How To Fall In Love With Your Life Today (By Faye Bishop)

Falling in love with your life isn't a silly concept. It's very real. The process doesn't happen overnight but it's extremely important to do. Many of us seek love. We desire to receive love from others. But, unless you love yourself and the life you lead how will you ever be able to recognize it? You can do all kinds of things with yourself to learn more about what's within, to begin to trust and appreciate yourself.

Being a woman, a friend, a sister, daughter and mother; I've learned some very valuable lessons about love and why it's important to personify and embody the love you seek. I've learned in this life that in order to attract the kind of love and happiness you want - you must first learn to be it. No one can be good at everything and not everything is meant for everyone. But, what makes the world we live in so great is the right to choose. There are some situations that work and turn out for the best, and then there are other situations that don't work at all, however; just because something doesn't work out, doesn't necessarily make you a bad person. It also doesn't necessarily mean that there is something wrong with you or that you aren't destined for success in that area of your life. It doesn't matter if happens in your interpersonal relationships, finances or your career - it is through your own ability and willingness to be open, possessing the right kind of attitude that prepares you for readiness in establishing good relationships with other people.

• Recognize Yourself as The Source. Anything that manifests itself in your life starts with you. Your thoughts, beliefs, principles, values, actions and behaviors represent extensions of your entire makeup. As human beings we create the environment that we're in daily just by the energy we bring to our space. You can either collude with negativity or you can change the space by injecting a more positive energy into it. Due to everyday social pressures and our daily interactions it's not always easy to be cheerful. But, it certainly makes life much easier to deal with when you have the right kind attitude. We often hear people complain about their struggles big and small. We complain about how hard it is to find a good person, a good partner, trustworthy friends and associates etc., but the fact of the matter is that it's not hard at all. It starts with you. It is important to see yourself as the source of your happiness and inner peace and how it extends outside of yourself onto others.

• Trust the Decisions You Make. Your life is blessed in accordance to amount of honor and respect that you show yourself long before you get to the people around you. Establishing trust in yourself raises your self-awareness which is the key to what shapes your character and integrity. The most wonderful thing about character and integrity, which are intimately related, is that they're one of the few things in life that no one will ever be able to forcefully take away from you. Your choices are your own. Once you begin to trust the decisions you make the easier it will become for you to be more confident in your ability to handle what life throws at you.

• Learn to Master the Art of Owning Your Power. Stress, discord, argument, conflict, disappointment and friction are part of life. No one is exempt from the experience. It happens to us all. The only way such ills can take over your life is if you succumb to them by breathing life into it and giving it legs to stand on in the corners of your mind to run around in. Learn to let go. You hold the power. Power is ultimately the ability to create a desired result. It's the ability to attract and create circumstances that lead to our gain. I have lived long enough and have done enough to know that we are the masters of our own destiny. We're all experts on self and our own conditions. The fact that human beings have the ability to manipulate their lives in order to get exactly what they want fills me with great joy on a regular basis. It has nothing to do with thinking or acting like someone you aren't but everything to do with the universe and how you react to what happens to you. No one can make you feel badly without your consent. No situation can make you feel miserable without your allowing it to. Nothing in life can bring you down without your permission. Once you have mastered the art of owning your power, the easier it will become to create and control the atmosphere around you.

• Become Conscious of The Energy You Channel. Are you conscious of the energy that you possess and how it connects to others with every deed, word and thought you express? Love is an act of will. An act of the will of love is a knowing choice; it is an exercise of free will based on knowledge in the intellect. How we choose to feel about ourselves is born out of our experiences. Such experiences can do one of two things; paralyze us with fear or inspire us to move forward. Our experiences shape the foundation of our very existence. It teaches and defines who we are; what we want and who we will go on to become. There is so much freedom that comes with being conscious of the energy you possess. But, if you don't look at yourself differently, you can't and won't achieve anything different. Positive thoughts bring about positive behavior. Remember that striving to be perfect and being perfect are two different ideas; one is the pursuit of integrity, and the latter is an exercise in futility.

You don't need validation from material things or people to love the life you lead. How you choose to feel each day you wake up to get out of bed will dictate the attitude you carry with you through your day, how you feel before you lay down at night to rest and what takes place in between. Could it all be so simple? Absolutely. The key is putting it into daily practice. Just knowing that you are the source of your happiness and to love with all of your heart without any expectation or attachment to the outcome is all the strength you need to fall in love with your life.

The biggest lesson I have learned is how to fall in love with my life. I've fallen so much in love with it that the thought of being worried or concerned with what someone else thinks of it isn't possible. This lesson became the blueprint I needed in order to live the best life possible while at the same time, achieving the highest level of happiness.

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If You're Not In It For Love

There are all kinds of people in all kinds of places who are in relationships and marriages for all kinds of reasons... other than being in love. Why do we do it? Is it comfortable, honest or acceptable? That depends on your arrangements; there may even be a way to make it easier or more pleasant. What are the top 5 reasons we enter into this kind of arrangement?

