How The Mind/Body Connection Works To Prevent Stress

Are you stressfully caught up in the world or wisely above it all? Stress indicates a lack of understanding of how your mind works. It indicates an incorrect relationship with whatever you're thinking, feeling, sensing or doing. -- All the faculties of your unique personality. The problem is that everyone else in the world is just as unique as you, and sometimes your uniqueness clashes or conflicts with theirs! What to do?

Well you could simply kill anyone who disagrees with you -- but we've learned from Forensic Files that it's not that simple. Short of murder, there are many ways to resolve conflict but most are short lived because they deal with the stress symptom rather than the cause. Medicine and psychiatry are of little help. If a pill or surgery doesn't fix it -- they are lost. You're going to have to do it yourself -- and it's an inside job.

Here's the knowledge and method: The first and last thing to understand about stress is that it's caused by your taking life personally! You're erroneously experiencing life from a personally-biased perspective instead of a neutral one. Your uniqueness can make you a very interesting personality -- but you are more than just a personality. That's just the "body" part of you.

You also have a "mind" part. The mind part is your aware or "spiritual" part. The part that's aware and in control of what your personality is thinking, feeling, sensing and doing while it's doing them. --Two separate and distinct entities working together as one. And here's the key: To the degree those two entities are kept separate from each other, stress is not possible!

Here's how the relationship works when it's working correctly: Your body self is personal; your aware self is impersonal. Your aware self relates to your personal self as if the personal self were totally separate from the world. Your aware self is as if totally oblivious to the fact that you're in the world at all.

Your aware self treats mental, emotional, sensual and physical activity as if they were totally autonomous. It treats them solely in and of themselves - without any external or further context at all. Thoughts are just thoughts. Feelings are just feelings. Sensations, just sensations. Movement, just movement.

There are no whys or wherefores. No reasoning, evaluation, opinion or commentary at all. No "personal" considerations whatsoever. The awareness knows things simply and exactly as they are! Period. The method and mindset, then, is to simply keep a mirror-like distance from all you see, hear, think, feel and do -- all the time, to the best of your ability. It's amazing!

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Mind Tyranny: What Is Truth? (By Dr. Tom Rhudy)

Do you find yourself wondering, "What, if anything, do I really know?" If yes, then you and I will be able to take this journey together. If no, then you are likely deceiving yourself into thinking that you have answers to questions about which you have given little reflection.

In the account often referred to as Jesting Pilate, we find the following exchange: "Jesus answered, 'For... I have come into the world... to bear witness to the truth... ' Pilate said to him, 'What is truth?'" (Quid est veritas?)

Ted Williams said, "If you don't think too good, don't think too much." Most of us, unfortunately, "don't think too good." (sic.) We assume that our thinking is predicated on our cognitive processes. However, very frequently, our thoughts are not our own.

Propaganda is information, especially of either a biased or misleading nature, used to promote or publicize a particular cause or point of view. Are we being educated or propagandized? Albert Einstein defined education as "what remains after one has forgotten everything one has learned in school."

It is very important that we have some knowledge of the motivation behind the "professor" of information/knowledge that is conveyed. Are they attempting to inform, convince or persuade? Perhaps, they are intentionally attempting to deceive.

Some individuals appear to have no interest in what they are saying. However, it may be imprudent to conclude that they are not lying. As Blaise Pascal said, "Some people lie for the mere sake of lying."

If you are like me, you are finding it increasingly difficult to find reporting that is not tinged with bias. Years ago, while serving on the Graduate-faculty of a university, I was assigned to the Research Department. Although never fully successful, researchers learn to seek equipoise (i.e., neutrality in the results derived from the research conducted).

This is often very difficult to attain if there are strong vested interests in the outcome. I vividly recall one research project that I initiated, at which time, another faculty member stated, "It's been nice knowing you, Tom."

When I first decided to discuss this topic, I thought that we might be able to address the issue relatively easily. However, there is much more that we must discuss to do the topic justice.

Have you ever wondered whether truth is viewed the same, irrespective of where on the planet it is being discussed? Research has revealed that Westerners place more emphasis on individual rights. Easterners appear to place more emphasis on social responsibility.

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When You Heal Yourself First, The Rest Will Fall Into Place

Nothing Is An Accident But Results From Our Thinking

How would you describe your relationship with yourself? Is it a kind, compassionate and nurturing one or does it encompass a critical voice? It is important we understand the way we treat ourselves because it impacts how we relate to others. I realise many people have been hurt, whether it be through childhood wounds or intimate relationships. We have all experienced pain and suffering at some point. However, this shouldn't mean we carry our emotional wounds around and unload them on others. Whilst we may not have consented to the experience that caused us pain, it is incumbent on us to heal the wounds and find our way back to wholeness.

Life is not fair at the best of times, yet if we buy into this narrative, we are bound to lose hope. It is better we see life as a process where good things happen and sometimes unfortunate things happen. I'm not convinced life is out to get us. However, in my early 20s I was certain it was, since unpleasant experiences seemed like I was being punished. It wasn't until my early 30s I realised it was my thoughts that regulated how I interacted with life. That is to say, the wisdom of the years has taught me that life is impartial and my thinking determines my outlook. I am the tuning fork and life echoes back the experience of my thoughts. Ever since then, I have become attentive to my surroundings and inner world. For example, if I'm ruminating on something negative, I will see evidence of this in my waking life, such as repeated TV commercials about what I am focusing on. I am attentive to it and snap out of it quickly. Have you noticed this in your life? Do you observe your surroundings and pay attention to your inner world such as your dreams?

The point I wish to make is that healing is an inside out job. It begins by nurturing our thoughts with what we want to show up in our life. What we believe at a deeper level becomes our destiny, whether we like it or not. We are not victims given the deeper meaning behind every experience that teaches us valuable lessons. I see life as one giant mirror and we are the architects and creators of our reality. What we call a deleterious experience is the universe shining a light on our thoughts. I know this may sound insensitive but the universe doesn't care what we think about. The universe is aligned with fundamental laws and when we abide by them, the circumstances of our life flow like a stream. We create every experience through our thoughts. Therefore, if we wish to heal the past, we ought to concede that nothing is an accident but results from our thinking. Is this an idea you are willing to embrace? Irrespective of your life's experience up till now, are you willing to give life a chance?

