How Growth Changes Us
Ever seen a new born baby? Have you observed their behaviors? Well if you have you will conclude that they seem helpless. The truth is that child doesn't stay like that forever; as he/she grows it becomes obvious that they have changed either in size, beauty intelligence or Behavior. The point of interest in this blog post is Behavior. How the growth of someone affects his behavior? Is there a relationship between behavior and Growth? Well the answer is yes, there is but we will examine (3) of and the remaining (4) in Part 2 each stage of growth and see how they progress or change and what we can learn from that in our place of work and in School. The stages are: New born Baby, A toddler, At Middle Child-hood, A Teenager, A Youth, An Adult, An Old person
A New born Baby: New born babies are helpless, they Cuddle themselves without knowing what it actually is, but they openly and unconsciously accept help and Food from their ever caring mother, but there is something we fail to notice, it's the fact that they learn as they accept help from their mom, but as little children they don't grasp what they learn so quickly, rather they just keep it up there. You may be asking what I can learn from this.
Lesson: If you just got employed or you just got to a new grade at school, you are likened to that new born baby who just got into the world, in imitation of babies we want to readily accept help from those ahead of us, it may be our Boss or fellow colleagues but a little bit higher than us. We want to accept help, but as you accept help, also in imitation of that Child, you need to learn. At first you may not get it clearly but keep what you've learnt to heart
A Toddler: Ever seen a toddler? Ever stayed with one? Well a toddler is usually within the age bracket of (1-4). They have this quality of Exploration. They explore, and try everything possible. For example a toddler that still craws or a toddler that can now walk could see something on the ground, obviously they pick it up, and try to eat it, they are very curious. They hold your Tablet and try all sorts of things. They open the refrigerator and pull out and egg and start juggling it. Well, they are good at exploration... Remember this toddler was a new born baby before... He has learned a lot and is now trying to use that stored up knowledge gotten from the ever caring mother to explore... He has changed from the helpless to the Seeker, the ever curious child. With this he child still learn. There is a lesson Lesson: You are no longer a newbie at work, at school but in imitation of the toddler out have to start exploring. At work try things out, the same applies to school. Be curious and use that knowledge stored up from the assistance rendered, use it to explore, use it to learn more and get more knowledge.
At Middle Child Hood: The inquisitive nature of children, it's obviously true, they learn a lot they explore and they get to a point whereby they feel helpless but they don't keep such questions or challenges to themselves, rather they ask their parents, and their parents offer help, notice they have learnt something new right?, That's it that's how childhood goes about, the children gets close to their parents and store up more knowledge.
Lesson:Just like children, we want to learn to ask questions or seek for assistance when we need help, as a worker or student who has taken time to explore just as a toddler, we won't get it all straight during exploration, as a result we want you want to meet your boss or Teacher for help as you explore the more.
When Will I Learn From My Mistakes
"I never learn from my mistakes." A sad truth that this article will explain why we continually make the same mistakes again and again.
We actually do learn from our mistakes, but we learn bad habits. In every event, we are accumulating knowledge of a process; action, reaction and a result. This is exactly the same thing that we have been doing since we where born. An action leads to a reaction which leads to a result and the whole process gets stored in memory. When a similar action happens again, we automatically search our memory for an appropriate reaction that we think we should have, based on a previous event. This will produce a result and that result will be stored in memory.
The problem is that all we are doing is accumulating information as to if something happens, how did I react and what was the result. It does not teach us how to react to get a different result.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.
If I ask you how much is 2 plus 2, you do not go through the mechanical process of counting one and one and one and one and get four. No, you think very quickly 2 plus 2 is 4, because you already know that answer. This is a very useful ability to save time and is good in many situations, but not in finding Love and learning from past relationship mistakes.
In order to find that perfect relationship that will last without fights and pain, we must learn the reason why we make these mistakes.
Our problem lies in desire. We desire certain things, which means we require a certain outcome to all situations. It is extremely rare for us to meet a new person and be completely open to it turning out how it will, how destiny or circumstance will determine, rather than how you want it to be.