1. Security 

2. Loneliness/Companionship 

3. Lack of confidence/Poor Self esteem 

4. Peer pressure /Job Expectations/ Family Pressure 

5. Parenting Assistance

It should come as no surprise that money is the top reason people enter into relationships with someone they are not in love with. There is a large segment of our population who believe that money matters; it makes their world go round. They are willing to trade the magic of love for security.

Loneliness can be unbearable. There are many people who are self-reliant and more than capable of living alone comfortably but cannot tolerate the silence; the daily routine of a life lived alone. They are willing to trade the things they can provide for companionship with someone they are not in love with.

Low self-esteem or the lack of confidence in one's own ability to navigate a life alone is the third reason people enter into a non-loving relationship. The attention and even the friendship of another person are worth the trade as they cease the pursuit to real love and accept what is available. This group feels lucky to have found someone who will stay with them.

Many people are perfectly happy alone and capable of managing financially yet still enter into relationships without any expectation of falling in love because it is expected of them. They are made to feel like they are lacking in some way if they are not 'with' someone. It keeps the naysayers off their back. This group is also compromised of those who become involved in a relationship because it makes them appear more stable in their position at work, leading to promotions.

Single parenting can be tough even if you are financially stable. Many people believe their child will have a better opportunity to be stable and productive under the guidance of two parents. This group becomes involved with a person they believe will complete the family circle, choosing to forego love in the name of good parenting.

All of these are good reasons that are comfortable, honest and acceptable as long as neither person is under any illusion.

When we fall in love with anyone we identify this from pleasurable experiences. The more we have the deeper we fall in love. The more unpleasant experiences we encounter the less likely we are to stay 'in love.' If you have settled for less than love in your relationship you may want to consider building one pleasurable experience after another to strengthen the bond. You may actually find that the unthinkable has happened and you fall in love!

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Want To Fall In Love? Do These 3 Things

      

Connection. It's something we as humans crave. And for good reason: research tells us that people who have high-quality, long-term relationships enjoy better emotional well-being, physical health and longer lives.

But, in today's age of constant distractions, how can you make the most of the time you are actually spending with others to forge even deeper, more substantive connections?

A fascinating study by Arthur Aron and colleagues provides us with a scientifically tested way to achieve this goal of building intimacy with others. And in this particular study, connections were deepened in a mere 45 minutes!

The study paired strangers and gave them a list of 36 questions that they were all to take turns answering. The questions were designed to increase steadily in terms of the degree of personal disclosure they required from study participants. So they ranged from: "Who would you want as an ideal dinner guest?" to "Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it."

Researchers found that after going through this 45-minute exercise, the study participants reported feeling significantly closer to their partners. In fact, they rated their relationship to their partners to be about as close as the average relationship in their lives (which is pretty amazing, considering they were strangers less than an hour prior). This effect held true even if the participants disagreed about issues that were of great importance in their lives.

Interestingly, in a recent New York Times piece, one woman who went through the exercise declared that this process resulted in an eventual romantic relationship between her and her partner. The study researchers also reported that in certain cases, marriages had resulted from the exercise.

Now, unless you want to pull out a list of 36 questions wherever you go, you're probably wondering how can you apply these findings to your own life. Although memorizing a few might not be such a bad idea for conversation starters, here are a few tips to build deep (and quick) connections, all based on scientifically proven wisdom!

1. Share personal information.

The researchers found that just spending time together engaging in small talk did not increase a sense of closeness. Instead, the most important factor in this experiment was that people were willing to disclose personal information about themselves. (Research has also shown that the simple act of sharing an important life secret with someone else increases your naturally occurring levels of oxytocin (the bonding hormone). So, if you want to enjoy deeper relationships, be willing to make yourself a bit vulnerable.

2. Emphasize reciprocity.

To build a connection, both or all parties involved must take part. Have you ever watched a dating show in which the guy spent the whole time dominating the conversation talking about himself? And furthermore, are you at all surprised when during the debrief of the date, his date declares that she didn't enjoy the experience? If you enjoy talking about yourself, realize that while the other person may be learning a whole lot about you, they may not be feeling a deep connection with you. There needs to be conversational give-and-take for this to work.

3. If you're an introvert, set the intention of building closeness.

In the study, when extroverts were paired with one another, they became closer. However, when introverts were paired, they only reported a closer relationship when they were explicitly instructed to use the task to get closer to their partner. Because introverts can sometimes feel uncomfortable when interacting with strangers, the authors argued that the explicit instruction for them to work on getting closer may have calmed them somewhat. With the comfort of structure, they were enabled them to better enjoy talking about deep subjects (as opposed to small talk). Also, because some introverts tend to be more private, the intention of building closeness may have encouraged them to open up more than they would have done otherwise.

So what's the not-so-shocking bottom line? We connect with others when we are willing to share aspects of ourselves, demonstrate vulnerability, and listen attentively to others' experiences. Experiment with these tips and see how your relationships flourish!

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