Heal The Distorted Beliefs And Replace Them With The Truth

When you make it a priority to heal yourself first, everything falls into place. When we perceive life differently, outside circumstances begin to reflect our thoughts. Granted, it may take a while but what is the rush? I often hear people talk about healing to the extent it is now embellished on social media with inspirational quotes. But no one tells us what it requires because no two paths to healing are the same. Some people spend their entire life healing and are still wounded. Healing requires understanding we are already whole as spiritual beings, yet throughout life we take on beliefs that distort this sense of wholeness. Healing is seeing past the illusion we are broken or need to be fixed. Whilst healing is important, integrating our wounds into the wholeness of our true nature is vital. We were never broken to begin with but lose our way throughout our earthly existence.

Healing requires putting the pieces of our life back together and stripping away what is not essential. It requires letting go of negativity by way of: fear, anger, anxiety and other disempowering states. These states find their way into our psyche and just like a computer virus, cause destruction until it takes over. Our job is to heal these distorted beliefs and replace them with the truth. We are none of these things and that is why healing is a return to love; the place we originated from and where we will eventually return. This is the essence of the message espoused by the spiritual teacher and author Matt Khan who writes in Everything Is Here to Help You: A Loving Guide to Your Soul's Evolution: "When rooted in the vibration of love, we don't have to be completely healed in order to bring forth the kindness and care that already dwells within us. Love inspires us to console the innocence within our heart that wishes it felt something other than how things are." With this is mind, your task over the coming days is to write down a list of what you believe is standing in your way of living a remarkable life. On a separate page, write down whether you know for certain this is true? How can you reframe these beliefs? What needs to change to create empowering beliefs and are you prepared to do the work? Once we heal ourselves, life begins to mirror our inner world because we have attended to the root cause of our pain.

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Vegan - May Your Spirit Never Be Tamed!

I am aware that people have different capacity levels for empathy. Some feel deeply about their own family, but struggle with feeling anything for others. Some feel deeply for animals and children, but not so much for adult humans. Some of us shelve things happening in the world just to get by in our own struggling world. I understand that people process information differently, with some needing a barrage of details and facts and others being more intuitive thinkers. Yet, with all of this observation I am still confounded by the blindness and self- centeredness of the human race.

How does the human race not see its self-induced injustices? I am human, I see. As a so called "most evolved" species, how do we not see the injustice of creating enemies with our "us versus them" labeling, of enslaving and killing over 56 million land animals a day, and of thinking that we have a right to dominate? This unconscionable naiveté is beyond my comprehension, and so I too compartmentalize it away to function without being overwhelmed by the farce of my existence. Beyond being vegan, beyond non- violent communication, beyond self-exploration, "how can I use my energy to create a world of peace for all beings?"

We think we have a lot of choices, but in fact our enculturation limits us. We have the illusion of being free, but we are all caught in a smoke screen. A screen or filter that is imposed as babes and perpetuated in the country we live in, and the people with whom we align. This is not freedom this is an enslaved way of thinking which preserves the status quo. When we break away from this entrenched thinking we are met with enormous resistance politically, economically, and emotionally. Is it enough that I question social beliefs, practice veganism and non violent communication, and am open to other ways of being?

Finding our own truth is not easy. Martin Luther King Jr., once said:

"And there comes a time one must take a position that is neither safe, nor political, nor popular-but one must take it simple because it is right."

Veganism is my truth because it is about creating a Utopia where all peoples, and all animals, can live in peace on a well planet. Consequently, if I want to have an impact on the way others see peace I must be the change I want to see. To optimize my performance in this quest I want to be my best physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

To keep alive the peace within I use this guide as a foundation to optimizing my well-being.

In My Body,

I will treat my body to nutritious foods.

I will avoid highly processed vegan foods loaded with sugar, salt, and fat.

I will learn from vegan nutrition experts (PurePlant Nation, the Buddhist Chef) what fuels my body best.

I will stock my home with essential vegan stables like plant milk, spices, cooked beans, frozen vegetables, sauces, seeds, nuts, grains, a blender, and a steamer.

I will get at least six hours of sleep each evening.

I will drink at least 64 ounces of water a day.

I will exercise regularly to build strength, stamina and flexibility.

In My Thinking,

I will focus on the task at hand, and shut out distractions.

I will sharpen the saw through continual learning.

I will practice win win in all my communications.

I will respect the choices of others.

I will challenge my own assumptions, triggers, and behaviors.

I will practice patience daily by being present and observing.

I will learn to communicate in a non violent manner (Marshall Rosenberg).

I will practice open minded heartful thinking.

I will be a good listener.

I will be a collaborator.

In My Spirit Self,

I will honor myself by staying focused on optimizing my energy.

I will spend time in nature, or visualize a natural setting that infuses me with oneness.

I will be persistent in valuing peace by optimizing my energy physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

I will be courageous by listening to my heart, hearing the cries of those without a voice, and by surrounding myself with people and places of positive energy.

The historical tipping point that changes these basic inequities I may never see. I do find solace and inspiration in spiritual leaders like the Dalai Lama, Eckhart Tolle, Ram Dass, and many others. I am not alone and either are you. We can help shape the world by being our best and by enlarging our community. This is my quest and this is my bliss.

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Don't Punish Yourself When You Make Mistakes. Notice What You've Chosen And Simply Choose Again

Sometimes I Wish I Knew Better

Think about a recent mistake and consider how things could have turned out differently for you. Whilst hindsight is a wonderful faculty, it can often make us feel guilt and remorseful for our actions. I want to reassure you that every choice we make is made with the awareness and level of consciousness available to us at the time. However, this does not excuse us from repeating the same mistakes. We are the product of our thinking and until we expand our consciousness, we are bound to repeat our mistakes. That's where hindsight works to our advantage. With a new level of awareness, we can look forward to the future knowing we are not constrained by our mistakes but learn to make better decisions based on the past.

Many people make mistakes they regret. How about you? Are you still holding on to regret from the past or have you made peace with them? I realise it is difficult to let go of the past. But, we can take comfort knowing we did our best at the time and hopefully we won't repeat the same mistakes. This is why we mustn't punish ourselves but notice what we've chosen and simply choose again; this time more wisely. This is the advice echoed by Dr. Alex Lickerman who writes in The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self: "But we needn't waste time in recriminations or in wishing we could go back in time to change what happened. We can turn that hurt or regret into a catalyst for personal growth, into motivation for examining the reasons we made the choice in the first place and for asking ourselves how we might change to avoid making the same mistake again." I've made countless mistakes in my 20s about my health and career choices. Sometimes I wish I knew better, however I didn't have the awareness as I do now and was choosing to the best of my ability. In a recent conversation with a coaching client, she complimented me on my wisdom to help her overcome her challenges. As I considered the compliment, it reminded me of the countless mistakes I made over the years. In fact, gaining wisdom has little to do with the books I read, the courses attended or the people I surround myself with. Whilst they are important, it was the numerous mistakes I made, and the lessons gained that cultivated good judgement.

