How To Practice The Power Of Choice To Overcome Being Broke

Your life experience is an outer reflection of your inner reality.

If you're reading this right now and are continually telling yourself that, I am depressed and broke, you've probably have been broke before, are broke, or know somebody who is fighting with being broke.

The pain and suffering of being in the state of, I am depressed and broke, is genuinely dreadful.

Being broke draws in more experiences of being broke.

When you hound yourself with the idea over and over of, I am depressed and broke, you are projecting a vicious circle of scarcity, instead of reflecting your natural abundance you're your outer world.

It is your hidden state of BEING, in this case, being broke, beating yourself up over the idea that, I am broke and need money now, that produces the resultant thoughts and sensations in your mind.

The Laws of the Universe

As a plan, this entire message is transmitted to deeply into the laws and principles of the universe, which in return gives you more of the very same: experiences of being broke, piling on guilt that keeps you in the dark rather than the light of your true abundance within.

The Course in Miracles states, "Guilt makes you blind, for while you see one spot of guilt within you, you will not see the light."

Of course modern-day society has actually twisted this all around, and is why you are lowering yourself when you cry within that, I am broke and need money now.

We remain in a state of BEING, and it is telling you that, I am depressed and broke.

This will inform our actions to act in ways to continue to be broke, and we will continue to have this condition of being broke in our lives.

The Course in Miracles further states, "And by projecting it the world seems dark, and shrouded in your guilt.

All the thoughts and sensations you hold, purposely and automatically, are exactly what produce the experience that is your life.

Your previous thoughts of, I am depressed and broke, still hung onto, created your present, and your present is projecting your future.

It can be hard to comprehend that we are accountable for exactly what we experience.

I remember being unhappy, berating myself with thoughts of, I am depressed and broke, and then experiencing occasions causing me to be more broke and unhappy.

To break the cycle I initially needed to understand exactly what was broken in order to do an overall repair job. It was the message I was sending.

I discovered there was a really simple way to fix it.

All I have to do to break the cycle is: decide to be happy. All I need to do is gain awareness, take time out, to reach deep within myself and let go of the state of lack, changing the misery and the notions of, I am depressed and broke.

Course in Miracles always encourages us to "not be afraid to look within."

If you are being happy, you will do things that make you delighted, and you will bring in blissful experiences into your life.

Being happy is the initial step towards living a wonderful life.

It seems almost like a sweet short story or a poem, however realizing how the real universe truly works it speaks of the secrets of life.

Ending the Vicious Circle

If you find yourself broke, killing yourself with thoughts of, I am depressed and broke, look within yourself and ask for guidance, and then listen for the answer.

Take that newer sensation and hold it, you are now BEING abundant, well, and wealthy. This is how to break the vicious cycle of being broke.

By being conscious of your states of being, you can choose to alter them.

The positive outcomes will go back to you without failing, just by following the natural laws of the universe.

To your natural abundance!

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Let Go of Regretting & Fretting Over Money (By Jeanna Gabellini)

A client complained that his debt wasn't going away. He said he'd paid several big payments toward his credit card bill but the balance was still huge. I asked questions about how he actually felt about the debt. He said he felt bad because "everyone knows that credit card debt is bad." My radar went up.

Did we talk about a plan to pay it off? Nope.

Did we talk about how the debt got there? No, again.

We talked about the perception that credit card debt is bad.

If you feel bad about current debt, you have no freedom. You'll hear voices in your head like:

"Shame on me for using that credit card." 

"You are not very good with money." 

"You should never buy anything on a credit card ever again."

Take note: These statements immediately make you feel like a victim, weak, and/or wrong. Not very empowering, are they? When you're feeling guilty for something you did in your past, you'll find it very hard to be powerful in the present.

Guilt and shame are the most disempowering emotions you can experience. Not to mention, if all of your attention is going to "bad debt," guess what you will attract? More of the same kind of debt!

Be grateful for what the credit or loan gave you.

Why not be regret-free on your way to debt-free?!

By no means am I telling you to go out and rack up debt. But to feel bad about what has been done is simply useless. The only reason to look back at things you're not pleased about is to look at what you've learned through the experience.

