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Showing posts with label empowered. Show all posts
Empowered Compassion Offers You a Path Straight to Time Success
Genuine self-empowerment requires both realism and compassion. Only then can you develop the resilience to flex without giving yourself away. And as compassion becomes a way of life, you thrive by relating as a human, not a superhuman.
Any place you start exploring and experimenting with Empowered Compassion™ is fine. Just remember, any growthful change works best when you start small and work up.
These 7 tips will help you take your first steps.
TIP #1:
Empowered Compassion™ draws its strength from your embracing the responsibility to be all you can be.
When you truly care about yourself, you naturally want to assume full responsibility for your life. As you grow your autonomy, you provide for your own needs. Not only that, but you make use of the choices that don't work out, learning useful lessons from ALL of your experiences.
TIP #2:
Empowered Compassion™ is grounded in the present moment.
You focus on how you can stand in your power right now. You don't immobilize yourself with fears of the future. You don't torture yourself with past regrets. Instead, you fully exercise your power in the one moment that exists - this one!
TIP #3:
Empowered Compassion™ helps you put unresolved anger in perspective.
The more you develop your own power, the less energy you spend recycling old grievances. Self-reference consolidates your power in your own choices. Focusing on how you can help yourself in the present becomes the top priority. Not only that, but as you embrace your own humanity, you accept others' fallibility more readily, too.
TIP #4:
Empowered Compassion™ overcomes self-criticism.
Living from this place, you create a climate where there is no room for self-criticism. Self-criticism feeds on unrealistic standards and a fundamental lack of self-respect. Empowered Compassion™ is pragmatic, realistic and kind. The more you value autonomy, the more you naturally support your strength and success.
TIP #5:
Empowered Compassion™ promotes authenticity.
You are befriending who you really are. By relating with honesty and directness, you stand on firm ground and are able to give your all. This is a very powerful way to live! Each time you step out and risk more fully, you invalidate past messages that say you need to hide behind a mask. You effectively replace those distortions with powerful, concrete confirmations of the fact that you belong in the world.
TIP #6:
Empowered Compassion™ is easy to distinguish from self-pity.
Self-pity blames and defends. It protects whatever you did that didn't work. On the other hand, when you relate from a place of Empowered Compassion™, you don't waste time scrambling for excuses. Your interest is in figuring out what works, and you give yourself every opportunity to enjoy success as you move forward.
TIP #7:
Empowered Compassion™ is a step-by-step process.
Rather than view this as a lofty goal, think of it simply as a way of befriending yourself right now. Every small step you take to support yourself helps! A little bit at a time, you will grow in thoughtfulness and realism, and outworn patterns will gradually lose their hold over you.
Right here, right now is just the place to be!
The Ultimate Secret to Self-Confidence!
Do you have a habit of undervaluing yourself and underestimating your own worth? Do you get stuck in fear of doing or saying the wrong thing? Do you wonder what it would be like to feel relaxed, strong, and capable in the face of any challenge? Or, do you find yourself resigned to just getting through the day because you lack the confidence to dare much more?
In this article, you'll discover the secret to where self-confidence comes from and how you can use this secret to break-through to an empowered life of greater success, meaning, and purpose.
Moments of Competence
Now, most likely, you have certain areas of your life in which you feel fairly competent and sure of yourself. You have some degree of self-confidence in these areas.
For example, you might feel confident in your personal style-knowing the clothes, food, or music you like. You may have a skill you've developed, or a specific area of knowledge or expertise. You may have family, friendship, or work relationships in which you feel comfortable and secure.
There have been times, even if they were brief, in which you felt confident in who you are, what you were doing, and your place in the world. Even if it's a fleeting memory, you can build on that.
Take a moment now, and recall a time when you felt confident in who you are, what you were doing, or your place in the world...
Go ahead and jot that down. If more than one moment comes to you-great. Write down one to three of these self-confident moments...
Notice how you feel in your body as you remember one of these high self-confidence moments...
Make note of any sensations and the location of those sensations in your body...
Moments of Failure
Now, on the other hand, you have had moments that made you doubt who you are, your worth, or your place in the world. In the extreme, you may have doubted your very reason for being. It's okay. Don't worry. We've all had those moments. It's important to learn from them, so we can move forward with greater insight about what doesn't work.
Take a moment now to bring to mind at least one moment when your self-confidence hit a low. Maybe you failed at a task, or were criticized for something you said or did. Maybe you were made to feel like an outsider-like you were strange, different, or just didn't fit in.
Go ahead now and write down one to three of those low confidence moments...
Notice how you feel in your body when you remember those low confidence moments...
Notice any sensations and the location of those sensations...
O.K. good. Now that you have a feeling for the contrasting sensations of self-confidence and self-doubt, let's use that experience to go a bit deeper.
Where Confidence Comes From
What if I told you that the secret to deeper self-confidence resides in your gut?
Does that sound crazy?
Let's try a little experiment, so you can begin to see and feel what I mean.
If you would, place your hands on your lower abdomen, focus your attention there, and take a few slow, deep breaths. Feel the gentle rise and fall of your hands in rhythm with your breathing.
Now, as you inhale, imagine that your belly is filling with Life Energy, with the Life-Force from the Source of your being. As you exhale, imagine that Life-Force is spreading outward through your whole body, infusing every cell. Go ahead and do this for ten, slow, deep breaths...
Notice how you feel...
Notice any sensations in your body and where they are located...
Do you feel a little more relaxed and empowered?
Now, that you have a taste of that feeling, here's that little-known secret to self-confidence.
The Ultimate Source of Self-Confidence
The deeper basis of self-confidence is knowing and Trusting in the Greater Power that dwells inside you and is the Source of your life and purpose. This Greater Power endows each of us with gifts for the good of the Whole.
Self-confidence is a feeling that comes from acknowledging and fulfilling "who you are" and "what you are here to do." It is a feeling that comes from acknowledging and fulfilling the qualities, skills, and resources that you have been given. It comes from knowing that you were sent here on purpose to fulfill certain tasks for the good of those around you. It is a feeling of opening to the Greater Life-Force flowing through you.