It Is About Finding Clarity

Can you reflect on earlier mistakes that contributed to your personal growth? Sometimes we experience growth while other times we are destined to repeat the same mistakes until we receive a wake-up call. Nothing teaches us valuable lessons other than life's experience. No matter how often you feel obligated to help a loved one through a crisis, ultimately they must learn the lessons on their own. My experience as a coach and speaker shows that people are not ready to receive advice unless they ask or pay for it. I mention this because we ought to refrain from giving advice on how others should live their life or overcome their problems. In fact, the best thing we can do is listen to their problems with an open mind and help them gain clarity on the situation. If you've ever worked with a coach or mentor, you will notice they ask many questions and seldom give advice. Rather, they help you gain clarity on your issues and lead you towards self-enquiry, so you are better equipped to find the answers yourself.

Considering this, think back to an earlier time when you faced a difficult challenge and consulted other people. Perhaps you received conflicting advice at the time? In those instances, did you find your own solution or rely on the advice given? Similarly, if you followed the advice, did it work out in your favour? If you arrived at the solution yourself, were you more empowered as a result? It is my experience, the answers to our most pressing problems are always contained within us, yet we don't have enough clarity to recognise it or put it into action. We get stuck on life being a certain way and if it doesn't eventuate as we expect, we get angry and disillusioned. What we ought to do is keep searching for answers and work with our intuition to make sense of the situation. It is a matter of consulting the guidance we receive and interpreting it through logic. In light of this, return to the recent mistake I asked you about at the beginning of the article. Contemplate the following questions: What do I need to learn about this situation? What is this experience calling me to understand about myself or life? Where is the growth contained within this experience? Assuredly, when we pose empowering questions, we align ourselves with the right solutions instead of feeling disempowered. Punishing yourself when you make mistakes does not serve you other than to reinforce a despairing mindset. We must notice what we've chosen then ask empowering questions, so we are destined not to repeat those mistakes.

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Abraham Hicks ~ If You're Thinking These Thoughts, You're on The RIGHT PATH!

Cleaning And Thinking (The Best Action Article You Will Ever Read) (By Joshua Clayton)

When things get stagnant, there is a reorganization needed. With that said, I begin this article. When your thinking, acting and doing reach an impasse, something needs to happen. That something is growth. Are you surprised or shocked at my basic answer? Sometimes growth is the most painful action we can take, conscious or unconscious, but it is needed, always needed if we want to better ourselves or get to a better place. I mean, face it, when we "make it" and are "too content", that is when growth really needs and wants to happen (in that order).

Sure, the above paragraph was rather bluntly real from beginning to end. Sometimes, though, a "big time kick in the pants is needed" for us all to get going and take necessary actions, metaphysical or physical.

Growth! Sure, sometimes "out with the old and in with the new" has love or hate connotations with us in life, but rest assured, in reality growth and change are laws in life, not options right down to multi millennial old growing redwood trees burning down and new forests growing in their place or stagnant societies getting replaced with something that needs (and sometimes wants) to happen.

Lethargy, stagnation, spoiled realities, "comfortable apathy" and sickening decadence, those only happen when growth is genuinely stopped. After all, when you stop thinking and let "others take over", what do you think or ponder that I am talking about. "Once retirement happens, death of some sort is around the corner" is said by so many people who understand while those who do not understand genuinely say those horrible words, "I want to retire and go on to something easier."

So, I end with an example of this of my own: When I was in Junior High School/Middle School in the seventh and eighth grades, I took a basic math class, because I had already taken Statistics, Advanced Calculus, Calculus, Algebra II, Algebra, Geometry and Advanced Fractions (in reverse order from beginning to end, Advanced Fractions all the way up to Advanced Statistical Analysis Math) in the fifth grade and passed with flying colors and "A plus" grades at the private school I was going to before I went to middle school. Near the end of the year, I realized the meaning of "I want to retire from a challenge and go on to something easier" in the worst way. Nothing is worse than a mind that is not growing and does not work to grow productively, nothing is worse than, in a word: Stagnation. Worse than that word is these two words: Decadent stagnation. When things get stagnant, there is a reorganization needed, and decadent comfort and sickening stability or lethargy do not help. Are you ready to go down or grow up now?

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DON'T STOP PURSUING | Les Brown

Louise Hay - EVERYTHING You Wrote Will Come True | This is so Powerful

Psychological And Psychiatric Effects On Human Lives

All individuals experience psychological and psychiatric impacts equivocally and vicariously in their daily lives. What matters is to understand the factors which affect in a pronounced or in an insignificant way. Prior to prodding over the minor or major intricacies of these impacts, we must understand the basic concept and its context.

Kevan Lee explains in his article, "Six powerful psychological effects that explain how our brain ticks." Although his analysis specifically narrowed down to commercial activity, yet it reflects the thinking pattern within an individual. The synopsis of his article highlights that you are more likely to achieve if you remained normal. The extreme approach either cautious or naïve will affect differently in comparison to being normal. A question arises; Is this effect volunteer or spontaneous? We must examine the steps we intend taking to improve ourselves so that it eventually develops your mind.

At the first instance, we should be in good condition both physically and mentally to start thinking in a healthy way. It is an established fact that body and mind work coherently provided they are in a better physical condition. Well-being of an individual within a family is important because it affects the entire family. It then leads an individual or a group to arrive at a sound decision which will benefit productively. The important factor is the motivation which enhances overall performance both materialistically and spiritually.

The synopsis of above factors conclusively established volunteer psychological factors. It can be modified or altered to suit the beginning and end of aims and objectives. Now, it is intriguing to consider the spontaneous or spur of the moment effect. Here, we are concerned by the emotional impact it leaves on an individual. These impacts are directly proportional to implicit and explicit attitude. In comparison, the former is heavily inclined towards negativity.

It becomes interesting to evaluate; how does psychiatry affect attitude? Psychiatry is the medical specialty devoted to the diagnosis, prevention, study, and treatment of disorders. These include various abnormalities related to mood, behavior, cognition, and perceptions.(Ref Wikipedia) I am primarily writing the peripheral impact in a broader sense rather than doing medicinal analysis. The impacts can be serious if the disorder is neglected and ignored for longer time. However, in the initial stages, it can be controlled with treatment and support from psychological tests too.

In 705 CE, the first psychiatric hospital in the world was built in Iraq by Al-Razi (one of the greatest Islamic physicians). In his opinion, mental disorders were considered medical conditions, and were treated by using psychotherapy and drug administration. It is now clear that the human mind, and its illness are the result of cognitive disorder. Its effect can be peripheral or severe depending on the impact it sustained due to many reasons. The crux of the matter is the impact which is psychiatric, and it is should be treated accordingly.

