Super Tips For Turning Failure Into Success (By Naomi Sodomin)

How to Turn Failure Into Success

Acceptance, Communication, Success

DO NOT Let Failure Affect Your Self Worth

"Success is failure turned inside out."

Author unknown.

I honestly wish I knew who wrote this so I could thank him for giving me a guide to what success looks like. I was a freshman in high school when I read this quote and it stayed with me, not only stayed with me... but it changed my life. It was so clear, things can really be that simple!

Whoever wrote this must have known about a young girl who wanted to be successful but had no idea what success looked like. She thought her life was full of failures but in reality, the failures were really successes. It's like holding a t-shirt in your hand and you're about to put it on but then you realize it's inside out. What do you do? Well, you fix it and you put your shirt on the correct way. Then you go about your business, never giving it a single thought.

My friend, it is that simple. All you must do is take the failures and turn them into successes. Why is it so hard for you to turn your failures into success? Because you've tied your self worth to both the success and the failure.

Here's the problem. As humans, we give everything way more meaning than it should carry. For example, let's say your marriage failed and you started blaming yourself. You ask: How come I did not see this or that? Shouldn't I have known better? All the signs were there, so how could I have missed it? I'm such an idiot... and on and on... the madness goes. Pretty soon, you begin to feel badly about yourself. You start calling yourself dumb, idiot, loser, etc. You begin to think about all the people you let down and what they must think of you. Sound familiar?

What if you didn't give it any meaning at all? What if a failed relationship was just a failed relationship? What if a bankruptcy was just a bankruptcy? What if losing your job was simply that. What if none of it had any deeper meaning at all?

Here's what you should do to keep the failures in your life from affecting your self worth. First, you must stop taking everything personally. This was huge for me. When I stopped taking everything personally, and looking at them as "things that happen in a broader context" I could look at things more objectively. The failures aren't personal. It's all part of this thing called "life". Everyone who takes on this human incarnation is going to have a certain level of failure as well as success.

The second thing to do is to look at the failure objectively. It has no meaning except for the meaning you give it. I was fortunate enough to have had the opportunity to work with T. Harv. Ecker, author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. One of the things T. Harv. Ecker taught me was that nothing had any significant meaning at all. He constantly reminded me of this simple fact. It's the same thing with failure and success. They have absolutely no meaning at all besides the meaning we give to them.

For a lot of people, having success means they've made something of themselves. they've proven to aunt so and so or their father that "I'm not a loser." Here's what I've learned. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, not even yourself. Just accept that your successes and failures are impersonal.

I meet millennials who seem to define themselves by their career. What they do for a living has become such a priority, they don't even realize how closely they've attached their self worth to it. Today, the pressure to get married has been replaced with the pressure to become successful in your career as quickly as possible. Sure, it's a good thing to be successful in your career, but you are not your career. There's more to you than the initials behind your name or the title of your job. When you are at the bottom of the totem pole at work, you can't translate that as to where you stand in life. This is where you are today. That's not where you will be five years or ten years from now, so why does it matter so much?

Here's a different take on it. You may lose your job, all your money, and all your earthly possessions, but you can never lose the ability within you that got you those things in the first place. And if you can remember that, then you can turn every failure into success. When I left Florida, I left with my Honda Civic, my clothes in the trunk, and a few toiletry items, and that's all I had. My tribe was very upset because they felt like I had thrown away everything I had worked so hard to achieve. What they didn't realize was that my ability to get those things was still within me.

I don't know how I knew this but I knew that I could own another home. I knew that I could recreate an even better life than the life I'd had in Florida, and I did. I want you to awaken to the possibility that you can create better. You can always have better than you had before. The ability to get a great paying job is inside of you. The ability to start a new business after you've lost a business that you've worked hard at is all inside of you.

