How To React To A Verbal Attack

Everything in your life will change to become positive when you can take every word of apparent criticism as an objective statement of fact without emotion and not feel hurt or attacked.

When you do this, you will not get emotionally distraught. Rather, you will take any comment about your personality and character in the same way as if someone said you are tall, or short, or thin, or you have no hair, or a big nose. Those are statements of fact even though they are that persons relative opinion.

When you make the comments personal, you become emotional and go into a self-destructive imaginary world. Likewise, if you have a lower IQ, no education or limited skills, to have that pointed out is the same as pointing out your height or something about your body.

When you can take everything that objectively, you will never feel hurt again because objective means it is either true or it's not.

If you have a PhD and someone says you are uneducated, you cannot be insulted because you take it as an objective statement which is totally false. So there is no emotional value.

By the same principle, if you are uneducated and lived your life in a little remote village, and someone says you are uneducated and know nothing about the world, that is also true, it's simply a statement of fact and has nothing to do with your worthiness as a person.

When it does become personal, is when someone says they do not like you because you are uneducated or unskilled. Now it is an attack against you personally, and frankly if someone dislikes you for how tall or short you are, or how well you are educated, then they are not really worth being your friend anyway.

Even when it is an attack against your personality or you personally, rather than something physical and objective, you can still remain balanced and not get emotionally distraught because the statement becomes irrelevant due to the person making the statement being a shallow idiot who is unworthy of respect.

When you react emotionally to someone, that means you respect them. So if you respect them, then take what they say objectively and do something about it instead of just crying and wallowing in self-pity.

Take full responsibility for everything, including your emotions. If it's true, then do something about it. If it's not true, then just ignore the arrogant idiot who does not know the truth and thinks he does.

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This Is Why You Should Not Let Fear Hold You Back And Inhibit Your Greatness (By Tony Fahkry)

"How shall I rid myself of fear?"

"How can you rid yourself of what you cling to?"

"You mean I actually cling to my fears? I disagree."

"Consider what your fears protect you from and you will see your folly."

Anthony de Mello reminds us that our attachments to fear keeps us safe.

Reflect on it for a moment. You may hesitate to reveal your greatness because of the fear you will be found out to be an imposter.

Perhaps people won't like you.

Your life will change and you may lose friends, distance loved ones and have to take on a new persona to deal with your newfound success.

What you are really afraid of, is fear not greatness.

Welcome to a world where our fears are real. However, the greatest madness is to accept your thoughts as truth.

How can they be?

How can an organ weighing 1,400 grams know the truth when it cannot distinguish between a lie told by another person?

I want to share with you a story highlighting how truth can be distorted.

Several years ago, I worked with a sports psychologist in a mentoring role. We were discussing my childhood fear of water.

I was seven years old at the time and learning to swim with classmates. One particular day, we were instructed to jump into the deep end of the pool where we would be caught by a trained swim instructor.

However, my fear of swimming in the deep end overpowered me and I formed a belief I wasn't good enough given my inability to jump into water like the other children. The limiting belief (fear) stayed with me throughout adulthood because I believed it to be true.

One day during a mentoring session, the sports psychologist posed a question that challenged my belief and helped to uncover the truth.

"Tony, what would your seven-year-old self know about not being good enough?"

And there it was.

I had formed a distorted belief of my unworthiness at an impressionable age and kept it alive throughout adulthood because I believed my thoughts.

Don't let fear hold you back from stepping into your greatest because fear is nothing more than an illusion to keep you safe. Though being safe stifles your personal growth and limits your potential.

"Fundamentals can be taught, but greatness must be caught," writes Larry Weidel in Serial Winner: 5 Actions to Create Your Cycle of Success.

Fear is an imposter, a charlatan and a conniving intruder stealing your glory and inhibiting your freedom.

Don't buy into the storyline it promotes but rather use it to step into your own power and claim your truth about your worth.

So, every time fear makes itself known, move into it. Run towards it since it is not a Sumo wrestler trying to take you down.

It is nothing more than a cloud of white smoke not intended to unsettle you, nor overcome you.

Fear is a trickster and a stealer of greatness. It conceals your authentic self because you concede to the narrative it preaches.

Why not subscribe to this story instead: You are a talented, gifted and unique soul whose time is yet to come.

Impress that upon your mind and feed it the right images until it becomes your reality.

"Feel the fear and do it anyway," avows Susan Jeffers, and you will have silenced your demons.

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