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Showing posts with label romance. Show all posts
Valentine's Day - Few Random Thoughts and Observations About Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day come once a year, though it ought to be everyday.
Here are a few random thoughts, observations and tips for and about Valentine's Day:
- I often refer to Valentine's Day as "amateur night." What I mean by that is this: if you truly feel strongly toward another person, you don't have to have a special day to show it. You ought to be showing it all the time. At the same time, this does not let you off the hook on February 14th.
- And speaking of February 14th, there is something very important that most guys tend to forget about Valentine's Day. It's the same day every year, February 14th, the 45th day of the year. I'll say it again, February 14th. This means you can plan for it. Therefore, any guy reading this has been warned, and if you find yourself with several other said sacks scouring the card racks the night before, or even worse, the day of, to play off the immortal words of Jimmy Buffett, it's your own damn fault. And most women can tell the difference between a last minute card and one that was selected with care. Don't ask me how, they just can, and they're not telling.
- Heard about the 12 Days of Christmas? What about the 7 days of Valentine's Day? Just a thought...
- Not sure what to do for Valentine's Day? That means you have not been paying attention all year. So I'm here to rescue you if you have the guts to run with my suggestion. Ask your partner what would make a perfect Valentine's Day for him or her. Then to whatever extent possible, to the best of your ability, make it happen. And do not fall for the "Oh I don't need anything" line. Dangerous territory indeed.
- As part of Valentine's week, take over a chore your partner does not like.
- Here's one of my favorites: record a CD or create a playlist of your partner's favorite music. include some that express how you feel about your love.
- If you are currently doing in the relationship that is not working or is just plain old and tired, remember the first rule of ruts: when you find yourself in one, stop digging! Find something, almost anything, to do something differently. Use your creativity.
- Lastly, come up with 2 different plans for Valentine's Day. Choose one and do it. Then do the other one 3 months from now. Rinse and repeat.
- Just for fun: "I don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine's Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon." ~ Author Unknown
http://ezinearticles.com/?Valentines-Day---Few-Random-Thoughts-and-Observations-About-Valentines-Day&id=6856555
7 Keys to Intimacy - How to Enhance Intimacy in Your Relationship
A relationship is not complete without intimacy. Intimacy is defined as "seeing into me" and it is a very important factor to have a happy and healthy relationship. To build a strong and long-lasting relationship is to understand each others' needs. Here are seven keys for improving intimacy:
Listen to Your Partner
Anna and John just got married and they both listen to each other about everything. They discovered that they still have so much to learn from one another and this gives a thrill in their relationship. Active listening means to focus, and not thinking about what you are going to say next. Look at your partner in the eye and be silent and focus while he or she is talking. Listening to your partner will help strengthen your relationship.
Have a Date
Dating can help bring back intimacy in a lot of ways. It helps in reviving intimacy and helps in going out of each others 'comfort zones. Ask your partner for a date sometime. Get dressed up and spend time with one another. Dating brings back laughter and lets you reminisce the good times. A date can be fun and romantic and it can simply be watching a romantic movie or going out to a nice restaurant. This helps your relationship have another spark and passion.
Massage Your Partner
Massage is a wonderful therapy in bringing intimacy. Fill the room with aromatic candles to set up a relaxing mood and use scented oil in massaging your partner. A nice massage relaxes the mind and muscles and gives a refreshing feel. Touch is vital in improving intimacy and a massage can be truly revitalizing.
Individual growth
When you grow individually, you will find that you have something new to bring into the relationship. Individual growth can help broaden your ways of thinking, believing, and taking responsibility in living a happy and independent life together. This makes your relationship more intimate.
Be Spiritual Together
Being spiritually intimate can help your relationship by giving a great sense of connection and higher purpose in your togetherness. Your relationship can grow stronger and as individuals, you get to give your partner a positive sense of life. Being spiritual together makes a lasting relationship and gives a sense of fulfilment.
