Showing posts with label critics. Show all posts
Showing posts with label critics. Show all posts

Why The Credit Always Belongs To The Man In The Arena Who Dares Greatly


The Man Who Strives Valiantly

Sadly, critics are everywhere these days and hide behind their uncertainties wishing they were in the limelight. They are not only people, but the inner critic within us. Sometimes, the critic appears masquerading as a family member, a loved one or a close friend. A snarky remark here and there leaves you bewildered as to their intended message. Can you identify with this narrative of the unassuming critic?

Critics come with the territory of leadership, particularly when a person advances in their career or personal life. As my mentor often reminds me: "The higher the monkey climbs the tree, the more of his butt you'll see." Meaning, the higher the ladder of success is climbed, the more exposed you are to being judged, however that should not deter you from reaching for success. Critics are frustrated people whose time is yet to come. Let me be clear, I am not talking about those whose job it is to write about theatre plays. I am referring to those who sit on the sidelines not willing to enter the arena.

I'm reminded of an inspiring passage from a speech delivered in Paris in 1910 by the 26th President of the United States of America, Theodore Roosevelt. Titled The Man In The Arena, the short excerpt underlines how critics have little place judging those daring greatly: "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

Greatness Is A Recipe Not Served To All Men

This is not a story about critics but something more. It is about acknowledging the person who dares greatly. Those vulnerable willing to scale new heights and put their reputation on the line. This is an ode to the individual who enters the arena and though they may stumble and fall, they know there is no greater service than to follow their passion and purpose. The credit belongs to those who risk defeat, humiliation and yet are purposeful in their conviction towards success. Whilst they may encounter setbacks, their cause is greater than the critics who looks down on them with disdain. Have you received unwarranted criticism in your life? How did you respond and did it affect you? Sometimes, those we expect to be our chariot of hope will let us down, however this mustn't deter us from achieving excellence.

Greatness is a meal not savoured by all men because some do not have the hunger for it, even if it were served on a silver platter. Greatness stems from working diligently and tenaciously towards our dreams, our goals and highest aspirations. It is the victor who enjoys the spoils not the critic who laments from afar. This is the message echoed by the great American essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson who wrote in We Are the Builders of Our Fortunes: Success through Self-Reliance: "What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude."

Daring greatly arises from a firm resolve and a resolute will. It is why critics abound because not all men are equipped with these virtues. The critic wishes from afar while the champion wrestles with greater powers. The battle is not for everyone and why it requires somebody with a heart forged of steel-a daring hero advancing forward even when things appear grim. I believe there are two types of people in the world: the champions and the critics. Which of these protagonists do you identify with? I trust by reading this article you associate with the former and are intrigued by awakening your greatest power? Perhaps it lays dormant or you have yet to rouse its potential, nevertheless I assure you it is there. Don't wait another minute to step into your greatness otherwise you risk becoming a fallen comrade, a critic who wonders why success eluded them. Critics are everywhere voicing their disapproval while the champion is committed to progress and achievement. This is an affront to the critic who wishes they were in the arena daring greatly.


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Seth Godin on Dealing With Critics and Rejection

