It's Only A Mistake

Do you find it hard to admit to yourself, or to others, that you made a mistake? Or, when you do make a mistake, do you beat yourself up mercilessly and give yourself no slack for it? Do you judge others who make mistakes and give little space for their humanity?

The reality which none of us like to admit is that all of us make mistakes. If we didn't, that would mean that we were perfect, and perfectionism does not exist here on earth. We're all human. Some of us may attempt to strive for perfection, however this is an unrealistic goal.

It Wasn't Me

So many of my clients, and the people that I come in contact with, struggle with admitting mistakes. Some may be challenged by either judging one's self, or others, for mistakes, or by not being able to take ownership of one's own mistakes.

• Do you find yourself blaming others for your mistakes?

o I would not have made that mistake if...

o It's not my fault. If my boss didn't...

o If only my partner hadn't...

• Do you measure your self worth by the number of mistakes you make, or not make? Is it hard to simply own a mistake and say,

o "I'm sorry, I'll try to do better next time."

Being the Bigger Person

I was inspired to write this article when I heard about the mistake that was made recently on the Oscars announcing the incorrect best picture of the year. The graciousness of the "La La Land" Producer, Jordan Horowitz, impressed many. When he was informed that the coveted award was not his, he simply stated, "I'm sorry, there's a mistake, 'Moonlight', you guys won best picture. I'm going to be very proud to hand this to my friends from, 'Moonlight.'"

He didn't seek someone to blame, but instead acted incredibly courteous in a moment that had to have brought much disappointment to him, and the rest of the cast. Would you, or I, have been able to act with the same cordiality in such a moment? That may be determined, in part, by the environment, and the people, who raised us.

Placing Blame

What we were taught as a child, an adolescent, or an adult, about mistakes helps to shape our beliefs about them. We must first consider, when growing up, what we were taught about mistakes. Was it communicated verbally, or non-verbally, that it is okay and human to make a mistake? Or were you ridiculed, or punished, for them?

Methods in which we might judge ourselves, or others, may be overt, or covert, and may also be quite subtle to the point that we aren't aware of our behavior.

Oops, I made a mistake

As an adult do you find that the people in your life-partner, friend, or family, have little tolerance for mistakes and you are always apologizing, explaining, or feeling terrible or not good enough? Do you recognize any of these ways of communicating that a mistake has occurred? Consider whether you think such words to yourself, say them to others, or someone in your life says something like this to you.

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Message of the Universe: Never Underestimate Your Work

"What if every wrinkle, scar, or gray hair only made you more beautiful? What if every tear you've shed, mistake you've made, and challenge you've faced, only drew you closer to the light? And what if, for every breath you've taken, every sentence you've spoken, and every path you've chosen, your fans in the unseen multiplied?

Well, I'd say it's about time you found out.

Be proud, we are -

The Universe"

What you can't see doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Subatomic particles can't be seen from the naked eyes but they do exist. Everything you do has an impact. The way you talk to people, the way you pay attention to things around you, treating others with respect, give yourself enough credit for all the hard work you put in have an impact on your life and everyone around you. Looking at your life now, today, may not seem like a great deal to you but considering the fact that you have personally grown spiritually should be more than enough for you to know that you are on the right path. You are in control of your destiny, in control of your actions and when you share yourself to others, either be financially or knowledge base, you create changes around you that are greater than what you would ever imagine. Never underestimate your contribution and always give yourself credit in everything you do.

Always respect free will when you interact with others. Never force anything on anyone. Give advice when requested and leave it for the other person to take action or not. If same advice is requested over and over again, you can then decide if you want to continue feeding this negative behavior by keeping on listening to their complaints or stay away. It is really up to you. Everyone can make their own decisions based on facts and figures presented to them. By being there for them in that moment of need, you are making a positive change in their lives and by finding a solution, you have saved someone from major depression or worst. Focus on helping yourself as well and never forget who you were then and who you are NOW.

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No Regrets - Only Lessons

We have all been there. We have looked back in the past and said, "wow, what was I thinking? Biggest mistake of my life."

Can you really tell me that you haven't done that? All I have to say to that is, it was a biggest lesson learned in life. Most of us are looking in the rear view mirror while trying to drive ahead. See I could look back and say that I made the biggest mistake by having a kid with such a deceiving person but that doesn't change anything nor do I feel that way. You have to be able to forgive not just yourself but also the other person. Free yourself from the hatred you carry around in your heart because that burden is only drowning you. Not being able to forgive puts you in a victim mentality and you sit there drinking poison while wishing the other person would die.

