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Optimism and Thoughtlessness Are Not Synonyms

Ask people what optimism means and you will get a complete array of answers. From the 'glass half full' to 'seeing life through rose-tinted glasses,' or 'hopefulness about the future.' Optimism is one of those abstract and hard-to-define words that everybody thinks they understand. But what does it really mean?

These last few years, optimism has become a field of growing interest among experts, scientists and professionals. Authors like Professor Seligman and his 'relearned optimism' or the many studies proving the relationship between optimism and better health (like those by Julia Boehm and Laura Kubzansky, for example) indicate the level of interest there is for this topic. Many attempts have been made to clearly define this concept, but still different cultures and different fields of study explain it somehow differently, as culture also shapes the way in which the term is understood and interpreted.

Human beings are born optimists

When babies are born, they are always optimists. They expect the world to feed and care for them and for years wake up in the mornings believing that the new day will bring them happiness, adventure and fun. They face each moment like there is no other and enjoy it completely. A child plays and there's nothing else in the world but that game. The child will play the same game many times, and will not give up on it but persevere in the fun without questioning what comes next. Unless something deeply negative happens to alter that worldview, children remain deeply optimistic for quite a few of their first years, until their adults begin to chastise them for it and demand that they 'be more realistic,' or 'get their heads out of the clouds.'

Those same human beings then gradually start losing part of their optimism as life throws hurdles and problems at them and others recommend a less hopeful view on reality. They will start believing what others tell them and adapting their beliefs to their environment. Little by little, their natural optimism will dwindle and be replaced by a more somber worldview.

Lower levels of optimism result in poorer health and shorter life spans

Many of the studies carried out around the world have consistently proven that optimists live longer, happier and more rewarding lives. They've also been proven to be more resourceful and creative. There is an easy explanation to those results.

When pessimists face obstacles, they already believe that chances are they will fail, that things always go wrong, that they will not succeed. By the time they actually need to make the effort, they are so convinced of their failure that a) their effort is not absolute and b) they subconsciously sabotage themselves. As soon as they fail, then, they immediately tell themselves something like, 'see, I knew it was impossible.' That new failure thus reaffirms them once more.

Optimists, on the other hand, face obstacles believing that there always is a way to overcome them. They try to solve the situation one way. They might fail but that doesn't discourage them. They try another method and then another until they finally manage to overcome the problem and find a solution. They study their obstacles and ponder the different approaches to solving them. In their mind, there is no room for failure because they 'know' that they will succeed. Optimists never give up because they are convinced that there always is a way. By never giving up, then, optimists become more and more creative and start accumulating a great range of resources that make it easier to succeed at each attempt. That faith thus, results in them doing much more than pessimists and logically getting better results at the end.

All human beings are found somewhere between the two ends of this optimism-pessimism spectrum. Realism is just a way of describing those who are more in the middle of it. Realists, thus, have less resources than optimists but also fail less than pessimists.

Optimism is not thoughtlessness

Optimism, as just shown, is not just a matter of hope and expectations, but the conviction that good things will happen through a constant search for solutions. The true optimist is a hard-working, resourceful person who devotes a lot of energy and effort to reaching whatever goals are to be reached. A thoughtless person is not a true optimist because pursuing a goal without a plan barely ever leads to reaching it and optimists never give up. If one of the attempts to reach a goal is somehow thoughtless, it will likely fail, in which case the true optimist will think it over and formulate a new alternative, thus becoming the opposite of thoughtless. Thoughtlessness and optimism are therefore mutually exclusive in the longer run.

Optimism yields better results

As a result of the optimist's natural faith and hard-working habits, optimists become much better assets for companies and in general life. They push and drive, inspire and persevere. By not giving up, optimists become natural leaders and motivators.

Optimists rarely suffer from stress or burnout, either, as they don't worry but act. Stress and burnout stem from worry, from rumination and from fear, three attitudes that optimists naturally avoid by their own lookout on life. Consequently, optimists are less often sick or tense and end up developing a greater capacity to concentrate and focus on the task at hand.

Optimism can be recovered and relearned

As human beings grow up and live, society tries to instil a more sober view of life onto them as children and young people, thus slowly draining optimism from them. Without optimism, energy is low, motivation scarce and drive non-existent. That lack of optimism results in extreme personal and professional costs for families, companies and society as a whole. Fortunately, optimism can be relearned and developed. Like everything else in life, there isn't one formula-fits-all method for every human being. Optimism can be killed many different ways, and should therefore be reacquired by applying the right tools and methods, adapted to each person's needs and personal learning strategies.

Underlying subconscious beliefs can lead certain people to adopting a more pessimistic attitude in life. Fear is another trigger, as are pain, guilt or worry. A lot of professionals offer specific stress and burnout solutions to clients and patients but neglect to tackle the underlying problems that caused the original drain of energy and optimism. Only by solving and changing those will the human being truly recover that natural optimism that we are all born with.

If you wish to recover your drive, your motivation, your energy or if you want to help your team or your family to do the same, remember that each human being might have different reasons to feel the way they do and that specific tools and methods might be needed for each of them. Ask the professional you work with to present you with a detailed, personal plan for each person. If they fail to do that, look for a professional who does. Human beings are not robots and their complexity sometimes requires complex solutions. Those exist and can be used, believe me.

Enjoy life... ALL of it,


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Creativity: A Medley of Passion and Fun



There is an innate trait of creativity inside every individual on this planet. How can you tap into this creative energy within you? Is it possible or worth it? This is what the article talks about.

To spark your creative side, you need to look within, not outside. You need to ponder about stuff that fascinated you during your childhood. Was it drawing/painting, making crafts, writing stories for the school magazine, journey by air or traveling, journey by water on a boat or ship etc. So just spend a few minutes thinking along these lines and you will land on something creative.

