Words You Can Never Ever Use Again (If You Want to Be Successful)

The other night, I was watching the news on television. There was an expert panel discussing some critical issue, and the group was made up of three men and one woman. When the woman wanted to make a point, she would ask,"Can I interrupt?" and wait to see if she could interject and share her thoughts. Sometimes the men would let her and sometimes not.

I watched this and wanted to say to her "Go for it! Don't wait for permission". I was quite stunned that this woman, who has been around for a while was playing it small. And, then I was disappointed in her for being a poor role model for women watching her on television.

Being successful (and the word I prefer to use is "brilliant") requires you to have lots of parts and pieces in place. One essential and easy way to start to shift into your brilliance is to think about the words you use.

How often do you use the word "just"? As in, "just a quick email" or "just a quick call" or "just a quick question"? The word "just" is implying that it's not essential... and connecting the dots, that your message isn't important and one step further, that you're not important.

One phrase that I used to be guilty of (until I became part of this transformational world) was to say "Can I ask you a question?". I was looking for permission to ask my question. My brother helped me stop doing that by saying "You just did." And that was that. I couldn't ask my real question because I had been shut down. Or in other words, you snooze, you lose!

Now, when one of my clients says "Can I ask you a question?" to me, I give her the same response my brother did by telling her "You just did", and pretty soon, my client stops asking for permission to ask.

In closing, think about the words and phrases you choose. Do they help you show up in your brilliance or are they keeping you small?

Words for you to think about.

What can you change?

What can you start doing differently?

I'm challenging you to start today. Not tomorrow or next week or next month. Start today. Not in an hour, start this very minute.

Every word will make a difference in how you show up and the abundance you receive back in your life.

Ready... set... Go!

Be Brilliant.

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Afraid of Change - Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

Are you a person who cannot seem to go out of your comfort zone?

What does it feel like to move toward something that you are not comfortable with?

If you want to be successful and take charge of everything in your life, then you would have to do some major changes and start willing yourself to get up and get out of your comfort zone. Perhaps one of the big reasons why you don't want to get out of your comfort zone is because you are so afraid of change.

You fear the idea that everything will change around you and you don't know how to cope with it. Keep in mind that change happens every day and you will certainly experience changes in your life. Learn to be flexible and have the courage to face these changes in your life. Here are some tips on how embrace change.

Think of Change as an Upgrade

You may not like to get out of your comfort zone because it involves so many changes that may cause you to have anxiety attacks. However, not all changes are bad. Actually, life changes are life lessons that mold your personality and make you a better person. Think of it as an upgrade, which can help you cope with the many challenges in your life. Leaving your comfort zone is a learning experience that gives you so many lessons to become stronger. . An upgrade is always a good thing so don't be afraid to go out there and experience those changes.

Trust Yourself

Change can be scary. Particularly, if you not confident enough in yourself to accept the challenge given to you. Going through changes and doing things that are entirely out of your control are unsettling. Change will totally take you out of your comfort zone(!)

Give yourself more credit than this. You are here today to learn and bring what you learn to the table and strong enough to face these challenges. Think of those times when you've dealt with big changes in your life and how you made it through. Never allow yourself to be defeated because in the end, you will always figure out what to do.

Changes are also Opportunities

Opportunities may come in many forms. Mostly, changes in your life are the opportunities that will lead you to success. If the lessons are not taken up... unfortunately they repeat themselves one way or another.

Changing your career or doing something new will open new opportunities to enrich your life. Sometimes, good things come in unexpected ways. Next time you leave your comfort zone, remember not to panic easily because this new situation might lead you to something greater and better.

There are still many ways on how you can avoid being fearful of change. You may not realize it yet but you are capable of so many good things. Change is inevitable. You have what it takes to move and weave through life without hurting yourself and the people around you.

Have faith in yourself and you will eventually learn embrace the lessons put forward to you.

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Enemies of Success

The race to become successful is one many of us are on. There are many obstacles and roadblocks we must face to get there but the goal is always the same; Massive Achievement. For many that goal never becomes a reality.

Why? Because success has enemies. Anything worthwhile will require focus, dedication and determination to become a reality. Along with these traits we must also prepare to do battle with the enemy of success. It has many faces but only one goal: mediocrity.

Here are some common and hard to defeat enemies of success;

• Negative Mentality - whatever the mind can conceive and believe it will achieve. A positive mentality sets you up for success. You feel like the entire world is under your feet and nothing is too difficult for you. Conversely if you have a negative mentality then you feel like the whole world is on top of you and no matter what you do there is no way of escape. To become the success, you were destined to be you must remove negative thoughts and replace them with thoughts about how all things are possible because you believe in yourself.

• Defeatist Attitude - when we face challenges that take us out our attitude can go from "right up my alley" to "why the heck did I try this in the first place?" We second guess our intentions, actions and motives. To prevent a defeatist attitude from sinking in remind yourself that the only thing that can fail is a try. You are not a failure because you tried something that didn't work; you fail if you refuse to get up after being knocked down. When hit 7 times all you must do to win is get up 8.

• Mediocrity - mediocrity is to success what good is to great. When we perform at a mediocre level it's not that we have failed; we just didn't succeed greatly. Its average, just enough to get by but not great. How do we go from well (mediocre) to great (success)? Strive to live at your potential. Don't settle from just getting by or getting over. Strive to annihilate your obstacles, climb to the top instead of stopping on the way up and give over 100% into everything you are involved with.

• Settling for winning a battle instead of winning the war - much like being mediocre we must focus on overcoming the war not just winning a few battles. For example, if you are an alcoholic and you wish to stop drinking you can go a whole day with no liquor and be glad. But to think you have defeated alcoholism with 1 day of not drinking is winning a battle for the day but losing the war. Fight to win wars, not battles.

Be prepared to win. Be prepared to succeed. And stand against any enemy that stands in your way.

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The Law Of Attraction And Its Power

You have undoubtedly heard or met what is called the law of attraction and its power that has the tendency to bring forth what you deeply believe in. Then, if it works so well, why is not everyone who follows, attends seminars or read books about it wealthy and successful, and most of all happy?

If all you need to do is think or have positive thoughts, you should be able to create a better world for yourself overnight, shouldn't you, so what is wrong this picture?

Well, it often is because most people see, listen or read about the law of attraction once and then within a few days, forget all about it. Most of them will never actually use what they have learned, practice it and internalize it. You see, it takes a strong commitment, a conscious pledge to make positive change occur, and certainly on a subconscious level.

What you should realize is that even right now, the old you is doing everything in his power to prevent change. It comes up with excuses for not reading this post. It procrastinates and makes excuses for not believing in the ideas of this inner power, even if they are right for you. The reason why is because the 'old you' is comfortable, it has a built in survival mechanism to protect the status quo, and that is why change is so difficult for lots of people.

