Shyness Solutions

No one is ever born shy. It is our conditioning and our upbringing which determines what we become, who we become and the people who we surround ourselves with. The relationship with our parents, siblings, school teachers, and the other children we mixed with in the early years set the foundation for our self-image. How you value yourself as a person today is really just a reflection of how you were valued as a child. It is all learned behaviour. If your parents always told you to be quiet and scolded you for speaking up then this type of behaviour will become a part of your consciousness and later on in life in social situations, you are unconsciously living by these rules. It comes across as shyness and is a difficult habit to break.

Telling someone who is shy and unsure of themselves in social situations that they need to talk to people more would be similar to telling someone in a wheel chair that they need to just get up and walk. Shy people have sometimes experienced pain in the past and void getting up too close and personal with others in order to avoid pain in the future. It is similar to a mistreated animal who finds it hard to trust humans because of the way they have been treated by them in the past.

Another cause of shyness is self-consciousness. Some shy people believe that they have a physical blemish in some way. The cosmetics industry plays on this by taking advantage of everyone's insecurities. It is important to accept who you are and change the things which are within your control.

The simple solution to shyness is to get out and about more because shyness can also be the result of lack of social interaction with others and for most shy people this is a double whammy. They are less inclined to get involved in activities which will help bring them out of their shell.

Getting involved in a physical activity such as sport will help you forget yourself because in the moments when you are involved, your mind is on something other than yourself and helps you to express yourself and your emotions much the same way as an animal that has a fear of humans will lose that fear when you go near their young.

The sense of satisfaction of just completed a 5k road race or having just exceeded your personal best time give you a sense of satisfaction and well-being which promotes self-esteen. It all helps you to come out of your shell.

People do not develop social skills overnight. They are the result of years of trial and error and plenty of practice. Just like a marathon runner will not get fit after just a few training runs. To be socially at ease with others requires you to develop these skills and if you have bad experiences from dealing with people which has caused you to live a sheltered life then this is going to require plenty of effort on your part but it can be done.

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Energy of Valuing Your Self

Value Yourself

The energy we put out is what comes back to us. How we perceive ourselves can influence how others perceive us or it will produce mixed signals for them. When I was looking for a job in the past I would get feedback from the business that I was over qualified for the jobs or the job would be a perfect fit but the pay grade would be lower than expected. After this happened a few times, I started to get frustrated. I started to evaluate the energy around the situation and what I found was amazing.

What I found  was that I wasn't valuing myself as I should. It is so important to give the credit and value to yourself that you deserve. So may of us may feel that our job is easy and an easy job has less value. Or you may be a giver always going above and beyond because that is the way you are. You are doing a good job and really do not expect anything in return. Some of us have the trouble with money and putting a value on our skills, services or products. We may just want to help people and give things away. All of this puts out an energy that people can price us as low value. But you are a high value this puts out mixed signals and can cause a huge disconnect.

Let's say your real skills and knowledge are at 100 points but the actions and the value you have for yourself is at 30 points. This is a 70 point gap and this is what we put out to the universe. Now when we look for a job what comes back is something in the middle. You may have many people look at you for an opportunity of 50 points and their perceived energy from you is this person's skills and knowledge is well above what they are looking for and they assume that pay should go along with that so they do not look at you. Or the job is a perfect match but then the pay scale is at the low end because that is the energy you are putting out.

To solve this energy issue is to value yourself. Once we value ourselves that energy that we put out can raise from 30 points to maybe 80 points. That makes only a 20 point difference. When we attract new opportunities and they are in the middle, they can come in as 90 points. Know your knowledge and the perceived values are closer. This creates a better fit for you and the employer.

There are many ways we can shift your value. You can raise your prices, do not give things away, or say affirmations of value. As we work on this many of us will also have to change or shift our belief system. Energy work and emotional clearing is an easy relaxing way to help with this shift.

When we love ourselves and value ourselves, then energy gets returned to us 10 fold.

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