Last year I had the opportunity to interview Angela Martindale. She transforms lives from ordinary to extraordinary. She's a highly sought-after nutritionist, and fitness coach to Hollywood moguls and models. She's the creator of Chi Yoga Flow. The one thing that stuck with me during our interview is the fact that she lost everything after her divorce. Angela moved in with her parents with only a backpack crammed with a few personal items. This is after she had built a thriving business. But what she still possessed was the ability to create the results she had created before! Although her ex took her earthly possessions, he couldn't take her ability to rebuild both her life and her business. Angela anchored herself down and rebuilt not just her life, but also her business, and today she is happier than ever. In the process, her work has truly transformed my life and the lives of many other women.

If you want to turn your failures into successes all you have to do is detach your self worth from both the failures and the successes. You've heard of child actors or other performers who committed suicide or became drug addicts and alcoholics because their career started to slide. This happens because their self worth was attached to their job. When your self worth is not attached to your job, your career, or your bank account, you are free to turn your failures into successes. The next time you find yourself down, just remember Angela's story and remember what my mentor, T. Harv. Ecker said: "Nothing has meaning except the meaning you give it." Stop giving your successes and failures meaning, just live your life. Enjoy the successes when they happen and when you fall down, just get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game.

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The One Single Question That Changed My Life (By Dr. Tan Kwan Hong)

By 27, I have 3 masters degrees and 3 graduate diplomas, all with High Distinctions or overall scores at the highest grade category. I have accomplished all these degrees and diplomas within two and a half years, juggled them all at the same time, while running my import-export business, speaking to 120,000 people, getting involved with Toastmasters, and many more projects.

However, I did not consider myself an exceptionally bright student when I was younger. From secondary school to junior college, I scored average grades. I was an average student at best. I was only awarded a Good Progress Award for making improvements in my academic performance, but had no scholarships. Neither was I a top athlete, nor had I accomplished anything significant.

In university, I very much wanted to get into the school's double degree program. That was a prestigious program and it was the most important goal I wanted at that point in my life. However, my grades weren't good enough to qualify for it.

I begged and pleaded, but to no avail. The university kept rejecting my application. Although I had a great desire to learn, and an even greater desire to achieve my highest academic potential, I was not qualified to attend the double degree program just because of the 3 digits on my GPA (Grade Point Average).

I was on the brink of giving up on my studies. After all, for all my life, I hadn't accomplished any prominent academic achievements, and I believed that I wasn't endowed with the intelligence and the disposition for academic achievements. Why should I continue to waste my time in an endeavor that was just not for me? Why must I study so hard and put in great effort without a guarantee of any results? Why must I continue to slough for a future not guaranteed?

Just then, as if God or the Heavens knew about my misery, a mentor appeared, and gave me a question that, as cliche as it sounded, changed the course of my decision: If you can achieve anything you ever wanted to achieve, what would it be?

I knew I wanted to be intelligent, I wanted to be exceptional, and I wanted to 'have it all', to have achievements in every area of my life, a great career, an outstanding academic track record, the prestigious awards and certifications, and other goals I yearned for... I made a list of everything I wanted, and great academic results was what I wanted.

I realised that if I were to quit on my studies, I would have created another reason in my life to label myself as a failure; another frame of reference that only suggest mediocrity. It will be something I will be guilty for the rest of my life.

I decided to give myself one more permission to push on.

Since that decision, I began to model after top students. I changed my studying strategy and learned new techniques. I began to invest time in learning new peak performance methodologies, from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), to goal-setting techniques, and the rest is history.

Fast forward to today, rejection from the school's double degree program has turned out to be one of the greatest blessings in my life. I lost the chance to get a second bachelor's degree, but I obtained 3 masters degrees and 3 graduate diplomas in its place. Best of all, I mastered peak performance techniques that will benefit me in many areas of my life, for the rest of my life.

Today, I am engineering every element of my life, all from the lessons I learned from that great moment of depression.

Conclusion

When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. I wrote this article to inspire you to keep pushing on despite the difficulties you might be facing. Never ever give up! You only give up when the goal is no longer important to you. Give yourself one more permission to succeed. Just one more chance, just one more attempt... Your success is just one decision away.

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Free Yourself From Debilitating Fears (By Andrea Kellerman)

Leanne Belling, who suffered from flight anxiety has overcome her fears and feels like a new person now.