The law of attraction when used on a surface level always fails. Thousands and thousands of people attend self-improvement or positive thinking seminars, or buy books and videos, and yet very few people derive permanent benefits from them.

It is not because the information is not working or is not valid, it is! It is just that what you hear or read deals only with your conscious mind, but that mind is not the engine that powers your life. It is rather your subconscious or unconscious part of your mind from which your habits, behaviors, and outlooks spring automatically.

Lasting Change Begins Within the Unconscious

So the key to permanent and lasting change is to go straight into your unconscious and to rewire how you think about yourself and your future. This drawing power says that what you believe determines what you make real. You may not trust me, but this is nothing new. In fact, the law of attraction is even ancient. Great thinkers and truth-seekers have been saying it for hundreds of years.

"Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth."- Marc Aurelius, Roman Emperor (121-180 AD)

You may like it or not, but you have now to break through an imprinted mind script that is made for most years of wrong instructions. At the deepest level of your being, you hold many negative beliefs and habits. You have to replace them by anchoring new ways and beliefs into your subconscious, where ideas are formed, and reinforced by perceptions, and thus made true.

Do you still not believe in the influence your unconscious might have?

Then watch 'The Amazing Power of Your Mind,' and you will be amazed by the truth of it all.

How to Make the Law of Attraction Work for You

To make the law of attraction work, you must at first rewrite the way you think and how you perceive your reality. Inside your subconscious mind, for years now, you have encrypted what you see as the truth. Remember, what you accept to believe as true is true, or become true.

Whatever desire you can have. But if you have been told all your life that you will never amount to anything or that being wealthy is something which is impossible, and you still believe it unconsciously, then that is the mindset which is linked to your subconscious, and that is the reality you experience.

So how do you begin to make this law of reciprocity work for you? Most of you have seen the movie "The Secret," and yet there are a few more tips to back up this drawing law. Discover them now:

Not Worrying about How or When

You do not have to understand how or when it might happen. It makes no sense to try to control the Universe by telling it how your life needs to unfold. Just begin by giving a listening ear, a smile or some kind attention to people around you.

Be thankful and give goodness to others while letting that inner power influence your heart. It will, in turn, activate the law of attraction which will pull the universal flow, and improve the conditions of your life enormously.

Visualizing What You Want

The power of intention says to visualize what you want to achieve as brightly and vividly as possible. Whether it is in the form of a picture, a feeling or words, the crucial point is to see yourself as if you have already achieved that desire or objective.

Observe things and perceive the colors. Listen to the sounds. Smell the aromas. Feel the touch of the items around you. Walk through the whole place in your mind, getting in as many details as you would like them to be in your reality. At first, your images may be a bit unclear, but clarity improves with practice. In fact, the greater the details, the better ammo you are giving your unconscious mind to believe it and then to act on it.

If for some reason, you cannot visualize, get in touch with a memory where you were happy. Recreate the scene and relive the moment. It will bring forward a positive emotion that will mentally connect with your future desires in your subconscious.

Manifesting Something New

If you want to manifest something new, you have to get into the habit of creating things you already have. By this, I mean to look at your current possessions, for example, pick an object or someone that makes you feel good and declare: "I have... " and fill in the blank. Then start with stuff you do not have.

You have to focus your intention on what you have now and have already manifested. You may think that this process is strange but it works like magic. When you visualize, feel, and manifest what you have previously gotten, it intensifies the power of the law of attraction, and your focus to bring what you want and changes your whole reality.

Creating Your Desires While Sleeping

Sleeping time is a great moment to contribute to creating desires. As you get in bed and are ready to drift off to sleep, ask to be ONE with your wishes, in heart, mind, and feeling. Begin by saying things such as "I am one with financial freedom," "I am one with wealth," "I am one with my dream house," etc.

Whatever your wish is, feel and breathe it entirely while going to sleep. Then the next day, nurture this feeling of being one with your desires because it is a huge and vital point. This way, you will accelerate your path to the goal. Become your desires in your sleep, and you will draw the power of intention to bring it into your existence.

Accepting Not Knowing How

When you imagine what you want, but have no idea about which steps to take to get it, then your first move is to accept that you do not know how. Do not be afraid and be at peace with that. It is where you are right now. Worrying or wondering will not help.

So let the power of the universe take care of things, it knows how better than you do. In other words, just let the law of attraction carry on with its plan, even if it may not be how you expected it to be. All you need to do is act on the opportunities that a situation brings to you. Let the drawing power of the universe move through you and show you what to do.

Letting it Happen

It is great to do visualizations and use affirmations. But remember that your inner power is like gravity. It just pulls in what it needs. You need to be open and allow the unconscious manifestation of the law of attraction. It will help you not to be stressed.

You should expect good things to come out of nowhere, spontaneously revealing themselves to you. Good things may have just appeared before. So let it happen again. When visualizing or using positive thinking, see things as if they were already a reality. This way, you separate yourself from doubt and set in motion the self-actualization of your desire.

Recognize You Deserve All of It

You must understand that you deserve everything your heart wishes for, and not feel the least guilty about it because, for many of us, we have an unconscious guilt about being happy or wealthy. But why should you feel remorseful about being happy or rich?

Well, it is because somewhere along the line, our parents, our schools, our beliefs or our friends have influenced us into believing that we have to suffer or pay the price for happiness and riches. Or that just when things start to get good, they all turn bad, and if you don't mind me saying, all of that stuff is just all crap.

People say those things because of they, themselves, have a belief system of limitation and lack. If you wait until you feel deserving of having pleasant thoughts about your life, you will end up convincing your unconscious that you are undeserving of happiness, wealth or both, and the result is that you will be unhappy and unsuccessful in most of your endeavors and undertakings.

It is not selfish or wrong to ask the law of attraction to help you get your desires or to be happy, regardless of where you are in life. Happiness is a means to an end which is success and well-being, and it is also an end in and of itself that we all desire.

Trust in the Power of Intention

Believing and trusting in the power of intention will allow you to create the mental habit to be happy the majority of the time and winning in almost every circumstance you encounter.

The last and final point I want to make is: don't think, don't try, and just do. Thinking and trying gives your subconscious the wrong message. Let your unconscious autopilot steer you in the right direction. It is not hard if you don't think or try but just do.

Scientists are just catching up with the immense power of the mind to heal disease, to overcome extreme handicap spontaneously. Countless of people spend hours every day conditioning their physical body to look and feel their best rather than developing their most valuable resource, their minds. The law of attraction and its power shows that the more you condition your thoughts for what you want, the more it will respond.