The learning is best done by being objective. Did your actions bring you the desired outcome? What other options could you have chosen at the time?

You can play the same game on yourself when you wallow in sorrow about how you didn't make your income goals last year or how you should've invested in something but didn't.

Your life is not a test on how well you do financially. We're all going to miss opportunities, be compulsive, be scared, think inside the box, or be lazy at some point.

So what?! Move on. Step up to the plate and swing again. Swing with more focus, power, and commitment. And swing joyfully!

When you beat yourself up, you create separation from self. You feel small and make the situation larger than it is.

Two of the most empowering emotions are appreciation and joy. You can even appreciate the lessons you've learned from every decision you've made in the past about money. So, look forward and backward in your life with your highest good in mind. There is no such thing as a mistake. Only experiences.

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Through Failure, a Better Way to Succeed

Success always waits to walk into the room after failure has embarrassed us. The key is not being put off by our embarrassment. Keep thinking appreciatively.

Shame and guilt cost us so much. We leave something prematurely, or become despondent, when all along it was persistence that was going to prove the way was worth it.

We are so bothered about how we look we lose sight of how wonderful we are when we say, 'Oh well, I'll keep going anyway.'

Our minds are our sharpest critic. Our shame gear kicks into overdrive and before we know it we are apologising for what many people did not even see.

Our hearts are so vulnerable. We want kudos for our works and initiative, when God is set on keeping it secret, so a richer reward would ultimately be ours.

The time has come to embrace the embarrassing faux pas and put it straight without feeling guilty. The time is ripe to make a hash of something with the intention of succeeding, knowing that our intention was sincere and pure. The time is now to be ready to fail.

We never intend to fail. We are never so brash. But in moving forward and ahead we shouldn't fear moving further behind. Indeed, when it seems like we're getting behind can actually be God putting us ahead - His strange way of reversing fortunes.

Imagine not being afraid of failure. Imagine not experiencing that anxiety that comes with performance. We can care and at the same time risk. Sometimes when we risk, we find the best way to care.

Our best successes come after we have failed and possibly many times. Success came because we did not give up.

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Peanuts, Pretzels, or Cookies: Overcoming the Fear of Asking for What You Want (By Rudy R Racine)

"You Miss 100% of the Shots You Don't Take... " ~Wayne Gretzky

It all started while on my way to Portland, Maine for work. I had been running late for my flight and ended up skipping lunch to make it in time. While in the air, I sat in my seat watching as the flight attendant made her way down the aisle offering snacks and beverages to passengers. I was starving, yet when she reached me I felt a pang of guilt rush over me as I asked for more than one snack. I asked her for one bag of peanuts AND a packet of cookies. With a smile she obliged and the guilt eventually went away as I enjoyed my snacks. It was at that moment that it hit me... In all my years of traveling with Delta, and all my years feeling 'greedy' and 'guilty' for requesting two snacks, the flight attendants never said 'no' to me. Where was the guilt coming from? More importantly, was my guilt causing me to miss out on more?

As simple as it may seem, that realization led to a major breakthrough for me. When faced with an opportunity to ask for what I want, I hesitate...

For the rest of my flight, I couldn't stop thinking about my tendency to hesitate. So many questions ran through my mind. Where else did that hesitation exist in my life? What else was I afraid to ask for? Which areas of my life were being affected by those feelings?

I got to the office the next day and decided to share the snack story with my colleagues. I asked them all the following question: "When on a flight, how do you typically respond when asked if you want 'Peanuts, Pretzels, or Cookies'?"

