Why You Must Get Rid Of False Expectations

A fulfilled life is a result of successive complete and fulfilled days. If you are going to have a fruitful day, it is important that you have the day properly outlined and planned out. Of the many things you need in the right place are expectations: expectations for a positive fruition for plans and objectives. These are expectations we impose on ourselves and are sometimes imposed on us by other people.

Expectations have had a great bearing on how much I have accomplished, they have been the core of my belief and trust that things will happen as desired. Because I have been able to live each day successfully and have accomplished each day according to expectation, life has been a bundle of joy.

However, it has been of utmost importance to define and distinguish between realistic and unrealistic expectations. These can also be termed as true and false expectations. It is worth mentioning that, although truthful expectations help yield positive results, false expectations are a constraint to fulfillment of any endeavor.

While brooding over positive expectations is fundamental, it is of equal importance that false expectations are gotten rid of if achievement is going to be attained. My experience and research has identified an inexhaustible number of false expectations, this helped me get rid of all such hopes. Here now are some common false expectations and why it was important that I get rid of them.

The expectation that everyone should like me.

The expectation that the world must be fair.

The expectation that all my days are supposed to be sunny, that is, a storm will never come.

The expectation of never being anxious or depressed.

The expectation of always being in the driving seat- always in control and always knowing what is going to happen next.

The expectation that people will be perfect.

False expectations made me take up a level of control that I really did not have in given circumstances. This led to considerable failures and disappointments along the way. This denied me the chance to learn from others because, in my mind, I was on top of things and yet was not. I did not let those who knew better control things. Nonetheless, those days are gone and I know better now. I now know only to control the things I can and to let other players act their roles.

Disappointments literally make the heart sick. False expectations when fully mature breed disappointments which in turn sicken the heart. Such emotions are never good for anything, worse still for success and fruition of goals. There is a predisposition in man to repeatedly feel disappointed when their hopes are not met.

False hopes are heavy loads to shoulder. It does not really matter if they are really personal or about others, they are simply heavy to carry. You may want to tone down those expectations because they place unrealistic demands on ourselves, colleagues, etc. A tendency to act as if others "should" just live and give in to our expectations is a common feature of false hopes. They "Should" just know what my desires are is bad for business.

Further, false expectations cause the hopeful individual to have some preconceived blueprint of how things should be without really considering others. People develop an "if- then" syndrome which dictates how things should be done. This is actually a very common erroneous assumption.

To hold on to false expectations is to obstruct the knack to pursue what matters most in life. For example, those who expect NEVER to make a mistake won't actually take any form of a risk in life. And since they will not take risks, it is impossible to step out and pursue the things they care for.

Unfortunately, some expectations are not feasible. They are simply not practical. Often, they might appear like reasonable and viable expectations but are in fact not. From a distance, they may even give the impression of being fair, realistic and reasonable but in reality, such prospects cannot truly be met. Worse still, such expectations only create additional problems, far worse than they solve. For instance, the expectation that young children should always be tip-top in terms of their behavior is far-fetched. A colleague of mine shared his experience, "I had set all the appropriate limits and rules, and for some time they were all fairly-behaved children. But in my efforts and quest to further enforce this expectation, I experienced disappointments, and only roused conflict with the kids besides other problems.

False expectations are always grounds for loss because they set you and other people up for disappointment. Reality is that, there is no life without expectations, however, I choose to hold on to realistic and measurable expectations.

What is true is that I cannot please everyone nor can I make everyone like me. It can't just happen, I will be naïve in trying to make it happen.

To even start wishing I could control all the aspects of my world in order to ensure things function consistently in the most harmonious way is like fighting the wind. The world cannot be all fair and I can only control so much. The rest is about accepting and moving on.

Well, false expectations almost made a stiff naked person out of me, I was becoming rigid to the opinions and inputs of others. I could leave no room for change for situations or let other have a go at matters.

All in all, to get rid of false expectations, it is imperative to arrest all unrealistic hopes, thoughtfully and with seriousness. It will be key to reflect on the potential effect of the expectation and practice consideration for others as they are built. Being flexible and allowing for external impact is the way to go for getting rid of false expectations.

False expectations are a menace and are unhealthy, they should be gotten rid of no matter how hard it may be. It is possible to create a whole set of beliefs, motivations, etc. that will assist you and others.

Until next time,

Your friend,

Felipe

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The Benefits of Writing Out a Schedule

I'm already seeing the benefits of writing out a schedule. What's the point of waking up at 5 AM if there's nothing to accomplish?

That's right, there isn't.

Anyone that's been in the military knows how boring and tedious the first few weeks of boot camp are. You're not used to being told what to do and when to do it every second of every day. What you don't realize is that every single step of every single day, with a small exception on Sundays, is carefully planned out for maximum efficiency. This was found out with the quickness though.

In Marine Corps recruit training, there are many billets, or jobs, to hold for recruits. The guide is the leader of the platoon and is the fittest and shows the most leadership out of everyone. There are 4 squad leaders that are under the guide and each take care of 1/4 of the platoon. Outside of leadership roles, there are other jobs that need to get completed. The house mice are the 4 shortest recruits and clean up the drill instructors hut and storage locker. Then you have the scribe.

The scribe is one of the smartest guys in the platoon. He will help the drill instructors with computer tasks like data entry, will make the fire watch schedule, and conduct weekly weigh-ins. The scribe gets hooked up with a lot of information that a lot of other recruits don't get to see... unless the scribe hooks them up and shows them.

One of the tasks our scribe was assigned was copying and laminating the daily training schedule. This gave him the entire week at a glance, every half hour planned out on paper.

And he shared it with us.

The uncertainty of the next day was gone. We knew it all. When PT was. When we were going to the classroom to learn some history. The days suddenly felt shorter, there was no element of surprise.

That's how I feel when I have a schedule made. I wake up in the morning and can look at my cheap legal pad journal and see what I need to get done. I have my tasks at the top left, up to three major tasks and as many minor tasks as I want. Any minor tasks that aren't accomplished are rolled over to the next day.

On the bottom left was my day at a glance. I had my whole day planned out hour by hour, but found that being flexible is a whole lot easier. For instance, I planned to shower after doing my daily push-ups, sit-ups, and squats. Unfortunately, I planned to start my laundry right before that and threw in all my towels as well.

For now on, I'll merely put which tasks I want to do before lunch, in the afternoon, and in the evening.

On the entire right side of my page is an ideas column. I put steps for the tasks I have to do and brainstorm new ideas.

So far, so good.

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