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Showing posts with label motivational speaker. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motivational speaker. Show all posts
A Case of The "If Onlys"
Ever had a case of the "if onlys"? You know, as in; "If only I'd gotten that job," "If only that guy/gal hadn't broken up with me," "If only I hadn't been passed over for that promotion," "If only I'd won the lottery!" "If only I had more talent," and so on.
Unfortunately, once you get started on your "if onlys" you can keep the list going for days. I certainly have. It's like binge-watching Netflix. How do you cry "Halt"?
But here's the thing: the "if onlys" don't get you anything. I mean zip, nada, nothing. Not even the satisfaction of "Whew, that was exhausting but now I'm totally caught up on (insert name of favorite show)." I take it back. They do get you something. They get you to stay stuck in your past and prevent you from seeing, much less acting on, a desirable future.
What do you think would have happened if Chris Norton, who broke his neck playing football for Luther College, at 18 years of age, had accepted the doctors' verdict of having only a 3% chance of ever feeling or moving below his neck? What would have happened if Chris had dwelt on all the "if onlys" of his plight? To name but a few: if only I hadn't played in the game that day. If only I'd chosen to go for basketball or swim team or track instead of football! If only I'd fallen differently on the field. If only I'd just broken my arm or leg instead of my neck. If only I'd been bruised instead of paralyzed.
If Chris had indulged in all those "if onlys" and many more, he would never have done what it took to move his arms and legs again, certainly wouldn't have managed to walk across the stage five years later to receive his college diploma, nor would his next goal have been of walking seven yards down the aisle to marry his sweetheart. He certainly wouldn't have become the motivational speaker he is today, nor the founder of the SCI CAN Foundation, dedicated to raising money for specialized hospital and rehab center equipment for others with spinal cord injuries. All this by the age of 25.
Turn your back on your "if onlys." Leave them where they belong, in the past. What is done, is done, and you can't undo it. What you can do, however, is look to solutions, resolutions and other possibilities, in your present and in your future, just like Chris Norton. We humans are capable of amazing things once we turn our focus and attention to them. So don't waste your precious creativity, your resources, your mind, on lamenting your "if onlys." Face whatever challenges you experience boldly, square on, and conquer them.
https://ezinearticles.com/?A-Case-of-The-If-Onlys&id=9914159
Core Values: Three Steps to Being Action Oriented and Achieving the Big-Slow Dream
Imagine reaching a level where every action taken is totally productive and efficient. Whatever task was undertaken, great results were achieved. Life is good, not a care in the world! Wait a minute, that's Disney World! In actuality, only at select times are these high levels of productivity and efficiency reached and that's for those that are at the top levels. In general, Leo Tolstoy has the right idea, "True life is lived when tiny changes occur."
A song titled Dream Small goes against the norm. A lot of research needs to take place to find a top motivational speaker agreeing with the theme of this song. The lyrics include having big dreams, but none of that happens until the small ones become a reality. So many people, including myself, start with the big dream that ends up stalling because of overwhelm and the lack of significant progress taking place.
A better description for the dream big idea is to "dream slow." My personal inspiration to try a graduate Masters program came about nine years after undergrad. Actually starting the course work took at least another two years. Add another nine years to begin the Ph.D. program. The slow dream to complete a full 140.6 triathlon took 20 years. The dilemma here is the dreams were both big and slow so the new invented Dr. Dan term is the big-slow dream.
Is there any such thing as an overnight success? Maybe you are exposed to a whole slew of unique people, but of the hundreds of successful people I've studied and read about, the common satirical statement in one way or another is, "Sure... I'm a 10-year overnight success." Reality can be harsh, but when a big-slow dream is achieved, deep satisfaction and appreciation arise, but none of it happens without the first step.
The first step to taking action is to start with a small dream that is measurable and achievable. A key part of this is completing something in a reasonable time to give some momentum and encouragement to proceed to the next step. The small dream is one of Tolstoy's tiny, but significant changes that is part of accomplishing the big-slow dream.
The second step is recognizing that an "imperfect done" is much better than a masterpiece that isn't. The reason is, there is no perfect masterpiece and even if there was, it has to be finished to be displayed. Every once in a while some outlier product or performance arises that seemingly is perfect. However, the feeling of the accomplishment being perfect is rarely determined by the author or originator of the work. The conclusion of doing excellent may have occurred, but certainly not a work or performance of perfection.
When a masterpiece does emerge, it may not be recognized until the creator has died and after numerous failures and inferior works had been done. The conclusion, instead of trying to be perfect, do the best with what is available at the time and get something done. Whatever is created can certainly be improved, but the best improvements are made by multiple exposures and upgrades to an already finished product.
The third step is keep track of progress being made especially when it's slow. Celebrate the victories along the way and learn from the defeats. Done consistently, this leads to developing systems and processes that can be formalized to increase productivity. An overall forward movement is the objective, because once the perception arises that the big-slow dream is beyond reach, the will to finish is greatly hindered.
