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Showing posts with label gift. Show all posts

Laughter Really Is the Best Medicine (By Kathleen Dwyer-Blair)



One of my favorite things to do is to laugh. I just love how it feels to experience that seemingly uncontrollable belly laugh that jars the body and the system and feeds my soul. It doesn't matter what triggers it.

My Laughter could be triggered by:

• Jimmy Fallon or Tina Fey

• A funny joke a friend tells

• My husband's natural funniness

• Something I've done unexpectedly that makes me laugh at myself

• My dog, Keegan, running around with her squeaky toy shaking her head and booty

• Watching a child dancing, or how they bask in the little wonders of the world

It just feels so delicious and there is no better emotional release, at times, than unabashed laughter.

Did You Have Your Daily Dose of Laughter?

Take notice, do you find yourself laughing often, or is this a rare occurrence? If laughter is uncommon, what may be standing in the way of your laughter, or the ability to find lightness in experiences?

We've talked before how tears are necessary and an amazing and important way of releasing pain, stress, or trauma. Laughter may be equally as important as a way of releasing distressing emotions. Our bodies may even crave laughter, even if we are not aware of it.

Laughter has been known to...

• Lower stress

• Release endorphins to improve mood

• Heighten immunity

• Increase tolerance to pain

• Help enhance and or mend relationships

• Improve relaxation and sleep

... be contagious.

Embracing the Silliness in Life

I feel blessed to have beings in my life that just make me laugh. I do believe that I have manifested this for myself since laughter is so important to me. If laughter is significant to us, it means that we may want to surround ourselves with people and experiences that allow us to laugh.

I do love to share deeply with those in my life and equally love to laugh with them. This for me creates balance. Just allowing ourselves to feel the joy, the silliness, the playfulness, and the levity in our experiences.

"Laughter helps us roll with the punches that inevitably come our way. The power of laughter is unleashed every time we laugh. In today's stressful world, we need to laugh much more."

~ Enda Junkins, LCSW, LMFT, BCD. Known as the Laughing Psychotherapist.

Seeking Out Our Inner Playful Self

If bouts of spontaneous laughter are few and far between, it might be helpful to be mindful of what we do find funny in everyday experiences. Or does life feel so serious that we have not found room for silliness, playfulness, or humor?

If we don't know how to organically tap into our inner playful self, there are ways that we could explore what may help us to laugh.

Finding Your Funny:

Only we can identify what we find funny. If we don't know what makes us laugh, we can take some time to connect and explore possible things that may help to bring out our laughter. If laughter never came naturally, we might need to do a little research to find our funny bone.



21 Life Mantras (By Tim Connor)


We all have our favorite sayings, verses, quotes or just simple and honest ideas that in many ways each day govern or direct our lives either directly or indirectly. Over the years I have developed what I call my "Life Mantras List" that are the primary and critical thoughts or concepts that I use to live, work and play each day and as this year (one I am grateful for - for many reasons) comes to an end I thought I would share just 21 of them that are the foundation as to how I try and live my life each day.

There is no order to the following as I have not included all of the items on my list but just some of the major ones that I thought might trigger some action, reflection or introspection on your part. Please accept that I am in no way suggesting that if you don't have a list, your items are not the same as mine or any other criteria - that mine is better than or more appropriate than yours. Just sharing. By the way, just to be clear some of these are not my original ones but things people over the years have taught me.

Since this will be my last article submission for this year - I offer you my very best wishes to you and your friends, family, customers or co-workers for a safe holiday season and a healthy and prosperous 2018.

Here's my list;

I am on God's schedule. This one doesn't need any further explanation.

I'm just getting warmed up. I don't ever plan to retire - why would I want to stop doing what I love - speaking around the world and writing in my spare time. I'm not famous, a celebrity or wealthy but I am having a blast and hopefully getting better every day.

If it happens I'll get excited if it doesn't I won't be disappointed. We can't control much in life. So, the best thing we can do in my opinion is do our best to do what we can and then let go of the outcomes.

It's not over till it's over. Too many people die emotionally before they do physically.

If you are one of these people why? Live while you still can. Yes, age and health issues can change lifestyle, but they don't have to eliminate it.

God is in control. Again - this one speaks for itself.