The discussion that followed was eye opening for me. I was amazed to hear stories of my coworkers asking for '1 of each', or '2 peanuts and 2 cookies', or asking for the entire can of soda instead of just a cup.. AMAZING!! All this time I was feeling guilty about asking for two snacks, when in reality some of my coworkers were getting much more when flying! I realized at that moment that I'd grown comfortable with simply accepting what was given to me, rather than defining what I wanted and asking for it. The conversation with my coworkers inspired the creation of the "Biscoff Challenge". (We all share a love for the Biscoff cookies offered on Delta flights)

The challenge we created was simple: step outside of your comfort zone and ask for more than you normally do. To add an extra layer to the challenge, we set one rule. When attempting the Biscoff Challenge, no one is to know the "why" behind your request; not before, not during, not after. In other words, don't explain the challenge before asking for 'more', and don't try to justify the reason for your request to the person you're making the request of. The purpose of the rule is to ensure that the focus stays on you, and not the people around you. After the conversation with my colleagues, I knew what I had to do. My mission on the next flight was to ask for 3 packs of Biscoff cookies.

So why the challenge?

Too often, many of us sacrifice our own satisfaction for the sake of how we might be perceived, or to avoid making the people around us feel uncomfortable. It's possible that we mirror our own personal judgments and reflect them back on ourselves. In my case, I didn't want to be perceived as greedy; asking for more than 2 snacks triggered something inside of me that resulted in those feelings of greed & guilt. This challenge was meant to help me gain more power over those feelings in an effort to choose my ideal response; I encourage you to give it a try for the same reason. Being unselfish is a characteristic that I love about myself, but I also think it's important to feel comfortable choosing "me" first sometimes. Before we can expect others to make us a priority, we must be comfortable making ourselves the priority without hesitation. That's the most important lesson in all of this.

So was I able to complete the challenge?

Short answer... YES! This week I successfully completed the Biscoff Challenge! I sat in Row 2 (not First Class) on a small jet heading back to NYC and I waited for the question: "Peanuts, Pretzels, or Cookies?" The minute I saw the flight attendant setting up her cart, the feeling immediately kicked in: guilt. I thought to myself, "I'm in the front of the plane... What about the other passengers? What if they're short on cookies, and asking for 3 packs means someone in the back won't get any?" It's amazing how something so small could stir up such strong emotions. I quickly got it together and shifted my thoughts to remind myself that this moment was about me, and me alone. I made sacrifices for others on numerous occasions throughout my life, this was my time to collect my reward: a third pack of Biscoff cookies. When the flight attendant arrived and asked the infamous question, I looked her in the eyes, and with a confident smile I responded "can I have three packs of cookies please?" Her eyes seemed to pop out at my request, and I felt the passenger next to me look at me in shock out of the corner of his eyes. It felt like an eternity, but I kept the smile on my face and did my best to ignore their perceived responses long enough to hear the answer I was looking for. She responded, "Sure!" I exhaled and appreciated the moment. Such a simple achievement, but an achievement nonetheless.. And it's just the beginning!

Where are you experiencing similar hesitation? Do you truly know what you want out of life? In your career? In your relationships? How comfortable are you with asking for what you want without hesitation? I challenge you to step outside of your comfort zone and just ask. You never know... You just might get it!

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Stress Is A Product Of Guilt, And How To Eliminate Them

The human being is often misperceived as a single individual. That is very far from the truth. In fact, we are a sort of apartment complex with several different beings all living in the same building.

Stress is caused by guilt. Guilt is caused by an inner conflict between two of the tenants in the building, your animal nature and your ego/personality, which is programmed by your culture and upbringing.

The ego tells you what is right and what is wrong, which is often in conflict with your animal nature - the body which has its own mind - which doesn't have the constraints of ethics, morals and cultural or religious values that the ego-personality has.

When you have certain desires of the animal nature which conflict with what you think you should feel, that creates guilt and then that guilt creates stress. This still happens even if you do not follow through on your desires, simply desiring is enough to cause guilt and confusion.

We can use a simple example, and apply this principle to many things in anyone's life. A devoted married person may see someone else and sexual desires arise. These desires cause guilt because the concept is that if you are in love and married, you should be satisfied. The desires bring question as to your devotion and also the depth of your love. This leads to guilt for having desires which could lead to being unfaithful, and to doubt if you are really in love. All this causes tremendous stress.

