Are You Being Bullied (By Gary Wonning)

According to the present day definition, I tend to believe everyone on the planet has been bullied at some point in their life.

It happened to me when I was a little bitty squirt.

In today's world, some think that if another disagrees with you it's bullying, or if they try to get you to actually do your job.

Kids as well as adults can be pretty mean and uncaring at times. That is just a part of life.

Like it or not, we are all human beings and being such we are part of the animal kingdom, and all animals have a pecking order, it has always been this way and will always be this way.

Nothing is going to change that. There are times as a final act, after all forms of diplomacy is tried that physical acts are necessary. Bullies are cowards, Most often if one stands up to them, they will back off and go pick on someone else.

If you are being bullied with just words, it's no big deal.

It's just a matter of having enough self esteem and confidence in yourself to know that what they are saying isn't true. When you have that self confidence, the words will bounce off you like water off a duck's back and mean nothing.

Maybe the reason someone is picking on you is so you will finally "get it" and realize you are not what they say you are, and you are above that kind of thing and you finally begin to stand up for yourself.

Many times the one being "bullied" likes the drama and popularity that comes with it, being a victim has become very popular these days, it can draw a lot of attention to someone, and it also shifts the blame for your short comings to someone else, it is their fault.

In this day and age, anyone can succeed if they have the desire and ability, it isn't based on race, gender, creed or national origin, to think differently is just placing blame for your actions on someone else.

Once you build some self confidence and rise above that, the bullying will stop.

In the journey of life, people can and will help you, but in the end, it is your responsibility to solve your own problems, no one can do that for you.

As long as you belief you are a victim, life will treat you like a victim.

You are in control of your life, it is your decision to lead it as you desire, and not succumb to negative forces around you.

It's all about you, not them.

There are billions of people in this world, you don't need those kind in your life. Learn the lessons they are teaching you, and move on.

I have traversed the globe in search of truth, my truth, during which time I have had an opportunity to study with Aborigine elders, native American Indians, and some of the world's finest intuitives. All of this has lead me to better understand our world and all things therein contained.



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Don't Play The Victim Or You'll Be Victimised!

Life is a school - the more you go, the more you learn.

And one of the things I've found out is that life victimises those who play the victim. In fact, the way it works is, if you lie down, you will be climbed upon; if you sit down, you will be sat on and if you play dead, you will be buried - it's as simple as that.

If you want to win, you must get on your feet, wipe your tears, roll up your sleeves and get into the fight determined to win and don't quit until you do!

It's Just Not Fair - But That's The Reality

The pressures, challenges and difficulties of life will furnish you with more than enough reasons to throw up your hand and say I can't go on anymore.

You may feel like doing so as the pressures bashing against your weary self may strongly suggest it and even your logical analysis will lead you to the conclusion that the best thing to do is to throw up your hands and surrender. After all, you are only human and there is only so much you can bear (you may tell yourself).

But don't do it! Don't give in to that despondency and play the victim. You can't afford to go by what you feel in this case. It may not be fair but that is the reality.

You must press on even when you don't feel like doing so and you must lift your head above the waters even when you feel like surrendering to the storm. If you play the victim, you'll be victimised.

Not Many People Tell The Whole Story

Some of the greatest champions in history in whatever the field, (if they will tell you), came close to giving up. They are all too familiar with that sinking feeling to play the victim and quit but they refused. They pressed through that negative cloud and emerged as champions.

As champions, they are celebrated but not many of them bother to say what they went through and how that almost gave up. And by the way, not many people care to find out what they went through to become the great successes that they became.

You Too Do Stand A Chance To Succeed

That's right. You may be bombarded by the thoughts of giving up right now, but if you press through and end up at the other side (of success and breakthrough), many will celebrate you without caring to know what you went through to get there. What you are being confronted with is not new. That is the stuff that champions and winners go through.

If you don't play the victim and quit, you stand the chance of succeeding and emerging the successful you that you dreamt of.

Not Everyone Is Born With A Silver Spoon

Not everyone that has succeeded was born with silver spoon in their mouth. Some of the greatest heroes ever known were those who had very little to go on and came close to the brink of failure several times but refused to throw in the towel. Against all odds, they emerged as champions and that is even the more reason they are celebrated. If they could, what makes you think you can't?

Most times, it is not how weak or strong you are; it is not how gifted or non-gifted you are; it is not how privileged or underprivileged you are. Most times, it comes down to one thing and that is the decision to press on and not to play the victim no matter what.

Get The Help You Need To win

Where do you find the courage to stand when you feel like sitting down? Where do you find the resourcefulness to press on when you feel like throwing up your hands in defeat? And where do you find reason to hope when all you can see is the dark cloud of hopelessness? I will tell you.

That help can only be found in God. He is a friend of the wounded, despondent and failing heart. He knows how to strengthen a man inside out at his weakest moments and most importantly, He has the power and the resources to turn any negative situation around if you will let Him to step in and help you.

The first step to opening the door for Him to help you, is to come into a personal relationship with Him. And that is what happens when you receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour. Believe me, that will open the door to a lot of good things that will surprise you.

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Let Freedom Ring - With Freedom Comes the Power to Choose Love or Hate

I am fixated with freedom, but with freedom comes the power to choose. The freedom to choose love or hate; move forward or stay stagnant; to be victorious or be a victim; to laugh or cry; to see good in every situation or not. You choose. Without the power to choose, we are not free; the power to choose requires responsibility. Choice is like breathing; you cannot avoid it.

When everything is working in our lives, we proudly take the credit. But when the events in our lives are forcing us out of our comfort zone into a growth zone, we blame everyone and everything surrounding us. We are quick to blame that "big bad Goliath" for causing our problems. Often in the midst of trouble, we see our inner David as being small and unprepared for such a great challenge. We tell ourselves that after all 1 Samuel 17 really does not have anything to do with us. So exercising our power to choose, we choose fear. When we do this we have actually underestimated the strength of our inner David.

When life forces us out of our comfort zone, we are forced to come face to face with all that needs to be healed in our own lives. The murkiness that we have covered up for such a long time begins to ooze into our world requiring us to finally conquer it before we can move toward our goals.

Coming face to face with what we fear is hard work but it is necessary if we are going to fulfill our destiny. Where to start is what causes the most angst. So I advise starting where you are. Using the power of your inner David is a great beginning.

First, make the decision to do whatever it takes to conquer your fear. Without out a decision to move forward, no matter what, you will never meet your success.

Then create a plan for your new life. How many hours, days will you work? How will you spend your evenings and weekdays? What are your new friends like? Where will you vacation? If these images are difficult for you to maintain, then create a Vision Board, but remember Vision Boards are no substitution for taking action. Vision Boards are useful for helping to organize your thoughts and ideas.

Next, identify all the things you have for which to be grateful. When you are in the midst of a challenge, we complain about what is wrong with our life. It is doing this time of crisis that we must remember just how many good things nestled in our life.

Forgiveness is one of the most precious gifts we can give ourselves. Before we can move forward negative emotions must be resolved. Come to terms with any anger you feel about any event, circumstance or person. This is a radical step, but choosing to find the good which is the lesson buried in the midst of your anger will reveal what story to which you are tied. Once identified, you can take the steps to unbind yourself from the worn-out story.

Now move your vision into action. Make a list of actions that must be taken. You must take 3 to 5 actions a day to achieve your goals.

Now untie yourself from anything holding you back. Go forth and create.

Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne. Live the life you have imagined. Dream Big!

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