Analyzing variations and deviations within the concept of psychology and psychiatry, it reflects human behavior. It is heavily adopted emotional decisions, thereby, affecting health, wealth and motivation. Here, home environments, social involvements and the will-power inculcate positive behavior leading to dramatic results. It will be a remarkable feat of an individual, and it is the hallmark of a compact decision of psychology and psychiatry.

Self-development and Mind Development Therapist.

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Frozen: Keep It In or Let It Go?

I watched the movie Frozen again recently.

It's a vivid, delightful, and tender demonstration of the limits (and dangers) of either-or thinking and the beauty and power of switching to a mindset of both-and.

The benefits of both-and thinking are most evident when problems are complex and stakeholders seek long-term, sustainable solutions. It's the kind of thinking we need in our world and that, from this blogger's perspective at least, is sadly lacking. Yet it also applies in other contexts.

In Power and Love: A Theory and Practice of Social Change, Adam Kahane writing about the "both-and" of power and love, quotes Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.:

... power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic...

What struck me about Frozen, besides of course the gorgeous music and animation, is how the movie highlights the false choice between power and love and what can happen when we choose both.

Elsa, the Snow Queen, struggles in the early part of the movie with "keeping it in." Because her power is dangerous to those she loves, she's afraid of it and holds it back. Thinking she is choosing love, she represses her enormous power, and eventually disconnects completely from herself and from those she most loves.

In the powerful show-stopper, "Let It Go," she finally breaks out and frees her life force to do what it will, without fetters of any kind. She's done with concealing, with not feeling, and with holding back. She stops caring what people will say, stands firm and lets fly without limits. But in the process she builds a tower of isolation and eventually harms the one person in her life she loves the most.

By the end of the movie, through an equally enormous act of love, Elsa understands it doesn't have to be "either" keep it in "or" let it go. She finds the path that leads to both-and, where she can channel her vast power, her life energy, her ki, constructively, powerfully, and lovingly.

Aikido, the martial art I practice and love for its physical and metaphorical grounding, demonstrates this combination of power and love in what's become known and "The Unbendable Arm." Physically, the Unbendable Arm is effortless and strong at the same time. As a metaphor for life, it shows us that when our life energy (our ki) is directed toward purpose, we can effortlessly accomplish great things, flow through difficult conversations, and influence our environment and our lives consciously.

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Trending Confidence And Unstoppable Determination (By Jan Verhoeff)

Several weeks back, a conference left me wishing I was at home alone, without anyone looking at me. I wasn't feeling super well, in fact, I might have actually been on the start of a really nasty illness, but I hadn't realized I was sick yet. I just didn't feel well.

The ultimate push to leave the conference came after I'd sat through the afternoon presentation, and in the process of dressing for dinner, I realized I'd brought everything but the DRESS that went with my outfit. Without it, black slacks just weren't going to cut it, I needed the DRESS. Frustrated, almost angry, and feeling defeated, I left the conference without attending the final evening. I'd just had too much. I was done.

I slipped out after everyone else had gone to the dining room for dinner.

Later, with my phone dinging from text messages asking where I was, I made a quick stop to grab a sandwich at a drive through, and looked through the texts. One in particular stood out...

"Hey, I just checked at the desk when I couldn't find you and they said you checked out. Are you okay? I was hoping we could have a drink tonight after the final presentation!"

I was already at the southern edge of town, headed home, and not willing to drive back. I responded with a quick. "I'll be okay. I just needed some space. I'll call tomorrow." And through tears, I paid for my sandwich and drove home. I don't think I ever bothered to eat the sandwich. I was feeling too far down at the time... I needed, really needed, to hear the words from a friend "I was hoping we could have a drink tonight after the presentation."

You see...

Throughout the entire event, I'd felt invisible. I'd been feeling as if I didn't really matter to anyone there. I really had felt as if my presence there was detrimental to the purpose of the event. And because I didn't FEEL good, I'd allowed these negative feelings to drive me away from the final event, which most likely would have shifted my thinking. Why? Because my friend had noticed me, and was planning to ask me to join him for a drink.

We'd talked earlier, but only in groups. And being a bit shy, I had stood in the background, allowing others to "make the impressions" and I wasn't sharing my valuable message with anyone. I was holding back.

Two hours later, at home, I keyed in the video that had been loaded from the final portion of the event and watched as the speaker told "my story" from his perspective. He didn't know he was telling my story. He thought he was telling his own story.

He thought he was sharing the story of a man who didn't feel worthy of sharing his message, because others were sharing the message too. The words he spoke were like prods to my heart, shocking me into the reality that we're all just traveling through this world with our own problems, dealing with our own realities, and none of us has perfected the process. But we don't have to accept that lonely, over the edge feeling of defeat that pushes us into a corner, when we don't feel acknowledged, recognized, or visible.

Imagine for a moment if you looked around the room, behind the smiles that are visible and saw the soul of others as they truly are... Would they be the confident person you see, in the perfectly selected outfit, pressed and pristine, smiling with unstoppable determination? Or would they be a broken, hurting soul, who accidentally left the perfect dress at home in the closet and packed EVERY OTHER SINGLE ITEM for her outfit, and chose a different one for the night?

During the following week, my "not feeling good" required a Dr. visit, and the realization that I'd missed out on a night of fun with a friend that would have meant the world to me. But more... That next week gave me insight into a reality that shook me to the core.

I'm more than the perfect outfit. I'm anything but invisible. My life has meaning. I'm a valuable person, with a message that nobody else has been given, and I'm intended to share that message. Whether there's a crowded room of listeners, or a table for two with a semi-polite stranger on the other side, I have a purpose. I can be confident that my message has meaning. And if I don't share my message with others, it might never be heard.

If you're allowing your message to be stifled because you think you're somehow unworthy, invisible, or not the perfect messenger... STOP. Rethink this process, and rethink who you are. YOU have a purpose. You have a message. And YOU are the only one given the message you have, who can deliver your message to the people who will listen to you. There's someone out there, at least one person who NEEDS to hear the message you're given. They need YOU.

Fight for it. Overcome STUFF that might take you out of the running. Grab onto some of that trending confidence, unstoppable determination, and overcome stuff that would prevent you from delivering your message to the one person who needs to hear it from you!

Do what you've been sent here to do - share your message, with confidence.