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3 Keys To Overcoming Obstacles And Becoming More Successful

Did you know that you can reach your goals and become more successful in spite of the obstacles before you? Do you know you cannot succeed in any thing you set your mind to achieve without overcoming tests and set backs? As annoying as they are, obstacles and challenges are part of the universe's test of your spirit. When you rise up to meet these tests, and pass with flying colors, your perspective and level will change! you also develop the confidence that you can reach your goals anytime.

Do you know that you can reach your goals in spite of the obstacles before you? The first step in this process is recognizing the obstacles in your way. What if you wanted to quit your 9-5,job an online business writing and selling transformational books, how will you do it? To succeed you have to recognize your obstacles and develop the solutions that will help you overcome them. Do you have the have the knowledge, talent, and skills to eliminate these interferences? Do you also understand how to use your intuition and trust your gut to help you over these obstacles and thrive?

You have the power to conquer obstacles and make them a distant memory, if you see them as steps on your journey to consistently becoming a better version of yourself every day. How can you do this? Let's go back to the book example again. If you are trying to writing a transformational book and you are not sure of how to begin, you can start by writing the first page, then the first chapter. One obstacle might be time, the other might be putting your ideas in words that others can relate to.

This an example of breaking up challenges into smaller pieces, and tackling them one by one. If necessary you can reach out for help from your support network. Ask for help but also be prepared to recognize when others are simply not in tune with your dreams and you have to trust your gut and faith and proceed with limited support. How can you use your intuition to help guide you through a challenge?

What can you do stay positive in difficult times? Is your focus clear? How do you put aside distractions and negative thoughts that hurt your progress? One way is to avoid those who try to bring you down and discourage your fight to become more successful. You have to learn to stay positive amid their chatter and ideas and try only those new ideas that make sense to you. This is part of the process of self-mastery and relentless transformation.

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Message From the Universe: Start Looking Into the Future, But Live in the Present

"When you visualize a great dream of yours coming true, what do you imagine?

Do you see yourself jumping up and down, doing the happy dance, looking to the sky, and shrieking, "THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!"? Can you feel the skin on your face stretch as you smile from ear to ear, or the palm of your hands sting as you slap more high-fives? Can you feel your fingers dialing your best friend's telephone number?

Yeah, I think you should.

"Very should,"

The Universe"

So what are YOU going to do when you have reached your ultimate goals? Will YOU jump up and down a sofa like Tom Cruise when he expressed his love for Katie Holmes? Or will you just take a breather, look up into the sky, thank the Universe for everything and be grateful for all the great things that are about to happen in your life? Will you scream from the top of your lungs with joy and tears coming out for all the hard work and sacrifice you have made to make all this happen? Whatever you do, you deserve it. Do all of what is suggested, or do whatever you intent to do and tap yourself on the shoulder for a job well done. You should be proud of everything you have done, because not many are about to go through the same path as you. Not many have the courage, the determination, the desire, the will to sacrifice to get to where you are today.

One important thing to mention though. You are now a TARGET. Yes, you are wealthy, powerful, and everyone wants a piece of what you have but weren't willing to risk it when you were in development stage of your idea. They will all knock on your door congratulating you for an amazing job, with the purpose of getting something out of you. It is important to really decide what step to take from this point forward. Wealth can play some crazy games with your mind so do not go and spend all of it at once. Do not buy yourself luxury cars or mansions. Get yourself smart and trustful financial adviser to how you can re-distribute your wealth so it can start making more money for you. Stay living the same way as you used to, so no one will come knocking on your door as you can delay response by saying: I have taxes to pay, will get back to you when all my responsibilities are met. Keep escrow account aside to give to family and friends and charities. The rest, invest it in your business, in a corporation that NO one can touch your funds, and develop a plan to make yourself more successful. Do not let yourself be taken by living the life of the rich and famous, as when that dies down, the people who partied with you will disappear with your wealth. Be smart!

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The Secret to Being Attractive

How many times have you wished you were smarter, younger, fitter, slimmer and better? And why?

I often observe intelligent people who do well in life and intelligent people who don't. I have met beautiful individuals who are well liked and successful, but I have also met countless of miserable beauties. I have seen slim people full of happiness, and I have also seen slim people drowning in depression.

So, do you have to look good to feel good? Do you have to look good to do well? Of course you don't! If you want people to be drawn to you, you need something else.

When it comes to being attractive, be it in your social, sexual or professional life, the first thing to look at is your personal confidence; second one is the degree to which you live out your passion.

Surely, there is nothing attractive about a slim beauty that is self-conscious, feels lost and doesn't have any interests or passion. People are drawn to interesting people full of life. Vitality is contagious and attractive. Emptiness and self-consciousness are boring and tiring. If you live life purposefully and passionately, you will be like a magnet to other people and you will certainly reap great success in your life.

Have you seen fashion shows? What's attractive about the models on the runway is the confidence they project. Even though sometimes they wear ridiculous clothes, funny hairdos and cold expressions on their faces, they still come off as extremely attractive simply because they carry themselves with confidence (which may or may not be authentic but that's a different story).

So the rule goes like that: the more confident and purposeful you are, the more attractive to other people you will look. Of course the personal confidence is bound to also get reflected in your physical appearance: the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you dress, and the way you take care of yourself overall. But confidence and passion come first. Without those, your looks are "empty". With no life in your body you are not a very interesting person, therefore people won't be interested in you, they won't be drawn to you.

Have you heard the old saying "Beauty comes from within"? Well, it does! So if you want to look attractive and be successful (sexually, socially and professionally), you need to be confident and purposeful in life.

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How to Overcome Your Fears of Success?

Did you know that many people are uncomfortable with the prospect of success? When they think of success they become afraid and begin to sabotage themselves?. It's seems hard to believe but it's true. Are of one those people? Failure might not be ideal, but it can be more comfortable than the possibility of something more. Eliminating your fear of success could be all you need to do to take your life to the next level. Here are a few tips on how you can do that.

The fear of success can manifest itself in different ways. Procrastination, self-sabotage, and an inability to concentrate on important tasks are signs of discomfort with success. Do you suddenly feel tired when performing a task that could take your career to the next level? These are signs that your subconscious is derailing your efforts. Do you suddenly stop trying to finish tasks you know could lead you to the next level of success?

Reject negative beliefs and attributions. Attack your negative beliefs. Make a list of your negative beliefs regarding success. Question them.

How do you know this belief is true? How do you know others are telling the truth?

Where did this belief originate? What does the data show?

What is your negative belief costing you? Is tit making trust yourself less and doubt yourself more?

Success is more complex than failure. It can seem easier to deal with your life as it is than to become successful. The more successful you become, the more visible you become. You're more exposed to criticism. You have more responsibility. You may have to live with more pressure. You may have more people blaming for their own failures and struggles. This can be hard to handle and when you think about it, you may simply want to go back to being in a situation where people do not talk about you.