Leanne's story: "I never had a problem with flying, day or night, no matter the weather or distance. A few years ago, I was on a flight from Johannesburg to Durban, the flight was scheduled to leave at 7pm, but due to the severe storm and rain we were delayed by an hour, and departed around 8pm. At the time, I was not worried, I boarded the plane, we took off and I assumed we would be home in an hour.

The take-off was very bumpy due to the weather and 15 minutes into the flight, the Captain announced that we needed to remain in our seats as there was a bad electrical storm ahead and they were going to fly us around it. The flight at that stage was very turbulent, we went through many air pockets and were being shaken around quite badly with lots of lightning bolts all around us.

There were some luggage compartments that opened with bags falling out, resembling something out of a horror movie. There was a really loud bang and massive shudder through the plane, it was suddenly very hot and the air hostesses started running around frantically and were looking rather pale themselves. It was at this point the fear of God was instilled in me and I realised we had a problem. The Captain came back on and announced that were descending to 10,000 feet as we had lost cabin pressure and that anyone wearing a neck tie or jersey should remove and loosen the items, they recommended the bags to assist with breathing. I suddenly realised that this "could be it" and I may never see any of my loved ones again.

Everyone on the plane was in a panic at this stage and everyone was hysterical, myself included. Strangers were holding hands and praying in support for one another in the terrifying moments where none of us knew if we would survive it. Once we had descended to 10,000 feet, they proceeded to go through the emergency landing brace position. The rest of the flight was really rough, and seemed like it took forever for us to reach Durban. Total flying time 1 hour 45 minutes.

On arrival at the Durban Airport (old Durban airport), we were cleared for landing, as we descended to the runway, all I remember seeing were rows and rows of emergency vehicles, ambulances and fire engines. The landing was extremely rough, and when the plane came to a stop, everyone on board clapped and cheered for the pilot. The plane was parked and we were all ushered out the back and around the opposite side to the engine that was struck by lightning with beacons demarcating the wing which looked damaged. I was so happy to see my mom and I sobbed like a baby when I hugged her and held onto her.

Since that unfortunate flight, I have battled with a serious struggle whenever I needed to fly for business, to the point where in a period of about 8 or more years I have never flown on that airline again. In some instances I deliberately missed a flight or two in the hope I wouldn't have to go. My doctor prescribed tranquilisers that were to calm me down before a flight, they didn't work so I used to have a few drinks as well no matter the time of day, just to gain enough courage to actually set foot on a plane. Before I flew I used to be on edge for weeks before the actual flight, a complete nervous wreck, and drive everyone around me insane. On the day of the flight I was very teary and nervous, I battled with anxiety, sweaty palms, uncontrollable panic attacks and uncontrollable tears.

Once actually on the plane, I would do random things, like check the condition of the outside of the plane, touch the plane as I entered to feel for myself that it was solid, ask the air hostesses what the weather was like and whether or not we were expecting a turbulent flight, their answer usually sent me into a panic. I would sit down and fasten my seat belt and then proceed to grasp the arm rests while my heart pounded so hard that it felt as though it would jump out of my chest. My hands were shaky and sweaty, I had this uncomfortable tingly sensation down my throat and neck with a paralysing effect on my arms. So bad that I would keep saying I want to get off.

Any sounds in the plane or on the outside prior to take off would make me start crying as the fear of the flight getting closer got worse. I could never envision arriving on the other side safely, every time I left my family to fly I would imagine that I was not going to make it and it would be the last thing I ever did. As the engines started I would end up in a complete panic and sob my way through the take off. Every time there was a bump or noise I would get such a fright and my heart would pound even faster. By the time the drinks were served I would ask for 2 hunters dry or 2 bottles of wine and drink them as fast as I could, on top of the tranquilisers and alcohol I had already consumed, to further "numb away" the fear. Whenever we landed I couldn't wait to get off and felt the most immense relief when my feet touched the ground.