No excuses will ever be enough when you give up on your mission. Doing your best is no guarantee that you will win or achieve your goals or dreams. But not doing your best sure won't work in your favor.

This life is not about me but you. I was put here to serve not be the center of attention or the center of your world.

Life is short and fragile - you are here for a littler while and then gone forever. Having survived a few recent health challenges, I can tell you - live to the fullest while you can.

I will learn as much as I can every day and share everything I learn. Read, learn, grow and share every day, otherwise what's the point?

I was not put on the earth for your approval. Like me - don't like me - approve of me - don't approve of me - I have to be me. When I try to be who or what you want - I lose me - not going to happen folks, no matter how hard you try.

I refuse to grow up. I am forty years + younger than my age and with each passing year I intend to get younger and not older.

I will say thank you all day - every day. Again, this says it all. No matter what or who comes into my life and whatever their or its agenda I will just say thank you.

Every day is a gift. Not talking here about presents, money, health or anything. Just that far too many people are not given the gift of life today. We were - so cherish it and stop whining, complaining etc.

Failure is necessary to succeed. I have failed at more things and relationships than I have succeeded at during my life but each of them has taught me more about life and its value and purpose than any of the successes. So, bring them on.

This too shall prepare me. One of my favorite people gave me this line. It's not this too shall pass (common phrase) but - well, read it again.

You are never too old or too young to dream. So, stop acting your age and go for it.

Quitting is stupid. Do I need to explain this one? If I do well, no disrespect intended but you need to go back to kindergarten.

Don't wait for God to start you - keep going till He stops you. I love this one.

You never fail till you stop trying. Bought this sign years ago when I was taking my kids horseback riding. It was in the gift shop. It's been on my wall for many, many years since that day.

It's all trivia. You are born. One day you will die. Everything in between is trivia.

My age is just a number. "My age is none of my business." Mark Twain.

Da, That's it folks...



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The Gift Giver



The truck and trailer were both loaded to the brim. The man stared in amazement at the many things he no longer had any use for. His family was grown, he was on his own; he had decided to redecorate and begin anew. Opting not to sell the items, he drove to the thrift store down the street. The workers were ecstatic at the quality of the things he brought in. They happily unloaded it; he declined a receipt and joked with them, telling them he had all these things he couldn't use; he really only needed a square coffee table to finish his house. The following day he went to check on a job site and helped the homeowner with a load she was taking out. It was a square Tommy Bahama coffee table and a rocker. 'If you know anyone who needs these things tell them to come by.' He left with both. The giver had become the receiver!

This happens far more frequently than you might imagine. It is called being in the flow of life, where things that are wanted or needed flow back to us just after we give something to another that they need. It is universal law demonstrating the process of paying it forward. There is a standing joke that as soon as you clean out your closet and give things away someone nearly beats you back home to give you something you can use. Seemingly there is a master sorter directing the goods and services.

The only real rule is to give something without expectation of return to someone who needs it and watch the very things you need return to you; it is the boomerang in the cheerful giver game of life. If you are ever feeling particularly frustrated about something you need and can't see the way to getting it, find a real need and fill it with a gift. This act opens the door for your good to flow back to you. The things you are looking for will return to you as a gift.

If your money supply is running low and you can't see the way to pay something, buy a meal for a homeless person or gift something that matters. Do it quick before your own supply is emptied! Alter your course and change your fate by opening the door and stepping into the flow of life. Fill a need and yours will be filled from another source, one you may never see. Soon your cup will be running over!


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Can Money Really Buy Happiness?

It can—depending on how you spend it and whom you spend it on. Here are 5 ways to get the most delight from your dollars.