In our little experiment, you got a small taste of that feeling. I hope you enjoyed that.
https://ezinearticles.com/?The-Ultimate-Secret-to-Self-Confidence!&id=9401468
I Am Big (By Gini Cunningham)
Most frequently when rough situations arrive in my life I exert effort to go along to get along. Usually this serves me well, however, as the years of my life have expanded I have begun to realize that I sometimes lose myself and my personal perspective in this state of acquiescence. Instead of a strength, getting along transforms into a liability and a sign of weakness. Nodding and agreeing wears out my head, my neck, and my mind. To remedy this situation I have been reading stockpiles of self-help and self-improvement books, perusing the Internet for enlightening articles, and I have also enrolled in a class on leadership. All have assisted my resolve to be more assertive and speak my mind, but the best has been the class.
Taken online with verbal interaction in full group and partner discourse, we have read, shared, and examined our beliefs in ourselves and in our outlook in leadership roles. As I listened to others who are working full-time and trying to lead where a herd of cats expresses dismay and distrust at every request or task, I am pleased that I work independently and have the freedom to serve or to exit the scene and move on to arenas that provide me with a sense of well-being, purpose, and accomplishment. One example is a mentoring job that I was recently offered.
The contract work with a school district included teaching four classes and then acting as a mentor in twelve classrooms throughout the local system. Some were brand new, others long-term substitutes, and a third group consisted of alternative licensure. The latter already have a post-bac degree and are teaching and taking classes to become certified. In addition there are 22 other teachers with whom I have occasional contact to guide and mentor as needed. It is fulfilling work and it also really fills my time. I'd love to have the job, but it was not essential to my well-being. The individual in charge of hiring is known for her humor but also for her tough-as-nails approach. She has represented a towering figure whenever I have worked with her. But this situation was new and unique and my laissez-faire attitude operated to my benefit.
As we began the interview process I assumed my regular stance of nod-and-agree. This was easy because what she asked of me was exactly what I wanted to do. As expectations and then wages came and passed, I asked, "And how much funding is available to supply these teachers with the materials and tools that they will need to implement training techniques I teach and model in their classrooms?" Her response, of course, "None."
Not surprised, I continued, "Really, how much can I spend on each teacher to get the necessary supplies?" A pleasant smile returned another, "None."
"No, I know you have funds tucked away that could be used for this purpose." On this third attempt I felt her melting just a tad, leaning toward my request.
"Well, I'll see what I can do. About $100 per teacher? " My nod was answered with her nod as she added, "I'll check and email you tomorrow."
We stood to shake hands and to my astonishment, this giant of a woman was shorter than I by several inches. Her towering demeanor had cowed me into shrinkage. I had not realized how I had allowed myself to diminish in the get-along stance. As I stood up and spoke my mind, I became empowered and fearless. I knew money existed. Schools (and Congress) always swear there is no money but low and behold, there is when pet projects come waltzing along. My new strength increased my optimism and my chance for success. While I do not plan to become argumentative and demanding, I finally, after many decades of nodding through life, recognize that a firm posture exudes power and potency. I am big.
http://ezinearticles.com/?I-Am-Big&id=9206627
How to Be Observant - The Road to Success (By Sergei VanBellinghen)
When you have big dreams and goals that you have not yet achieved, you almost certainly discover that the road to success is far from easy and always under construction. The journey along the way is great, yes, but it is, in fact, the times when you are often the most uncomfortable.
In truth, the most successful people I know all say that there are much more difficulties on the road to success than one would expect to find. Even if you choose to follow something you love doing, it does not mean that success will come naturally and effortlessly. It will simply be more enjoyable.
For many, it is not comfortable. It is hard. But in sticking with it, it is worth it, as it always is. Usually, most people have a few small jobs and then one job or a career that they have for the rest of their lives. But some of us don't. It was such for me; I got a different life.
Are you wondering what pushes someone to get on such an uncomfortable road?
Well, I am 53 years old today, I was born with horses around me, race horses, and so I grew up by beginning riding at age 3, I went on to be a horse jockey. Being too heavy and racetracks being closed in my country, I went on to be a horse vaulting Acrobat which you often encounter in circuses.
But as a child growing up, I always knew I wanted to build my own business. It was an incredible, profound sense of how I wanted to live my life, even before I knew what path I would take. My life is just one example of many which show that the road to success is not just a bed of roses.
Your Journey Always Begins Optimistically
When I then got the opportunity to work for a big circus in the Soviet Union, I refused because animals were treated poorly. Today, I boycott circus because of mistreatment on wildlife. When you begin to go after your goals, you think very optimistically.
It is because you have not yet faced any stumbling blocks nor understood the false myths about success. But that optimism is a part of the willpower which gives you the necessary drive to follow through on your path to success.
And if you want to see the journey to fruition successfully; then you must be aware of the price that you are going to pay to realize it. During an exhibition in the USA, I defected, worked with horses at first, but got into becoming an O.R. Technician for a veterinarian which in turn made me move to California where I worked in Hollywood movies.
The road to success is constantly being created. Here I was in a country where I did not know anyone, where I did not speak the language, where I had no place to stay, where I had no job and all of this with no money and doing this alone.
Could you do it? Could you pay that price for your success?
Of course, this is extreme, but it is how I chose to do it. So far, I have done it five times already. I had to make it happen to be where I am today. I had real awkward moments on my road to success, but I also had great times where I saw miracles going on in my life. I couldn't be more grateful for it!
The Price to Pay for Success
Over the years, you and I may have faced many hurdles. You know that you do not get there until you make it through all the barriers in your way. All the successful people you see do not come into the world already having success.
The ones who manage to overcome those obstacles succeed in realizing their dreams. So, I left the United States to Moscow, Russia where I worked in security, then back in my homeland Ukraine to work as a bodyguard and chauffeur for an acquaintance.
Each time a year brought another challenge and reason to throw in the towel, but I did not. And while I felt like I was the underdog, it just empowered me even more. I just followed the price to pay for success by going to Belgium as a chief of security. But after two years, the firm closed its doors. I found myself a year without work.
Everyone has bumps on the path to success or any other road for that matter. But I think we need it. Whether you face small or large challenges, they are all made for you to grow and progress.
I believe that if you are not at least somewhat uncomfortable, you are not pushing your mental barriers hard enough.
