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Real World Work-Life Balance: How to Find Your Entrepreneurial Zen

         


Julie Fredrickson jokes that she's running her startup wrong. By not compulsively working every waking hour, the 29-year-old knows she's defying some sort of macho entrepreneurial code. "But I just haven't found that to be the path to success," says the co-founder and CEO of playAPI, an enterprise software company in New York.
Instead, Fredrickson accomplishes what she needs to in 10 hours or less each day and rarely works weekends. She eats well, runs triathlons, powerlifts and sleeps at least nine hours a night. She regularly spends time with friends and frequently travels to visit her parents in Colorado and brother in Georgia. "I am strongly in favor of a balanced life," Fredrickson says. "I think I am a better entrepreneur for this decision."
She's also a successful one. Since its launch in March 2012, playAPI has reeled in more than $1 million in revenue. Clients include big brands such as Gap, American Express and Kate Spade.
Fredrickson hasn't always taken such a Zen approach to work. Growing up in an entrepreneurial household, she was exposed to "that always-on way of working" at an early age and figured it was the only way. While running her first company--Coutorture, a fashion and lifestyle ad network she started at age 22 and sold two years later--a typical day involved 12 hours at the office, followed by a night of schmoozing at industry events and a scant four hours of sleep.
"I don't think I got anything more done than I do with playAPI," Fredrickson says of her "insane" Coutorture schedule. "You hit a point of diminishing returns."
Despite the abundance of startup founders who take pride in the fact that they haven't had a day off since the Bush administration, it's not hard to find successful 'treps who hold their downtime dear. Here's what they do to stay present and focused in their professional and personal lives--and how, with a mindset shift and some work tweaks, you can, too.

Think Output, Not Input

Think Output, Not Input

Joshua Weiss, 38, is the first to admit that working longer and harder doesn't always translate into accomplishing more. In his 20s, Weiss founded 1-800-Tow-Truck, a national roadside-assistance company. At the time, the Linden, N.J., entrepreneur didn't think twice about putting in 18-hour days, six days a week, despite the flagging energy and dwindling attention span that plagued him most evenings. "Your brain's just not going to work as well, and you're going to miss things," says Weiss, who embraced a more manageable schedule in 2010 when he started Edison, N.J.-based TeliApp Corporation, a mobile app company. "It doesn't matter how many cups of coffee you have. It doesn't matter how many donuts you eat."
Fundable.com CEO Wil Schroter, who has founded nine startups in the last two decades, agrees. "The only reason to work harder is to get more output," Schroter says. "If you're crashing all the time, you're wasting that." After years of "running at full sprint," the dad of a 20-month-old daughter recently decided to slow down to a trot. By logging how he was spending his 16-hour workdays, Schroter realized he was operating at peak performance just four hours a day. By the time Friday rolled around, he was running on fumes. "It's not that I'm not productive," he says. "It's just that as a human being, I can only be so productive."
Schroter now paces himself throughout the week, stepping away from the desk to recharge when his energy dips, rather than scrolling Facebook. To encourage Fundable's 22-person staff to do the same, Schroter has implemented a 3 p.m. companywide "recess," when employees are encouraged to take a walk, play sports, read a book or otherwise disengage for 30 to 45 minutes. This oasis is still a work in progress at the year-old Columbus, Ohio, startup--staffers sometimes find it hard to tear themselves away, Schroter admits--but those who do partake say it helps them stave off the dreaded afternoon slump.
Darren Gallop, another formerly overworked 'trep, likens growing a startup to running a marathon. Contrary to popular belief, your workload doesn't ease up once the venture is off the ground and the revenue starts rolling in.
"The pressure and demands get greater as your team grows and your client list increases," explains Gallop, CEO of Nova Scotia-based Marcato Digital Solutions, which builds software for musicians and festivals like Coachella. "Today's problems will be replaced with larger ones in the future." Yes, you need to remain swift and nimble, he adds, but you also need to save your strength for the finish line.