The solution to this perpetual, never-ending stress, by anyone who believes they have good morals, is the acceptance that you are multiple beings. You are an animal and your animal nature and desires will always be there and never go away. That part of your being has no concept of anything other than feeding its desires immediately as it feels them. It is totally unconcerned with anybody else and who or how they get hurt in any way. It is totally self-centred.

When you experience these feelings and desires which are selfish and even could inflict physical, emotional or mental harm on another human being - and you still want it regardless of the harm it will cause - and you feel guilty about that, it's because you deny the reality of the cohabitation of the animal nature and the ego/personality into one body, even though they are two totally separate beings.

The self-lies that; 'I am a spiritual being', and 'I am a single individual being' are the false beliefs behind the pain. Accepting the truth that a human is a combination of multiple, totally different and opposing beings, trapped within a single body, helps you resolve the guilt of your feelings and allows you to use your intellect and not follow those feelings or desires (because you know better) and you won't feel guilty about having those desires, even if they're constant.

Two animals of different species will eat different foods; meat or vegetarian, live in different places; up in a tree or burrow in the ground, but yet share the same watering hole to drink the same water.

When the guilt is removed, the stress is automatically eliminated and thus more energy - mental and emotional - and focus is available because it's not wasted on guilt and stress. This brings a greater balance to your personality and in that you will no longer feel the conflicts - eventually - once you have fully integrated this acceptance.

The reality through self-observation of the multiplicity of beings in one body is the value behind the saying; Know Thyself.

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The Real Reason You Can't Forgive Him (Or Her)

We all know who has broken our hearts. But here's some fresh insight from the author of The Deal: A Guide to Radical and Complete Forgiveness on the specific reasons we struggle with letting go and moving on.

If you examine your mind with any amount of honesty, you will probably conclude that your grievances are doing you no good whatsoever. Why, then, hang on to them? 

1. The Pleasures of Resentment

There can be something delicious in holding onto a grievance, in mulling over someone else's wrongs and failings and viewing him through the lenses of condemnation. We could call this "the thrill of righteousness." Unfortunately, righteousness is the most dangerous of all weapons to wield. It's easily turned against the user. Say one of your fellow employees is regularly late for work. You find it delicious to contemplate this poor fool's tardiness and to congratulate yourself for your own punctuality. Then one day, for some reason or another, you are late for work yourself. The boss yells at you in front of everybody, including the co-worker you've been so comfortably despising. 

Sometimes, we also refuse to forgive because of our sense of justice. A recent study looked at how people differ from chimpanzees in their approach to fairness. Scientists tested this by means of the ultimatum game, which has two players: a proposer and a responder. They have to divide a quantity of goodies (which could be anything from cash to chocolates). The proposer chooses how much will go to him and how much to the responder. The responder has no choice but to take or leave the offer. 

You might expect that the responder would accept any offer, no matter how small; after all, even a little is better than nothing. That's what chimps do. But humans don't. Human responders will generally reject any offer smaller than around 20 percent—even if that means they don't get anything at all. They do this, it seems, to punish the proposer for his greed. (So, in a way, chimpanzees turn out to be more rational than humans.) 

No doubt this sense of fairness has something to do with our reluctance to forgive. We want to punish someone who's gone beyond the bounds of fairness—but unfortunately, we want to keep on punishing. At some point, this "punishment" starts to go on and on in our own heads. We rehearse the wrong that we have suffered, we stew over it, we brood and we sulk. And we do this even when the offender is nowhere in sight. Again, the punishment is turned against the punisher. 

2. Our Need for (Treacherous) Armor

Possibly the most important reason that we hold on to grievances is that we believe they offer something to us. And what they offer, or appear to offer, is protection. Think about it. To be free of grievances is to be innocent. And if you go around with your innocence exposed, you believe all the buzzards of life will suddenly swarm upon you to pick your bones white. Your grievances are like the hard face you wear when you're making your way through a bad neighborhood. They are your shield. 

There is a grain of truth to this idea. All of us, as living beings, have a basic need to preserve ourselves. We react—sometimes violently—to anything that threatens our survival. Fear and anger are common types of this kind of reaction. These responses are useful up to a point, but there is a problem: They continue long after the threat has passed. We often carry this fear and anger with us for a long time afterward—possibly years, or even decades—long after the emotions have outlived their value. These retained feelings can take the form of grievances and resentments. They do not help us survive. They are debilitating. 