The Obstacles and Sacrifices You Face
My road to success led me then to Vienna, Austria where I began to work on the streets as a customer sales representative for a sightseeing tour company. Following this, I got into my own business as a digital entrepreneur as a marketer and a self-improvement & success consultant.
Being an entrepreneur requires you to face obstacles and unpleasant sacrifices like working instead of fooling around. You think while others sleep; network while others enjoy a social life or research while others spend time in front of the big screen.
What you are after becomes an obsession. And when you feel like wanting something so terribly, it is only a matter of time until it comes to be yours. There are so many dark things that you may see on your way to success such as sleepless nights, rejection, doubt, disappointment, failure, stress, fear, long hours, pain, sorrow, loneliness, setbacks and more.
All kind of feelings will be encountered on your path to success. But if you want to see it through, you must be ready to face these feelings throughout your journey. You should allow yourself to reach the potential you have been given, even if the road to victory has bumps.
The Road to Success
Do not be surprised by what you are going to encounter because the road to success is paved with sacrifices and determination. Along the way, you will have to face stumbling blocks, twists, walls, barriers and curves.
You might never know how far the road will take you or if it is just around the corner, but at those times, push a little harder. Your journey will be determined by your willpower, hard work, belief, consistency, resolution, and above all persistence.
You need to be willing to take risks and fail as many times, only to get up and try all over again, and again. The road to your success is not a straight line, but much longer and has more bumps than you could imagine, particularly if you have or start your own business.
But when you do succeed and overcome all the obstacles, there is no greater pleasure than making your dream come true. Just stay focused on the end result. It doesn't matter how tough things are, never, ever give up. It is all part of the journey to success.
If I am telling you all of this, it is because you need to prepare yourself for the things you are going to face. This path is not for everyone and is not pink every day, but in the end, when you successfully make it to other side and realize that you accomplished your objectives, you will be grateful you did.
Today I help like-minded individuals on the road to success by helping them create a life they dream of having.
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Be-Observant---The-Road-to-Success&id=9789765
Making Decisive Choices for Self-Improvement
Are you taking action to improve your feeling of achievement in life?
Today in the area of human development, we are finding more reasons to focus on words as they apply to our lives. The word achievement is one that connects to feelings and emotions often spanning a lifetime. One can feel achieved, but be worried about offending others at the same time. On the other hand, someone may appear to feel achieved, and secretly feel deflated. The choice is yours, and the one change you can make in your life is to take action faster.
Ideas are presented to the subconscious mind and while there, they attempt to get your attention. As an idea grows inside of you, there are a few feelings you will notice. First of all, you will go "Wow that is a great idea". Or, you may just shun the idea away from you and take no action at all. To feel achieved, it is so important that you recognize the times when an idea came to you, you said YES and positive results became evident to you.
Human development and self-improvement continue to reign supreme in the world of developmental skills and new platforms for improving esteem. What chances can you take today that will speed up your feeling of achievement? I would like to share a few ways in which I use techniques in human development to improve my life.
Emotional Intelligence is one area of human development that is gaining momentum in the workplace, relationships and career choices. One of the skills you can practice is in tapping your intuition and hunches as they relate to situations or people. Your emotional intelligence level will support you in creating more balance in all you do.
Neuroscience and Self-Development is another unique area you may want to explore in feeling achievement in your life. The brain has so much to offer in the area of emotions and reactions. Knowing how and why you feel the way you do in different situations is key to totally understanding how to feel good about your life.
Emotional Freedom Technique is another skill you can master to fully expand your life experience. Using energy meridians to tap with your fingers, you can release old emotions that may have attached to the lack of feeling achieved. When you do this enough, with powerful affirmations, you start to shift the focus of your mind from defeated to empowered.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Making-Decisive-Choices-for-Self-Improvement&id=9658767
Message From the Universe: Be the Problem Solver
"Holy Mackerel, it's not supposed to be easy!
Please, never think or say that again, ever. OK?
It is easy.
(The sound of thunder fading into the distance... )
The Universe"
When we have solutions to all problems in our lives, we feel empowered to tackle anything or everything that crosses our path. We feel nothing is impossible to accomplish. We look forward to the challenges because we know that solutions are just one step away. When in school, when you studied very hard for an exam, you felt ready to Ace the test and come out the room feeling like a champ. You didn't fear anything and ready to tackle whatever was on the exam. Imagine life had a manual where you would study its content thoroughly and never be stuck when challenges arose. Would you feel excited about your life? If everything was presented on paper, there is really nothing worth looking forward to since you already know where you are headed. We feel our challenges are difficult because of not finding solutions to all existing and pending problems. We end up feeling depressed and irritated because of these reasons. Your mind created these problems so it can allow itself to find their solutions. Depending how you perceive the complexity of these problems, you are in control of their outcome. It's all up to you to make everything easy for yourself.
One famous quote of Albert Einstein:
"Problems cannot be solved with the same mind set that created them."
If you allow your mind set to be negative in nature, you won't be able to find solution to your problems. If you look for the good out of all the bad, you are changing your mind set to solve every problem that crosses your path. If you feed your mind with negative thoughts, chances are that more of the bad will show up in your life and you will start feeding more negativity that will render more depressing outcome. If you know that negative mind set can destroy your potential, why adopt it? As mentioned previously, if your life had a manual, it would tell you to stop thinking this way and change your outlook. Wouldn't be great to predict the future as to what would be the best relationship for us and avoid going on many dates to eventually discover that the person is missing a few chromosomes? If that would be the case, all online dating sites would go bankrupt since we would find our significant other after the first date. This is when common sense is crucial and when you see more and more people going into toxic relationship because of their past toxic relationship, you start wondering what is WRONG with these people? Why are they constantly going back to the same type of relationship knowing it will have disastrous ending? I guess only psychiatrist can figure out the answers to these questions. I guess the root of their problem is from childhood where they faced abusive parents and had to create alternate solution in their mind where when being adults, they feel they can save that abusive partner and be their savior. Whatever the reason, you will never be qualified to enter someone's mind and find the solution to their problem. You can help them, but not save them. Start by saving yourself first and keep yourself sane throughout the process. This is your life, live it well.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Message-From-the-Universe:-Be-the-Problem-Solver&id=9597336
A Law of Attraction Affirmation for When You Are Overwhelmed or Afraid
What do you do when all you can think of is the problem you need to solve? What do you do when the wheel of your worry seems to be powered by a rabid gerbil of fear? There he goes, running along, churning out more unease and feelings of helplessness. It is time to take back your power and change the direction of the flow.