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Within A Thinking Person, The Life Of Fear Is Limited

The fundamental thing in life is the courage to live life. With that simple sentence, I begin this article. There are many things we all need to overcome before we do "make it where we want to go", and even then: There is work and usually lots of it to do after that. I remember when my Dad was dying in 1990. He basically said that it was not the end for his consciousness and that there was more to do for him elsewhere and somehow. To be honest, I wanted so bad to think he was "delusional" or "crazy" somehow. But, being that there is not any end to change, and never any end to the need for courage over fear. I am convinced that he was and is right in so many ways, and courage that is consistent is a process, a consistent process, not an end to be "achieved permanently" without anything else to do to achieve it.

To prove my point about fear implied in the title of this article, let me go into the nature of panic: When one panics, thought is literally stopped, and fear literally takes over. Where there is courage, and genuine courage, not overconfidence I might add, there is not any panic. What I mean by overconfidence is misunderstanding, what confidence is in the most positive sense is certainty and understanding in the most pure, real, honest and genuine sense.

The mental and spiritual attitude is the valve and lever to reality, and the mental and spiritual attitude can be used to control or lose control of reality. Fear is an attitude as well as courage. Reality misunderstood and feared is a form of panic, and the absence of thought is a form of misunderstanding. With that, I would like to reiterate a formula I give in many other articles:

Patience, understanding and tolerance is the key to a life without panic or fear. Oh, it sounds easy, and it is simple. But like so many worthwhile things, it takes work, it take honesty, and it takes a working conscience, and ultimately it takes a cool, actively thinking mind that takes rational action whatever the circumstances.

Sure, I can talk about rational thinking and action, but, even for me, I have to "play by ear" and force it to happen within and outside of myself and I do flinch, but I ultimately realize that life is only as good as my attitude is and strive to do the right thing by life and existence instead of the wrong. The wrong is always based on panic and fear. The right is always backed by courage and faith. Know that consistent process, and life will ultimately work, whatever the temporary failure, even the seeming "death of a situation". I will simply end with these words that I meditate on honestly and you should too: I get it and I will work with it however it comes. That is tolerance. Understanding is full context perception without prejudice. Patience underpins it all for me, for that is where the peace is. Well, I will leave you some room to think and act, but I have said my peace.

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Enthusiasm - How to Find It

How keen are you to get up in the morning and follow your ordinary day? Have you the enthusiasm needed to do what is fulfilling and good?

"Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm". (Ralph Waldo Emerson, philosopher)

With inspiration, and the enthusiasm that goes along with it, we have energy for living life to the full, no matter what obstacles and hardships it throws in our faces.

What can one do to feel enthusiasm for what one does each and every day?

Danger of enthusiasm carrying us away

We may be a naturally generous, kind, or affectionate sort of person. And so become easily swayed and even enthusiastic about giving away money, time or love. But such inbuilt good tendencies can weaken judgement about a situation. Sentiment or fervent emotion may need the protection of good sense before it runs away with itself.

Our thinking may be realistic or unrealistic. Before giving charity to an alcoholic, remember he or she will likely spend gift money on booze rather than on food. Level-headed individuals do not take risks with their money on dodgy investments no matter the enthusiastic promises made by the salesman. One ignores one's insightful thinking when keenly involving oneself with a charming but good-for-nothing partner.

"When a person is under the influence of strong natural emotions, his rational balance can easily be upset, and he may be carried in any direction." (Hugo Lj Odhner, spiritual psychology writer)

Other examples of getting carried away by enthusiasm are spending "too much" time playing video games or engaging in activity supporting some social or political project to the detriment of family life.

"Enthusiasm for a cause sometimes warps judgment." (William Howard Taft, politician)

Fortunately most of us learn some right thinking from parents, teachers, and friends as well as good ideas from books and elsewhere. Good sense protects the mind against unfounded eagerness or fervour of others. Does such good sense also not come from deeper ideas in ethics, spiritual philosophy, and sacred writing?

Problem of lack of enthusiastic focus

Being enthused is being in the zone. A complete absorption for a while in what one does with loss of sense of space and time.

The opposite to this is the mental state in which one lacks enthusiasm. Energised focus is missing. One is under-involved, and there is a lack of enjoyment in the activity.

Time drags when you are not feeling sufficiently enthused about say your studies, work, or home developments. This lack of keenness can be due to not appreciating the end product, not feeling the spirit behind a project, not being open to the source of its inspiration.

"It is not easy to find something that will intrigue and bind your interest and enthusiasm. This you must seek for yourself." (Walter Annenberg, publisher, philanthropist, and diplomat)

A lack of enthusiastic effort may also apply to spiritual practice. We may remember the effects of meditation, learn the value of mindfulness practice, understand about the application of ethical theory, or know about philosophical ideas. Something may be missing. I would compare true ideas in the understanding with a receptive cup. Do we not need to distinguish between the cup and a limitless source of refreshing liquid which fills it?

According to one view, experience and knowledge about deeper concepts is a vessel into which the rich wine of the infinite spirit can flow.

Intellectualism

There have been good ideas around in contemporary spirituality. Concepts such as the true-self, the new age, one's inner path, or the numinous. Wonderful though many have thought these ideas to be, can they in any way be a substitute for the source of inspiration behind them? Perhaps you put your hope and trust in a higher life force beyond us seen as the source of energy behind the universe? In line with this view, a powerful spirit of illumination and vitality flows into a person through his or her soul. In other words those interested in spirituality sometimes confuse their understanding of ideas with the infinite source that can enliven their framework of conceptual thinking.

Transcendent source of inspiration

According to the spiritual philosopher Emanuel Swedenborg, a powerful source of universal love and wisdom provides higher inspiration. He says this is the transcendent origin of all that is humane in humanity. It both enlightens and energises our thinking about what is useful and important. Without this divine energy we have no enthusiasm.

The infinite source of heat of love and light of wisdom can be compared with the heat and light of our natural sun.

"The sun of our world cannot use its warmth and light to bring forth sprouts in the earth directly. Rather, the sun uses substances in the soil in which it can be present through its warmth and light to make plants grow." (Emanuel Swedenborg, spiritual philosopher)

I would like to suggest that the substance in the soil of the mind are those ideas we have about living a useful life. So, without a ground of rational ideas and understanding, we cannot receive inspiration. At the same time, there is a similar argument. This is that no amount, of such ideas and understanding of themselves, will give us energy and enthusiasm. Do we also not need a willingness to receive divine inflow of love and wisdom? And to acknowledge it comes from outside of ourselves from a higher source?

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Idea and Impact

The human mind is one of the most important organs in our body. Scholars define mind as the set of cognitive faculties, including consciousness, perception, thinking, judgment, and memory. It is also defined as the faculty of an entity's thought and consciousness. An average person needs to understand that it is the mind which cultivates initial input and translates into many constructive and destructive ideas. What conspires and transpires in the human mind that an individual's life revolves around it decisively. The decision which could be profitable, or damaging is subjective. However, objective analysis will explore the parameters of its boundaries to constrain the volatility of mind and motives.

