Showing posts with label living in the moment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label living in the moment. Show all posts

5 Reasons Why You Should Act Young at Heart



When you look at a child, you can see that they are carefree and living in the moment. They are present in whatever they do and are living each day like it is the only day they have. So why as adults, do we cause so much pain and anxiousness in our lives? We have let go of that childlike wonder and mindset that we used to enjoy. Not because we have to, but because we (somewhat unknowingly) choose to.

We create the stress, the worry, and the fear that our lives have become so full of everyday. Here are five reasons you should be young at heart:

1. It makes you feel more youthful 
2. It gives you, and others, permission to have fun 
3. We all have a child inside us that wants to come out 
4. It helps beat stress 
5. Why should the kids have all the fun? You should too!

Wouldn't it be nice to live with the mindset of a child? Yes, we still have responsibilities, but if we can truly learn to let go and live in the present moment, our lives would be so much more peaceful and enjoyable.

We have choices in life and we can choose to live in that place with all the grown up emotions that we have learned, or let go and be young at heart. This doesn't mean letting go of adult responsibilities, this means letting the child inside of you come out and look at things through a different perspective.

I once read that Billionaire Warren Buffet eats a bowl of chocolate chip ice cream for breakfast on occasion. Talk about eating like a six-year old! Who says we can't have ice cream or cake for breakfast once in a while. I for one love a bowl of Lucky Charms or Captain Crunch cereal on occasion! It brings out the kid in all of us and makes us happy too!

We don't have to be stuffy adults and once in a while can do things that most adults would shake their head at. My fiancé and I were at the mall one day and they had a kiosk with the oversized motorized animals for kids to ride on. We were feeling adventurous and asked the employee if adults could ride. We were told we could so we rented one. For 15 minutes, the two of us rode around the mall like two kids laughing and having the time of our lives. Yes, there were a couple of stuffy adults that gave us looks of disgust however, most people smiled and were happy to see us having fun. In fact, we saw two other young adult couples riding them when we were turning ours in after they had seen us riding. It was as though we gave them permission to cut loose also.

We were living in the moment and that memory still makes us smile. We saw an opportunity to be young at heart and we acted on it. We did not care what others thought, we weren't hurting anyone and we gave other people something to smile about. We had a couple of pictures taken of us and I am sure the photos went on social media that day for a laugh.

We recently bought a couple of skateboards for the two of us as well. We were with our younger two kids - ages 10 and 12. They thought it was the coolest thing as they both have boards too. We went out in the neighborhood and rode around the neighborhood a couple of times. Fortunately, we had good balance and kept quite conservative but regardless, we had fun and gave the kids memories that they won't ever forget.

Let go of how you think you should act and do things that brings out the kid in you. Eat ice cream, wear bunny ears, put on a princess crown, play at the arcade, and blow bubbles. Give yourself permission to have fun and bring out the child in you. If you have kids, they will love it.

We all need more light-heartedness in our lives and what better way to do it then to get down to the basics of just "being" and letting that inner child inside each of us come out and play!

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The Key to Living in the Moment


Living in the moment is about having all your attention directed toward the present. To do this, you must be mindful of your actions and your state of mind. Also, when you live more in the moment, you tend limit mind wandering.

Matt Killingsworth reveals the importance of living in the moment in his TED Talk. The results of a study he conducted suggest that people are substantially less happy while mind-wandering. He tells us that when our minds wander, we often think of unpleasant things. Even when we think of pleasant things, we are slightly less happy than when we aren't mind wandering. Killingsworth even compares mind-wandering to a slot machine you'd never want to play because according to him, mind wandering never makes you happier; it only creates varying degrees of unhappiness:

If mind-wandering were a slot machine, it would be like having the chance to lose 50 dollars, 20 dollars or one dollar. Right? You'd never want to play.

Mind-wandering is quite an amazing ability. It allows us to escape the present, but it also seems to cause unhappiness. Yet, according to Killingsworth's study, "forty-seven percent of the time, people are thinking about something other than what they're currently doing."

Living in the moment is also an important part of minimalism because it helps you embrace and enjoy all the different activities and facets of your life. When you are more mindful, you place less value in your material possessions. As I have said before, by living in the moment you realize that the essence of life is life itself and not your possessions.

However, living in the moment seems to be becoming increasingly difficult in a world where technology and distractions are so prevalent. It seems so easy to get distracted by something and just let your mind wander. Some of us are naturally more mindful than others, but I think it is something we can all work on. After a few months of trying to find a method that could make living in the moment easier, I finally found out why it can be so hard for us to be mindful and live in the moment.

When we try to be fully present and mindful, we often find it difficult to let ourselves go and be fully absorbed by the moment. I think that for many of us, there is a fear of being too focused on the present because when you are in a state of total focus and mindfulness you aren't sure when you are going to come out of it. We also enjoy letting our minds wander "in the clouds" because we feel safe there. We hesitate to fully commit to the moment because we think that it won't be as pleasant as mind-wandering. Therefore, since we are afraid of the present, mind-wandering is almost like a defense mechanism that your mind wants you to use to prevent yourself from being consumed by the moment.

I believe that we also procrastinate for similar reasons. We not only fear work because we are scared it will be unpleasant; we also don't want to focus on the task at hand because if we become enveloped in what psychologists call "the flow state", we are not sure when we will be able to stop working. It's easier to procrastinate a little, do a little work and then procrastinate a little more. So, there is also a fear of being completely immersed in your work without knowing if you will be able to escape it once you have started.

Consequently, we should be asking ourselves the following question: how do I let myself embrace the moment?

The answer is simple, you just have to realize that you will not be stuck in that moment forever. You have to understand that as time moves forward, your situation will change or your attention will naturally shift to something else when the time is right. There is no need to fight the moment, just let yourself be enveloped by it. Realize that your mind will naturally focus on something else when it feels like it needs a break from what you were currently focused on. So, don't be scared, just dive into the moment and spend more time living in the present.

I realize that it can sometimes be hard. If you do a quick Google search, I'm sure you'll find many other ways to be more mindful and live more in the moment. However, understanding that the present will not harm you, but will actually give you more happiness, will definitely make it easier for you to embrace the moment.