Sounds great. Now how do you do that?
First, honor how you really feel. Pretending you are not scared does not work. Your body knows and there is no fooling it. You have to work through the fear and anxiety in order to clear it all away.
Admit that you are afraid or worried. Once you do that, understand that feeling something and being it are two different things. In other words, just because you are afraid does not mean that the situation is hopeless or that you cannot be empowered by your feelings.
You always, always have a choice in how you will respond to any situation. That is your super-power and it never goes away. No matter how bad things seem (and that is always a matter of perspective), you have the power to decide what meaning it does or does not have to you. You cannot choose how others feel or act, but you can control what plays in your own head.
Next, read these words aloud. (Or write your own version of an affirmation, whatever helps.) This can allow you to let go of the feeling of need so that you can change your focus to one of gratitude and expectation for a solution. This raises your vibration and can make you feel better too.
"I release my attachment to the outcome. I release my expectations. I release my suffering and allow myself to let go, falling into the arms of the greater truth. I trust the path, even when I am in pain or afraid.
I choose to trust when I am broken and when I am well. I choose to trust when it seems I will not have enough, as much as I do when my cup overflows. I chose in this moment, to focus on gratitude and remember all of the times when things could have gone wrong, but somehow went right instead.
This small situation is but a microcosm of time, space and perspective that will pass. The birds still sing. The fruit still hangs on the vine and the world still turns. Daylight chases shadow and the cosmos continues to expand.
No matter what happens, for me, this is but another lesson. I accept the lesson with a grateful heart and move on, secure in the knowledge that this is but an illusion that will one day fade. When that moment comes, when this mirage is over, I will understand every purpose, every pain and every reason that eludes me now. And so, I let go, trusting that all is and ever will be, well."
Now breathe and put your hand over the area above your heart. Then imagine the happiest memory that you have. No matter what it is, think of something joyful. You can also imagine how you will feel once you have the solution. Hold that thought, those feelings for at least thirty seconds. Really feel it. Rinse and repeat as needed.
http://ezinearticles.com/?A-Law-of-Attraction-Affirmation-for-When-You-Are-Overwhelmed-or-Afraid&id=9229074
My Hands Make Light Work
Teamwork is the basis of success. Working as a team can be a great asset. We can accomplish the most difficult tasks when we work as a team. With the support of our team, we feel more empowered and the load looks lighter and a lot easier to manage. The reason we feel this way is that we are assigned only a part of the whole project, with each team member sharing the responsibility, and contributing towards achieving success. When we try to do a difficult task all by ourselves, it is possible that we may get frustrated, lose motivation, and may even fail to complete the task successfully.
A team working towards a common goal means we only have a part of the project to complete, keeping the motivation high, as we see other people in our team working together, and becoming a source of encouragement for us all. We should always remember that once we have an efficient and focused team, like a well oiled machine, we can accomplish some remarkable achievements, which may not be possible individually. The crowning moment comes with the celebration of our success as a team. We all win!
It is easier to choose a path that others have set. It is a sign of a winner, a real leader, to make his or her own path, and leave a trail for others to follow. To be yourself in a world that is trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. It is time to face it! Society as a whole wants us to conform to their idea of who we should be, how we should dress, what car we should drive, what we should read, and even what we should eat. In other words, they say, "be like us"! "Conform to our standards". Everybody has a plan for you! Your friend, family, neighbors, and the authorities want you to follow their expectations. We are bombarded with advertising that is trying to direct us in a certain direction. The entertainment industry is doing the same in living color, and a lot of emotions. Not to mention politicians. They use their power to make laws to force us into their idea of society.
Everybody expects us to behave in a way that we "fit in". They don't leave much room for someone to do their own thing, or to believe differently than everybody else. It takes extreme courage to step out of the mold that society has formed for us. It takes a strong will to be different. In today's strained political climate, the word extremists has been used for people who just want to be different, and live differently, or just want to be left alone. Be NORMAL? Who wants to be normal? A little side story, the other day I made a comment in a post, saying, "I just don't fit in to be normal." The nice young lady responded, "Define normal". Here is my responds: "You had to ask didn't you. LOL I have been crazy for so long, not being part of the 9-5 crowd, my definition of freedom is quite different from most people, not to mention my political and religious views. You asked "define normal"? Well it is the opposite of what I just listed." I ask again, "who wants to be normal?" Have the courage and a strong will to be the opposite of "normal"! Be yourself!
It is quite common for us to encounter difficulties in our life. Life is full of challenges. Certain situations seem insurmountable, and we might be tempted to feel helpless, or even give up. There are some circumstances in our lives that are harder to handle than others. Try to put a different spin on your challenge or problem by viewing it from a positive perspective, rather than with a fearful attitude.
http://ezinearticles.com/?My-Hands-Make-Light-Work&id=9492701
Top Tips To Help You Stop Procrastinating (By Lisa Hartley)
Here are my top tips to help you stop procrastinating:
Tip #1 Small Chunks
Just divide all the things you have to do into small chunks. It doesn't matter if you only have a little time and think it's not worth starting anything now. Honestly IT IS! If I'd have done lots of little bits daily in my business (when I thought I didn't have enough time) I'd be much further ahead than I am now!
There are many times I can think of now where I wasted 30 mins at least thinking about pointless things when I could have listened to half an hour of audio training, written a blog, filmed a video or done some internet research etc! So YES these snippets of time are so valuable for doing SOMETHING! Perhaps you're a mum like me who is always busy, looking after children, doing housework, working part time and also building a business from home. You may also have pets and other commitments which keep you constantly tied up! So therefore any snippet of time is valuable! So use them wisely!
Tip #2 Brainstorm & Write A Weekly Plan
Firstly do a brainstorm or brain splurge on paper where you literally write out all of the things you need to do. That will instantly make you feel better! I used to find that I had so much to do I was scared to think about everything so it was easier to block it out and just do nothing! Very productive!!