In our relationships, we often have arguments and get angry with another person because even though Jack told Jill his situation, Jill did not want to hear it because it did not fit in with her desires. This is the cause of most conflicts, most fights, most disagreements.
You where given information either verbally or subtly, with hints that your intuition was capable of interpreting and preparing for if you were in a completely objective state and listening to what the other person was really trying to say. But you did not hear it because it did not fit with your plans. Often a person cannot properly formulate or verbalize their thoughts, but if you are attentive and open enough, you can see what they are trying to express. Sometimes they just do not have the courage to say it.
This applies very well to new relationships when fear of being alone enters. How many characteristics do we close our eyes to when meeting a new person because we want the relationship to work out for any number of reasons.
If you close your eyes and go into a room, you have no right to curse the furniture when you stub your toe. Even moving the furniture around is no help because the next time you enter the room, if you still close your eyes, you will hit the furniture again. The fault is not in the furniture, the room or the lack of light, these are all parts of the mind.
We repeat our mistakes and never learn because we do not know the correct way to react to a situation. Every situation is different. It would be impossible for anyone to learn the right reaction to every possible event. If anyone gives you a guide or list of; 'if this happens, then do that', is preparing you for disaster.
What if it is a bomb disposal instruction said; "cut the blue wire before the red", but the guy who made the bomb mixed up the wires?
Rather, the solution lies in developing a completely objective mind that is open without placing its desires in your own thoughts so loudly that it drowns out common sense and to your ability to interpret the clear signs.
Once you have developed the ability to be objective and allow all things to happen freely, you will not need to control things, or to try and alter things to your desires. You will have developed an ability to be prepared for all events before they happen because, along with being objective, that ability brings flexibility and adaptability so you will be able to adapt to all situations with complete equanimity.
You will no longer need to force things against their nature, because that is only a temporary change. Eventually nature will take its own course, and that is the moment that it slaps you in the face.
In this way you will be able to adapt to all situations, prepare in advance for most difficulties and events and you will be right in the perfect spot to gain the most benefit and live with the most ease through all situations and, finally, you will have learnt from your mistakes. Not the event, but the manner of dealing with the events in your own mind.
EXERCISE
To become objective you must realize and accept how very subjective you are, then change it. The solution to every problem can be found in accepting the objective reality of the situation. That is all. Once you have that, you will have attained equanimity and can be the master of your own heart and mind which means, you will no longer have fear of opening your heart and feeling the love we all desire.
Stop putting your desires, ideas and concepts on other people. Listen to them instead.
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5 Strategies to Change Negative Beliefs About Your Job or Career
For some people a job is something to get through to pay the bills, or what is referred as a necessary evil. For others, it is a vocation, a calling, or something that gives a sense of purpose to each day of the week. It may take a lifetime to find the right job or career, and it is often the product of developing the necessary skills, acquiring specific knowledge, being dedicated to the company, demonstrating a sense of commitment, and for some, perhaps there is good luck involved, or being at the right place at the right time.
While there are many reasons why a person can succeed or fail in finding a good job or career, there is another factor that can have a significant influence on how a career evolves, and that is the beliefs a person holds about their abilities and capabilities. All it takes is one persistent negative belief, held and maintained for an extended period of time, when someone begins to question their ability to perform well, they sell their talents short, or allow the derogatory self-talk to continue, and this will manifest further in lost opportunities and progress.
It is understandable there are certain circumstances on the job which can create a negative frame of mind that eventually interrupts the best of intentions. But when a negative disposition is allowed to continue and left unchecked, especially when it is related to a person's self-view, eventually there will be a critical breaking point when something has to give or be changed. If the self-beliefs aren't called into question, most likely it will be the job that will suffer.