Remind yourself that you'll have access to more resources if you're successful. An excess of resources results in more comfort. When you have plenty of money and influence, life becomes easier. The other thing to remember is that if your success as a a result of your living according to your values, your self-worth, happiness and wellness will increase!

Have a vision of success that appeals to you. Are you afraid that massive success will result in a loss of free time? Build a vision of success that allows you to work on the beach for a few hours each day with your laptop. Success won't happen if your vision of success is unappealing. What is your ideal version of success? What will it take for you to get there? Can success help you have more time for yourself and your family or will it make your time management more challenging? When you make a list about that things that excite about success, your fear of success will begin to fade away. Remind yourself of some of the advantages that success can bring: influence, money, social status, comfort, contribution, and so on.

Use logic to motivate yourself. Enjoy the process of becoming successful. Success can seem like a lot of work. If you view the work as misery, no success will be attractive enough to motivate you. Find a way to enjoy the process of becoming successful. You might choose to value what you'll learn or the people you meet along the way. The more successful you become in one aspect or dimension of your life, the easier you can apply it to all aspects or dimensions of your life.

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10 Reasons Why Honesty Is Important to Be Successful

You want the people with whom you come into contact to accurately think of you as being an honest person. Anything less is unacceptable if you want to be successful in all aspects of your life.

If you are dishonest everyone with whom you come into contact (friends, relatives, employers and others) will ignore or dismiss everything you say and do as being false and unreliable. Who can build and achieve what they want with such a character flaw? The answer is obvious.

Following is a brief list of reasons why honesty, as a character trait, is so important:

1. You would be considered untrustworthy and your chances of getting the job you want is severely limited if you are dishonest. Employers can't afford to hire people who are less than honest. Employees who are found to be deceitful are destined to be fired.

2. Many times, untruthfulness or dishonesty is unlawful. Lying could land you in jail or facing fines. The same is true when applying for a loan, reporting sales tax or supplying information for a loan.

3. Being known as a person who misrepresents the truth is a perception that is hard to reverse. Trustworthy behavior on the part of an individual is highly valued by our society.

4. Your potential to achieve success in all aspects of your life is severely limited if dishonesty is part of your character. You would limit your opportunities. Others would maintain their distance from you.

5. Being less than honest can and will be hurtful to others and cause great pain to loved ones. Your personal relationships would be either harmed or destroyed.

6. Others are inclined to describe or recommend you as a dependable individual who can be trusted when you are consistently authentic. Your words carry greater weight, as you are known to be a person who tells the truth. Your chances of advancement and credibility are enhanced.

7. Being deceitful with others naturally lowers your self-esteem and requires energy for you to maintain the false appearance of authenticity. Some people suggest that promoting falsehoods could actually be harmful to your physical and emotional health.

8. You will suffer a lack of respect from a poor reputation. Others will avoid contact with you personally and professionally.

9. Your chances of being able to improve your life (financially and socially) will be severely limited. People who are known for misrepresenting facts and being disingenuous are avoided.

10. Your bearing false witness is harmful to society in general. A misleading behavior by an individual can actually have far reaching ripple effects on society.

Any aspirations you might have are hampered by a lack of honesty.

Choosing to cultivate honesty as one of your characters traits is a necessity if you want to be successful in life. So is your reputation and emotional well being.

Many people go through life wondering why circumstances fail to break their way. Frequently it's his or her character flaw, such as lying, or limits a chance for success.

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How to Defeat the Grasshopper and Elephant Mentality in the Workplace and in Life?

You know, we can learn a valuable lesson from the grasshopper, the elephant and the way people think. Here's why. If you want to keep a grasshopper for a pet, then all you need to do is to trap that grasshopper in a jar with a lid over it. And just like many of us, an imprisoned grasshopper will try desperately to escape using his powerful legs to smash the wall of resistance in search of freedom time and time again. At the outset, that grasshopper looked very persistent and determined to change its situation. And it would try and try again without any luck of breaking itself free. Then something happens, the grasshopper stops, the persistence of escaping stops. At this point, we all know that the grasshopper will never try to escape by jumping out of the jar with the lid. At the moment, you can take the lid off, and your (pet) grasshopper will not escape because once the grasshopper has learned that its situation did not change time after time no matter what it did in the past, its convinced that it will never change in the future. And it will settle upon its new life with no desire to reach beyond that comfort zone.

Many of us know about how elephant trainers teach elephants to stay in place. They get the baby elephant and lock a strong chain around its ankle and just as the grasshopper the baby elephant will pull and tug until it stops. And even once the elephant grows into an adult, it does not change in its beliefs. The trainer could tie a thin rope around the same ankle of the elephant, and it would not try to break away.

So there are similar parallels here in this simple life lesson between the grasshopper, the elephant, and people who have given up and have adopted the same mentality as the grasshopper and elephant-becoming comfortable and complacent with no sense of going on even if success is within reach. Mentally this person sees it as unreachable and unobtainable-it's too hard they may say. There are many problems with the grasshopper and elephant mentality when adopted by an individual, a group, or even an industry such as:

Ø The individual sees themselves as not having the ability to fit in with peers or able to leverage newer technologies

Ø They may prematurely size up the situation or competition and determine and perhaps talk themselves out of becoming successful by telling themselves: "I'm too old," "I don't have enough resources," "I don't have enough experience," "I don't want to get involved" or maybe "I was born on the wrong side of the tracks." We all know the song, but we keep singing it.

The game of chess is another example that is comparable to the game of our life. If you want to be successful, it's how you play the game. Chess is a game of change and adaptation. You have specific rules that players must follow in order to set up the game board. You have rules on how and in what direction the chess pieces must move on the board. Then you have rules on how to capture a chess piece, and finally how to win the game. Even though in chess there are rules to the game and one must follow them; no one plays the game the same because there are millions of ways to win and millions of ways to lose, but the outcome depends on the interactive interaction process between the two players. So similarly there are rules that govern change, and there are rules of adaptation to the change, but there is no one way that a person must take that leads to the path of success. Why? Because everyone is different, no two people are alike even if they were identical twins. Change and adaptation depend on the person's mindset be it positive or negative. It can also depend on that person's biological makeup and the psychological makeup and/or the environment in which they dwell in. That's why when talking about what situation will best promote efficiency in the workplace, it is best to think about what will specifically lead to increased proficiency and productivity of the individual employee. The environment for one thing or the workplace culture can help to improve efficiency. So, to avoid the grasshopper and elephant mentality as a human being, you must be able to accept, respond, and adapt to change because if not you will be stuck in that position not knowing the ability within you that is greater than the external forces. Discard your mental blockages because it will only lead to regression, limitations, stagnation, and ultimately a failure in reaching your goals. Remember you may limit yourself not your circumstances in life.

