Change Your Future by Setting Goals

                       

When you look at successful individuals the world over, no matter what area of life they have achieved their success in, you will find that almost all of them have one thing in common and that is this unwavering belief that they WILL accomplish their goal, regardless of what obstacles stand in their way.

It's not surprising either that in some way, shape or form their goals were put down on paper long before they set out on their journey to success.

Goal setting is an important part of success, it gives you a purpose, something to focus on and when written down is a powerful way to help program your subconscious mind on finding a way of achieving even the most improbable of goals.

To achieve anything in life you need to know what you want and where you are going. Getting your goals down on paper gives you a tangible manifestation of your thoughts, dreams and ambitions.

When I say 'getting it down on paper' it doesn't always have to be in the form of written goals. Neither does It always have to be 'on paper', after all in this digital age where we have our mobile phones with us during every waking hour, what better place to have your goals than on a screen you probably look at a hundred times a day!

If you don't fancy writing down your goals then how about a 'vision board' made up of images, photographs and magazine cuttings depicting your goals in a more vivid way. Or as I tend to do, why not use a combination of the two?

Regardless of how you decide to get your goals down, it's IMPORTANT that you do for three main reasons.

Firstly, Just the act of writing down each goal or searching for the image of that 'dream car' starts to get your subconscious mind working and takes you a step closer to making it a reality.

The second reason to get your goals on paper is to give yourself direction, after all you wouldn't set out on a journey before knowing your destination would you?

No!

So why then, do so many people stumble through their lives without knowing where they want to go or how they are going to get there?

In the end, if you don't know where you are going how will you know when you finally arrive?

Thirdly, if you have goals to look at everyday, no matter how big or how small it helps you to build up a positive mental attitude, this in turn builds momentum that little by little coupled with some form of action will help turn your goals into a reality.

Okay! how do you do this...

First grab yourself a few sheets of paper and a pen, sit down in a quiet room where you will not be disturbed and clear your head of any limiting thoughts that may restrict your ambitions.

Then just start writing...

write down everything your heart desires, everything you want to achieve, everything you want to own, how much money you want to make, where in life you want to go - both physically and emotionally, every character trait you want to change or improve, where you want to live, what car you want to drive, the places you want to see, the people you want to help.

Be positive and write it all down, no matter how improbable it may appear to you at this moment in time, do not limit yourself to goals that you think you COULD achieve, write down what you WANT to achieve no matter how crazy it may seem.

For most people all our lives we have been told by parents, teachers, work colleagues and friends that these things are beyond us, we are not the kind of people who can achieve these heights, we don't have the right education or we are being silly for even wanting these things in life, worst of all when we hear it over and over again from so many different people we come to believe it ourselves.

Therefore what we have to do is break a lifetime of limiting thoughts and conditioning...

So how do we even start?

Well, once you have everything down on paper read through it again and make sure you have it all covered. Don't worry about how silly it may sound when you read it out loud to yourself, we all feel that way when we first do this, it's only natural. After all you are going against everything you have been told all of your life.

Anyway nobody is going to be reading this but you!

What you need to do next is take each goal and write it out again, but this time write it in as much detail as possible and as though you have already accomplished it...

                                

For example if one of your goals is to be more confident don't just write...

'I want to be confident'

Write...

'I am a naturally confident person and very self-assured even in the most difficult of circumstances'

If you have decided to do a vision board then post images of people you admire for their confidence or a photograph of you when you were in a situation where you felt particularly confident.

If some of your goals seem extremely ambitious or even beyond what you think you are capable of achieving at this moment in time, don't worry...

look at how you can break those big goals down into a number of smaller more attainable goals. This way for every smaller goal you accomplish you are one more step closer to the big one.

The trick is to be as detailed as possible so you convince your subconscious mind that what you are reading or seeing is actually a reality.

Once you have your goals clearly written out or your vision board prepared then you need to look at it EVERY DAY - NO EXCEPTIONS!

Visualise each goal in your head, do it in as much detail as possible, see yourself in the situation, feel the emotions you will experience once it is achieved...

Walk through that dream house looking into every room. Notice the decor, the furniture, the smells and sounds...

Climb into your luxury car and breathe in the aroma of the leather, feel the texture of the steering wheel in your hand...

Count the money you are making, seeing every bill as you place it onto the table...

Feel your self confidence grow as you walk up to give that big presentation...

Enjoy the taste of your fruit cocktail as you recline on that secluded beach in the Maldives...

REMEMBER - EVERY DAY, NO EXCEPTIONS!