The dream of going to Disney World for most people happens after much saving, planning, and waiting that all take time. The big dream that finally happens was really slow to come about, but the anticipation of getting there was actually fun at times.
Likewise, people undertaking a big-slow dream remain persistent because of the anticipation of the great reward of achieving it. The right big-slow dream also has inherent aspects that make the journey a learning experience and fulfilling as well. Are there any guarantees for success? Certainly not, but better to have tried and failed than to never know if it could have happened. Dream big... but slowly.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Core-Values:-Three-Steps-to-Being-Action-Oriented-and-Achieving-the-Big-Slow-Dream&id=9952444
Don't Take Anything Personally: Three Suggestions
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There's no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing.
When I ask workshop participants and coaching clients what they're hoping to gain from our work together and we begin to write down goals, they often say they want to learn how not to take the conflict personally. It's a very common theme.
I look at this a lot, because I want that, too. In Don Miguel Ruiz's insightful book, The Four Agreements, one of the agreements he suggests we make with ourselves to have a happier life is just this:"Don't Take Anything Personally."
Benjamin Zander, author, motivational speaker, and conductor of the Boston Philharmonic, often quotes his father as saying, "There is no such thing as bad weather, only inappropriate clothing."
I live in New Hampshire where winter can make each day a challenge. And, especially when I have to travel in snow and ice,I can even take the weather personally!
So how to we actually do it--not take things personally?
Personally, here's what I do.
1) I reframe
I reframe it as not personal. Even when it seems to be, even when it hurts, I remember it isn't about me. People do what they do because of who they are, not because of who you are. For example, when I imagine other ways the person might have behaved, I understand they chose this particular option because of their background, worldview, or perception of me, which may or may not be accurate.
2) I stop assuming
I stop assuming I know anything about them. Assuming I know someone else's motives is a kind of judgment of them, and I've found that assumptions and judgments of others' motives is a trap--for them and for me. So I try to stay proactive with my inner and outer responses. And if their motives are disingenuous or malicious, I find out more quickly and can take steps to keep myself out of harm's way. I might choose to avoid them or engage them in dialogue about the impact of their actions.
3) I stay curious
I stay curious about myself and the situation. I notice the assumptions I'm making and the reactions I'm about to have. Maybe my assumptions are accurate, and maybe they aren't. What appears as anger directed at me may be general frustration at an unexpected outcome.When my family member says, "You never listen to me," I can choose to hear it as a criticism or a call for support. I respond differently depending on how I choose.
On the wall in the waiting room of my health care provider hangs a sentence written by Plato over two centuries ago: "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." As you move into the new year, resolve to notice when you're making it personal, and see if it's more purposeful to make a different choice. We invent life moment to moment. Invent it with clarity of intention.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Dont-Take-Anything-Personally:-Three-Suggestions&id=9916529
3 Ways to Get Things Done When You Don't Want To
Everyone experiences that feeling of not being able to get anything done. Not just not getting things done because you ran out of time or had emergencies come up, but rather just that you can't do it. Usually you're mentally out of it or frazzled or just plain aren't able to care enough right now to do anything. It's kind of a mental exhaustion more than anything else. Sometimes we feel physically exhausted because of it too.
What do you do about this? It's not something that you can fix by learning a new skill. You've probably already got the skills to do what needs to be done. It's not something that can be fixed by listening to some motivational speaker most of the time. Motivational speakers often stir up excitement that pushes us over the edge into action. When you're mentally out of it, you're no where near that edge.
Here's a few simple methods I've used over the years to want to get those things done, so I can actually be able to get them done.
1) Walk away. Somethings you just have to walk away from things and take a break. This might be taking a few days of total relaxation where you don't try to do anything or worry about doing anything. It might mean a few days of vacation somewhere nice and sunny. The important thing is to not think about what needs to be done at all if you can arrange it. When you get back, your mind is often relaxed enough to concentrate on what you have to do.
2) Delegate it. This one isn't something everyone can do depending on what you're blocked on. If you're a small business owner, there may not be anyone handy to delegate things to. Some things only you can do. However, there are things even small business owners can delegate. There's plenty of options to outsource work on the internet. There's temporary help you can hire locally. Heck, sometimes you can get your family to help out. The key is to get someone to ease your load and so you can ease your mind.
3) Just don't do it. Let it go. Just don't do it. The majority of things get stuck on or mentally check out when they come up are things that we rarely absolutely have to do. There's a small number of things that are so critical to our personal and professional lives that we absolutely have to do without fail if we don't want to cause a catastrophe. The things we just can't get ourselves to do are rarely thing things that earn us the most money, get the most clients, get the most things done or please the boss the most.