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Improve Self Esteem: The Ultimate Tips

Everyone is aware of the benefits and significance of ensuring that all kids possess strong self esteem once they enter the school and also when they go out of it. Self esteem is known as the difference between being a successful one and thinking that you don't amount to something. On the other hand, when we get outside of the school, it's rare to look for cheerleaders who will be on our side. It means that you'll have to learn how to improve self esteem on your own.

Self Esteem - What Is It?

Self esteem is somewhat the way you're feeling regarding yourself and this is usually not associated with factual situations of your entire life. For instance, you can be a millionaire yet you don't have self esteem for the reason that you think you have to become a billionaire. With that, you might not be happy and satisfied with the truth that you could just run a marathon in as long as 5 hours, instead of your aim of 4 hours. People are more prone to defeat themselves in all forms of crazy and weird ways and when you failed to learn the best way on how to improve self esteem earlier, you would just be doomed to unhappiness and failure.

Assess Your Life

One of the most difficult things for most people to do while they are reaching adulthood is to assess their life. It could be painful and heartbreaking to see things that did not do and the mistakes you've made. It's the reason why most people prefer to consult a therapist to get over such things. On the other hand, when you've neither the time nor the cash, you may prefer to do it on yourself.

You just have to sit down with a sheet of paper then write down all positive things regarding yourself, regardless how tiny they are. When you're funny, when you have nice and good looking toes and when you own a clean and classic car, it is no longer important. You simply have to surround yourself with positivity to learn how to improve self esteem.

Ask Others

After that, it's time to ask other people what they think and feel regarding you. Let them know what you do - that you're attempting to learn how to improve self esteem to be better and you will love their feedback regarding those positive things that they see and notice regarding you. Let them know that there's no time to think about negative things and you will be grateful to just hear good things they can say.

Create a Script

This time, you will need to make a script which will be based on the positive elements of your life and also your personality. It would be up to you to find ones which will really make you feeling good and also, you have to keep repeating those things to yourself again and again. Through focusing on good and then leaving the negative ones behind, you'll instantly learn that the key on how to improve self esteem can be found inside you. There are 2 options every day, to be negative or positive. When you wake up with a bad mood, it would be with you all over the day, yet you could change it anytime through the use of positive affirmations.

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Aaaaand, Another One Bites The Dust (By Kitty Rochester)

I went on Facebook today. Nothing unusual there. I decided to search for a female acquaintance of mine. I do this sometimes when I'm being nosy or looking for inspiration. On this occasion, the latter was my motivation.

This woman has recently started her own business and as I'm exploring the concept myself, I hit the search button. She's a bit younger than me and successful by societal standards; career, marriage and a small personal business. Despite this, by societal standards this woman is considered, 'unattractive'. She is overweight and often tries too hard. Her Facebook posts often reflect an insecure soul desperately pretending she's OK with who she is. You may know someone similar that immediately comes to mind. Anyway, I don't have a problem with this, the world is full of insecure people. What annoys me with her is the flavour of arrogance she uses to try and compensate for her insecurities. This personally hits a nerve as I can't stand falseness, niceties or 'showy-ness', hence why she always remained just an acquaintance. I kept her as a Facebook friend because despite her insecurities, how she looks and her arrogant style - this woman inspired me.

So imagine my horror when I found out that she had unfriended me. OK, I wasn't that horrified but still. I was like, oh, another one bites the dust.

And why? By societal standards I guess you could say I'm considered attractive, successful in my career and I'm recently married. My Facebook posts are full of satirical humour to make sure people stay friends with me. As a successful and attractive woman, I'm a threat to other women. I've often known that I've inspired other ladies, which for the most part, I've embraced and enjoyed. I have also enjoyed reaping inspiration from other women.

5 years ago I got divorced. It was very much my rock bottom as I went through a breakdown. I had a lot of friends then. People also seemed to like me better. I think some people genuinely loved the fact that someone, 'like me', wasn't perfect. I know this, because I've also relished that fact when I've discovered someone I look up to isn't perfect. How sad is it that?

So today, when I discovered that my female acquaintance had unfriended me, it stung a bit. Because being successful and happy, can be a really lonely business for women. For men, it's celebrated. For women, it's tolerated. For this very reason I've often had more male friends than female. Within the context of friendship, men aren't threatened by a successful and happy woman. I'm also aware that any men reading this will think I've got guy friends because I'm hot and they just want to try and get with me. Which is partly true, I'm not an idiot. But not all guys are that shallow and the ones who tried - we've often become great friends regardless.

It makes me sad that my finding happiness and getting married, provoked this kind of reaction. I kind of understand that it probably triggered something in her that makes her uncomfortable with herself. Is this what the world is becoming? A place where being uncomfortable is too much of a challenge?

It's so much easier to exclude than to deal with ourselves. But if anything, by writing this I'd like to encourage to not always succumb to what is easy. Say 'hey' to the woman who looks like she's got it all together, don't feel intimidated by her. She's probably lonelier than you think.

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Living A Life Of Purpose And Passion Surely Is The Real Meaning Of Success Today

It used to be the meaning of true success meant working hard and if you were lucky then achieving success was a reward.

As humankind has awakened a tad bit more, many are realizing as perhaps you, too, that, the power of the universe is wanting to help you create the life you want, or get the life you want.

- So, what should you do?

- Give up on working hard?

- Or even worse, give up work altogether?

Of course not!

Keep on reading to discover more about how successful people grow and the habits of highly effective individuals everywhere.

Here's how to achieve goals and dreams fast by accepting the power and understanding within you for living your passion and purpose.

How can I be successful is answered and defined quite differently for everyone.

When asking yourself how to be successful, you must truly be asking what would make you thrilled and alive with purpose and passion in life.

Real success requires more than just material gain.

The Course in Miracles states, "You must learn to believe in your own perfection."

The true meaning of success is a mix of living aligned to you perfection being really happy with your personal and professional life.

In order to succeed, you need to own the key to success and want to learn how to be successful and rich from your heart, and then the universe will deliver it to you, and successful others have proved this.

There's a solution that will not only help you think like a success, but to actually become a success and live the life you want.

Follow the strategies given you here today and you'll see how to ensure your purpose and passion in life brings you success.

What's Real Success for You?

Previously I discussed more on all the helpful material available in free e-books, videos, and more that are a good source of information.

Real success is shown by wholeness, which is just experienced by positioning oneself with the requirements of your passion and purpose.

To just see meaning of success as a presentation of a particular level of product or monetary status acquired through aspiration is to just understand a little part of your inner power's capacity.

- Success comes as the spin-off of a life lived from the within out.

- The essential to living an effective life is in understanding the awareness that you suffice.