I ended up in a position at work that required me to fly very often instead of the usual twice a year, beginning with 18 flights in 7 weeks on all kinds of planes to all kinds of airports big and small. After the initial flights I would be required to fly 2 to 3 times per month to Johannesburg and Cape Town. I was in a complete tail spin to the point where I started going for interviews as the thought of flying that much scared me to death. Added to this, I faced continuous ridicule from my fellow colleagues, people think that having a fear of flying is silly, they'd laugh and make a mockery of it and me, which makes it even worse to face or talk about.

A friend of mine suggested that I try hypnotherapy. So a week before the 18 flight marathon began I booked my first appointment. I met her and we went through all the details of what exactly it was that scared me and how I felt when I was overcome with fear. During my first hypnotherapy session we recorded the actual hypnotherapy part onto a CD, and I religiously listened to it every night before the first flight.

I was very nervous before the first flight as I had never used hypnotherapy and I didn't know how I would react on that flight. It was difficult, but I managed to fly with no medication or alcohol. I was still sweaty, heart pounding, getting a fright with every bump and worrying I would not arrive safely, but there was a huge difference even from session 1. I continued with my CD and booked another session. I became calmer, could book my flights without having a panic attack, was able to check in feeling calm, got on the plane without feeling that I needed to get off and managed my emotions so much better.

On about the 5th or 6th flight I realised that I did not need any form of medication or alcohol anymore and I realised that I was making good progress. Every flight I took from there on was a step towards my recovery. I didn't need to drink, I chose to drink and I chose to drink only half at a normal pace.

Slowly but surely with each and every flight, my fear diminished and my hands stopped sweating, I didn't cry any more or get nervous with every bump or sound. I slowly worked my way through all of the issues and the reactions one by one over a 6 month period, and now I don't worry about flying, I don't touch the plane or ask the hostesses about the weather, I do not worry whether it is day or night, I do not pay attention to the actual weather. None of those things bother me anymore, and I find that I now speak to people and say, I used to be scared of flying, but now I actually enjoy it.

On the 22 April 2016 marked my 6 months of hypnotherapy, I snuggled in with my pillow and blankie and I fell asleep for about half an hour. This was the final hurdle that we have been trying to overcome, and I did it.

On the 17 May 2016, I will be boarding a plane on the airline that I had a terrible experience with and I will be facing and conquering my ultimate fear. The ticket is booked and I am feeling confident about it. I am looking forward to achieving my ultimate goal.

Hypnotherapy is an amazing tool to choose and if you really do want to overcome your fears, I recommend you give it a try. It is easy, non-invasive and it has changed my life forever. I can just recommend it to anyone who has fears, want to achieve goals and is serious about having a better life."

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Priorities - How to Determine Them (By Linda Hancock)

A few years ago I heard professional speaker David Irvine talk about a concept that has significantly changed my life. David explained that in life you are given opportunities that he compared to rubber balls and glass balls.

Rubber ball situations are those that you can throw away knowing that they will come back to you. You don't have to deal with them right away because you will have another chance when they bounce back.

Glass ball situations, however, are one-time only. If you drop the glass ball it will break and you never get a second chance to experience it again.

David told a heart-wrenching story about how his wife was expecting a child and he promised her that he would be there for the birth. He was contracted to do a workshop in another province before she was due and, despite her requests to stay with her, took a pager and left. He assured her that she could page him and he would be able to return quickly should her labour start.

After his training session, David was invited to go out for dinner with some of the participants. When he arrived at his hotel room there was a message for him to call his wife. He was horrified to learn that she was in such advanced labour that he wouldn't be able to get to her before the birth.

He hadn't realized that the batteries in his pager had died. The glass ball had broken and he would never be able to recapture that life experience.

David encouraged us to make a list of three or more things that we value as glass balls in our own lives.

Over the years there have been times when I have been extremely busy. Sometimes I was presented with glass balls that I didn't at first recognize. It would have been easier to tell my sister that I couldn't leave the office to be with her when she was ill. She said that she wanted me to know that she wasn't expecting me to go to her. I would have saved eighteen hours of driving, a good deal of expense but dropped a very precious ball if I hadn't paid attention and travelled to see her.

