Take a Breath!

Well, don't we always get into certain situations, even very simple ones, in which we lose our temper? Be it not finding the shirt you were planning to wear, or being stuck at a traffic jam or even spilling coke on your jeans - such trivial situations, with such simple solutions, but still some people absolutely lose their temper - not knowing how to deal with it.

It is very crucial to manage your anger. A person who doesn't have control over his anger can never deal with difficult situations in life. They will always believe that the world is "conspiring" against them. One who can't manage their anger in a positive manner needs to learn how to.

Life gives a person many difficult situations, sometimes only to teach us patience which is important in our professional & personal lives.

Why professional life?

Let us take a scenario. You have worked hard for the promotion you really want and you believe you deserve. But, the "not-so-efficient" colleague gets the promotion. 

Now, the reasonable approach to deal with this situation would be to work harder and be happy for the colleague.

People who tend to have anger issues may abuse or even resort to physical violence to get the promotion- as they believe they deserved it more.

Why personal life?

We must have once in our life come across such a situation. If you have a younger sibling, all attention, importance and hopes are with the "younger" sibling, as they are usually the 'poor little things' and can't take care of themselves, even when they are adults they are treated the same way. In some cases discriminating between girl and boy. This enrages some people to no end and rightfully so. However instead of screaming and shouting and bringing the whole house down there are other ways to handle the situation.

How to deal with it?

Dealing with the situation positively would be to prove it to everyone that you are also important. Work hard and excel. Not for them, but for yourself too.

But, how do people normally deal with such a situation? They get jealous. They tend to see the negative aspect of the situation and give up.

So, seeing the above scenarios, these are basic things we deal with every day or things we have to deal with in life - it is crucial to deal with your anger.

But, how do we manage our anger?

Here are a few tips one must always follow to manage their anger.

1. Count to 10.

Think you're going to lose it and yell at the world? Count to ten. Relax your mind. Breathe.

2. Take a deep breathe.

Take long breathes and say Om. Repeat this 4-5 times. It relaxes the mind.

3. Meditate.

Meditation is actually a very simple way to gain peace of mind and lessen the anger one feels.

4. Introspect.

Try to think about the situation in a practical manner. Are you over-reacting? Can it be solved? Is it worth it? Analyze the situation instead of getting angry.

5. Go for a walk.

Nothing works better than taking a stroll in the park when you feel you're about to lose it. It makes you forget the situation or analyze it from every angle.

6. Talk it out.

When things have calmed down, take time and discuss what upset you about the situation and instead how it should have been handled.

So, here you go! These are the main things I keep in mind when I lose my temper. So have at it! Learn to live peacefully.

As Lord Buddha has Said, "You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger."

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Using Self Hypnosis To Overcome a Fear of the Dark

Most people, when they grow up, lose the fear of the dark when they're in a safe environment like their home or some other indoor environment.

But, just imagine for a moment, that you're in a shack in the middle of the forest, miles and miles away from the first road to civilization. It's pitch dark outside and you're just getting ready to go to bed.

You turn off the lights and lie down in your bed. Now it begins...

The sounds of twigs falling of the trees, night birds making sounds, perhaps an animal is making a racket somewhere in the vicinity of the shack.

Now, some people don't mind this and they fall asleep without a problem, but most would get an uncomfortable feeling.

Here we'll look at a simple yet extremely effective way to get rid of the fear of the dark, whether you're a child or an adult suffering from this uncomfortable issue.

The technique is called self hypnosis.

Self hypnosis is easy to do. The easiest way, if you don't want to buy a CD or download an MP3 from someone else, is to record your own session.

To effectively do self hypnosis, you'll need to do these four steps:

1.) Relax your mind to achieve at least a light trance

2.) Give yourself a suggestion to keep in this state throughout the session and reinforce this suggestion every now and again

3.) At a certain point give a suggestion that from now on everything you say will be acted upon immediately and taken as 100% truth by your unconscious

4.) Repeat your suggestions for ten to twenty minutes per session

Progressive relaxation technique

During this stage you can simply name the parts of your body from head to toes and suggest to relax every muscle in the region. You can add an imagery of a bright, warm, white light that slowly travels down your body and relaxes your muscles while doing so.

When you come to your toes, you can suggest two or three more times to relax your whole body even more, perhaps 100x times more each time.

When you've relaxed your body, you begin relaxing your mind. This is much easier to do when you're completely relaxed than when you're not (if you don't have the proper training before. Otherwise the relaxation itself isn't necessary for trance induction at all).

You relax your mind by suggesting to focus on your voice and to allow all other thoughts to melt away during the session.

You can proceed by deepening the trance by suggesting to breathe in deeply and as you take in your breath, you're waking up. Then hold your breath for a few seconds and as you release, you go hundreds if not thousands times deeper into trance than before.

This is called fractionation in hypnosis. Every time you go out of the trance and back in, you will go deeper every successive time.

Now that you've done this three to six times, it's time for the next step...

Suggest yourself to keep this state throughout the session

This is pretty self explanatory. Simply say something like: "Now, keep this wonderful state of trance throughout this session".

If you think it's necessary, you can also reinforce this by sliding this suggestion in every now and again (perhaps once or twice more per session).

Suggest that everything you say during this session immediately becomes 100% truth for you and your unconscious will act on it immediately

This is an important step that most of the self hypnosis books and courses forget to mention. Although without this step it will still work, this simple step makes the session much more powerful.

Deliver your suggestions

Now it's time to deliver your suggestions. I suggest you say something like this: "Now please repeat each of these positive suggestions after me" and then deliver them in the "I am" form instead of the "you are". You can do both if you want (make two sessions and see which one works best for you).

Make sure your suggestions are positive and don't use negatives.

For example, don't say: "I am not afraid of the dark any more" but rather say: "Every day my fear of the dark is getting smaller and smaller".

I also suggest you make about ten similar but different suggestions so that you don't get too bored. You can then loop the ten suggestions ten times to make the session approximately 20 minutes long.

Other suggestions might be something like this: "Every day I find night time more and more relaxing" or "Every day I feel more and more at ease when it's dark". Use your imagination.

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