Hack Up the Workday

Jon Sterling knows that if he spends all day reacting to demands from colleagues and customers, he'll never make a dent in his to-do list. So the 34-year-old CEO and former time-management consultant reserves 8 a.m. to noon of each workday for calling and e-mailing potential customers and business partners--activities essential to building his online startup, Agent Finder, which matches home buyers and sellers with real-estate agents. He doesn't check his phone, e-mail or Twitter feed first; he stays focused on the task at hand.
"Whatever 'emergencies' that exist at 8 a.m. will still be there at noon when I'm ready to deal with them," says Sterling, who's based in Las Vegas and usually works a total of 30 to 35 hours a week. "It's very easy to get caught up in other people's stuff if you don't have a clear plan."
Unlike Sterling, Weiss doesn't have the advantage of working with a virtual team. TeliApp manages 11 full-time employees and half a dozen interns who work on-site. For Weiss, getting home early enough to make dinner for his wife and three kids is a priority. That means staying laser-focused at the office, no matter how enticing the Game of Thronesconversation his colleagues are having. "For me the hours of 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. are 99 percent work-related," Weiss says.
Karen Macumber, a single mom of two teenagers, takes a different tack. Rather than clocking out at the same time each day, the CEO of Lifeables, a Boston-based online scrapbooking service, "clocks in" when unexpected pockets of free time arise outside the office. An organization ninja, the 50-year-old always travels with extra work on hand and relies heavily on mobile tools like Dropbox and Google Docs. When it's her turn to drive her kids' lacrosse carpool, she plans a conference call or drafts an e-mail while waiting in the car.
"It's setting yourself up so you can be flexible," she says. "But that also requires you to be incredibly well-organized."

Treat Downtime Like a Business

Laura Vanderkam, author of several books on time management, including What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, rejects the idea that the startup life leaves no room for personal pursuits. "I could find people who have very full personal lives whose businesses are bigger than yours," she says. "It does not inherently follow that your business has to take up all your time. That's a choice."
To choose life outside of work, determine your non-negotiables--a weekly dinner with friends, volunteering--and commit to making them happen. "Those are all things that make you feel like you are still bringing it for the rest of your life," Vanderkam says. "They don't have to be profound."
After eight years of doing nothing but running 1-800-Tow-Truck, Weiss admits his personal life was a wreck. His marriage had gone belly up. He'd become estranged from friends and family. He had no hobbies, no way to blow off steam. Due to poor diet and lack of sleep and exercise, he'd gained 100 pounds.
When he started TeliApp (after remarrying, having two more children and getting back in shape), he wanted to ensure he didn't make the same mistakes. "I wrote myself a miniature business plan for how to operate a startup and a family at the same time," he says. Among his essentials: spending evenings with his family without having to answer the phone or e-mail, working out after the rest of the house hits the hay and getting six to eight hours of sleep per night.
The most well-rounded 'treps will tell you that tending to their health, hobbies and relationships outside the office helps keep them sharp in the office. Since ditching his more-is-more approach to work in 2011, Marcato's Gallop has taken up surfing and winemaking. "I even made my own surfboard and learned to speak Spanish," he says.
And none of this has diminished his professional output. "The funny part," Gallop says, "is that I am actually much more productive now than I was when I was beating myself up with 70- to 80-hour workweeks."

Don’t Work Harder; Work Smarter with These 12 Tips

I imagine that, like me, you say that you never have enough time and that you just cannot cope with 60 dozen things all at once. How on earth do you get out of that spiral? Many people never sit down and look at how to work smarter, rather than harder and even longer hours. Here are 12 tips you should be following:

1. Improve your time management skills

Easier said than done? Well, no actually, because there are a few simple rules that can really help you to manage time better. For example, when setting up a top priority task, you need to switch off the phone and ignore your email first. Then you need to abandon any ideas of multitasking as that will slow you down and ruin your focus. Finally, set a reasonable deadline and do everything in your power to meet it.
“When you’re born, you’re born with 30,000 days. That’s it. The best strategic planning I can give to you is to think about that.” -Sir Ray Avery

2. Speed up your typing and use shortcuts

These days we’re all keyboard slaves. So, why not speed up your typing and try to get rid of the two finger syndrome. This is exactly what I am doing now, so I cannot honestly say I am practicing what I preach! But help is at hand. One of the best sites is Typing.com, which gets you going with free tutorials.
Using shortcuts on the keyboard is another time saver and can speed up your work. For example, press F2 to rename a selected file, while CTRL + Iwill put selected text in italics. There are so many of these; if you make the effort to learn them, they really can be helpful.

3. Learn how to use MACROS

It is well worth downloading this program because when you have to do a long series of boring repetitive tasks (especially with programs like Excel), a MACRO will do it with one click. Now that is really a great way of working smarter, not harder.

4. Use the phone more often

             
Instead of writing emails, it is often much better to pick up the phone and talk to the person responsible. It saves time. If that colleague works in the same office, it is even better to go and talk to him or her. It gives you a break, you get some exercise and you actually make human contact which is becoming quite rare in this electronic world.