Be Supportive
There are four different types of support and these are physical and emotional support, offering self-esteem support, advice-giving support, and tangible support that offer assistance in problem solving and responsibilities. Relationships can grow when these kinds of support are given to their partners. One morning, Mary was nervous as she prepared for her project proposal with the Board of Directors in her workplace. Alex was there to give her emotional support by hugging her and wishing her good luck to boost her confidence. Providing support is one way to increase intimacy in your relationship.
Make Time for Romance
Romance is important in intimacy and there are many ways to have a romantic time together. Lighting aromatic candles never fail to set the mood romantically and sharing a glass or two of wine while talking to each other is great. Share a kiss and have a delightful talk too as all of these can lead to a wonderful time together and it can be a fun and satisfying moment.
http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Keys-to-Intimacy---How-to-Enhance-Intimacy-in-Your-Relationship&id=9365781
5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships (and How to Stop)
Sometimes, we don't let ourselves get what we want. Here's why we should.
1. “I can do it all.”
Believing you can and should do it all—emotionally, financially, physically, socially—both for yourself and your partner sets you both up for trouble. If you never believe you can rely on others, ask for help. If you never believe it’s okay to be vulnerable, you probably tolerate more than you can handle and perhaps more than is healthy. You may turn down the volume on your own emotions and not realize how burned out you truly are. Find ways to connect with your partner other than always doing things for them or managing their lives. Being self-reliant when necessary is a strength; being compulsively self-reliant is a curse.
2. “I can’t do it myself.”
The counter to “I can do it all” is believing you can’t do anything without another warm body present to guide you, stand by your side, and/or do it for you. When a partner becomes your emotional caregiver, resentment builds. In addition, if your whole well-being rests on someone else then you may start to feel desperate and fearful at the thought of losing them. When you think you can’t do something on your own—including work, social outings, managing difficult emotions, or taking a risk—do it in spite of yourself! Show your partner or future partners that you are a living, breathing, effective human being—all on your own. Then they can enjoy you without the burden of feeling emotionally responsible for you.
3. “I’m afraid to get what I want.”
I see it so often in my psychotherapy practice—a person wanting nothing more than a healthy partner to attach to for the long term. Only once the match presents itself, they panic. They may list Seinfeld-like quirks about the particular person—”When he chews his food he hums”—but once we get below the surface, invariably there is a fear of failure. “What if I can’t provide for her financially?” “What if I can’t be available in the way he needs?” “What if he hates my family?” “What if I can’t please her?” The list goes on. Some fear is inevitable when a person begins to feel close with another and warms to the realization that a meaningful match may be possible. It’s much easier to want something you can’t have. Once you know you can have it, a little fear kindles—a fear that you won’t be able to give the situation what it needs to grow. Talk yourself off this ledge. Instead of going internal, discuss with your partner what you fear. There is nothing more comforting than sharing our fears and seeing them met with love and understanding.
4. “I’m afraid I will be found out.”
Of course you will, and should be, "found out" if you are in a healthy union. The reality is that happy relationships, whether romance or friendship, take accountability. When those closest to you see your flaws and weaknesses, these are opportunities to be better known. Explain yourself, and how you got this way. Take responsibility when you hurt others or let them down. Being less than perfect doesn’t mean you are a failure; it means you are a real, living human being whom others can connect with. The problems I see come when couples hold themselves to impossible standards so that each sort of puts on a show for the other. Acting out a façade keeps people at a distance and makes for awkward and inhibited social and physical interactions.
5. “I’ll have to change.”
As soon as love comes in, your day-to-day routine changes. At first this can be fun—flirty texts during the day, spontaneous meet-ups during the work week, and sleepovers on the weekend. But once the novelty fades, you may find yourself overwhelmed at the idea of eventually living with someone, having to adjust your routine to accommodate that person. Change is inevitable in life. What fun would it be if you merely did the same thing for the next 80 years? Don’t deny the impact of your new situation, but do find a way to talk with your partner about the changes that are most challenging for you. See if you can problem solve together about ways to accommodate one another, ensuring the changes you do make aren’t too soon or overly abrupt.
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