So if you just get every single thing out on paper that you need to do, then prioritise each task and make a weekly plan. Then you can see clearly what you need to do and when. Give realistic time scales as otherwise you'll put too much in one day, not get it done and feel bad! So write down what you think you'll achieve per day. Even if you don't get around to doing everything that day, just be gentle with yourself knowing that you've been productive and forward those things on to the following day.
Tip #3 Change your environment
If you're finding that you're not getting much inspiration to do any work then try changing your location/environment. You may normally work in a particular room but perhaps you're not feeling motivated. Whether you change rooms or even go out and find a coffee shop or go for a walk, changing your environment can really help you get back on track and help stop you procrastinating.
Tip #4 Listen to Music
Try listening to music, something that gets you really revved up and in the mood for working. Some people have running music to help them run faster, such as 'eye of the tiger'. I love a song by Enigma and even though it's not a fast song, I feel energised when I listen to it and it makes me want to get on and work my business. It also makes me feel happy and empowered. So try it for yourself and have fun choosing a song or songs to give you momentum!
Tip #5 Have a buddy
Either have one person, like a buddy or tell various friends and family what you're doing. Then you're holding yourself accountable for getting things done. If someone is expecting to receive a blog or report etc from you at a certain time or day then you're more likely to get it done on time rather than if you're just going to put it out there for anyone to see. If you're advertising something or are broadcasting material to nobody in particular then it's easy to procrastinate and let other more pressing things come first. So always believe there is someone waiting for you to deliver.
Tip #6 Just Do It!
Often we want things to be done perfectly and if they're not, we don't finish what we're doing, and therefore end up procrastinating! You may have to be a bit harsh with yourself, like a personal trainer can be, and just get on with it! Rather than making excuses and trying to make something so perfect that you end up procrastinating, just take control and TAKE ACTION! I promise you will feel so much better afterwards!
Working on my business from home has helped me learn a lot about myself and how easily I can procrastinate! But the reason WHY I'm working for myself from home is so important that it makes me have lots of 'Get Up & Go' and want to work hard! My WHY is my children who I want to spend as much time as possible with. And I want to give them the best life possible.
I wish you luck in your journey to stop procrastinating!
http://ezinearticles.com/?Top-Tips-To-Help-You-Stop-Procrastinating&id=9588327
You Are The Decision Maker For Your Life (By Kathryn Corbin)
"Life is the sum of all your choices." - Albert Camus
You know, we can have the most enlightened beliefs about life and how life works but they can remain pretty much theoretical until we have an opportunity to practice our beliefs. [YAY Contrast?]
For example, I have for many years been aware of the power of choice. I have reminded myself on a daily basis that I get to choose. I have frequently tried to convince clients that they too get to choose. Perhaps this blog post will remind you of the awesome power of choice you possess.
Why is that important? Because we create our own reality through the choices we make.
So, the day before Thanksgiving 2015 I had an opportunity to take this understanding to a deeper level. My elderly mother had an accident at home and ended up spending a week in the hospital followed by six weeks in a rehab facility. I am her primary caretaker when she needs care and this situation was very difficult for me. For one thing, it broke my heart to see my sweet mother suffering and incapacitated. Second, I was called on to make her my priority and completely shift my schedule to tend to her needs. I'm in no way complaining; just explaining.
After three days I was exhausted both emotionally and physically and I felt like I was getting sick. In meditation that Saturday morning, something wonderful and much needed happened. Like a lightning bolt, I received the profound clarity that:
I Am the Decision Maker for My Life and I Get to Choose!
In that moment, I took my power back. I was once again on top of my game. I was empowered and committed to moving forward in a state of alignment. I felt transformed and was filled with appreciation for that amazing shift.
After meditation that morning, I asked myself, "OK, then, if I'm the Decision Maker for my Life, what do I choose in this situation?" This is the list I wrote that day:
*I choose to stay well.
*I choose to BE strong.
*I choose to move through this experience with ease and grace.
*I choose to trust that everything is unfolding perfectly.
*I choose to feel good even under these conditions.
And it worked! As I moved forward, whenever I started to feel sad or overwhelmed, I simply re-affirmed these choices and clicked back into my power.
I continue to have many opportunities to remind myself that I'm the decision maker for my life. And I can tell you that accepting the power and responsibility that come with truly being the decision maker for my life aligns me with bold, empowered choices as well as bold, empowered actions.
Since you're the Decision Maker for Your Life, what do you choose?
http://ezinearticles.com/?You-Are-The-Decision-Maker-For-Your-Life&id=9655440
New Paradigm Power Games
Power Games
Again, it seems, we're collectively going through a seismic shift. Momentous changes are happening. People are being rocked to their core. There are strong reactions on one side or another.
What the heck is going on? And what can we do about it?
There's an increase Consciousness happening. We know that. It's been happening, it continues to happen, why does it feel like such a big, frickin' deal right now?
As we each experience an expansion of our vibration coming into form, we become more sensitive and aware. Some of us are experiencing our psychic abilities going through the roof. We're having dreams that turn out to be premonitions, we're thinking of people and then they show up in our lives, we even feel more telepathic and imagine we're going nuts.
What's been happening on an unseen level is our energy bodies are being upgraded. Some try to explain this as our DNA changing. I see us going from gasoline powered to hybrid to Tesla.
We're used to gasoline power - it feels dense, it has a residue. Some of us a currently hybrids, we have moments of effortlessness, mixed with sluggishness. Fasten your seatbelts when you wake up one morning to find your vehicle is Tesla powered.
The old power games aren't working in the world. They are the familiar forms of power. Dominance and manipulation. Physical strength, and mental acuity. Material wealth. If you're a narcissistic bully billionaire, people are going to think you're very powerful. In reality, you're the least powerful of all.
However, the old powerless games aren't working, either. Resistance, victimhood, self-pity, never got you what you wanted in the first place, but are especially setting folks back now.
We've been through some powerful movements, Occupy Wall Street, that have shone light on the old paradigms, and protests seem to create change in the moment. But when you look closely at them, they are merely the opposite of what they resist. They reflect the illusion of powerlessness.
We're being called to stand up and own our power. To stand senior within our own space. To act empowered. To be our own authority.