5. Keep a tab on your tabs

If you are like me, you might well find that you have a ton of tabs open at the top of your browser. In order to find the one you want, you have to search for them as they are off screen. Having all these tabs open slows down your browser too. One solution is to use OneTab which can keep a neat list on the screen of all these tabs when you want to quickly get to one of them or you want to remind yourself which ones you have open.

6. Use a “to don’t” list

We all know about to do lists and I find that they are generally great. They give me a great sense of achievement as I cross off the tasks done. But often we find that we are doing nonessential tasks or ones that can easily be postponed. That is why many people recommend the to don’t list. Some people prefer to savagely prune the to do list while others prefer to have two separate lists, to do and to don’t. You just have to work out what works best for you when you are trying to save precious time to become more productive.

7. Expect failure and fight paranoia

When failure rears its ugly head, some people get a bit paranoid and fear that this may become a trend. Projects will go wrong and failure should be expected rather than feared. Learning lessons from failure and analyzing what went wrong is the best way forward.
“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” -Richard Branson

8. Be concise

Rambling on at meetings, in emails and even when introducing yourself to new clients can waste a lot of people’s time. One way is to practice and sharpen your “elevator speech,” which tells people in 30 seconds or less why they need your skills and how they can benefit from doing business with you. Just think of the many situations where this could be useful:
  • Making new contacts
  • Talking about yourself at a job interview
  • Meeting people at conferences or parties
  • Phone calls to new clients

9. Ask the right questions

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” -Naguib Mahfouz
How do you get feedback? The secret is to ask the right questions at the right time. When you do this, you are gathering the information you need to help in decision making. This will save you time and you will be able to cut meetings to a minimum.
Forbes magazine reports on research that they carried out on asking the right questions. When that happens, the positive effects are increased by 400%. There are also other benefits in staff motivation and a positive impact on the company’s bottom line.
“If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on it, I would use the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.” -Albert Einstein

10. Learn as much as you can

      
You should always be on a steep learning curve. Look at your skills profile and determine where you need to fill a gap. Talk to important connections and network in your niche. Keep up to date on trends and developments. It is a fact-changing world. When an opportunity arises, you will be the best equipped to seize it because you have never stopped learning. Just another way of working smarter.
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” -Mahatma Gandhi

11. Look after your greatest resource

No, your greatest resource is not time. It is YOU. If you do not get enough sleep, exercise and relaxation, you find that you become less and less productive. You begin to work longer and longer hours, which is the exact opposite of what you want.
What you should be doing is making sure you are in the best shape. It is useful to remember that you need a break of 15 minutes after every one and a half hours of work. Taking breaks and getting fresh air and exercise is one of the best ways of working smarter, not harder.

12. Don’t fall into the trap of working smarter and harder

As a society we are obsessed with doing everything smarter so we are more efficient and we save time all around. Great! The most important thing to remember is to accept when we are ready to switch off that computer and not fill up the time with even more work.