Person Holding 100 Us Dollar Banknotes

Do you think that if you won the lottery, you would be happy? Think again. Over the past 10 years, strong research from the field of positive psychology has shown that, universally, money adds to our happiness only up to a point. That point depends on where you live and how many dependents you have, but most studies say it’s about $75,000 per household in the United States. After that, making more money doesn’t really contribute to our overall mood and life satisfaction.
In fact, some studies have shown that wealth can even impede our ability to savor life’s joys. In one experiment headed by Elizabeth Dunn, Ph.D., co-author with Michael Norton of Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending, hikers with more money who came across an unexpected waterfall on their path were less likely to jump in or even to stop for a moment to enjoy the beauty than hikers with lower incomes. “If you have a lot of money, you feel like you can get whatever you want, so you don’t need to savor every little morsel of pleasure that comes your way,” Dunn says.
These results don’t mean you should turn down a raise. But you can change how you think about money and how you can get the most out of what you earn, Dunn and Norton say. Because it’s not how much you have but what you do with it that counts. A slew of recent research, theirs included, shows us how to reap the most delight from our dollars.
1. Rethink your bonus.
In one study, Dunn and Norton approached people on the street and gave them either $5 or $20. Half of those lucky passers-by were instructed to spend the money on themselves by 5 p.m. The other half were asked to spend it on others. A follow-up evening call found that the group who bought things for themselves did not report any change in their mood from before they received the cash. Those who spent the money on others (many bought coffee for strangers; some gave to the homeless; some purchased small gifts for nieces and nephews) experienced much happier moods, however. Interestingly, the amount of money had no bearing on their happiness.
“We all think that having money and buying things for ourselves will make us happy,” says Norton, a professor of business administration at Harvard Business School, “but we make notoriously bad predictions about what will make us happy. Retail therapy can make us feel good temporarily, but spending on others makes a big difference in our overall, long-term happiness.”
2. Keep giving.
Norton’s studies show that we’re happiest spending money on others when we can see the impact the gift has on someone: when your friend often wears the earrings you bought her, for example, or when your financial help allows someone in need to have her teeth repaired or get his car fixed. And while donating anonymously to an organization in another country may not give you the same mood boost, it will still bump up your life satisfaction more than if you held onto the money, Norton says.
3. Splurge on vacations.
While giving is great, you don’t have to become a monk to be happy. You can and should spend on yourself, too, beyond your basic needs. But while the stuff we typically buy for ourselves—new house, car, clothes, TV, gadgets—will give us a temporary thrill, it won’t contribute to our sense of life satisfaction.
What does? Spending on experiences. Thomas Gilovich, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Cornell University, has found—in several studies—that “when it comes to spending our disposable income, experiential purchases tend to make people happier than material purchases.” It makes rational sense: After all, when we’re 85, will we remember the family trip to Patagonia or the new fleece jacket we bought in preparation for it? Spending on experiences broadens our horizons, strengthens our connections and creates lasting memories.
But Gilovich’s research found a slightly less sentimental reason for the difference: When we buy material goods, we tend to compare our purchases unfavorably with all the other purchases we could have made and those that others have made. You select a new smartphone, for example, but soon regret not getting one with more memory. Or you save up for a new couch only to visit a friend’s home and feel that her sofa is more comfortable. We tend not to compare and regret as much when it comes to experiences, Gilovich says.
Finally, the psychological concept of hedonic adaptation—in which we quickly get used to new things and then want more—assures us that the enjoyment of a new car will fade even faster than that new-car smell. The concept of “rosy recollection,” however, in which we remember experiences as better than they were, means that the family vacay (you know, the one where your wallet was stolen, the kids were crazy and you all got sick) will seem better and better over the years.
Bottom line: Forgo the new living room furniture in favor of a baseball game with your daughter, a weekend trip with your spouse or a day at the amusement park with your friends.
4. Buy time.
When you make any purchase, think about the time tradeoff it entails, Norton says. If you’re tempted by a much larger house that is far from your work, for example, consider the effect of the commute. The hours you lose with your loved ones over time will have a bigger impact on your happiness than will the finished basement or the extra bedroom, he says. Conversely if the housing costs are higher near where you work, shop or go to school, the extra expense will likely be worth it in the long run, as long as you can afford it.
“People tell me all the time that they can’t afford a cleaning person, but then they spend a thousand or more dollars a year on coffee drinks,” Norton says. “The time you save on cleaning can be spent with friends and family, which makes it money better spent.”
5. Invest with impact.
The way you spend your money is a reflection of your core values, says G. Benjamin Bingham, author of Making Money Matter: Impact Investing to Change the World. If environmental and humanitarian responsibility are important to you, put your money where your mouth is. “Buying organic and fair-trade is more expensive, for example, but it may save you money in health care costs later on. And it will help create a more sustainable future for your grandchildren,” he says. Put your investment money into funds with companies you respect. (The Global Impact Investing Network, TheGIIn.org, can get you started.) “Invest in a future that you would love,” Bingham says.