Showing posts with label victim mentality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label victim mentality. Show all posts

Better Quality of Life: How Having a Positive Attitude Can Help You Achieve It

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Usually, the term "quality of life" is used for people who are hurdling towards the finish line of this race we call life. So why am I using it now? Well, ask yourself how much time you have left. You can probably estimate how many years until you reach old age, but, in reality, there is no guarantee you will actually reach it.

Next, I want you to think back to your earliest memory. How long ago was that? I'm not asking for the number of years, I'm asking how far back does it feel? Has your life up until now passed in the blink of an eye or does it feel like an eternity?

My point is, no-one knows how much time they have left, so the term "quality of life" should be used for us all. Moreover, if it affects everyone, everyone should know - or at least want to know - how to improve it. One way to do that, is with a positive attitude. Here's why.

You have control

A lot of the time, people blame the negative events in their life for their reduced quality of life. They have a victim mentality, giving away their control. Sure, bad things that are out of your control may happen from time to time, but it's not these events that dictate your life, it's how you react to them. With a little bit of training, you will be able to control such reactions. However, control isn't all you need, the ability to make the right choice in reactions is just as important.

If you have a negative attitude and think that the whole world is against you, you are more likely to make a bad decision. The opposite happens when you have a positive attitude.

Your perceptions change

Our perceptions are based on our beliefs, which, in-turn, come from our experiences. Ironically, our experiences are based on our perceptions. It goes round and round and round. Hence, people who think bad things are always happening to them, always have bad things happen to them. Luckily, there is a way to alter this pattern. Your attitude.

By applying a positive attitude to focus on the good things in life, the bad things slowly lose their significance. In this way, a bad event may result in a few good things learned. Those few good things reduce the scale of the bad event, which leads to perceived decrease in the effects of the event. Your perception changes, so your experience changes, then your belief changes, creating a better perception for the next event.

Positive Attitude = Positive Quality of Life

Before long, your perception of life will be positive. You will naturally focus on the positive aspects of any events that occur in your life. The ratio of good to bad things that happen to you will increase, therefore, creating the belief that your life is mostly positive. And a positive life is a good quality life.

Learning to have a positive attitude can be hard though. Especially if you are already set in your ways about life giving you lemons. One thing I found that helped me a lot was learning about the power of thoughts.


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Possible Or Impossible - You Decide



And Mr. Webster says...

Possible - feasible, practicable, practical, viable, within the bounds/realms of possibility, attainable, achievable, workable, doable

Impossible - not possible, out of the question, unfeasible, impractical, impracticable, nonviable, unworkable, unthinkable, unimaginable, inconceivable, absurd, unattainable, unachievable, unobtainable, unwinnable, hopeless, impractical, implausible, far-fetched, outrageous, preposterous, ridiculous, absurd, impracticable, unworkable, futile.

Notice there are twice as many words that are synonymous for impossible as possible - does this mean anything? Well - read on and you will discover why so many people focus on what is impossible rather than possible.

We all face barriers when we try something new or take a risk but the real question is do we really believe what we are doing or attempting is possible or doable or are we just trying and hoping?

I believe that very few people (given the population of the US) actually believe that what they are trying is possible and I don't care if it's the Wright Brothers, Bill Gates, John F. Kennedy or anyone who has little experience, few contacts, a poor background or just a victim mentality. Imagine what would not exist today if so many people hadn't just kept trying and believing no matter the odds, number of failures or mistakes and the constant ridicule or invalidation from others.

We have what we have today because people didn't quit and never believed what they were aiming for was impossible.

How about you - a new business, a new career, a new relationship, new skills, new anything - wishing and hoping, staying stuck in the past or going for it with gusto? 
Thinking about writing a book or taking up a new hobby of painting or sculpture?

Waiting for just the right moment?

As a mentor to over 50 aspiring authors I can tell you every one of them keeps telling me - "I have a book in me." And I keep asking them is this book in you any good? And if it is will it help others? And if it will, how many people is it helping while it's still inside of you? What are you waiting for? It won't get done on its own.

Want a new career or position - and you don't have the experience or skills - go out and get them. Stop dreaming and hoping and start moving in the right direction.

Again, how about you - waiting for the right time, the right connection, the right inspiration, the right something? Stop waiting and erase the word impossible from your vocabulary and then get to work and watch the miracles unfold.


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