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10 Signs You Are A Creative Person (Though You Don’t Feel You Are)

     

Paint covered hands, the clickity clack of the typewriter, or the soft strumming of a guitar aren’t necessarily signs of a creative person. You don’t need a stylish combover, nonprescription glasses, or staunch arrogance to consider yourself an artist, either. In fact, people who embody the characteristics previously listed are sometimes some of the most non-creative pretend creatives on the face of the earth.
The misconception that “creativity” is a term only deserving for those who can draw, write, or make music is more inaccurate than the “earth is flat” truthers of yesteryear.
Here’s why you’re more of a creative genius than you realize.

1. You’re responsibly irresponsible.

It’s not smart to act immature, but you take chances when you need to. You don’t live a life shackled to “should be’s”, “would be’s”, and “coulda beens”. This can be expressed in buying your first home or car, sending in a job application for a position you’re under qualified for but really want, or treating your friends to a dinner on you when you don’t have a ton of money. Creativity takes guts.

2. You understand the important difference between imagination and reality.

Edgar Allen Poe once famously said, “Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things that escape those who dream only at night.” Edgar was on to something then that you’re probably doing each day – imagining the ideal world you want. You’re able to take those fantasies, evaluate them, and put them into action taking the necessary steps to get there. But, as always, balance between these two is absolutely vital.

3. Your heart’s on your sleeve and your soul’s on your forehead.

Creatives are very open with their emotions, which leaves them susceptible to both tremendous pain and euphoric bliss. You are not unlike this. When you’re frustrated with your children, your best friend can tell when you get tea that afternoon. You just received your 15th rejection letter on your masterpiece manuscript and your wife knows it the second you put down the letter. Creative people are not afraid of their emotions, no matter if they are negative or positive.
“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.”
-Martin Luther King Jr.

4. You can admit it’s not your best work, but you’ll never say it “sucks.”

I belong to an artistic collective who’s mantra is, “There’s no such thing as bad art.” Though we strongly believe that, each of us are able to recognize when our output or the outcome of our vision is not exactly intended. However, you, like us, are able to accept and appreciate the fact that whatever you just created was not in the world before you made it. And sometimes that’s more than adequate. Eleanor Roosevelt put it best, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

5. You observe everything. Eve-ry-thing.

The world is a huge dinner party, buzzing with gossip, eccentric characters, and the perfect fodder for creation of all kinds. Though many creatives carry around a pocket, purse, or backpack sized notebook, this is not necessary. Your brain is a steel trap and your conscious is a straight-jacket. Mental note it, and get busy.

6. You don’t wait for opportunities, you create it.

Stagnation is something that all creative people hate, and you are no different. The “routine,” the “grind,” and the “day to day” is never the same for too long in your world. If you feel it becoming that, you quickly seek out new sensations, feelings, people, and experiences to keep it fresh. If you don’t know where to look start wandering. Eventually, you’ll find and create the opportunities you’re looking for.

7. You “fail forward.”

Eric Thomas has encouraged his millions of YouTube listeners to do exactly what’s in the title quotations. When you succumb to failure, you don’t stay down for long. Instead you look for ways to learn, grow, and continue forward. Creative people don’t let their downfalls get the best of them.

8. Your risk is worth your rewards.

Creative people are by definition extremely bold. Your actions and plans are easily justifiable because they are normally in accordance to what you believe in. Any time you’re confronted with something that has a somewhat likelihood of backfiring, you don’t run away. You run towards it. Creation, the act of making something from absolutely nothing, is one gigantic risk. Nothing more, nothing less. Forbes contributor Steven Kotler adds,”This is not a job for the timid. Time wasted, reputation tarnished, money not well spent – these are all by-products of creativity gone awry.”

9. You immerse yourself in beauty and talent.

  
       
A lot of creatives have a knack for beauty, even if it’s peculiar and unique to their style. You’re no different. From your writing group to your children and the way you decorate your house, you blanket yourself in the things you love. No matter who thinks what about your space and choices, you stay true to what you’re about. One of the most successful basketball coaches of all time John Wooden once said:
“Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you.”

10. You chase dreams and live your passions. Period.
No two ways about it, creatives are generally happy and content with nothing but producing quality work. Definitions and standards of brilliance are self defined, and you realize that. You’re the graceful angel taking tango lessons. You’re the old man at the gym dropping NBA caliber dimes and hitting 35 foot three pointers. You’re that really cute old lady posted at the coffee shop piano who I really want to give my number to for convorsational purposes only. Your drive to perform, compete, and produce is intrinsic. So is the true reward. No matter how many or little fans, accolades, or appreciation you have, only one thing matters:
You’re doing it.