Guess what?

The other person is living with no concern about you. The only person you are hurting is yourself.

My son is the biggest blessing in my life and without him I wouldn't have half of the motivation that I have to keep going. My passion wakes me up everyday feeling blessed that God has given me another day to work towards my dream. I have a purpose in life and no one or nothing will stop me from getting it. I can't stress enough about how important it is to move on from the past life lessons, put it behind you and grow from it.

I'm not asking you to forget your past completely because it has taught you so much but I'm asking you to let it go, put the burdens down of the past and keep moving forward. It's not about who you were. It's not about who you are. It's not about what choices you adapted to and the decisions you made. It's about whom you are deciding to become; the choices and habits you're adapting to on a daily basis. It's about you doing it faithfully and consciously.

That's what moving ahead looks like. I don't need to tell you who you are. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how incredibly amazing you are and how far you have come. Look ahead and rise up. This is your time; don't allow anyone to interfere in it. Drop the baggage from the past and live a little.

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What Path Are You On: Greatness or Mediocrity?

Difference Between Greatness & Mediocrity

The difference in perception that separates greatness from mediocrity can affect the way a person views their mistakes and outlook. This differs from a person who strives for greatness that realizes that making a mistake is foreseeable, and are more concerned with correcting said mistake rather than harping on it. Another difference is a person who settles for mediocrity makes excuses for everything in their life that doesn't go to plan. They will make excuses like "It's too hard, I don't have enough time, I don't have the resources, and I need more time". These examples paint a picture why some many of us prevent our chances of reaching greatness. Often times we impede our own greatness by thinking and believing negative thoughts that inevitable makes us settle for mediocrity. In the past I have struggled with these same concerns that I have to settle for mediocrity. Until I realized that I can to be great and if I put my mind, energy and effort I can to be considered great.

Truth About Greatness

An underlying myth about greatness is it is something that is complex, esoteric or a God-like feature that only the special humans can ever reach. This declaration often discourages people who have dreams, aspirations or just want to be great in life. The truth is greatness truly does exist in all of us the difference is if you tap into your greatness or settle for mediocrity. For example, people ask me question constantly like "how did you become a writer when you don't have professional training in writing, how did you get people to actually read what you wrote, how did you know that you could be a writer when you had never written anything outside of school"? I answer all these questions with a very simple answer I worked relentless on my craft day and night. When everyone else is sleeping, eating or relaxing I will be working trying to improve my craft. I also changed my thinking from "I don't know or I can't to "I can, I will and nothing is going to stop me". Even though I wouldn't consider myself great by any stretch of the imagination I'm working every day to make that a reality.

Truth About Mediocrity

Truth about mediocrity is that it is truly a choice, decision or result of our own actions. Choosing to be mediocre usually is the easier, less stress and convenient route. Deciding to be mediocre can cause a lot regret, pain and anguish later on in life. We have all met people that say "I wish I could go back and do things differently, I just want one more chance to follow my passion". Being mediocre is usually a choice made out fear of the unknown. Not knowing is a fear that many of us have and struggle with so making a bold chose to be great in a mediocre society can be quite never-racking.

Final Thoughts

In my experience and research our mindset is about 90% responsible for our success and that just 10% depends on the way the cookie crumbles. In all likely-hood you'll likely be successful if you truly put in the work and have a positive mindset through the process. The road to being great is certainly a process. If you blame your problems and failures whether major, minor, personal or professional, on other people, circumstances beyond your control, or just plain bad luck, you may be destined to fail. How much of your success would you say is up to you-your choices, your actions, your behaviors-versus outside conditions? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!

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Is it Better to Be Safe Than Sorry?

Mistakes are series of errors in judgement which often cost us; immediately or some time in the future. Some are just plain risk born from decisions we take without having all the required information; like trusting a new friend, going into a business, building an idea, breaking new grounds, making assumptions about incidents or just common day to day errors. When it pays off people call it luck or brilliance, but when it doesn't, they call it a mistake or failure.

A friend of mine will always say, "it is better to be safe than sorry", and so true she is safe but not making progress, I am sorry to say. With her life and many others like her, who like to be safe, who don't want to make mistakes, I have come to understand that without mistakes there can't be progress. When our fear for mistakes keeps us from trying new ideas, we will remain at the same spot for a long time.