Two, three, four times a day or more, but once a day at the very least...

Preferably before you retire, because the time just before we drift off to sleep is when your subconscious is most susceptible to absorbing the information you are sending it.

It's generally believed that we need to repeat something 30 times or more before it becomes a habit. What this means to you is that for the whole of the first month you are really going to have to make an effort to do this on a daily basis. However over time it will become a natural part of your daily routine and once it does then you are well on your way to turning those dreams, goals and ambitions into reality.

Having said that, setting goals alone will not accomplish anything unless you take action.

You can hold an acorn in your hand and visualise the mighty Oak tree that it will become, but none of this will come to pass unless you TAKE ACTION! You need to plant the acorn in the ground and make sure it has the light and water that it needs to grow and flourish.

Similarly just like the acorn you need to action your goals and provide them with the sustenance they need to realise your eventual objective.

All the visualisation in the world is not going to help you achieve anything unless you do something about it in the real world.

As the old proverb says "Even the longest journey begins with a single step"

As long as you take action - no matter how small it may seem at first, visualise your goals and continue to do so on a daily basis the change will come.

Suddenly you will start to notice how ideas are popping into your mind, you will find solutions to problems you previously had no idea how to solve, everything is starting to look much clearer than it did before and opportunity seems to be around every corner.

In short IT WILL change your life for the better.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Change-Your-Future-by-Setting-Goals&id=9653649

Change the Way You Speak to Yourself and Increase Your Chances of Success

A lot of people I speak to really want to break away from the normal 9 to 5 and to be fair most of them take the first tentative steps towards making this life changing move, they may have thought of a great way to make money or brought a book on how to start your own business or attend a seminar by someone who has done just what they would like to do, they may have even paid for a course that takes them step by step through the process of setting up a great money making system.

I know when I decided that I wanted to break away from the rat race I did all of the above and much more, spending thousands of pounds in the process BUT like most people, I never really got beyond those first few steps, in fact it was over TEN YEARS before I actually did grab the bull by the horns and put something into action. The amazing thing was after all that time it was one of the first ways to make money I learned of that I acted on and I have never looked back since.

So why do we do this? Why don't we take action if we want something as bad as we say we do? Why do we sit and procrastinate instead of doing something about it?

Well we usually come up with a number of excuses:

I'm not intelligent enough.

I didn't have a good education/get good grades/go to college. etc.

I haven't got the time.

I can't afford to do it.

I am too old/young.

I've never done anything like this before.

Or we put things off...

I will start Friday/next weekend/next month/when I have that week off work. etc.

I also know from experience one of the main reasons is fear!

Fear of failure!

Fear of change!

Fear of the unknown!

Fear of what other people will think of us!

The list goes on but generally comes back to that one irrational emotion;

False Evidence Appearing Real

The good news is we CAN do something about it, The bad news is its going to take a little bit of effort to address the problem. But don't worry its nothing complicated and its something that everyone can do.

What we have to do is change our mindset and to do this the first thing we need to do is change the way we speak to ourselves and this is what I'm going to be concentrating on today.

From very early on in life we talk to ourselves and what we say and how we say it has a big influence on how we react to the situations we find ourselves in as an adult. Over time we ( or the people around us/society in general ) brainwash ourselves with all kinds of limiting thoughts and notions of what we should do and what should make us happy.

So after a while all this self talk and outside influence helps to program our subconscious mind into accepting that we should be happy with what we do and what we have. After all you have a job/food on the table/ a roof over your head/ a car etc. so you should be satisfied with your lot right?

But is this really YOUR definition of happiness? Are you really satisfied with your lot?

I'm guessing that as you are reading this the answer is a resounding NO!

Well then it's time to admit to yourself that you are unhappy with where you are at this moment and that you are no longer going to accept life as it is. It's time to make your life what it can be and more to the point what it should be.

According to psychologists how we view life and more importantly how we view ourselves is largely set in stone by the time we are six years old. Just think about that for a while, everything we do in life, every decision we make, how we talk to ourselves and what we expect to achieve for ourselves is largely influenced by what kind of life we lived and what kind of experiences we had in those first few years!

Kind of scary eh?

So what does this mean?

In short it means that most of us talk to ourselves in a negative and unhelpful manner and this in turn restricts what we do or achieve with our lives.

Throughout the day we are talking to ourselves constantly either out loud or in our heads. Some of this self-talk is good - your dreams, your wants, your desires, your family, your friends, the little things that make you smile to yourself.