In fact, your grievances are your weak spot, the open wounds that anyone can prod to put you on the ground in an instant. 

3. Our Grievance Identities

Let me approach this reason by telling a story. This took place during my micro-career as a financial adviser. One day, we were all shepherded into a day�long seminar, and asked to think of a symbol for ourselves. My boss then went around the room and asked the 40 or 50 participants to think of personal symbols for themselves. About half could think of nothing more original than the logos of their favorite sports teams. 

Of course, many fans genuinely identify with their teams. Up to a point, this is all harmless enough. But for many people, being a fan is not only loving your own team—it's hating the other team. Sometimes, it looks as if hating the other team is the most enjoyable part. 

So, we have a curious little dynamic going on here. You don't know who you are. Maybe, in your own mind, you're your team. You are caught up in not only its triumphs and defeats, but also in its grudges and grievances. In other words, you have identified yourself with grievances. You have become these grievances. 

4. Our Biggest Victim

You probably hold as many, or more, grievances against yourself than you do against the rest of the world combined. Usually we don't think in those terms; but, in fact, guilt and shame in most of their forms are nothing more than hostilities that we hold against ourselves. They can also take the form of regret—punishing yourself over and over for a bad decision you have made or think you have made. The grudges and resentments and hostilities that we go around with do us no good at all. We would be better off without them. To let go of these negative emotions is...to forgive. Well, then, isn't it time you get on with it? 

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Why-You-Cant-Forgive-Someone?FB=fb_omag_real_reason_cant_forgive

Why We Can't Stop Listening to Sad Songs

Plus: A Top 5 of melancholy hits.

A few weeks ago, British pop sensation Adele debuted her new music video for her latest song, "Hello." The track is quintessentially Adele, which means it has collectively brought the Twitterverse (and even Kate Hudson) to uncontrollable tears. Her voice is simultaneously haunting and heartbreaking. If you haven't heard it yet, here it is:

Adele's musical career is built on broken-hearted ballads. But no one actually enjoys being sad and miserable. So why do we love songs about sadness and misery? Look at the musical hits of the last several decades: There's no shortage of songs about breakups, heartache, loneliness, and regret. Do melancholy melodies bring out the masochist in all of us?

Maybe there is a scientific explanation for this behavior.

In a recent study at Tokyo University of the Arts

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, researchers asked 44 volunteers (musicians and non-musicians) to listen to both sad

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 music and then “rate their perception toward the music and their own emotional state.”

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The results suggested that sad music elicited “contradictory emotions” because participants found the sad music “to be more tragic, less romantic and less blithe than they felt themselves while listening to it.”

In other words, the sad music they listened to was sadder than their own lives, which in turn made participants feel not so sad about their own state.

It's not dissimilar to how we may feel pangs of guilt and gratitude when we see people less fortunate than us on TV or on the street. Inevitably, I think to myself, I have so much more than so many people; why am I complaining about runny eggs?

Moreover, even though participants found sad music to be less romantic, the researchers found:

“Music that is perceived as sad actually induces romantic emotion as well as sad emotion. And people, regardless of their musical training, experience this ambivalent emotion to listen to the sad music.”

This reasoning makes sense. After all, would we really continue to listen to sad music if it only made us feel terrible? On some level, it must make us feel good, too.

Researchers also said that sadness experienced through music or art can be pleasant, possibly because it “does not pose an actual threat to our safety”—unlike in real life, where emotions can and often do directly shake us (both physically and emotionally).

In fact, the researchers added, “If we suffer from unpleasant emotion evoked through daily life, sad music might be helpful to alleviate negative emotion.”

Want to stop being sad right now? Listen to my five favorite sad songs below:

5. Adele, "Someone Like You"

There's something about Adele's music that cuts like a blade into the heart. Could it be her weighty, mezzo soprano voice? Her painful, and often autobiographical lyrics that are just so easy to relate to? It's probably both. 