Someone said, "My mistakes are no failures, just lessons on how not to do things and they have made me better". Are you scared of making mistakes or you have made and now you are finding it difficult to move on? Let me tell you this, "Mistakes make you better". Check the life of people who have claimed not to have made mistakes before, you would see they just circle round same spot, not necessarily poor but surely without ground breaking achievements.

Mistakes are not as bad as people would want to paint them for you. Do you know that without mistakes there won't be inventions? The secret is that you don't tie your life down to one mishap, move on from it and be creative with the lessons. Don't play on the sidelines because you don't want to make mistakes, else you would only feed from crumbs when you have potential to dine from the main dish.

Yes, you can minimize your mistakes by learning from people who have gone through similar transitions, you can read books, biographies, scriptures etc. That doesn't mean you won't make mistakes of your own, but it would be minimal. Mistakes pave way for self discoveries, self defining and self awareness. Mistakes teach you about yourself. I don't want you to live your life running scared of making mistakes, no mistakes means no discoveries.

When you realize you have made mistakes, when it's clear you have fallen, please don't stay too long on the floor, don't stay there on the ground of self-pity condemning yourself for the mistake(s). Stand up, dust off the shame and move on. Don't be scared of making more mistakes, you will get better and eventually breakthrough like Thomas Edison, put your feet out even if they are wrong, eventually you will get it right like Lincoln. Like those before you learn from those mistakes and never slowdown nor give up.

"Show me someone who has not made mistakes and I will show you a living dead."

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Life Is More Than Second Chances!

Ever made a bad decision, mistake or just wish you could erase a previous action, choice or outcome? This makes you normal, but the real question is - do you still feel the regret or pain of one of these actions and are you still living with the inability to let go - even to the point of missing a second or even third chance that life always offers?

Trust me - I have made more than my share of poor choices and life and career decisions, but life has always come through offering me the opportunity to begin again whether in a relationship, business activity or any number of life areas.

What are second chances and why do we fail to recognize or take advantage of them? The first question is easy but the second one deserves a little more understanding.

Second chances - When life says - it's OK you can try again even though you screwed up last time. Pretty simple - wouldn't you agree?

But the real question is - why do we fail to recognize or take advantage of them?

There are many reasons but I believe most of them fall into one or more of the following categories; fear, ego needs, you are closed off emotionally, low self-esteem, resistance or fear of change, stuck in blame or whining or sustained anger or regret. Let's take a brief look at each when it comes to missing second, third or even a tenth chance.

Fear - the number one cause of all negative emotions is fear or the mindset that life is giving you something you don't deserve or want. When we fail or face severe challenges, problems or mistakes we have two choices fear what's happening and what could or might happen or learn from - whatever - and move on wiser. Not always easy or for some people even possible but in the end you can choose to remain stuck or begin again.

Ego needs - the ego can't admit mistakes, failure or poor performance or outcomes. It circles the wagons and draws a line in the sand or often just goes into denial. But, in the end - it is what it is - and you can accept, admit or face it or pretend it isn't happening or didn't happen. But, in the end it did so none of these tactics will help you grow, improve or change for the better.

You are closed off emotionally - shutting down emotionally and failing to experience, acknowledge or display your reaction to what is happening (tears, managed anger or even laughter) just increases your stress and your method of justification for your responses. In the end however the emotional pain that you experience is a warning, guide, helper if you will only pay attention and learn from it what it is trying to teach you.

Low self-esteem - If you don't like yourself or feel you are worthy, worthwhile or special (not in an arrogant way) you will always let what is happening control you and fail to learn or change. Your common response is almost always "I deserve or deserved this."

Resistance or fear of change - Life changes. Nothing remains the same. Everything ends sooner or later. Change is not good or bad or anything in between, it is simply life unfolding one moment, one day or one year at a time. Resisting what is will never maintain the comfortable status quo - things will just keep changing and you can interpret it as a positive opportunity or something to regret and try to hold on to for dear life.

You are stuck in blame or whining - Get over it. Enough said.

Sustained anger or regret - when you are stuck in regret or anger (both negative emotions) you will fail to recognize something new that could be a wonderful next step or potential opportunity. You are so wrapped up in your feelings that even a slap on the side of your head with a baseball bat won't get your attention.