BUT some of it is negative and this stems from those experiences we were talking of earlier, those limiting influences that have got you nowhere. This kind of self-talk is what holds you back, it restricts you, brings you down and stops you from doing the things in life that you dream about.

This kind of self-talk is destructive and needs to be avoided at ALL costs. You must be aware of everything you are saying to yourself, whether it be out loud or in your head and when you find you are speaking to yourself in a negative way STOP!

Listen out for the positive things you say and concentrate on these instead, this is the kind of self-talk you have to nurture and as you do the negative self-talk will die back.

Once you allow the positive self-talk to flourish you will find great things start to happen with you as a person, to the way other people see and treat you and with your life in general.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Change-the-Way-You-Speak-to-Yourself-and-Increase-Your-Chances-of-Success&id=9631617

Manifestation Is What We Do Naturally

Manifestation is what we do naturally and it shows up in all facets of our lives if we realize it or not.

When you are inspired or not inspired, you created it. If you could look back at a record of all the things that you thought or felt on a subject you could probably identify what thoughts and feelings created the results that you are experiencing right now.

It is possible to start to do this more consciously and link these results to what you were thinking and feeling.

Start small and look at things that are in your life and think for a moment what thoughts and feelings you have had in that area. Interesting!

In the beginning it can seem a little vague as you start to put together the puzzle and remember thoughts and feelings that would make sense to have created that result, but you are unsure. As you practise this skill you become clearer and clearer as to the connections.

Often it is unconscious thoughts that control the creation of things but if you watch your thoughts and feelings you will normally notice their presence and content.

They may be following your positive thoughts or they may just be recurring limiting thoughts created a long time ago, either way just give them no notice for now and continue to think the thoughts and feelings of what you want.

When you think about the things that you want, do your best to feel good about those things, this lifts your vibration closer to achieving those things.

If you feel negative thoughts or feelings just realize what they are and bring your focus back to feeling good about what you want. Negative feelings have little power if you do not dwell on them or give energy to them

As your positive focus on what you want, power starts to build in that direction and energy starts to flow to create those things. This is a natural process.

So focus on what you want and feel good about it. This raises the vibration of your energy towards beautiful things.

If you start to feel bad just realize that your focus has shifted to some old pattern or thought and gently bring it back to what you would like to think about and feel.

Allow the energy to build until what you want is delivered. Be open for things that excite you as they may be the beginning steps of the delivery.

Be gentle with yourself in the beginning as it can take some time to build new habits and your thoughts may drift without noticing. Consistent self loving effort will bring great results and change your life

Enjoy your manifestations!

http://www.articlesfactory.com/articles/social-issues/manifestation-is-what-we-do-naturally.html

How to Stop Letting Other People’s Opinions Guide Your Life

“What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer

Do you feel it too?

That discomfort rising inside when someone imparts their clever wit on you. Not just any kind of wisdom, but the one that makes you feel small, in a here-you-go, punch-to-the-stomach kind of way.

A covert little criticism implying that you might not be doing something right or may have the wrong ideas.

Your first reaction is disbelief. Followed by denial. How can they be so rude to come out with such a comment? Why can’t they be more tactful or careful with their words?

Then your anger takes over, and you shout from the top of your voice, “Did I even ask for your opinion?”

Unfortunately, what seemed like shouting was just a thought. That witty retort you wanted to scream at them? Never left your lips.

You only disagreed with them in your mind.

And worst of all? After you leave the scene and mull the incident repeatedly, you begin to think they might be right. And that’s a tragedy.

Because, ultimately, you can wind up feeling that what you know and who you are don’t matter.

Thinking this way for too long leads to low self-esteem and a loss of confidence in your abilities.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way forever.

Inject Self-Trust

I used to believe that other people’s bad opinions of me didn’t affect me, so I was shocked to discover they literally paralyzed me and stymied my progress.

I clearly remember when a girl at school remarked, “Stop behaving so spoiled.” This is one of the earliest memories I have of being accused of something not even based on reality, but I actually believed that what she said was right.

I spent years trying not to appear “spoiled,” without knowing or pausing to contemplate what it really meant. This applied to all the other “wrong” behaviors I stopped doing in hopes that I’d then be more acceptable to the world.

But that never happened. I could not achieve a state where I pleased every person. I continued picking up subtle signs from others, telling me where I went wrong, or what needed correcting.

This led to putting up with a lot of intimidation at work from peers, in my adult life. Not only was I too shy to strike back, I faced humiliation in front of the group when a boss called me a geek once. As if that was the worst sin in the world.

Furthermore, I became a “psychic” over time. Others’ nagging voices had become my own, to the point I was second-guessing what people might have been thinking of me.