You produce the area within your awareness that permits you to straighten harmoniously with your higher self or the right mind, as soon as you accept you are good enough and deserving.

It took some time, and major truth-telling, however I quickly found I was pressing myself towards a vision of success based on cash, not wholeness.

I dedicated my complete attention towards my passions and enthusiasms, and I enjoyed being aligned to the meaning of success, my inner power's bloom, we may say, as an outcome.

The fact is you are better off knowing where you want to end up so you know how to design the map to get the life you want.

You wish to consider your way of life first and design your personal life and/or company around diving in and going deep to create the life you want.

I 'd read a piece that stuck with me but the author is unidentified:

"The meaning of success is 'half' won when one acquires the routine of setting goals and attaining them. Even the most tiresome task will end up being endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams."

(Please note I suggest searching the web for further helpful material on things like, being successful where purpose and passion is the key to success and unlocking the door.)

To happiness and success in your life!

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The Meaning of Life

A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he's heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?"

"The meaning of life is a bridge," replies the wise man.

The seeker is incensed. "Wait a minute, what kind of dumb answer is that? I struggled and fought to get here, and that's all you have to say? A bridge? That's the stupidest thing I ever heard!"

The guru blinked, looked at him and said, "You mean... it's not a bridge?"

Most of my clients come to me, not searching for the meaning of life, but focused on some crisis in their lives: a relationship disaster, marriage or family problems, lack of direction and motivation, some huge loss for which they're grieving, an emotional problem such as anxiety or depression, or perhaps even for help in recovering from an addiction. The first thing we do is sort through the crisis, handle immediate problems, and get everything settled down, then we embark on an extended process of figuring out how the problem happened and what must change to keep it from happening again. Once those things are handled, there's a period of bliss or euphoria, when life is working for the first time, they feel successful, calmer, more in charge. Most clients leave at this time.

Then, frequently, they come back asking "Now that I'm in charge of myself, and have a lot of extra energy, because life is a lot easier and my relationships are working, it feels like I'm missing something-what am I doing here?"

This begins a spiritual search for meaning, which I've written about in a couple of books-The Real 13th Step, and The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty.

People for whom the basics of life are already established need more: they need a sense of meaning and a higher purpose than just survival. Once self-confidence and self-esteem are established, you'll need a challenge to feel satisfied, a way to express your uniqueness and individuality to yourself, to friends, and to the world.

But if your life's purpose is not evident to you already, how do you find out what it is? Where does a sense of purpose come from? It comes from within you, and is not imposed or chosen from outside. Your purpose may be your livelihood, or it may have nothing to do with how you make a living. Your purpose may be a simple one, like making a good, healthy life for yourself and your children, or it may be more dramatic, and based on what you learned by healing your own childhood experience. Many people know that inner purpose has the power to transform anxiety, anger, fear and rage into powerful, life-affirming action:

Dr. Bernie Siegel, a cancer specialist, was discouraged and frustrated about the lack of success of medicine against cancer. He challenged the focus of the medical establishment by looking at patients who had experienced "miracle cures" and "spontaneous remissions." Although he was ridiculed by his peers, he persevered, and out of it he developed a new way of enlisting the patient's own healing capability, outlined in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles.

Cleve Jones turned his rage, bitterness and grief about AIDS into the Names Project Memorial Quilt, which has helped people throughout the world express, heal and understand the grief resulting from this tragic epidemic.

After her thirteen-year-old daughter was killed by a drunken driver, Candy Lightner used the power of her grief and rage to found Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), to combat the problem and prevent the senseless deaths of other children.

Sojourner Truth, an African-American and former slave, was instrumental in developing the Underground Railway to guide slaves to freedom before and during the American Civil War.

Ron Kovic, paralyzed from the waist down as a soldier in Vietnam, turned first to alcoholism, but then recovered and channeled his resentment and rage into anti-war protest, and later wrote the best selling book and Oscar-winning movie script, Born on the Fourth of July.

A life purpose gives you the means to control your destiny, no matter what the force of the hardships you have incurred. Most of the world's spiritual thinkers have said that the wisdom guiding each of us is available if we just listen and trust what we hear. You may already be having many ideas but not be trusting them or taking them seriously. Perhaps when you get an idea what your "job on earth", or life's purpose is, you are too distrustful of yourself, (I can't do that) or too hopeless and helpless to believe it or act on it. Your purpose may make itself clear to you in one instant flash, or gradually, as if you are following clues, one at a time. Whether you get it all at once or a piece at a time, it will still take work and experience to bring it about. Inner wisdom is not rational or practical in nature, but more intuitive and spiritual. It can provide a way to see the big picture, or a more detached and objective viewpoint of the issues and problems of life. Each new idea must be tested through practical use, to see how it works. Step by step, using both intuitive wisdom and clear thinking, you can bring your inner motivation to the surface and use it to create what you want. Your combination of inspiration expressed through action becomes the bridge to the meaning of your own life. - From It Ends with You

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Wisdom of the Tao - Your Life Makes a Difference

The Tao Te Ching is an ancient Chinese text on the nature of existence. According to legend Lao-Tzu wrote this book of wisdom. It has been translated more than any other volume, except for the Bible.

The creative Source of the universe flows around you and through you. Be flexible and open to all possibilities. Release your need to be right. Be willing either to resolve your daily challenges or to resist pushing against them. When you achieve flexibility, you become stronger and more successful.

Appreciate what you have and let go of the need to accumulate more.

From an inner perspective, you recognize your infinite nature. You realize that you live in a temporary world of physical appearances. See the world beyond your senses and live with this conscious awareness. Relax and stop pressuring yourself to accumulate more. Be satisfied and enjoy peace and contentment.

Embrace silence and cultivate inner awareness.

Tao verse 56: "Those who know do not talk. Those who talk do not know."

Those who feel compelled to talk and persuade are attached to their own point of view. They need to be right. Notice your own need to seek approval. Restrain your inclination to judge others and give unsolicited advice. Silent knowing is a place within you that cannot be communicated to another.

Choose thoughts that reflect your status as an empowered being.

The Source Energy that creates worlds flows through you. Practice conscious awareness of this Source Energy. Through mindfulness and meditation practice you cultivate your inner awareness. With consistent practice your creative energy grows. Tap into your creative energy and change the way you live.

You are not insignificant. You have a part in transforming the planet. Create a life vision that helps you focus your energy. Choose an area for your focus. A life vision helps you live with an inner conviction that your life matters.

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Our Failures Prove Meaningful - A Note To Steve Jobs' Stanford Revelation

'Now each of you is going to name his or her most favourite life motivator. One whose philosophy you adhere to unconditionally,' said a psychology professor in an integration class for university novices when the academic year rolled out, straight after my high school graduation. Fresh, inexperienced and village-originated, it came out soon that I feared myself from mingling with loud, aggressive and several pontifical city-grown-ups, so that my concentration in classes gradually decreased and hangouts with somebody alike was out of question.