What's the common thread here? We give ourselves a break. Why? So we can work through whatever's keeping us from being able to do the things we think we should without the added pressure of feeling guilty for not doing them.
https://ezinearticles.com/?3-Ways-to-Get-Things-Done-When-You-Dont-Want-To&id=9533797
Moving Without a Direction (By Bridget F Johnson)
Have you ever tried to go on a trip without a map or GPS, something to make sure you got where you were going? Maybe you've never been there, but you have a good idea where it is... You jump into your car, complete with your iced tea and what my husband calls birdseeds. I have to have something to drink and sunflower seeds when we travel. It's a must.
My husband, Peter, and I will jump into our vehicle fully loaded with everything we need for the trip, complete with the iced tea and birdseeds. We start driving and we don't even know where the place is that we're going. We forgot to check MapQuest and realize my phone battery is dead and we can't use GPS. How in the world are we going to get where we're going? With just a general idea on how to do it, we're never going to get there.
What do you do? You go back home, get the car phone charger and make sure that you know the address of your destination. You START OVER.
I found that to be true when I started my business on January 16th, 2016. I had a general idea about what product I was going to offer. I knew how much income I wanted to generate, but not a clue in this world how to get there. What did I do - the only thing I could do. I built my vision board, I prayed and I did as much studying about my new-found business product as I could.
Zoom into December 2016 and I still didn't know how to get this business off the ground. I purchased a blogging package that had a HUGE amount of material in it. I knew I needed some help building the business, but honestly, I didn't know where to begin.
I signed up for every vendor's email list that was in the package. I tried to read and process everything but I just couldn't do it. I started getting tons of email! Some of them I became annoyed with immediately. It seemed like every single email was trying to sell something and if I didn't buy 'today' the world would come to an end.
I was trying hard to figure out where I was going with my business. I had no idea how to strategize and get this thing off to an excellent start. In the midst of all the noise of the emails I did find someone I stopped and listened to. I liked her and I liked the fact that she was offering a class from a famous motivational speaker so I signed up for the four-week course.
Within two sessions I knew I liked this person and believed she could take me to another level in my business. Problem? Uh, yeah sure, money. To me it was expensive, but I had a decision to make. Am I going to continue to fly down the road with no idea where I'm actually going, or am I going to get real with myself and "start over"? The only other alternative is to quit entirely and I'm not willing to give up on my dreams.
I talked to my husband; he said go for it and I did. It has been the best money and the best 10 days in my business. She has done more for me in 10 days than I did for myself in the first year.
I'm so thankful she sent that email and that I signed up for her class. I knew what my purpose was. I had a vision and a goal to build a successful business and eventually become self-employed doing what I was called to do, I just needed direction on how to get there! If you're reading this and saying "I would love to have a proverbial GPS to guide me to where I'm going, but I have no idea what I want to do with my life... ", then find someone you know, like and trust and allow them to help you find your vision.
To Your Success,
http://ezinearticles.com/?Moving-Without-a-Direction&id=9643335
Signs You Should Hire a Life Coach
A life coach is the person that is part motivational speaker, part consultant, and part therapists that work with people to help them define and achieve their goals. These can be goals in regards to their personal life, their career, or both. A life coach has the ability to see things in a different light and can help a person through difficult situations. They may act as a sounding board when a person needs to talk. People from all works of like work may work with a life coach. This can include professionals, business owners, homemakers, actors, and more. Many people feel that they do not need a life coach but there are five signs that could indicate that it might be time to consider hiring a life coach.
1. You feel stuck in your situation
Sometimes you may find yourself in a place where you just cannot see what is ahead and cannot visualize that things will ever change but you want to. You are not sure how to move forward in your emotional and personal life, your career, or your relationship. On the other hand, maybe you can see the path ahead but feel overwhelmed at actually moving forward.
2. Lacking self-confidence
If you find yourself doubting your strength, feeling defeated before you even start, or questioning your abilities, these are signs of not having self-confidence. Having self-confidence requires the skill and competence along with the ability to connect personal resources. You need to believe in yourself.
3. You want more out of life
Your life is going great and you feel like you are on the right road but you still want more out of life. You feel that you want to grow in your career, develop, and enhance the lifestyle you have, or grow in your relationship but just do not know how. Wanting more out of life can mean more success, material stuff, love, or money but just cannot figure the way to accomplish this.
4. Scared to take the jump
Even if you have confidence in yourself and know that you can be successful, you just cannot seem to take that jump to the next step or level. You cannot make that jump to achieve your dream. It is most likely fear holding you back but are not sure why or what you fear.
5. Ready for a change
You see what you want out of your relationship, your career, or your personal life and are ready to make a change. Unfortunately you are holding back on making that big change but are not sure why. You have the support of family and friends but sometimes that is not enough.
If you see any of these signs in yourself seek a life coach.
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