Though the subject by itself is quite exhaustive in nature, however, I am touching its expansive nature peripherally. This concise and conclusive topic, highlights not only the salient features, but also the hidden information within its meaning and concepts. It also needs to comprehend its roots and source of concept benefitting humanity. To achieve the above, we need to explore the creation reality and purpose. It will help individual and society constructively, thereby, giving birth to a maturity and humility among masses.

This is the beginning of life in this materialistic world, yet, it needs to travel spiritually within this existence. The creation is a continuous process through different realms prior to reaching a destination which could be good or bad depending on an individual's performance. This culminating point is again limited to one particular realm. The Creator's plans and executions of creations is a continuous process on a predetermined path.

The journey commences in a simple way, but develops desires which are tangible or tacit. It means probing within the mental agility will explore implicit happenings. However, tangibility needs physical touch and feel. Point to ponder is that tangibility leans towards perception. Hence, it is some reality, but not total reality. Here, the impact comes into play, which on its own perception can be deep-rooted or peripheral depending upon mind's growth.

Carol S. Dweck, a psychologist on the faculty at Stanford University, proposed mindset theory to understand the effects of the beliefs that individuals hold for the nature of intelligence. It is also stated that mindset is divided in two segments; one is fixed and the other is growth. The fixed mindset relies on feedback, whereas the growth corresponds to success. Thus, the scholars evaluate the thoughts and impacts accordingly based on the what avenues it is left open to debate and discussion.

It is said that everyone is responsible to understand of their own mind through introspection. Others can only evaluate or read subjectively depending upon what is being revealed either directly or indirectly. Although the 'thought' that generates valuable information is subjectively inclined yet to objectively show powerful impact. Hence, these are two sides of the same coin. The impact correspondingly sways and surges within these parameters with its limitations. However, when broader values and new vistas are open then it travels into expansive territories revealing mind-boggling meanings and concepts.

The arguments revolve around thoughts prior to associating with impacts. If the thoughts are powerful then it shows profound impact and leaves a successful trail for people to reflect upon it. Otherwise, it gets relegated into some corner of memories eventually diminishes leaving no traces.

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Manage the Stress of Being the Best

How do you manage the stress of being the best? If you're really focused on never putting a foot wrong it can be overwhelming and exhausting, not just for you but for all concerned. You may even be aware of people who check their work so often that they effectively become word-blind and would find it hard to tell if there was an error! If you're at that stage in your pursuit of being the best you can lose the ability to critically review your work.

Whilst caring enough to be good, making an effort to improve and aiming to produce an exceptional piece of work all have an important role it's also important not to subject ourselves to constant overbearing scrutiny and pressure. It's stressful to be subjected to other people snapping at our heels, waiting for us to fail or cave under the unremitting pressure and criticism. They're impatiently biding their time so that they can replace us and step into our role.

Let's consider some ways to manage the stress of being the best.

- If we work in a highly competitive environment we may feel stressed and living under constant 'supervision'. The problem with this scenario is that stress generates more stress and becomes debilitating over time. We may find our clear thinking, powers of concentration and focus are all affected, as well as our health and wellbeing, ability to sleep and enjoyment of a good-humoured approach to life. Being firm about breaks and time out is important, as is trying to remove yourself from negative people and situations as often as possible.

- Some responsibilities are important and matter more than others. Yes a client, customer or friend deserve to have their requests treated with due deference and respect but some things are urgent whilst others are less so. Whilst we shouldn't agree to help or undertake something we can't fully commit to, equally there are times when enough is enough. Not every piece of work requires being worked on throughout the night or being double, triple or quadruple checked! However, it may be a useful strategy to have someone look over any work that you're apprehensive about. A trusted third-party can often provide valuable reassurance.

- There's no need to be an expert in every area. There will be times when our skills are not up to a particular request. There may be areas which we don't fully understand or are not trained in. Accept and admit this rather than try to muddle through. Offer to source someone who's competent in that field and forge a connection with them; it could even lead to you forming an alliance or partnership, on occasion resulting in a lucrative new string to both your bows.

- How do you feel if someone says that they can't do something? So long as it's done in the right way, not too often or after they've made a hash of an important piece of urgent work I'm sure you appreciated their honesty and were understanding. It helps if you're offered alternative solutions, perhaps a contact they have or a working relationship with someone in that field who could step in and fill the breach. Doing that could result in a win/win for all concerned. Reflect on what worked for you and determine to adopt that approach.

- Aiming to constantly be the best can require sacrifices to be made, and it's often our personal life which takes the strain as it's the path of least resistance. We may find ourselves cancelling or missing out on precious moments with our children, us time with our partner or social occasions with family or friends. Deciding to side-line those times means that not only do we miss out on personal rest and relaxation, but we also risk damaging or alienating those relationships through neglect. When people are regularly dropped they will start to cope without you, but also get the message that you care more about work than you do about them.

- Manage the stress of being the best by focusing on developing your brand and letting it work for you. Becoming the 'go to' guy in a particular niche can be achieved by giving demonstrations, free samples, talks, workshops, writing articles and blogs, maintaining a high-profile. Turning up consistently, whether it be at network meetings, online or in the media can be managed to suit your lifestyle, so easing the stress. Let potential customers become so familiar with your name that you automatically spring to mind whenever your area of expertise is being considered.

- Let others sing your praises. Rather than hassle people for endorsements, step back and let your good work speak for itself. When other people become your ambassadors they recommend you with confidence, pleased that they know someone who's good. Equally, be keen to recommend people you know, like and trust. Oil the wheels of your relationships and then the stress to be the best will subside as you become quietly confident in your field.

Let others contribute and be part of your team. They may not work in the same way as you but you'll get more enthusiasm, commitment and potentially great new ideas from them as a consequence.

There are many ways to manage the stress of being the best. Don't let perfectionism get in the way of you doing a great job!

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How To Refute Irrational Ideas That Stress You Out

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the same event is stressful and sometimes it's not? Or maybe there's something that just drives you crazy, while your spouse, friend, or co-worker seems unaffected-or even thinks it's funny?

What is it that makes something stressful for you or not? Is there some variable that makes all the difference?

In the 1960s, psychologist Albert Ellis developed "Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy" when he recognized the strong link between how we interpret events and the emotions and behaviors that result.