Despite arrangements for stay at my elder aunt's and my family's pride on first member for a long time accepted to university, I was suffering. Even though I was surprising myself with study results in detested courses such as Math or Meteorology, there was no experience of the 'student life' for which many end up missing their academic years once over. I felt and was mostly alone; taking piercing looks and by-comments to heart, fighting it with ever more in-depth self-studies, long-runs and well-being simulation. Wearing a mask grew oppressive; my uncle back home was progressively submitting his self-conscience to Parkinson and, meanwhile the second term, he died. Attending mourners were greedy for uplifting information on my progress, building another level of oppression with stressful expectations from me. Another elder aunt's health back home was getting down. Finally, I announced inevitable year-interruption of my studies, which of course turned out to be my own choice of spillout as well.

I did not have my 'motivating pacemaker' back then, except that I was possessed with spiritual works of Paulo Coelho and thus named him to the class, which was met with recognition, say nearly everyone knew him and nearly no one named religiously non-iconic or mass non-leading examples. I had never thought of Paulo Coelho as my inner motivator and I had not appointed him to be. I merely stretched out for him in emergency. Now I know that, like him, I like entering people's 'interiors' to weaken their cancers of self devaluation and of world malady impression.

Steve Jobs, a renowned life motivator, gave one of his most winning stimulating public revelations with a tint of academic-commencers reflection. May this realistic picture of 'failures' do not shatter anyone's stability based on wrong presumption that 'one needs to lean on a successful life-inspiring person' where only the success deems inspirational. For knowing the successful side only leads to copying. Whereas knowing the true struggle, which preceded, leads to the essential learning.

And so amiable Steve Jobs unloads significant portion of feared concerns from the newly admitted Stanford students by serving them the truth of life inevitability to failures, which are going to turn in their favour, as long as they do not settle by giving everything up. No theatrical sugar talk, but a seemingly 'dramatic' BREAKFAST OF HOT REALITY, DRY FEARS AND HARD-BOILED OUTCOMES to waken them, the still unfamiliar young ones, and, at the same time, to remind the experienced ones, that 'NO ONE IS EVER TO ESCAPE' the 'final count-down'. Thus cherish your limited time, ignore the dreary surrounding opinions and become passionate about 'what you truly want to become', because no one else but us sets the verge of the road.

Incidentally, outside of Jobs' opening speech we received a complementary tool for unsettled hunger for life and 'foolishness', and that is Steve's discovered and developed SKILL OF PERCEPTION, OUR INTERPRETATION of passed and contemporary to near and distant future.

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Are The Highly Successful Really Superheroes? (By Daniel Brennan)

I spoke to a friend recently, who was struggling with some actions he had been taking that he didn't particularly like. He said he was struggling with X and that put him in a bad frame of mind which led him to feel poorly about himself and he felt like he was in a slow spiral; one which needed intervening. We spoke for a while and came to some conclusions. One line of our conversation struck me, and it is a belief system that many people hold to be true and it is that we compare the worst in ourselves to the best of what we see in others. Read that again... The best of what "we see in others"... As Descartes has pointed out, our main source of knowledge, our senses are often erroneous and therefore must be doubted. Seeing the best in someone therefore should be doubted and critically analyzed as best we can.

Perception or Reality?

The line that stood out to me was "I see you, living your life in America, you've written a book and are having a great time". To which I replied, "we compare the worst in ourselves to the best in other people". Have I been having a great time? Absolutely, but that is immaterial. A great time doesn't always mean happiness. My friend, lets call him Albert (you know his second name but that must be disclosed) was slightly taken aback when I told him, "don't worry, I've been in your position before".

In spring of 2014, I left my golf scholarship behind and moved back to Ireland. Upset, lost and full of B.S, I thought I had everything figured out. I figured, college is only a system and a business which churns out graduates that go into low paying jobs to repay the debt, which they racked up in their 4-6 years in college. I still believe this is the case but I now see through that and realize that the benefits of college are most often not from the college itself but from the people you meet, the places you go and the experiences you have. After moving home I wrote a book, another 'success', which my friend saw in me. Little did he know that when writing the book, I was upset, lost and extremely angry with myself. Later, after writing and publishing the book, which got some recognition from golfers and people I look up to, I started a company, which again was another 'success' in my life. Again, I grew more and more anxious, upset and uneasy with myself. In the summer of 2015, I decided to go back to college and pursue that dream again because I figured I must right the wrongs of my first attempt and I figured that the problem was not me, but the circumstances in which I found myself. Again, from the outside looking in, this probably seemed great and seemed like wow; Daniel is doing well for himself again... but... one month in and FLOP... Major flop. I came home for a few weeks in early October to get my head right which I did. Of course, my first attempt at university stateside had absolutely nothing to do with circumstance but rather a young cocky head on young shoulders led me astray and going back with a slightly altered but still not clear mindset was setting me up for failure yet again. Thankfully, it didn't.

Hmmmmm...

You're now thinking, "well thanks for your life story over the last three years but I really don't care", and I agree. You shouldn't. But there is a lesson in there. As my friend was on the outside looking in; all he saw was success, happiness and a guy who was literally, living his dream. From the inside looking out it was much different. All I saw was a guy who was upset with himself, angry with himself and frustrated with the lack of progress he was making in his life. I saw a guy who was a hindrance to society and someone who probably wouldn't be missed too much if he was no longer here. While this example is trivial, what it points to is absolutely essential in our overall wellbeing.

Seeing Through Your Biases

As we build our perceptions of other people, we often forget that everyone is facing a battle you know nothing about and I believe this is quite evident over the past three years. The media helps build sport stars and celebrities as superheroes and constantly reminds us of the crises our world is in. We are made believe that we are in this whirlwind for the long run and we can't get out and that somehow, the celebrities are immune to any distress or sadness. We are taught to look up to the people we want to be like as if they can do no wrong and we are made believe in an all-powerful, all loving being who can also do no wrong. We are made to believe that our life is set out for us and we have no bearing on the direction or outcome of each and every day. All of these societal biases lead us down a path that make us compare the worst in ourselves to the best we see in others and that is what makes us feel less powerful, more jealous and more insecure. We put our lack of success down to not being the chosen one and we often say we don't have the resources. We have thoughts like, "well if I grew up like him/her, I'd have done even more than they have". But the question is rarely about a lack of resources but a lack of resourcefulness. Although success and happiness should not be determined by achievement, we are made believe that the best at their craft are the happiest and that they live life in a bubble which is all roses and glory. I can't say it isn't as I am not the best at any of my crafts, but the more I learn and listen to other successful people, the more I realize that they are no different to you or me in that they battle with the same self-defeating thoughts as we do.