4. Sigur Rós, "Starálfur"

I find myself tearing up nearly every time I hear this song, even though I don't understand one word of the lyrics. 

3. Tobias Jesso Jr., "How Could You, Babe"

It probably doesn't come as a surprise that one of Adele's favorite new artists (and co-songwriters) is Tobias Jesso Jr. The piano-playing crooner debuted his first album,Goon, earlier this year, and "How Could You, Babe," if you can't tell by the title, is about the dissolution of a relationship. (To be honest, all of Jesso's songs could be on this list. They are all haunting, beautiful—and very, very melancholy.)

2. Travis, "Why Does it Always Rain on Me?"

As someone who has never enjoyed rainy days, this song has been my sad anthem for the better part of a decade. 

1. Jeff Buckley, "Hallelujah"

"Hallelujah" is included in many "saddest song" lists

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, including mine. This bittersweet melody is played at both weddings and funerals—an anomaly for the majority of sad songs.

Songwriter Leonard Cohen describes his masterpiece

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"This world is full of conflicts and full of things that cannot be reconciled.  But there are moments when we can...reconcile and embrace the whole mess, and that's what I mean by 'Hallelujah.'"

What are your favorite sad songs?

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201510/why-we-cant-stop-listening-sad-songs

Someone Has Frustrated You. Now What Do You Do?

Can you keep your heart open after someone disappoints you?

…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger,jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are―Pema Chödrön

When my daughter started school many years ago, it was very exciting to meet all the parents and make new relationships. I found most people to be very friendly and enjoyed my time at school functions and drop off and pick-up. There was one father that I used to try to speak with, however, who was not very friendly. He never said hello, unless I said it first, and never spoke with me unless I started a conversation. But on the times that I did approach him we had some nice conversations.

After about two years at the school, I got so annoyed when I saw him and again he said nothing to me one day that I actually felt a little tightening in my heart. I decided that I would not speak to him ever again, unless he spoke to me first. Of course, I still said hello if our eyes met, but thereafter I never approached him to speak unless it was a necessity.

I felt quite justified with my decision. For a few days following, when I saw him, I was so closed off I felt nothing. I had shut down and, at the moment, it felt better than being hurt and disappointed every time I saw him.

The next week, I arrived at school and learned that this man had passed away. I was consumed with guilt because the last few times I had seen him I had barely said hello. When I attended his memorial service, I found out he was a struggling musician who worked odd jobs to support his family. I also learned he was very uncomfortable at school because he felt he was an outsider. He had been having trouble making ends meet and had no health insurance so he was unable to get the medical tests he needed. His friends all loved him so much and told so many stories about this man who I learned had a very loving and kind heart.

One could argue that he was shut down to me and so my actions were warranted, but the fact is that my actions accomplished nothing, and certainly didn't help me to grow. Should every interaction only be about me getting what I crave? I felt rejected and unwanted so I closed my heart. Yet if I had taken these feelings as a teaching sign that here was exactly where I needed to refocus on love and grace, I would have kept my heart open. Who knows what we could have shared? This man was going through heartbreak and instead of leaning in and showing kindness when I felt hurt, I shut down because I was not getting what I felt I needed.

That day I made a commitment to myself that I would not run away from discomfort or hurt. Leaning into each situation that I perceive as difficult allows me to cultivate more understanding about myself and the world in which I and my children live. If I feel excluded, frustrated or angry, I try to sit with it and examine it. I allow my heart to feel, and I breathe and try to understand the possibilities behind a person’s response or situation. I try to see it less about what I am receiving and more about giving out kindness and love. And I have noticed that this change—this leaning into the situations that I fear may hurt me—brings me more peace and wisdom than shutting down ever did. It also has deepened my relationships with other people.

Maybe all of us can keep our hearts open a little longer today.

Maybe we can stay accessible for even just a few more minutes than we normally would.

Maybe there is something to learn or some way we can help another individual that is suffering.

Maybe staying open-hearted is how the world changes a little bit at a time.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-gift-maybe/201410/someone-has-frustrated-you-now-what-do-you-do