Most significantly, he noticed that "Between the event and the emotion is realistic or unrealistic self-talk. The self-talk produces the emotions. Your own thoughts, directed and controlled by you, are what create anxiety, anger, and depression." (p.136, "The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook," by Martha Davis, Ph.D., Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman, MSW, and Matthew McKay, Ph.D.)

Taking it one step further to complete the chain, your emotions then determine your actions.

So, the causal chain goes like this: activating events, interpretation (thoughts, self-talk), emotions, and behavior. This becomes a feedback loop in which all of the above (event, thought, feeling, behavior) are linked together. Once this pattern is encoded in your body and brain it becomes easy to trigger.

For example, you might be faced with a challenging task at work or in a family relationship which you interpret through the lens of a past failure in a similar situation. This makes you feel hopeless, so you withdraw from the situation to avoid feeling bad again.

Ellis identified 10 common irrational beliefs that launch us into stressful feelings which result in poor coping behaviors.

10 Irrational Beliefs

1. It's essential to have love and approval for me to feel good.

2. I must be unfailingly competent, successful, and perfect to deserve good things.

3. Certain people are evil and should be punished.

4. It's horrible when things don't turn out the way I want them to.

5. External events cause human suffering.

6. The unknown is dangerous and scary.

7. It's easier to avoid difficulties than face them head on.

8. I need a higher authority to validate my judgments and actions.

9. The past determines the present.

10. Happiness comes from endless leisure and relaxation.

These are just a sampling of the irrational ideas that produce crippling feelings and behaviors. It's not that there is no truth in them. It's how we use them against ourselves that is decisive.

At the heart of these beliefs is the assumption that "things are done to me" or that "I am a victim of circumstances beyond my control." That disempowered way of thinking lies at the core of the stress we feel.

Ellis discovered that, if you can refute your irrational ideas, you can interrupt the chain of reaction, and create a new outcome. If you reframe your thinking, you will feel and act differently. By doing this, you become stress resistant and stress resilient.

Ellis suggested five steps:

5 Steps to Refute Irrational Ideas

1. Write down the objective facts at the time you become upset. Try to describe "what happened" without writing a big story around it. For example, "Bob criticized my report and I walked out of the meeting."

2. Write down any self-talk about the event. This is the story you are telling about what happened, including any value judgments, beliefs, predictions about what it means for you, and worries, such as "I'll never be good at this," "I don't deserve a raise, unless I'm perfect," or "If they don't like me, I'll lose my job."

3. Write down your dominant emotional response, such as "I feel angry, afraid, anxious, sad, depressed, worthless, and so on.

4. Dispute the irrational ideas identified in Step 2. Do this one idea at a time. First, identify the idea or belief in your inner self-talk, such as "I'll never be good at this."

Then, ask yourself what evidence supports that belief. For example, remember times when you failed in the past in similar situations.

Next, ask yourself what evidence is against this belief? Find exceptions or remember times when the opposite was true.

In this example, you could find evidence for the opposite idea that "I can get good at this." Remember times when you used criticism as constructive feedback that helped you improve what you were doing.

Seeing both sides of an irrational belief supports the insight that there are alternative interpretations you can choose from. Which leads to the final step.

5. Substitute alternative self-talk that is more realistic, positive, empowering, and productive.

For example, "I can use this criticism as feedback to get better at what I am doing. This person did me a favor by pointing out shortcomings in what I was doing. Without that feedback, I wouldn't have known how to improve. This is the best thing that could have happened."

Can you see the transformative power in this process?

I've used this strategy many times with great success. However, in my experience, there's one preliminary step missing here-a step can make all the difference!

Sometimes you are so wound up in your stress that you just can't seem to step back and go through this kind of rational process. You need to first take the edge off the stress you feel. You need to activate your body's natural relaxation response.

So, what helps you release stress in the heat of the moment? Is it taking a walk, a few deep breaths, a little meditation, or a workout at the gym?

Once you've done that, you can revisit the situation from a much clearer state. Then, you can use the steps above and truly change how you are relating to that situation.

Enjoy your practice!

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Suffering From Addiction to Over-Thinking? Learn The Symptoms & The Cure

Do you ever over-think things? Do you get caught up in mental cycles of negativity or fear that keep you from living fully? Does your mind race like a hamster wheel-and you just wish you could step off?

Did it ever occur to you that you might be addicted to thinking? If so you're not alone. It's estimated that the average person has between 50,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day.

Yet, how many of those thoughts are helpful? How many do you really need? How many are even true?

Though most people are unaware of it, addiction to thinking is the number one addiction affecting us humans today. And, it just may be the driving force behind all of our other addictions.

Here are the symptoms you may or may not have associated with over-thinking:

• Constant worrying about what you did in the past or what might happen in the future

• An incessant voice in your head that comments on everything

• Feeling judged and habitually judging others

• Keeping the radio or TV on as a constant background

• Constantly checking your Facebook, Twitter, texts, and email

• Needing to keep your mind busy

• Discomfort with silence, stillness, and inactivity

• Discomfort with feelings and body sensations

• Feeling there's always too much to do & never enough time

• Trouble sleeping, meditating, or relaxing deeply

• Feeling a constant subtle stress that never lets up

So, what's behind addiction to thinking? Why is it there?

What drives it? If we knew what that was, maybe we could put a stop to it and the stress it causes!

There is a two-pronged false belief that traps us in our thoughts:

1) We believe that "our thoughts represent reality," and,

2) We believe that "we are our thoughts."

Without us being aware of it, these two false beliefs makes us slaves to the mental fabrications we call thoughts.

Mental fabrications?

Yes, that's right. Our problems begin when we mistakenly believe that our thoughts represent reality.

If that were the case, of course, thinking would be as important as it seems. It would be how we know what is real and possible in our lives.

Yet, thinking does not, in fact, represent reality. Instead, thinking interprets, categorizes, and organizes reality. Thinking is not about representing Reality at all, it is about analyzing reality and organizing it for action.

Thinking makes reality into a "To Do List."

You can recognize this, if you stop and notice what you're thinking at any given moment-and then ask yourself, what is the purpose of that thought? What are the consequences of thinking that way? What type of action does it compel or inspire?

Without understanding what thinking really is and what it does, you can unwittingly get caught up in over-thinking. And, excessive thinking leads to excessive doing which leads to excessive stress.

We become that hamster on the wheel of thought, spinning around until we are exhausted.

Then, we compound matters by thinking that we "are" the thoughts that we "have." We identify ourselves with that incessant voice in our heads. How crazy is that? Are you really that voice that spews 50,000 to 60,000 thoughts every day?

How could you possibly be defined by all of those varied thoughts? You would have to be a severely multiple personality. Is that really who you are? Are you really just that voice in your head, who thinks one thing one moment and a completely different thing the next-all day long?