Consciousness is infinitely powerful. And we are Consciousness. As Consciousness comes more into form, we feel our omniscience within us. Anything that isn't in alignment with our magnificence, is going to feel uncomfortable. Is going to be reflected in the world around us.
The opportunity is arising for many of us to de-energize our old power games. We're revisiting old issues that use to disempower us. It does not mean you are stepping backwards. It's a chance to behave differently with these issues.
Nothing outside of you is more powerful than you. If you admit that you are powerless over people, places, and things, it really means you have taken your focus off them. You've withdrawn your power from them. You've taken your power back from the illusion. You've reclaimed power from the story you have been playing in.
Real power, like a Tesla engine, doesn't feel loud or heavy. It is effortless, clear, and fast. It changes you, or you change yourself, instantaneously. It does not change others. They can change or not change themselves. If you perceive others changing, it's because you have shifted yourself into a reality where they are different. It's you walking off of one sound stage and onto another. The cast looks the same, but the outcome is different.
Whatever is happening in the outside world does not affect your internal power. Even if you feel powerless, even if your storyline says you have no measurements of power, as Essence you are Consciousness and therefore infinitely powerful. As Essence you transcend time and space. As Consciousness you are creating everything in your reality down to the smallest detail. Even feeling powerless.
Your body and your personality contain all sorts of beliefs and concepts that aren't true. When you bring your higher frequency into your body, it can feel like it's dying. Your concepts are dying, but you are. Things you've held onto that are lower, denser, energy, are disintegrating. It feels like your personality is falling apart when these things disappear.
When you get quiet, when you take deep breaths, you realize that what feels ungrounded, what feels unsettled, is actually immense freedom. You are bringing freedom into your life, into your storyline. It's what you're really asking for when you pray, or play with manifesting. You're asking for financial freedom, you're asking for expansion of money, or love. Consciousness is the ultimate expansion. Consciousness *is* love. Consciousness *is* abundance and prosperity. *You* are Consciousness, so you are all these things.
When you relax into your life, the things you've been asking for show up. They spontaneously happen, or you realize they've been in your life all along. You don't have to do anything, you just have to have them, appreciate, recognize, acknowledge them.
You already are all the things you want.
Stop trying to drive your life as if it's a diesel powered engine. You don't need sixteen gears to get up a steep hill. You just press a button and there you are. Actually, you just touch the point where you feel you are now, and touch the point to where you want to be, and collapse the wave between them.
It's a new way of navigating. It's a new power game.
http://ezinearticles.com/?New-Paradigm-Power-Games&id=9440043
A Law of Attraction Affirmation for When You Are Overwhelmed or Afraid
What do you do when all you can think of is the problem you need to solve? What do you do when the wheel of your worry seems to be powered by a rabid gerbil of fear? There he goes, running along, churning out more unease and feelings of helplessness. It is time to take back your power and change the direction of the flow.
Sounds great. Now how do you do that?
First, honor how you really feel. Pretending you are not scared does not work. Your body knows and there is no fooling it. You have to work through the fear and anxiety in order to clear it all away.
Admit that you are afraid or worried. Once you do that, understand that feeling something and being it are two different things. In other words, just because you are afraid does not mean that the situation is hopeless or that you cannot be empowered by your feelings.
You always, always have a choice in how you will respond to any situation. That is your super-power and it never goes away. No matter how bad things seem (and that is always a matter of perspective), you have the power to decide what meaning it does or does not have to you. You cannot choose how others feel or act, but you can control what plays in your own head.
Next, read these words aloud. (Or write your own version of an affirmation, whatever helps.) This can allow you to let go of the feeling of need so that you can change your focus to one of gratitude and expectation for a solution. This raises your vibration and can make you feel better too.
"I release my attachment to the outcome. I release my expectations. I release my suffering and allow myself to let go, falling into the arms of the greater truth. I trust the path, even when I am in pain or afraid.
I choose to trust when I am broken and when I am well. I choose to trust when it seems I will not have enough, as much as I do when my cup overflows. I chose in this moment, to focus on gratitude and remember all of the times when things could have gone wrong, but somehow went right instead.
This small situation is but a microcosm of time, space and perspective that will pass. The birds still sing. The fruit still hangs on the vine and the world still turns. Daylight chases shadow and the cosmos continues to expand.
No matter what happens, for me, this is but another lesson. I accept the lesson with a grateful heart and move on, secure in the knowledge that this is but an illusion that will one day fade. When that moment comes, when this mirage is over, I will understand every purpose, every pain and every reason that eludes me now. And so, I let go, trusting that all is and ever will be, well."
Now breathe and put your hand over the area above your heart. Then imagine the happiest memory that you have. No matter what it is, think of something joyful. You can also imagine how you will feel once you have the solution. Hold that thought, those feelings for at least thirty seconds. Really feel it. Rinse and repeat as needed.
5 Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem
1. Skip empty "affirmations."
John was 25 when he came to see me for psychotherapy. The previous year he had quit his “boring office job” and moved back in with his parents to figure out what he wanted to do with his life. He now had a part-time job as a barista, played video games, and saw friends on weekends. As for figuring out his life—he wasn't.
“I think what’s holding me back is my self-esteem,” he said during our first session. “I just don’t feel good about myself—in any way.” John had tried to improve his self-esteem by repeating positive affirmations several times a day: I’m going to be a big success, and I can do anything I put my mind to.
“The positive affirmations you’re using are not good,” I explained to John, “both grammatically and psychologically. But the bigger problem is there seems to be nothing in your life that is nourishing your self-esteem—you’re not doing anything that would make you feel good about yourself.”
Indeed, we have to nourish our self-esteem. If we want to feel good about ourselves, we have to do things that actually make us feel proud, accomplished, appreciated, respected, or empowered, or take steps that make us feel that we’re advancing toward our goals. John was doing none of these things.
5 Steps to Nourishing Self-Esteem
1. Avoid generic positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are like empty calories. You can tell yourself you’re great but if you don’t really believe it, your mind will reject the affirmation and make you feel worse as a result. Affirmations only work when they fall within the range of believability, and for people with low self-esteem, they usually don't.
2. Identify areas of authentic strength or competency.
To begin building your self-esteem, you have to identify what you’re good at, what you do well, or what you do that other people appreciate. It can be something small, a single small step in the right direction, but it is has to be something. If John were a champion video game player, that could have done the trick. But he wasn’t that dedicated. As a result, the hours he spent playing did not provide his self-esteem any emotional nourishment.