A negative belief is the most toxic of all beliefs due to the potential damage it can cause to a person's well-being and overall career potential, and it is also the most challenging to change until there is a conscious effort made to question and change it. Self-beliefs also require more than affirmations to bring about change. There may be other strategies needed to bring about a positive frame of mind, in order to help find a new way of viewing the best within a person.
Do You Know How You Develop Your Beliefs?
Early Development: Your beliefs began early in your life and what you believe, along with what you were been taught to believe, shaped your worldview and the lens through which you observe life and understand events. Each belief is established through a pattern of thinking, behaving, and reacting to your external environment. You were possibly influenced to believe certain ideas about the world and life by your parents, religious institutions, and even the school you attended.
Later Development: The beliefs that are developed and held about your job skills, along with the ability to learn and adapt to a work environment, are also formed early in your career as a product of the results perceived from the attempts made to complete required job tasks. As you make attempts to perform tasks, you develop beliefs about yourself, along with your capability and capacity to perform those tasks. Later as you acquire knowledge and skills, you may change or alter those beliefs.
Your beliefs are practiced patterns of thoughts and it is natural to use outcomes and situations as evidence to support maintaining those beliefs. It is not a natural process to question the long held beliefs that have become deeply engrained thought processes, until those beliefs are challenged for some conscious reason.
Can You Just Eliminate Negative Beliefs?
What you'll find among many motivational articles is the idea of becoming and remaining happy no matter what the circumstances may be, and maintaining this positive disposition at all times. This type of mindset is not realistic for most people to sustain for long given the nature of many jobs, the demands of a busy workday, or the need to balance numerous responsibilities throughout the week.
It is also not possible to maintain a happy-go-lucky state each day, ignoring situations you are involved in at work. However, it is possible for you to prevent challenging circumstances that come up from derailing the positive beliefs you have already developed. What is helpful is to recognize when negative emotions are experienced, so you can address those emotions head-on, rather than ignore those emotions and pretend all is well.
How Do You Address Being Fearful?
Feeling anything described as fearful can almost stop a person in their tracks. Becoming afraid occurs when there is a situation a person believes they are not equipped or skilled to address, when the rewards associated with a risk do not seem worthwhile, or taking a chance and performing a new skill or task seems too difficult. For some people it creates a fight or flight feeling that can take a physical or mental toll.
This can change or negate positive beliefs held and create negativity, especially for people who remember challenges rather than their accomplishments. Fearful self-talk usually starts with something like "I cannot do... ", "I'm afraid to try... ", "I'm not sure I know how to... ", "I'm not certain I can learn... " or similar statements. It is a fear of the unknown which can create doubt and anxiety, whether the statements made are based upon a valid or invalid premise. The more fear is accepted as real and uncontrollable, the more the positive beliefs are minimized.
5 Strategies to Change Negative Beliefs About Your Job or Career
Now is the time to evaluate the dominate thoughts you are thinking about your job or career abilities.
What do you believe about your ability to perform the required tasks for your job?
What do you believe about your future capability in your present career?
Pay attention to the words you use and how you describe yourself.
If you find you have negative beliefs you can use the following strategies to challenge and replace those beliefs.
#1. Decide You Are Your Number One Supporter: There is an expression people often use to describe how they view their life and it is about being their own worst critic. This is a common perspective when self-worth is measured according to goals being met or not met, especially when labelled as personal or professional failures.
To become your number one supporter, begin to focus on your accomplishments no matter how minor they may seem to you. What this does is to establish a much needed pattern of thought that can lead to the development of a positive self-belief.
#2. Start by Developing One New Belief Now: What this strategy involves is more than making a positive affirmation. You can begin the development of a new belief statement with something simple, such as "I believe that... ", and add a positive perspective about a skill you have that is related to your job.
For example, "I believe that I am efficient at... and I have demonstrated an ability to... " and fill in the blanks with something related to your job. This helps create a positive disposition and will reaffirm your capabilities and capacity.
#3. Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes: It is highly unlikely you can work through an entire career without making what anyone would perceive as a mistake of some kind. That is the nature of learning about yourself and what you are capable of doing.