When we begin to investigate what thinking really is and how it's different from who we really are, we are able to step back and get a little space from our thoughts. We begin to experience a little freedom from all that thinking.

When we understand the real role of thinking, it empowers us to let go of thoughts that do not serve us or others, choose those that do, and spend more time being present with, paying attention to, appreciating, and enjoying, Reality Itself. We step off the hamster wheel, take a deep breath, and take in what is really happening inside and around us.

This opens the door for us to see more clearly, listen and feel more deeply, and appreciate the peace and joy of enjoying life as it is-without all the commentary.

Are you ready to be free from negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that stress you out?

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5 Myths About Introverts

Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Larry Page, Barack Obama, Emma Watson, Christina Aguilera, and J.K Rowling. What do these people have in common? Besides from being world-renowned and successful? They are all self-proclaimed introverts.

Introversion is a termed popularized by Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist who formulated the theory of temperament. It lies on the opposite side of extroversion in the personality continuum scale. Wherein, ambiversion is in the middle. Introverted person tends to be called as a shy, reticent person which is far from the truth. That is why they are easily misunderstood in our extraverted world.

The difference between two extreme temperaments relies on how their brains work. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that is responsible for the control of your pleasure and reward centers. In a MRI scan, you can see that the response of dopamine to stimuli is long and complicated in an introvert brain. While in extroverts, the pathway is shorter. Flooding of dopamine through overstimulation makes an introvert exhausted during social gathering making them look like they are not a people person. Here are some of the common myths about introverts that we need to know and understand.

1. They are shy.

Being shy is different from being an introvert. Shy people avoid social interaction due to fear of social judgment. Introverts are not afraid being social. It is just too much for them. They need to have a reason to interact.

2. They do not like people or talking to them.

They do not want a lot of small talks from many people. Chattiness is full-force when they are interested on the topic. They also value true and long-lasting friendship even if they only have a few.

3. They always want to be alone.

Introverts loves daydreaming and thinking things through. They are very dependent. They do not like sharing their thoughts to everyone but only to the ones close to them.

4. They are weird.

Unlike extroverts, they do not conform to the bandwagon. They do not follow the fashion trends because of their great sense of individuality.

5. They do not know how to relax and have fun.

Reading and staying at home are fun for them. And parties! But not as long as extroverts would stand. They do not seek high stimulating situation because it is important for them to recharge and reenergize to process everything in.

Introverts are not difficult to be with. Knowing the facts about introverts will be easy for many of us to take care of them. Here are some tips straight from introverts themselves on how to deal with them.

1. Respect their need for privacy.

2. Never embarrass them in public.

3. Let them observe first in new situations.

4. Give them time to think. Do not demand right away for answers.

5. Don't interrupt them.

6. Give them advance notice of expected changes in our lives.

7. Give them 15-minute warnings to finish whatever they are doing.

8. Reprimand them privately.

9. Teach them new skills privately.

10. Enable them to find one best friend who has similar interests and abilities.

11. Don't push and to make lots of friends.

12. Respect their introversion. They cannot be fix to be extroverts.

If many people are aware how most introverts make smarter decisions and better leaders, those myths will be gone for good. The world will know how to treat them well without discrimination, with due respect and a lot time for them just to be themselves same goes with the extroverts and ambiverts.

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Living Among Known People And Places, Yet Lonely

People and places are familiar and intimate yet very strange hence, aloofness encompasses the individuals. Does it happen to groups or is it a common phenomenon among people from all walks of life? Subsequently, a question arises why such a thing happens? If so, is there any reason and what remedies our pundits offer? Here, we must prod over the nitty-gritty of our mindset and circumstances in which we grow. It is appropriate to dive deep into a stanza from "Psalm of Life," by Henry Wordsworth Longfellow and explore. People then avoid vulnerable and painful incidents and adopt meaningful outcome benefiting humanity. This will happen when people understand realities and remained content and be grateful.

"Lives of great men all remind us

We can make our lives sublime,

And, departing, leave behind us

Footprints on the sands of time."

It requires serious thinking within and outside the bonds of families, friends and other personalities. Any deviation from facts and phenomena will jeopardize the structure of our relationship and leads towards chaos and commotion. The reason is very simple; if we remained attached to materialist values and weigh our relationship accordingly, then imbalance sets in. Consequently, we become impatient and arrogant and that is the beginning of fissures in an otherwise homogenous relationship. The only thing remains are footprints upon sand of time. The flood tide will wash away the history and vacuum haunts us for rest of our lives. This is called the defocused abnormality causing inability to observe nuances of volatility of greed.

People have experienced over the past, and it is more pronounced in this era, the so-called modernization. The most obvious and distinct factor which has affected humanity was greed. It is also affecting now in a camouflage way. Analyzing further reveals that the greatest menace to our society is western capitalism. This is the story of have and have not, and the voracity to take control of land and people. The laws and regulations are enacted and implemented to suit the few at the cost of many.

The need of the hour is to realize and comprehend the volatility and stability within the frame work of existence. If we failed to achieve spiritual freedom, then all materialistic attractions will shackle us leaving vacuum in our existence. The points to ponder are the cultural and rituals; these two factors should synchronize with doctrine of faith objectively. Here, we must take precautions to avoid that these two factors should not trespass each other's threshold. Thereby, the main purpose and values of doctrine are not relegated under the shadow of cultural rituals and practices.

Analyzing the circumstances, we see how these wealthy people alter the life-style of the poor and middle class? They offer them a loan to procure the essential and non-essential things and discourage them from saving. The propaganda and advertisement divert the attention away from the necessities and indulge them in the extravaganza. The comfort zone of common man is to live within his means and savings. Alas! He has now become the victim of wealthy people's evil design. He has fallen into a vicious circle of debt and remained until his demise.

Whatever has conspired and transpired in the minds of elite has successfully transformed between the poor and made them vulnerable. The reason as to why the poor man loses his cool and carried away uncontrolled is debatable. The answer is very simple and crystal clear. The most volatile reason is the elite's molecular touch with support from advertisement, and celebrity's presence, makes all the difference. The innocent victim is the man who drifts in the wilderness of materialistic greed and attachment. He then forgets his roots and adopts the unrealistic life-style. It leaves no other choice but drifts in the uncharted waters of chaos, confusion and uncertainties.

The realities of life with strong conviction and firm determination of consciousness will overcome the greed. However, the differentiation and integration of materialistic values pose a serious threat to simplicity and simple living of middle class. Alas! The environments and society's glitter has made them a victim of their unrealistic desires. Thus, the unfulfilled desired and failed expectations from near and dear one alike has made them lonely.

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