Be Great in Relationships


How to be great in relationships?
Oh, I love this [question].
I’m going to wing this
How to be great in a relationship begins with having the intention to be great.
I know that sounds simple, but you meet so many people who jump into a relationship that they’re so excited about… to find their boyfriend or girlfriend, to get married, to have that husband, that wife or partner and they’re so excited, yet then over a period of time what ends up happening? They get caught up in a routine and get to know the person better and develop habits, responses and pet peeves. And all of a sudden they stop seeing the magic in the very person they met with and had intention to grow this great relationship with.
We’re going to be amazing together. People stop putting great intention and great efforts into their relationships and over a period of time they feel ho-hum and they start to die.
You and I both know that, so the challenge is this… if you want to have a great relationship your intention must be to be great, to make the other person feel great and to build a great life together.
Now, I know it’s not always easy. I’m married and have the same challenges as anyone else. It’s difficult sometimes to make sure you’re as empathetic as you can be, to be as present as you can be, to be as understanding, loving, perfect, amazing, passionate and spontaneous whatever it is, everybody struggles the same in relationships.
What can we do about it?
I think there are three very powerful intentions that if you had in your relationship, no matter what that relationship is like now, it will improve it. Even if you already have an extraordinary relationship, a little more of these three things will improve and fire up that relationship.
First is attention.
1. People want to feel true attention from you.
This is a major challenge today. I know a lot of people and they literally can’t be in a conversation and connect anymore. They can’t even keep their eyes on each other and pay attention to each other without looking around at everything else going on and all the distractions. Or worse they pick up their phone… Are you in a relationship with someone who just can’t even have a conversation with you for 10 minutes without having to look at their phone? Doesn’t that drive you nuts? That’s the challenge today.
And if you’re the person who learns to take this mentality and have a true intention for people, you are completely enveloping them with energetic presence, being right there with them. Being present, engaged and enthusiastic for the relationship, the moment the connection and you’ll stand out from everybody else and your partner, spouse, lover, wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, they will feel you again.
The challenge right now, the disconnects in relationships are driven mostly by distraction today. The inability for people to look eye to eye, to feel each other, to sense each other and be present in the moment. So what ends up happening? The relationship goes astray and people start trying to “show love” to another person. What do they do? They go out and buy flowers. They buy diamonds. They say ‘hey, look honey I emptied the trash.’ ‘Look honey I washed your things.’ ‘Look honey, I ran your errand for you.’ They’re trying to say look I did something for you. They’re trying to show something, a gift to that person to recreate something, to have that love.
All people want to be shown is attention and we forget that. They don’t need something from you.
Jesse Jackson said a long time ago, “People don’t want your presents they want your presence.”
He meant they don’t want your gifts, your stuff, they want you; fully engaged, fully charged, fully connected with them again. If you’re going to improve any relationship all of the improvement will come from a greater degree of attention and presence, gifted to that person to that moment. Learn to be vitally there and present with them again. Learn to have an entire dinner without looking at your phone. Can you do it? Go out for a walk without bringing your phones. Go out and do something together with no phone, no distraction, just the two of you to have a moment together.
If you don’t think you can do that then you’re addicted and you need to seek digital help. It’s like, do not tell me you can’t have a conversation…
Look, I know you think you’re important and we all think we’re really important, but there is no person in the world who cannot learn to have a few hours where they can be human again with the people that they love. That will be the best gift you can ever give. If you want your relationships to be fiery, zesty and spontaneous again, than those things can only happen in a moment where you’re free from other distractions where you can be with each other and truly experience something.
Think about it, the best memories you probably have in all of your relationships were times when the two of you were just in a moment together where you were truly fully there, vibrantly connected, in the moment and present together in one way or another. It could be chaos going all around you, but the two of you connected and there was this feeling and a sense that was like bam! You were there for each other. Attention… you have to have the intention to give extraordinary amounts of attention to the people that you love.
By the way, this is so vital because if you don’t have attention, think about it… all the ills of relationships come in when people aren’t giving themselves attention anymore. You can’t show respect to somebody unless you give them attention. You can’t pick up on their non-verbal cues, guestimate or feel or sense or mirror their emotions or energetic level. You don’t know if someone is down or up unless you’re attentive to them. So all ills in relationship begin with giving better, more present and vital attention to the person that you love.
2. The next intention to have is that you have to give more appreciation.