Nobody Is Perfect!

So how exactly does one deal with this unhealthy comparison? I would recommend being mindful about the fact that everyone is going through a battle that you know nothing about. I would also recommend being grateful as often as possible. Being grateful may sound a little woo woo and I know it will. The reason behind this is because "it can't be that simple" but there is a big difference between simple and easy to do. If, every morning you can write down three things you're grateful for, while trying not to repeat the same things in any three day stretch, you'll soon realize that the world is mostly a beautiful place to live in and we are simply looking in the wrong places for the wrong things and finding the wrong answers. If you continue to look toward the right things i.e. gratitude, you'll begin to notice more thing to be grateful for and you will see through your perceptual biases.

Stay hungry, stay humble.

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How To Teach Our Kids The Sense Of Responsibility

As parents, we want our kids to be responsible. We also want them to become dependable, honest, committed, accountable for their behaviors, accept credit when doing things right and acknowledge mistakes for them to be successful.

Sometimes, we, parents confuse obedience with responsibility. We would love our children to do what we ask, to follow directions and to not question our authority which is understandable when raising our children. However, this is not responsibility! These traits are in fact classified as obedience. Over time, we want children to accept ownership for a task or chore and our children do it because it needs to be done and accept that it is their obligation to do it. Over time, they may even initiate doing a task because it needs to be done not because they are being told to do so. This attitude is called responsibility not obedience.

We do not want our children to fail which can lead us to do too much for our children. When this happens, the children don't learn to take on the responsibility themselves. And I am no exception. I want them to achieve that I support them throughout even to the point of sacrificing my need just to sustain their needs in school.

It stressed me out when I need to give in to my kids' yearning because they do not want to be late in the submission of their projects. I want them to learn how to take charge when something when wrong or doesn't go according to plan. I do not want to take over their responsibilities but I also want them to learn in the process. Even if I feel like this but still worth it because each of them are really good in their craft despite their young age.

Right now, I am trying to set limits and boundaries, impose discipline, teach my children how they should behave, and give them guidance. By not meeting their needs immediately and not giving them everything they want, I provide them with an opportunity to tolerate some frustration, delay gratification, become less impulsive and less self-centered. By setting standards of behavior that I expect my children to meet, I establish consequences for breaking rules and I follow through on those consequences. I teach my children to be appreciative for what they have. It is through the executive role that I hold my children accountable for their behavior, and that in turn, fosters the development of a sense of responsibility.

But I am also a nurturing parent. I am kind and loving to my children. I listen to my children, support them, spend time with them, and are affectionate with them. I communicate my unconditional love - no matter what happens which allows my children to take risks, to make mistakes, knowing that they have my unconditional support and love.

REMEMBER: Children are more likely to accept the limits you set and are more likely to want to meet your expectations when you provide a warm, caring and supportive relationship that underlies the discipline you impose.

When our children feel capable, they are more likely to meet their obligations, volunteer for new tasks, try their hardest and feel good about what they do. These things will increase our child's sense of responsibility.

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Do You Feel Unworthy, Rejected, or A Failure? (By Connie J Lee)

Most of us were not taught to be successful. I wasn't taught to have faith in God, let alone, believe in myself. I had to find that road on my own. I had to create a mental picture of the person I wanted to become, and take steps each day to become her. I closed my eyes, thought of where I would like to be in life, what I would have liked to achieved, where I would like to live, my professional office, my degrees, how I looked, my ideal weight, and even what I smelled like. With this visual image in mind, I stepped into her body. I wanted to resist because I was not having to struggle and fight, everything seemed to flow flawlessly. I made myself stay there until I was comfortable with the new me. It seemed a lot better than going back to where I was.

You deserve a better life. People may have used you, lied to you, abused you, and betrayed you, and made you think you do not deserve better, but you do; and deep down, you know it. We all have insecurities and limiting beliefs. How we let things go, how we do not set healthy boundaries, how we spend our money, how we are afraid to fail, and we are afraid of rejection, all stems from three beliefs we have of ourselves.

• We are afraid of failure. If we try, we may fail, so you don't try to follow things through, living a self-fulfilling prophecy.
• We are afraid of rejection. No one will want me or accept me if they truly knew who I am. The right people who are meant to be in your life, will love you and accept you the way you are. "Do not let the opinions of others, define who you are"!
• We feel unworthy. People in your life may have continually put you down to make themselves feel better, which is a psychological term called, "Leveling".. That has nothing to do with you, and says everything about who they are. Be proud of who you are. You are loved, accepted, and you are very worthy! You may lose a few friends, but you have to surround yourself with people who are on the same mission as you are, or like minded people.

I want to remind you that is okay to believe in your dreams, even when everyone else tells you have an impossible dream. Never let others, who have never achieved their dreams, keep you from obtaining yours. You know what you are capable of and your abilities. Skills and networks will happen along the journey. You just have to put one step in front of the other, and keep moving forward. Yes, you will fail! You will learn from your mistakes and find a better way of accomplishing the task that may lay before you. Have an impossible goal? Make a mind map. Put yourself in the center and your goal on the outside. Lay out each step it will take to get there and how you can make that happen. Find a mentor you can learn the skills you need to. YouTube has plenty of tutorials for you. If you seek a mentor in person or online, be prepared to ask relevant questions, so as to not waste their time and make it a valued experience for the both of you. Nothing is IMPOSSIBLE, which says, "I'M Possible". It is only your limited perspectives, beliefs, and values that put limits on what you could achieve. Whoever made you believe you are not good enough, you don't deserve peace in your life, you will always be rejected, and you are unlovable, was only projecting their fears and insecurities onto you. Shake it off!! Look yourself in the mirror every day, and tell yourself, "I Love You", "I am magnificent and worthy to receive all good things in my life". "I will take 5 actions every day to make that happen, and log them," "I am supported and respected". I will even go one step further and tell you to stand their naked, in all of your beautiful glory, flaws and all, and tell yourself, "I love even the hard to love flaws about myself." It is time to truly learn to love the valuable person you are. Stop giving others so much power to dictate your life, and tell you what image you should hold before they deem you acceptable to society. Stand up and take your power back!! Soon, your mind will begin to attract all of things you have written down. Don't sabotage it because it is out of your comfort zone. Embrace your new you and your new life, because you deserve so much more. You can do it. I believe in you. Now, get going, what are you sitting there for?

The truth is that nothing you do defines you as a person. You, that small part of the universal energetic flux, are enough, just the way you are. In fact, you are fundamental to the proper functioning of that massive cosmos as a whole. So don't sweat it when things don't work out the way you thought they would. Just keep moving forward, which will be further than most have ever tried.

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