring and understanding because they have emotionally abandoned themselves. They are like demanding little children. The problem is that most people dislike being pulled on and demanded of. Most people don't want emotional responsibility for another person and will withdraw in the face of another's complaints.
This is what my father did. He withdrew. He shut down and he was emotionally unavailable to my mother as a way to protect himself from being controlled by her complaints. Of course, he didn't just do this in response to my mother. He had learned to withdraw as a child in response to his own mother's complaints and criticism. He entered the marriage ready to withdraw in the face of my mother's pull, while she entered the marriage ready to make my father emotionally responsible for her. A perfect match!
My father's withdrawal, of course, only served to exacerbate my mother's complaining, and she constantly complained about my father's lack of caring about her. Likewise, my mother's complaining served to exacerbate my father's already withdrawn way of being. This vicious circle started early and continued unabated for the 60 years of their marriage, until my mother died.
While my parents loved each other, their ability to express their love got buried beneath the dysfunctional system they created. Unfortunately, this is all too common in relationships. The most common relationship system I work with is where one partner is pulling - with complaints, anger, judgment and other forms of control - and the other is withdrawing.
A person addicted to complaining will not be able to stop complaining until he or she does the inner bonding work of developing a loving adult part of themselves capable of giving themselves the love, caring, understanding and compassion they need. As long as they believe that it is another's responsibility to be the adult for them and fill them with love, they will not take on this responsibility for themselves.
Our inner child - the feeling part of us - needs attention, approval and caring. If we don't learn to give this to ourselves, then this wounded child part of ourselves will either seek to get it from others, or learn to numb out with substance and process addictions, such as food, alcohol, drugs, TV, work, gambling and so on. If, as a child, a person saw others get attention through complaining - as my mother did with my grandmother - and if complaining worked for the child to get what he or she wanted, then it can become an addiction. Like all addictions, it may work for the moment, but it will never fill the deep inner need for love. Only we can fill this need for ourselves, by opening our hearts to our Source of love. Only we can do the inner bonding work of developing a loving adult capable of opening to the love of Spirit and bringing that love to the child within. People stop complaining when they learn to love themselves and fill themselves with love.
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