Did you know most people in the corporate world, in jobs to the high degree, about 70% of people that leave a job leave because they didn’t feel appreciated?
Well, a relationship is work too. And people leave relationships because they don’t feel appreciated. I don’t mean appreciated like, ‘hey honey, thanks for washing the dishes.’ (By the way, you should say that but it’s bigger than that). The appreciation of the totality of the person— that’s what’s magical in relationships. To appreciate their struggles, the small things that drive you crazy as well as, not just the things that they do for you. If the only things you appreciate in a relationship are the things that somebody is doing for you than what you’re doing is you’re appreciating the fact that you have a servant.
That is not what love is. Love is the appreciation of the totality of a person, to appreciate their challenges, struggles, their dark sides, the frustrations they have in their lives, the stupid things that they do, the things that drive you crazy.
To understand, to truly appreciate somebody is to accept them at a level that they’ve never felt accepted at before. To appreciate the totality of who they are… yes, show appreciation. You ought to be saying thank you honey in a million ways to show them that, tell them that, whisper in their ear, grab their arm, to give them a hug, to make love, all those ways you can show appreciation. Those ways are great right, but it’s much bigger than that.
You have to appreciate their soul. You have to appreciate who they are as a human being and have such extraordinary respect and appreciation for that, that they feel that from you. Because that’s a challenge today, a lot of people try to show appreciation with a gift but they never show it of that other person’s humanity and once you do that you realize it’s not just showing appreciation for what they do for you it’s showing appreciation for their reality.
I remember long ago I got to have lunch and a long conversation with John Grey who wrote, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. I’m sure you’ve either read it or heard of it. He’s a great master teacher in relationships. He says, “You should know the questions you’re going to ask your partner when they come home from work or in your communications.” There are some things that men could say to women for example that will really help them and he told me these long lists of the things guy’s could say. I laughed and they were funny, but so true. So you should have a list of things you could say to appreciate somebody’s reality each day.
Here’s my list… I think this first one is John’s, just to give him credit.
When my lady is talking to me and telling me things about her day and I’m listening, to show appreciation for her reality I want to know more about it. So she’ll say something and I’m like, tell me more about that. I will tell you what; if you tell someone that then they will love you. Tell me more about that, what else happened? What else was that like? Tell me more elicits more communication from them. As they communicate more they feel more heard, more empathetic, more understanding and they feel like you are vibing with them if you’re present.
My second favorite is… if anyone is every complaining to me in a relationship.
If my wife is complaining or if she’s upset about something, I always empathize by saying that’s so lame. I’m sorry that happened. That’s so lame. Gosh that sucks. That’s so lame. Oh, I realize that’s so challenging that’s so hard, I’m sorry about that. When they’re complaining go oh yeah that sucks. That’s so lame, I’m sorry that happened. It’s so simple, but to empathize that point say yeah that does suck, that is lame, to mirror that back to them, reflect it and rephrase it, they’ll feel it and sense it and that’s important.
The third one is… I’m here for you, anything I can do.
That is so powerful in showing appreciation for where they are. Maybe they do need help. Maybe they feel left alone. A lot of people in relationship when they’re complaining they end up complaining about their spouse or their partner because as they’re complaining that partner isn’t present with them and doesn’t ask them anything, doesn’t engage with them, so they feel like they’re just reporting out but they aren’t having communication. It’s quite different.
If you are in your own relationship just complaining, but you don’t feel like there’s any back and forth in conversation than at some point you realize you could just go sit across from some stranger at Starbucks and puke all your complaints on them. Part of a magical relationship is having somebody who can pitch and catch with, who can have that conversation back with you and can really understand what you’re saying. You have to elicit that from people.Appreciate people’s reality by asking them to talk more about it.
Appreciate someone’s totality as a human being by truly feeling and sensing them, and sharing things with them, like compliments that show appreciation. Giving them gifts, things that say,
“I appreciate what you did for me, but I appreciate who you are too. You know honey, I love when you do that. I always appreciate that about you because you’re so good with people. Honey, I love that about you, I’m so thankful for you. I appreciate that because you do always notice what I feel and need. Honey, I just want to tell you I love you and I appreciate you so much, because the way you talk to the kids you’re just so amazing with them.”
You have to say things like this to have a real high level of relationship.
3. The last thing is adoration. You have to adore people.
If you don’t adore the person that you’re with right now you have to re-summon that up. You have to look for the things in them that will help you do that. The way to do that is to give them more attention and show them more appreciation. When they receive more attention and more appreciation from you, there will be an energetic change in the relationship and it will turn more vibrant and there will be more pop in it. Then suddenly, you’ll start to notice that person because they come a little more alive around you and it will be easier to adore them. You’ll be like,
Look, I never even noticed they do these things…that’s funny or I never noticed they did all these things for me, I have attention to that now and I appreciate that now.”
You’ll start to adore them more.
When you adore the person you’re with more you do things for them. You do more things for them. You want to see them light up. You start supporting their dreams more. Are you doing that, because real adoration is getting out of your own way and asking; what is it about this person’s life that I can support, that they love to do? Because showing real adoration is showing support. Real adoration isn’t just doting on somebody with flowers and gifts, though you should do that too it’s about wanting to support their bigger life goals, bigger dreams.
When you truly adore somebody you want so desperately to see them happy, passionate, engaged and living their own fully charged life. When you really adore someone you go out of your way to brag about them in front of them. When they’re with you in a social situation you’ll compliment them and brag about them. Like, if you haven’t made your partner, your spouse, your lover, your husband or wife blush for a while with a good compliment in front of others, what are you doing? I’m always trying to embarrass my lady, but in a positive way.
I’ll compliment her in front of others and she’ll be like, I really appreciate that you said that about me. I want her to feel adored. I want everybody in the community, everybody in my life to know how much I adore my lady.
Do you have that intention for yours, for the person who you’re with?
Does everyone know how much you adore them?
Are you bragging them up?
Are you adoring them personally and publicly? 
When you do that you’ll notice a different level of engagement in that relationship, too, and everything will change, because they will feel adored, appreciated and feel like you’re giving them attention. Then they’ll turn it around and they’ll give you more attention, more appreciation, more adoration and there’ll be the spark that happens between the two of you that you never imagined you could have.
That is what it feels like to live… The Charged Life.