What is challenging when looking back, at what has been perceived as a mistake, is whether or not a person remains stuck in the past and allows it to deter future progress. If it is framed from a perspective of failure that can create negative self-talk and lead to a belief that you cannot move past it. If you can acknowledge what has happened without blame, and determine what can be learned from it, you will change your point of view.
#4. Allow Yourself to Feel and Address Your Emotions: Are you familiar with emotional intelligence? At the heart of emotional intelligence is an awareness of how we feel and respond as a result of those feelings. Every day on the job it is possible to experience many feelings and some of those feelings may also cause an intense emotional reaction. What you don't what to do is pretend those emotions do not exist. You must feel and address them.
The good feelings can motivate better performance and the uncomfortable feelings can produce a negative emotion that may result in a reactive response. Negative emotions can build up over time and that is why those emotions must be addressed, otherwise it is possible for positive self-beliefs to be overshadowed. When you feel the negative emotions, pay attention to what you are feeling and work through it. The goal is to come through it and retain your positive self-belief. Ask yourself: What do I need in order to address this situation in a manner that will result in a positive outcome?
#5. Pay Attention to What You Are Thinking: You have unlimited thoughts going through your mind every day. Thinking is a natural process and throughout the workday there are many thoughts that likely involve job performance to some degree.
The key to creating positive self-beliefs is to include statements into your daily self-talk that supports your progress. Here are some statements that you can use: "I am making progress... ", "I am learning... ", or "I am doing my best... " - to serve as a reminder of your positive qualities. This helps you to look for the best in yourself and your performance, which in turn will influence what you believe about yourself.
Today is a New Day: What Are You Going to Believe?
Would you like to feel better about yourself today, and then again tomorrow? You can when you become intentional with your thoughts. An intentional thinker means you pay attention to what you think, you are not allowing circumstances and situations to change the positive beliefs you hold about yourself, and you are controlling the emotions you feel. The process of changing or replacing negative beliefs, especially those related to your professional capacity, takes time and it is in your best interest to do so, as your ongoing career development depends upon it.
The longer a person sustains negative beliefs the more challenging it becomes to feel hopeful about the future, which can create apprehension and fear. In contrast, the ability to believe in the best of yourself leads to the greater likelihood of success on the job and long-term progress in the development of a career. If you can believe in your ability to do well, along with your capacity to learn and acquire new skills, this supportive belief system will bolster how you perform and how you feel about yourself as your work. You will develop a newfound sense of perseverance, determination, and internal strength that will sustain your career.
Uprooting Fear and Planting Love
As you gain the habit of recognizing how love and fear in all forms and to all degrees show themselves to you in your life, you're building the foundation for the next step of your personal evolution. You'll then be able to consciously choose which you wish to experience, to what degree, and when.
It may seem ridiculous that anyone would consciously choose to experience any form of fear. However, there are times when it is desirable in order to broaden one's knowledge about fear and its effect on aspects such as one's health or a current situation. There is much value in the knowledge to be gained when learning about fear.
Fear is not to be avoided, but is instead to be welcomed as an opportunity to learn. Avoidance of fear won't make it go away. On the contrary, avoidance of fear only makes it grow.
An old farmer once taught me a lesson about fear and how to get rid of it. Using Tansy Ragwort, which is poisonous to grazing animals such as the horses I had at the time, as an example he said that cutting it down only makes the plant stronger. It grows back even larger - or meaner, as he put it. He said that the only way to get rid of Tansy is to pull it out by the roots.
Fear is like Tansy Ragwort in that respect. Avoiding fear is like cutting the Tansy down, which is a temporary solution at best and only results in making it stronger, or "meaner", when it returns. The only way to make a fear go away is by pulling the entire issue up by the roots. Once you have it completely uprooted, you can examine it, revealing the learning it offers you. It then becomes a powerful tool for you to use in creating that which you desire.
Once the learning is accomplished, the next step is to welcome the love that replaces the fear, for love will always do so. When fear is released, love fills the hole that the roots of fear left when it was uprooted.
