Questions to Ask About Your Value System

What is your value system?

Questions to ask about your value system.

Is your goal aligned with your highest values? Why is that important?

Today's opportunities are endless. Guess what, all of them work! The question is: will it work for you? Let me ask you a better question: Will YOU make it work? Let me help you to clarify important questions you need to ask yourself about values!

It does not matter where in your stage of life you are right now. Maybe you have already made a choice and still feeling like success is nowhere?

There are many reasons why you can not succeed and people are more and more honest with themselves. They do not blame others or the system, they know it's something they don't do, they haven't tried yet or they don't know yet.

People keep changing and trying different things. Signing up for more and more courses, another online program, joining different groups with the hope it will get them where they want to be. They are looking for the help to make them do it. To have accountability, somebody to check on them, to give them that push!

Yes, it all helps. We all need to learn, get the support and guidance to get there as fast as possible. As long as you are not jumping from one thing to another one.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I was the same. I even think that it's almost necessary to try and test different things to find out if it's the right fit for you or not.

Why is the answer in your value system?

Your goal has to be aligned with your highest values. Otherwise, you don't want it badly enough. What does it mean in your language? You actually don't want it!

Yes, mentally you get it. It all makes sense, your brain understood why you need to do it, but if your subconscious, your inner voice is not convinced, you are not going to do it. You just created inner conflict within you and a self-blaming cycle for not doing things you know you SHOULD do.

Your brain maybe wants it but deep down inside of you, the inner you don't want it.

You have not found the real reason that would align with your highest values and connected tasks to your goal.

If you really want something, you always find the way. It does not mean it is going to work on the 1st time or that you won't have any challenges, that you won't have to stretch yourself.

It means that you won't stop if it doesn't work on the 50th try. No obstacle or challenges will stop you. You will keep going because it is the part of who you are and it makes you feel good.

The real problem is that people actually don't know what they really want! They compare themselves to the illusion or fake pictures what they should have or should do because everyone else around them has or do that. Many people are afraid to face the reality, the real them.

If you are aligned with the real you and your highest values, you won't need any push, you won't procrastinate and every day you will wake up with the main thought: "how to make it work, what else can I improve, how can I help others".

What is the solution?

1. Be honest with yourself.

2. Know yourself, get clear on your values by taking your FREE value test here.

3. Do what you love, what inspires you, what you would do for free and doing it anyway - your life is the clear indication of where your real values are. If you do something only for the sake of money, you won't last too long.

4. Not all tasks which you have to do to get you where you want to be are fun, enjoyable. But they need to be done. Especially at early stages when you have to do everything by yourself because of the limited budget.

Write down at least 50 reasons why and how this particular task can help you and will get you to another level. Once you are clear on its benefits and connect the task with your goal, your why, all tasks become suddenly easier and more enjoyable to perform. Once you understand how much it helps you on your journey to get you where you want to be. If it does not help and the concrete task is unbearable, then simply outsource it. You rather focus your energy and time on things you love and are good at it.

5. Be nice to yourself. Your current step you have taken so far doesn't have to be your destiny yet but certainly will open up another door, new opportunities for you. Eventually. So keep your options open and keep going:-).

6. Your value system changes as you grow and get older. So remember to take your test every now and then to make sure you do your priority task and living a fulfilled life.

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What If This Is All There Is?

In Search Of Answers

When a new disciple came to the Master, he was subjected to the following examination:

"Do you know the one person who will never abandon you in the whole of your lifetime?"

"Who is it?" "You."

"And do you know the answer to every question you may have?"

"What is it?" "You."

"And can you guess the solution to every one of your problems?"

"I give up." "You."

Anthony de Mello's delightful parable highlights the growing tension to look for answers outside ourselves.

In Zen Buddhism, it is said every question contains its own answer.

It was the American essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson who declared: "What lies behind us, and what lies before us, are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."

Many search for answers outside themselves to make sense of their life. Some give up, while many are disheartened since the solutions never arrive in the form they hoped for.

If something within you seeks change, it will only come from inward - not from an external source.

"Many people confuse or conflate 'purpose' with 'meaning' in life. There's a very important distinction. Meaning in life asks "Why am I here?" "Purpose in life is concerned with what we most deeply value, and purposeful living is concerned with whether we're living for what matters most," affirms author Victor J Strecher in: Life on Purpose: How Living for What Matters Most Changes Everything.

We want some form of validation we are living a purposeful life. Yet the irony is, nobody can grant us that because our lives are independent in relation to our experience of it. Others can only share wisdom relative to their experience.

If this message resonates with you, your personal evolution is calling you to expand, not to contract.

You needn't know the details, yet you recognise you are dissatisfied with your current conditions.

I call it leading with love because life answers the call of your soul when you go in search of it.

I have often said, life doesn't know what it will become until you step into it. Until you show up with purpose and seize opportunities.

We want to live a meaningful life instead of allowing external forces to control us.

If you consider life from what is missing, your mind looks for answers based on the form of the question.

Yet, if you ask: "How can I live my fullest potential and enjoy the process?" you will attract conditions in alignment with that very question.

"Counterintuitive as it sounds, taking on more of the 'right' things can actually increase the sense of meaning and accomplishment, even if your job does not specifically require it," states author Jonathan Fields in How to Live a Good Life.

Separating The Wheat From The Chaff

Author Neale Donald Walsch reminds us we are stuck between a rock and a hard place: "You are afraid to die, and you're afraid to live. What a way to exist."

So how can you find peace of mind within your circumstances?

Pursue that which resonates with your highest values. Life is full of ups and downs and you will make many mistakes along the way. Yet, those mistakes are pivotal in drawing you closer to what is significant.

Rather than dwell on the mistakes, see it as separating the wheat from the chaff.

From chaos emerges order.

What is important to you ought to be pursued by letting go of minor concerns. Life is full of contrasts to help you make conscious choices.

Contrast exists in the subtlest details. For instance, an unpleasant thought is distinguished by a positive one, and conflict is contrasted by kindness.

It involves choosing your focus of attention to find meaning through your questions.

Similarly, people are disillusioned that happiness is not a constant state. Here's an enlightened perspective. You can be happy, yet experience struggle and still turn your attention to gratitude by shifting from negativity to enthusiasm.

We're not talking about false optimism or Pollyanna syndrome. However, recognising the dualistic nature of life and aligning your awareness with your highest values.

Author and Jungian psychotherapist James Hollis states in What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life: "Healing, satisfaction, and meaning only come when we identify what feeds our soul, and find also the courage and the where-withal to make it happen."

Your point of reference determines the meaning in your circumstances. It is why altruistic people tie their good deeds to service and the meaning contained within it.

Conversely, those who align with darkness, act on impulses and unconscious desires. They are conditioned by forces not of their choosing.

Pay Attention to Your Personal Evolution

You can stop struggling any moment rather than trying to fill the void within.

Accept life's circumstances are always serving your personal development.

There is no place to reach, other than paying attention to your personal evolution.

Assuredly, searching for purpose and meaning outside you is analogous to using your hands to carry water, instead of a bucket. In gathering water from a stream being careful not to spill it, you are left empty-handed.

So it is with life.

Holding on to what you desire most causes it to vanish because of the anxiety devoted to it.

The great American mythologist Joseph Campbell said: "People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive. That's what it's all finally about."

Avoid looking for answers to empty questions, but consider what is already complete in your life. Use that as the foundation to what you wish to realise.

Nothing outside you will bring about what is contained within.

It was the imminent Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung who said: "Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes."

This sentiment is echoed by Anthony de Mello's fable of the Master who counsels his new disciple, noting that everything you desire will arise by looking within.

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