3. Demonstrate ability.
Once you’ve identified an area of strength, find ways to demonstrate it. If you’re a good bowler, join a bowling league. If you’re a good writer, post an essay to a blog. If you’re a good planner, organize the family reunion. Engage in the things you do well.
4. Learn to tolerate positive feedback.
When our self-esteem is low we become resistant to compliments. (See Why Some People Hate Compliments.) Work on accepting compliments graciously (a simple "thank you" is sufficient). Hard as it might feel to do so, especially at first, being able to receive compliments is very important for those seeking to nourish their self-esteem.
5. Self-affirm.
Once you’ve demonstrated your ability, allow yourself to feel good about it, proud, satisfied, or pleased with yourself. Self-affirmations are specifically crafted positive messages we can give ourselves based on our true strengths (e.g., I'm a fantastic cook). Realize it is not arrogant to feel proud of the things you are actually good at, whatever they are, as when your self-esteem is low, every ounce of emotional nourishment helps.
Self-esteem is not fueled by hope—“I’ll be successful any day now”—or by false beliefs—“I’m the greatest." It's fueled by authentic experiences of competence and ability, and well-deserved feedback. If those are lacking in your life, take action to bring them into your daily experience by demonstrating your abilities and opening yourself up to positive feedback (from yourself as well as from others) once you do.
Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems?
While there are some people who get angry from time to time; there are others who are angry almost all the time. Yet this is not to say that there are only two categories, as there are going to be others who are rarely, if ever angry.
When one experiences life in this way, they could believe that there is no reason for them to get angry, and the people around them could see them as an inspiration. But even though someone who doesn't get angry can be seen as more developed than someone is more or less always angry, it doesn't mean that this is the case.
A Reason
What this comes down to is that human beings have the ability to experience anger for a reason, and it could be said that the primary reason they can experience it is to protect themselves. So whenever one feels as though they are being taken advantage of or violated, it will be normal for them to experience anger.
Now, this is not to say that one needs to be controlled by their anger; what it means is that it is important for them to be connected to this part of themselves. Through having this connection, they will be able to pay attention to the information that is being provided.
For Example
If one is in touch with their anger and their boundaries are crossed, they would realise what has taken place. It would then be possible for them to take action, and this may mean that one has to step away and/or to speak up, for instance.
However, if one was not in touch with their anger, they might not even realise what has taken place. Thus, there would be no reason for them to do anything, and this could then mean that it will be normal for them to be walked over.
Containment
In the first example, one is not going to be controlled by their anger; they will simply pay attention to the information that is being provided. Another way of looking at this would be to say that their anger is contained.
But in the second example, there is going to be no reason for them to contain anything, and this is because they are not going to experience anger. What they could find is that they experience fear instead, and this will cause them to retract within themselves.
Sense of Self
As a result of this, one will lose themselves and they will end up being controlled by someone else. And on the other hand, if one can contain their anger they are not going to lose themselves and they are not going to feel the need to control someone else.
They will be maintaining their own boundaries and they will have no interest in trying to take advantage of anyone else. On the other hand, if one is unable to control their anger, it could be normal for them to violate other people's boundaries.
The Opposite Experience
This is not to say that they won't experience fear like the person above; what it mean is that they won't be in touch with this part of themselves. Through being overwhelmed by anger, it will cause them to feel empowered.
One can then have no idea where they begin and end and where other people begin and end. Through not being able to contain their anger, it will be a challenge for them to think clearly.
Regret
But once their anger has subsided, they may start to think about why they behaved as they did, and this could mean that they experience regret. What could make it even harder for them to handle their behaviour is if it is something that takes place on a regular basis.
Having said that, there is also the chance that they won't experienced regret, and this would show how caught up they are. One could believe that they don't have any other choice and there will then be no reason for them to feel bad about their behaviour.
One Option
However, if one was aware of how destructive their behaviour is and they wanted to do something about it, they might end up looking into how they can control their anger. And while they could read a few books, they could also have some kind of therapy or caching.
During this time, they may come to believe that the reason they get so angry is because of what is taking place in their head. Thus, in order for them to settle themselves down, it will be important for them to 'think differently'.
Exposed
After applying what they have learnt, they may find that they begin to settle down, and this will then allow them to carry on with their life. At the same time, one may find that this doesn't have much of an effect on them, and this could be a sign that they need to focus on their body as opposed to their mind.
If they were to take the time to connect with their body, they may find that they feel expose, and through experiencing anger, it stops them from feeling so vulnerable around others. If this is the case, it going to mean that they haven't developed boundaries.
Boundaries
On one level, boundaries allow one to say yes and no, as well as to know where they begin and end and where others begin and end, and on another level, they will allow them to feel safe in their body. Therefore, having boundaries allows one to feel safe at an energetic level.
So if one doesn't have boundaries, it is going to be normal for them to feel extremely vulnerable around others, and through being angry, it stops them from having to face how they feel at a deeper level. Based on this, it is not going to be enough for them to simply change their thoughts.
Early Years
When one is in a position where they haven't developed boundaries, it can be due to what took place during their childhood years. During this time, they may have been abused in some way.
This is not to say that one would been physically abused, as they may have been around people who got too close to them. Either way, their boundaries wouldn't have been respected and this would have stopped them from being able to develop them.
Awareness
If one can relate to this, it will be important for them to reach out for the right support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. This can be a time where they will be grieving unmet childhood needs and working through trauma.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Boundaries:-Can-A-Lack-Of-Boundaries-Cause-Someone-To-Have-Anger-Problems?&id=9317957
How Successful People Beat Stress
There are two kinds of people in this world: those who believe they can make things happen and those who believe things happen to them.
The first group are convinced that the outcome of their lives and careers is more or less in their own hands, and they wouldn’t have it any other way.
The second group take more of a Forrest Gump approach—they sit around and wait for the bus to take them somewhere.
University of Florida psychologist Tim Judge and his colleagues have shown overwhelmingly that people who feel that they control the events in their lives (more than the events control them) and are confident in their abilities end up doing better on nearly every important measure of work performance.