So, have you been given a second or third chance lately? Have you honored, it or avoided it or run from it?

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Empower Yourself When You Make a Mistake

"A man's errors are his portals of discovery." James Joyce

There Are Two Ways You Can Make a Mistake

- The Painful Approach and The Empowering Approach 

The painful way to make a mistake which is used most often reduces creativity, growth and lowers self esteem. The empowering way, while it may require some practice to become a habit, it is a better strategy for your well-being and as a role model to children.

The Painful Approach

• Notice your mis-take
• Severely criticize yourself (after all, this was role modeled to you so must be right - mustn't it?)
• Feel guilt and shame (this is meant to prevent you from making further mistakes but doesn't usually work)
• Hide the mistake and don't tell anyone that you even tried
• Stay in fear of making another mistake

The Empowering Approach requires a N.A.C.C.C. (knack)

• Notice your great mistake
• Accept your mistake - as they are inevitable if you're living
• Congratulate yourself for giving it a go (It's so much easier to criticize others and do nothing)
• Be Curious about how it happened
• Consider what you could learn from your experience.(there is no failure only feedback)

Mistakes are worth it.

Staying in your comfort zone to avoid making a mistake could be holding you back from some great experiences and valuable learning. Look back into your past. Was it your biggest slip-up that gave you some of your greatest wisdom? Were some of your blunders in life the funniest moments?

Criticism is not a reason to avoid mistakes. Thomas Edison made thousands of mistakes before producing a long lasting light bulb. If he had discontinued because of his own or others criticism you may still be using candles. Listening to criticism gives you two problems your slip-up and lowering your self esteem.

Mis-takes are to be expected if you are growing, learning and moving forward. Babies don't try walking, repeatedly fall down and give up because it didn't work. When people learn to drive and crunch the gears, they don't give up and say "I am going to catch a bus for the rest of my life." Persevering through mistakes is empowering.

Mistakes are a part of life. How you handle them is up to you. Practice the empowering approach for a while and see how it feels. I think you will find it well worth the effort required to change this habit.

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It's All A Mistake

Our society has participated in orchestrating a set of intricately woven lies that we have eagerly and wholeheartedly embraced.

As consumers, too quickly do we accept outer appearances as reality. There are those who believe aging is almost always the forerunner to poor health; only the opinions of wealthy people are important; money substance is available in limited quantities and only to a select few; you can receive something other than what you give. Now hear this! Aging is a mistake; money substance is unlimited; and you reap what you sow-not sometimes, but all the time.

Various teachers and prophets have roamed this earth plane to dispel these myths. Mohammed, Buddha, Abraham and even Jesus Christ have all taught varying aspects of these truths with the dominant truth being "you reap what you sow." We always receive what we expect to receive and not what we pray for. Doing whatever it takes to change our thinking, by eliminating all negative thoughts and replacing them with a prosperous knowing, must become a task we commit to every day for the remainder of our life. Whatever we believe will always recreate itself in our human experiences.

Our society's common belief in aging-that getting older is the forerunner of poor health-is a mistake. Poor health, as well as visible outer signs of aging, is simply an out-picturing of our beliefs. If we believe with each birthday we will look older, then we will. If we allow negative thinking and attitudes to persist, we will have poor health. The human body is an amazing machine. The organs function without any conscious prompting by us; both internal and external body parts shed the old cells and replace them with new cells at regular intervals. Because the body is in a state of constant renewal, aging and illnesses are conditions and beliefs that we force into our consciousness.

Financial prosperity is the next most misunderstood concept. Having money has nothing to do with money. Money substance is about what we believe. Holding onto worn-out emotions, worn-out relationships, feelings of envy, jealousy and hatred will block any flow of prosperity. Planting seeds of discontent and malice is sure to yield a garden of poverty and destitution. So here again, watch not only your thoughts but guard your words as if you were protecting the winning lottery ticket.

Spirit is always in charge. By following the examples of our teachers, we will always remain connected to our source of power-God, the good omnipotent. By staying focused on the I AM, illness, poverty and malcontent will be replaced with good health, prosperity and joy. Establishing and maintaining spiritual integrity ensures a life filled with good things. Bid farewell to aging, poverty and unhappiness forever.

Welcome health, wealth, youth and beauty. Dare to live beyond miracles!

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