Sometimes we are asked to join people for celebrations that they are planning but just don't take the time to celebrate with them. Glass balls dropped!

I am excited because at the end of June I will be in Saskatoon for a grandson's high school graduation. And then, in the middle of July, my Hancock cousins will get together in Regina for a family wedding. All glass balls!

What are the glass balls in your life? Are there things that you need to do or recognize despite your busy life? Remember, when you drop the glass ones, they are gone forever.

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Career Dilemmas: Beware of 5 Traps When Deciding to Stay or Go

“Am I in the right job at the right company?” “Am I doing what I am meant to do?” “How can I find my dream job? Is there such a thing?” Who hasn’t asked these questions?

It’s easy to ask these questions at low points: The person who recruited you leaves for a new job, the project you put your heart and soul into goes flat, or an important client is furious over what you thought was a small change.

It also happens when we compare our situation to others, like when friends share the perks of their own jobs:

• “We get a thank-you bonus every year, so we are taking a trip next month.”

• “I love my new job, and I got a 30 percent increase when I moved.”

• “I can work from home and set my own hours as long as my work gets done.”

• “My five-minute commute has changed my life. I can actually take the kids to school or even stop and have lunch with them.”

• “I’ve been handpicked for quick advancement, so I’m in a special program to make sure I’m ready.”

All of these situations sound great, and it’s too easy to think, What about me? Why can’t I have that, too? Or, as I see it, we develop “the grass is always greener” blues. But is it really?

Beware of these traps when deciding if you are in the right place or if it’s time to move to greener pastures:

1. Comparing yourself to others rather than what matters most to you.

Instead of comparing your situation to isolated information from your friends, make a shortlist of your “must-haves.” Contrast your current job and company against what matters most to you. This is a real comparison based on what you value. After all, if one of your must-haves is maximum flexibility, then a nice holiday bonus that comes with heavy and unpredictable travel won’t help.

2. Confusing what is you vs. the environment.

I once mentored someone who constantly had difficulty working with his team. After the third situation, it became clear that he was likely the problem. Consider how you show up at work and with others before you assume your company or team doesn’t get it. A new attitude or approach will bring a different result. Rather than blaming everyone else, ask yourself, What can I do? and How can I help?

3. Believing opportunities will knock on your door.

You have to ask for what you want—whether it’s a promotion, your dream job or a desire to earn more. Yes, it has to be done in the right way, but silence isn’t the answer.

Last week the CEO of Microsoft, Satya Nadella, stated that women should do as he did by trusting in the system to reward them fairly for the amount of work they've put into their jobs. Nadella faced a huge backlash, particularly from women, and later apologized. Stating what matters to you in a constructive way is essential for anyone who plans to reach their goals.

4. Confusing an interview with a resignation.

I always remind those I mentor or coach that there are three distinct and separate decisions in making a move:

1. Deciding to consider other options

2. Exploring other options (interviewing)

3. Deciding to leave

Interviewing is a great way to learn about other opportunities, see how your work compares, and develop your gut instinct. You might decide to stay or to go, but an interview on its own is a long way from submitting your resignation.

5. Limiting your dream job to the company’s organization chart.

Once we’ve worked at one place for a while, our blinders can pop up. We confuse our individual careers with the positions that the company offers today. Your career is yours and yours alone. Don’t let the organizational structure make you think too small.

6. Walking in place.

Not making a decision is making a decision. If you are somewhere you don’t want to be or in a role that isn’t what you want, it won’t change or improve by simply keeping at it. Go back to your must-have list, and decide what changes are possible where you are today, explore other connections, keep in touch with your network. Determine your first step to change your circumstances—and create a direction and find forward movement.

You can only know if the grass is greener by deciding your must-haves and what you want in your unique career. Spend your energy here and in what you can control or influence.

So, I have no choice but to agree with Big Sean and Justin Bieber, “The grass ain’t always greener on the other side, it’s green where you water it.”

http://www.success.com/blog/career-dilemmas-beware-of-5-traps-when-deciding-to-stay-or-go