In Judge’s studies, these individuals—we’ll call them “the Empowered”—were found to do the following:
- Sell more than other employees do
- Give better customer service
- Adjust better to new assignments
- Take home an average of 50 to 150% more in annual income
In Good Times And Bad
Of course, when good times are rolling, nearly all of us believe we have the world by the tail. What makes the Empowered in Tim Judge’s studies special—whether they work the shop floor or in the C-suite—is that they don’t get overwhelmed when the going gets tough.
Just like you, the Empowered feel intense stress and anxiety when hard times strike, but they use this anxiety differently. Since the Empowered believe that they have control over the outcomes in their lives, their anxiety fuels passion instead of pity, drive in lieu of despair, and tenacity over trepidation.
Whether the Empowered find themselves presiding over a division with tanking revenues, on the receiving end of a scathing performance review, or staring yet another job-hunting rejection in the face, they refuse to wave the white flag. They redouble their efforts.
Here’s How It Works
The empowered outperform everyone else because the ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. TalentSmart has conducted research with more than a million people, and we’ve found that 90% of top performers are skilled at managing their emotions in times of stress in order to remain calm and in control.
Anxiety is an absolutely necessary emotion. Our brains are hard-wired such that it’s difficult to take action until we feel some level of anxiety (also called stress). In fact, performance peaks under the heightened activation that comes with moderate levels of anxiety.
The trick is to manage your stress/anxiety and keep it within optimal levels in order to achieve top performance.
We all know that living under stressful conditions has serious physical and emotional consequences. So why do we have so much trouble taking action to reduce our stress levels and improve our lives? Researchers at Yale have the answer. They found that intense stress actually reduces the volume of gray matter in the areas of the brain responsible for self-control.
As you lose self-control, you lose your ability to cope with stress. It becomes harder for you to keep yourself out of stressful situations, and you’re more likely to create them for yourself (such as by overreacting to people). The Yale research shows us why so many people get sucked into progressive rounds of greater and greater stress until they completely burn out (or worse).
Dwindling self-control is particularly scary when you consider that stress affects physiological functions in the brain, contributing to chronic diseases like hypertension and diabetes. And stress doesn’t stop there—it’s linked to depression, obesity, and decreased cognitive performance.
Here’s How You Do It
If you don’t have the tools in place to keep your anxiety in check when it comes on strong, you’ll never realize your full potential.
You can get better at managing the anxiety you inevitably feel when facing difficult and uncertain situations. You just need to follow the steps that successful and empowered people take to keep their anxiety from taking over.
The key thing to understand before getting started is that you are indeed facing uncertainty—the outcome of your future has not been decided. It’s up to you to develop the beliefs and mental toughness that will make you one of the Empowered.
Step 1: Expect and Prepare for Change
People change and businesses go through ebbs and flows. It’s a fact that even the Empowered in Judge’s study can’t control. They’ve found themselves out of work. Their companies have fallen on tough times. The difference is that they believe they are fully capable of dealing with changes and making something positive happen.
In other words, they are mentally prepared for change—and you can be too.
If you don’t anticipate change naturally, you need to set aside some time regularly—either every week or every other week—to create a list of important changes that you think could possibly happen. The purpose of this task is not to predict every change you’ll face. Rather, it will open your mind to change and sharpen your ability to spot and respond to impending changes. Even if the events on your lists never happen, the practice of anticipating and preparing for change will give you a greater sense of command over your future.
Step 2: Focus on Your Freedoms, Not Your Limitations
We’ve all had the old mantra life isn’t fair beaten into our brains since we were young. This mantra is a voice of despair, anxiety, and passive inaction. While it’s true that we sometimes have limited ability to stop negative events from occurring, we are always free to choose our response.
On your list of possible changes from step one, jot down all of the positive ways in which you can take action and respond to each change. You’ll surprise yourself with how much control you can wield in response to seemingly uncontrollable circumstances.
Step 3: Re-write Your Script
Step three is going to be the hardest because it requires you to change the mode of thinking that you’ve grown accustomed to. Over time, we all develop mental scripts that run through our heads and influence how we feel about our circumstances and what we do in response to them. These scripts go so far as to tell us what to say and how to act in different situations.
In order to be empowered, you’ll need to rewrite your script.
To do this, recall a tough time you went through recently. What was it you believed about your circumstances that prevented you from making the most of your situation or responding more effectively?
Write this script down, and label it your hard-luck script.
Since hindsight is 20/20, go ahead and write a more effective and empowered mental script that you wish you had followed next to it. This is the empowered script you will use to replace your hard-luck script.
File these away so that you can pull them out and study them whenever you are facing stress or strong anxiety. When you do pull your scripts out, compare your present thinking to your hard-luck andempowered scripts. This will keep you honest and enable you to adjust your thinking so that you’re operating from an empowered script.
These periodic reminders will eventually rewrite your scripts completely, enabling you to operate from anempowered script at all times.
Step 4: Spot and Stop Negative Self-Talk
A big step in managing stress and anxiety involves stopping negative self-talk in its tracks. The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them.
Most of our negative thoughts are just that—thoughts, not facts.
When you find yourself believing the negative and pessimistic things your inner voice says, it’s time to stop and write them down. Literally stop what you’re doing, and write down what you’re thinking. Once you’ve taken a moment to slow down the negative momentum of your thoughts, you will be more rational and clear-headed in evaluating their veracity.
You can bet that your statements aren’t true any time you use words like “never,” “worst,” or “ever.” If your statements still look like facts once they’re on paper, take them to a friend or colleague you trust and see if he or she agrees with you. Then the truth will surely come out.
When it feels like something always or never happens, this is just your brain’s natural threat tendency inflating the perceived frequency or severity of an event. Identifying and labeling your thoughts as thoughts by separating them from the facts will help you escape the cycle of negativity and anxiety and move toward a positive new outlook.
Step 5: Count Your Blessings
Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the “right” thing to do; it also lessens anxiety because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%.
Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy and substantially less anxiety due to lower cortisol levels.
Bringing It All Together
Overwhelming anxiety and empowerment are mutually exclusive. Any time you are overcome with enough stress/anxiety to limit your performance, just follow the five steps above to empower yourself and regain control.
A version of this article first appeared on TalentSmart.com.
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