Again, the challenge is to recognize the love, just as you learned to recognize the fear. It may come in the form of compassion, forgiveness, joy, or any one of the gazillions of forms of love.
This is why it is of vital importance to learn how to recognize both love and fear. This is not always easy, so here's one method to make it easier: make a list. Lists, mind maps, treasure maps, and other such tools serve to remind you and support you in consciously being aware of what you want to attract or manifest.
You'll need two sheets of paper, one each for Love and for Fear. Begin with the list of fears, for two reasons - because it's easier for us to recognize fear and because ending up with the love list is like eating your veggies first (fear) and then enjoying dessert (love) afterward. A delicious reward!
When you've listed as many forms of each as you can, post the lists where you'll see them often. By your desk, for example. Add to the lists as you begin to notice more ways you recognize love and fear.
Each time you witness an example of love or sense it within yourself, stop for a moment and acknowledge it. The same goes for fear. Whenever you hear words of fear or see an act of fear coming from yourself or others, acknowledge it silently to yourself. In both cases, congratulate yourself on become more aware of how many ways you notice both love and fear in your life. As you do so, you ready yourself for the next step: transforming fear into love.
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Start Creating A Life Plan With Passion Concepts For A Life Of Purpose And Success
Take enthusiastic action towards living your life by design. Without it, passion and purpose and the enthusiasm to persevere are void.
Dedicate to yourself:
Yes, be dedicated and as well to those you love to produce strongly a life you can love.
Instead of responding, devote to producing from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear.
Embrace and recognize:
Grab on to the idea that each instant is best regardless of its outcome. If you are not pleased with the result, choose to use that instant and one that is holy to discover and make the suitable shift.
Dwell entirely in an area of your mind on appreciation:
Slipping into a scarcity mindset and lack will become less of a practice when you consistently shift to appreciation, far from poverty consciousness.
While appreciating and extending your ideas use a passion and purpose formula of, 'Recognize/Reevaluate/Restore' in place of the, 'Shoulda/ Woulda/ Coulda,' whirlwind.
The former is based in increased knowledge and abundance while the latter concentrates on scarcity and absence. You would rather be highly passionate as you plan your life!
Be loose and ready and always willing to persevere:
Previously I discussed free material online like e-books and videos to help you along with mind relaxation and mindfulness techniques for building your life by design.
When you loosen up, you may discover yourself quite entertaining! Humor is very attractive, very enthusiastic: life-giving.
Trust that you are on the right track at the right time to plan your life and learn whatever lessons you are implied to be discovering.
Become a part of a neighborhood of individuals where you can express from the heart and embrace each other's dreams and life philosophy.
When emotions develop understand why:
Take time out to be completely in that instant and this will set a standard for children and your coworkers exactly what it means to be authentically engaged in life, no matter what is dispensed.
The inner peace and freedom-- a liberty of true free will, we may say, for you AND those whose lives you touch will astonish you.
Be strongly vulnerable in connecting with people core to core instead of ostensibly. Practice interdependency for the strength of synergy rather than the weakness of self-indulgence.
Think that you are the architect of your fate:
A Course in Miracles teaches that, "Child of peace, the light has come to you. The light you bring you do not recognize, and yet you will remember."
Nobody can answer what's life about, for you, and take your passionate future from you other than for you!
Begin creating a life plan authentically while visualizing everything working together and into location with ideal, enthusiastic accuracy.
Take enthusiastic action to plan your life by design and devote to yourself to produce powerfully a life you can love.
Become a part of a helpful community of other mind training and mind relaxation seekers and experts, where you can help each other answer, 'what to do with my life.'
Always reveal from the heart and welcome each other's dreams and life approach, so the freedom for you AND those whose lives you touch will impress you.
(Please note I suggest searching the web for helpful content whether you are thinking wrong-mindedly or right-mindedly for how to plan your life.)
To a life of passion and success!
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