Contrary to popular belief, your business is not "just business," it's personal. I'm not saying anything that you're not already feeling or thinking, am I?
Is there anything more personal than your work? Your money, your blood, sweat and tears? Your time away from those you love?
We are not robots, we are humans -- at least most of us. We need to bring (more) humanity back into our work and business, don't we?
In his new book The Icarus Deception (Portfolio, 2013), Seth Godin is spot on with his analysis. He refers to courageous people who take things personally and do work that matters as artists. He says:
"Art is frightening. Art isn't pretty. Art isn't painting. Art isn't something you hang on the wall. Art is what we do when we're truly alive. An artist is someone who uses bravery, insight, creativity, and boldness to challenge the status quo. And an artist takes it (all of it, the work, the process, the feedback from those we seek to connect with) personally."
If you're like me you've probably felt the sting of rejection a couple of (thousand) times. I don't care how thick you say your skin is, rejection can take it's toll on you and cause you to get stuck or give up. So maybe avoiding it or "not taking it personally" all these years is your defense mechanism? I get it. But we might need to reframe our perspective.
Godin's thoughts on this are helpful. First, on avoiding rejection he says:
"Change is powerful, but change always comes with the possibility of failure as its partner. 'This might not work' isn't merely something to be tolerated; it's something you must seek out."
If your new business plan disrupts an industry or pisses a lot of people off, there's a good chance you're on to something good. You should worry more when nobody's talking.
Godin points out that critics and those in power use shame to keep innovators at bay:
"Fear of shame is a powerful tool to modify behavior, and those in power have been using it for years. They want to be able to change us by delivering shame and we've been taught to listen to it, believe it, and swallow it.
It's fine to acknowledge that there are those who will seek to shame you. But that doesn't mean you have to accept what’s given. We don't work for the applause, and we'd be foolish to read the anonymous comments on Amazon or the tweets coming from the back of the room. That attempt to quiet you down and make you conform doesn't belong to you unless you want it to."
The tricky part of what Godin is saying is that understanding how to be more vulnerable and exposed without feeling shame when critics hurl darts at you. It is the secret to both dealing with rejection and unlocking your ability to do amazing things. He says:
"But if we allow shame to be part of our vulnerability, we allow it to destroy our work. It's impossible to do art with stakes that high. You can't say, 'If it works, fine, but if it fails, I'm shamed.' The only way to be successfully vulnerable is to separate the results of your art from your instinct to feel shamed. And that's possible, because while someone can attempt to shame you, shame must also be accepted to be effected. We can't make you feel shame without your participation.
The artist, then, combines courage with a fierce willingness to refuse to accept shame. Blame, sure. Shame never. Where is the shame in using our best intent to make art for those we care about?"
Is this personal?
You bet it is. And that's a good thing.

7 Big Fat Lies That Critics Will Tell You

The negative comments of others merely reflect their limitations—not yours. Don’t let them stop you from getting what you want.



Everybody’s a critic, have you noticed? Especially when you’re chasing a dream they’ve deemed an “unrealistic fantasy.” Dealing with that negative input is hard—on you and your goals—but you can choose once and for all to keep moving, regardless of others’ opinions. This is your time, your life,your moment of truth.
Don’t let criticism or rejection control you or stop you from getting what you want. It's not what other people say that decides our success; it’s how we respond to their comments, what we think they mean, and whether the challenges trigger the "giving up" reflex in us or motivate us to hang tough and keep fighting.
The foundation for creating results in our lives is to realize that, ultimately, we alone are responsible. Period. If your dream aligns with your purpose and ignites your passion, no one else’s opinion really matters.
The following people ignored their critics and achieved their dreams because of it. Follow their lead and pay no attention to these seven pessimistic lines:
1. “The timing is all wrong.
In 1987, prior to accepting Paramount's offer to host a late night talk show, Arsenio Hall was told by everyone, "It's too hard to crack into the late night ratings. Besides, television isn't ready for a black talk show host. You can forget it."
2. “Why don't you get a real job?”
Not understanding his desire to become Mr. Universe, Arnold Schwarzenegger's family pleaded with him, saying, "How long will you go on training all day in a gymnasium and living in a dream world?"
3. “It'll never work; you'll lose everything.”
Weeks before she opened her first store, cosmetic tycoon Mary Kay Ash's attorney said, "Liquidate the business right now and recoup whatever cash you can. If you don't, you'll end up penniless."
4. “Don't rock the boat.”
In response to Muriel Siebertís’ application to be the first woman to buy a seat on the New York Stock Exchange, officials responded, "The language on the floor is too rough and there's no ladies' room."  She bought a seat anyway and remained the only woman there for nine years.
5. “It's never been done before.”
Upon applying for a job after graduation from Columbia University, announcers for NBC Radio responded to Sally Jessy Raphael, "You have the perfect voice for broadcasting, but you should get a job as a secretary. We're not using women."
6. “You don't have enough talent.”
Responding to his desire to become a recording artist, Ray Charles' teachers said, "You can't play the piano, and God knows you can't sing. You'd better learn how to weave chairs so you can support yourself."
7. “Don't even try; you'll just be disappointed.
When auditioning for a part in a high school musical, a teacher rejected Diana Ross, saying, "You have a nice voice, but it's nothing special." 
Your time is now.