7 Ways To Make A Killer First Impression

  
"We judge books by their covers, and we can't help but do it," according to University of Toronto psychology professor Nicholas Rule.
Not only do we make snap judgements, but we also make them incredibly quickly (in 100 milliseconds, according to one Princeton study), and we find them very difficult to change.
First impressions, in other words, are fast, firm, and very, very sticky. So how do you make a great one when meeting a new business contact? Thankfully, science hasn't just investigated the power of first impressions but also uncovered plenty of tips and advice for those looking to improve theirs. Here are a few of these insights:

Attend to the basics

Hopefully this doesn't need too much stressing: looking polished, professional, and not overdone in your appearance is the foundation for any good first impression. Whether we like it or not, looks matter a great deal. "Appearance is our first filter, and it's happening all the time," cautions Sylvia Ann Hewlett, author of "Executive Presence," in a recent Business Insider post that lays out all the basics you've probably already heard about grooming to impress new contacts.
Do you have special issues when it comes to first impressions, such as multiple tattoos, piercings, or a shaved head? Psychology has looked into how these issues affect people's perceptions. In short, tattoos make women seem more promiscuous, facial piercings don't exactly help you come across as smart, and (as you'd expect from watching any Vin Diesel movie), for men, shaved heads convey dominance.

Set an intention

Goals matter in meeting new people as much as they matter in other areas of life. Take a moment before you attend an event to ponder what image exactly you hope to project and whom you'd like to meet. "The most important thing to do for giving a good impression is to set your intention," suggests Vanessa Van Petten, CEO of Science of People, in Forbes. "As you get ready, or when you are driving over, think about what kind of people you want to meet and what kind of interactions you want to have. This can be an incredibly grounding experience and works very well to focus on what kind of energy you want to have for your event."

Let them talk first

Want the person you're meeting to trust you? (Of course you do!) Then fight that impulse to chatter away about your expertise and accomplishments. Ironically, one of the best ways to win people's confidence is simply to let them talk first. If you want to establish trust, "let the other person speak first or have the floor first," social psychologist Ann Cuddy recommends in a Wired interview.
"I think people make the mistake, especially in business settings, of thinking that everything is negotiation. They think, 'I better get the floor first so that I can be in charge of what happens,'" she adds. "The problem with this is that you don't make the other person feel warmth toward you. Warmth is really about making the other person feel understood. They want to know that you understand them. And doing that is incredibly disarming. You can also establish trust by collecting information about the other person's interests — get them to share things about themselves. Just making small talk helps enormously."

Don't skimp on the eye contact

You've probably been told somewhere along the line that making eye contact is a signal of sincerity, but according to the latest research it also makes you seem smarter. "People who make more eye contact are perceived as more intelligent," reports the British Psychological Society Research Digest blog, but the post also warns against overdoing it on the basis of yet more research. "Don't go too far with the eye contact though — if you lock on and don't let go, people will likely assume you're psychopathic," the post explains.

Pay attention to how fast you're speaking (and watch your 'ums' and 'ahs')

What else do recent studies have to teach us about making a killer first impression? The BPS post offers one more useful set of findings. "Back in the '70s, researchers created over fifty synthetic voices and played them to participants at various speeds. Increasing speech rate led participants to assume the owner of the voice was more competent," it reports. "The participants who were played the slowed-down tapes rated the interviewees as less truthful, less fluent, and less persuasive. Other research has shown that people who 'um' and 'ah' a lot are assumed to not know what they're talking about."

Reveal your flaws

You'd think that with first impressions it pays to be as polished and perfect as possible, but experts actually insist that showing your vulnerabilities and weaknesses can actually be both endearing and empowering.
Here's Lucila McElroy, the founder of life-coaching company WeAreMomentum.com, explaining just how powerful this approach can be (if you can stomach it): "Not long ago, I had a business meeting scheduled with a woman whom I found intimidating. I expected to pull out all the stops to impress her. But as it happened, I was just not in the mood that day, so I found myself acting differently: I was raw, vulnerable, and honest — and she responded in kind. Ultimately we had an amazing conversation, which came about because we had both let our guard down."

Do it in person

When meeting an important new contact for the first time, if at all possible try to do it face to face rather than over the phone or a video chat, science suggests. "A series of University of British Columbia studies found that first impressions are formed differently in person versus online or by video. The research on over 1,000 participants found that in-person and video impressions were similarly accurate in judging various personality measures such as extraversion and likeability. However, passive video-based impressions were overwhelmingly more negative than impressions made based on meeting in-person," reports the Huffington Post.