The situation changed when I recognized I was living within the bounds of my limiting thoughts, including those that were formed from others’ limited opinions.

What I needed to escape this loop was a good old dose of self-trust.

Because other people don’t live your life, you can only live it for yourself. And for that, you must stop listening to others’ inflated belief systems.

Immunize Against Opinions

The following ideas will help you shed chilling spells of self-doubt and embrace the loving warmth of self-assurance: 

Unravel the ball.

Like a wool of yarn, the kind of reactions you learn and display to each situation you encounter get layered and imprinted in your mind over the years. Try and look beyond the obvious issues (top layers) to get to the root (core) of it.

I spent years trying to behave “appropriately” so that other people would accept me, because underneath I felt like my true self was unworthy and underserving. Once I unravelled this ball I realized that I was just as worthy and deserving as anyone else, and I could start being myself—my true self. 

Fire the culprits.

The people who impact us at an early age can leave deep, lasting impressions on a young mind. What messages did they leave you with? By careful introspection, you can now examine the validity of such judgment. Is it wise to still carry their opinions, or can you now move on? Give yourself permission to kick them out of your life.

That girl who told me I was spoiled? I was able to shake her opinions by seeing the absurdity of the moment. I finally understood that at that age, she barely knew herself, and she might not have known the consequences of her talk. 

Find your “double.”

With seven billion people inhabiting Earth right now, with all different personalities and opinions, you won’t have to look far to find those who agree with you. Seek out your own kind for mutual support and growth.

Being around people who share your visions and goals is tremendously more helpful than trying to change those who have the opposite agenda of yours. It’s no coincidence hobbies were invented—regardless of what you’re into, a local group has already sprung up near you to bring together passionate and kindred spirits.

Know thyself.

Find what you’re good at by clarifying your personal strengths.

Too many of us fall into the trap of making wrong career choices based on others’ opinions. Maybe you were particularly drawn to creative work but decided to become an accountant because your parents thought that was more sensible. Furthermore, you ended up focusing on improving weaknesses, which can never measure up to the power of just working with your strengths.

If you live up to who you naturally are daily, you’ll be one of the few who follows an authentic life. By flowing with your strengths, you gain greater work satisfaction and become invincible in your character.

Reset your reality.

Thoughts are curious creatures. Have you ever stopped to ponder what they are, where they come from, and what they do to you? Find truth each day by doing ten minutes of thought-stopping meditation, and recognize just how much your thoughts are influenced by people outside yourself.

What do you believe as a result of your mother’s negative views, or the heavily biased statements you read in the newspaper? Thoughts become disturbing when you take them too seriously. With a little meditation every day, you can widen the distance between your sanity and them. 

Blinker yourself.

Other people’s negative opinions are likely reflecting their own limiting beliefs about life. Develop the skill to recognize and ignore these. You don’t have to disagree with them on the spot if it doesn’t feel comfortable just yet. But put the mental blinkers on, and try visualizing how you’d go about creating a different outcome next time.

Get out of your body.

Zoom out of yourself to place a particular opinion in perspective. Keep going upward until it’s nothing more than a speck of sand. These opinions look quite different from 100 miles above.

Or imagine looking back from ten years time. This incident will fade into shameful insignificance. As if it never happened. Think about this as you’re weighing up a certain opinion’s merit.

Blow it up.

When someone says something negative or belittling to you, exaggerate it as much as you can in your mind, to the point that it becomes funny. Comedy has an incredible power on the brain, releasing feel-good chemicals and allowing you to let go.

Blow up the person who’s saying it into a large balloon, and send them out into the stratosphere. And release a huge belly laugh with it! The bigger, the more powerful.

Share it out.

Bring the troubling thought out in the open by telling a close friend about how you feel. As soon as you’ve done that, you start to see the triviality of the situation. Keeping it to yourself can be a bad idea if it festers and eats into you. “Trouble shared is trouble halved.”

Be vulnerable enough to tell someone if a silly remark bothers you. It does more harm staying inside. So let the critter out, and disperse it into tiny particles.

Go Your Own Way

Don’t get sucked into some clever clog’s reckless opinion, no matter how convincing it might sound.

You could spend your whole life trying to meet other people’s standards. But that’s not a strategy for a fulfilling life.

Now is the time to start honoring your authentic values.

Get to know yourself. Hang out with your own kind. Put others’ opinions in perspective. Only then will you be free to live your life, your way.

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-stop-letting-other-peoples-opinions-guide-your-life/