Drawing/Painting

If painting was your childhood passion, chances are you will do well in painting portraits and/or sceneries; you name it. Then you can sell them in open studios, galleries and/or exhibition spaces and make good money.

If only drawing with or without colors mesmerized you as a kid, you will do well as an architect. Therefore, you can have a degree in Architecture in an Engineering University and then have a career in planning and designing houses, buildings and real estate homes.

Making Crafts:

If you found pleasure in making crafts out of paper and/or clay as a little one, chances are you will enjoy having a career making crafts out of wood or ceramics. That way you can own a furniture or ceramic industry.

Writing Books:

How about writing stories on your own for your school magazine? Did you like bringing about ideas on making a simple plot? I say simple because you were only a child then. Or did you simply enjoy writing essays for the English Language class? If yes, you are born to be a writer. You can be the author of fiction stories and nonfiction books, for instance, academic books. If latter is the case, you also bear the potential of becoming a distinguished faculty member of a university.

Journey by Air:

Did you enjoy traveling by air when you were young? Did you enjoy the sceneries - the green landscapes, the sky, clouds etc. through the small closed and sealed windows? Did you enjoy the food and drinks that were served to you? Above all, did you enjoy the journey? If yes, you have the entire caliber to be a pilot or to be in relocating/transferrable jobs related to office or business, navigating through various parts of the world.

Journey by Water

As a little kid, did riding on boats or even sailing in a ship take your breath away? Were you excited? Did you enjoy the thrill of the experience? Then you should consider traveling by water as a passion for you and you should think BIG such as, becoming the captain of a cargo or passenger ship, or becoming a marine engineer, with a degree in marine engineering.

To sum up, those were some of my thoughts on creative work but you can come up with hundreds of other ideas that you were passionate about and therefore, creative as a little child. Converting your most desired passion into a lucrative career/business is very important because this is something that will help you to excel naturally and vigorously, loving what you do and further enhancing you to make good money too, without ever having to think that you are working any single day.



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Ways To Make Yourself Feel Happier

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Do you find yourself looking at other people and thinking I bet their life is better than mine? Do you see people in a group or with a partner and think I'd like to have their life, they look like they're having so much fun?

How about you choose to be happy now with your Own life just as it is? Wouldn't that be a great feeling, just to be content with how things actually are?

You are unique and can make your own life just how you want it to be, and you choose to be happy. You don't realise how other people could be looking at you and feeling envious of how great they think your life is!

So literally Stop and think about your life and all the positive things in it. Change your focus from others to yourself. Are you a nice person? Helpful, kind, ambitious, excitable, relaxed, motivated, trustworthy and so on? Look at all your attributes which make you You. Then think of all the physical things you have in your life such as family, children, partner, friends, job, money etc.

Even if you don't have as much money as you'd like, or are not in a romantic relationship right now, or have children but they're causing you pain for example, then you can Still be happy and look at the positive side of each situation.

You may be in debt or not have much money, but do you have a roof over your head? Are you warm, dry and clean and still able to buy food to eat?

You may not have a partner right now, so why don't you revel in the fact that you don't have to compromise with anyone and can do what you want when you want?!

Your children may be causing you problems, but why don't you think how lucky you are to be able to have children (a position so many people would do anything to be in) and think of ways to help them rather than battle against them?

These are just a few examples, but it shows you can turn any situation around.

The happier you feel now, the more likely you are to get to where you want to be in the future. If you have goals and a desired life you want to obtain, then you need to be grateful for how your life is now. Sounds a bit like the chicken and the egg, which one comes first?! Even if you don't feel that great about how life is currently, it's not going to get any better if you feel negative. It can only get better if you already feel good!

I hope this article has been of some help and inspiration to you! I'm learning all of this myself and love it because it's made me a happier and more grateful person.

So to summarise and end my article, I'd like to leave you with this short and simple quote "Be Happy Now"!


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5 Positive Things That Happen on Quitting Drinking



Giving up alcohol is tough, but it is always worth the effort. The decision to quit drinking is surely an uphill task for people who have become dependent on alcohol. In fact, a study by the Edge Hill University, London, published in the journal Psychopharmacology in March 2016, found that even the smell of alcohol makes it difficult for people to refrain from drinking.

At times, the level of dependency on alcohol increases to such an extent that an individual finds it difficult to move away from the lure. However, avoiding it altogether is the best solution to stay away from the severe health effects of alcoholism. The journey might be extensively tough, but sobriety can make life more meaningful and happy.

Given below are five good things that happen when an individual quits alcohol to embrace a sober life:




1. Life becomes manageable: Life becomes more structured and manageable when one becomes sober. During the drinking days, life is generally a mess and people become comfortable with such a life. An individual usually believes that during the bad days it is only alcohol that can ease the miseries. However, after getting rid of alcohol, one starts to understand that there are various healthy ways to handle stress. In fact, drinking triggers most of the problems and abstaining from it can fix many such glitches.

2. Overeating is controlled: According to a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition in 2013, alcohol may significantly affect dietary intake. Another study published in the journal Obesity said that drinking prior to a meal increases the quantity of the food consumed. Even mild intoxication can lure a person to eat more. Not taking alcohol means an individual can regulate his/her diet and eat consciously in regular quantities.

3. Person no longer remains nocturnal: Quitting alcohol will give a sound sleep at night. According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA), alcohol consumption can aggravate sleep disorders by disrupting the normal sequence and duration of sleep by heavily altering the total sleep time and the time required to fall asleep. The NIAAA states that if alcohol is consumed at bedtime, it might initially show a stimulating effect. However, it greatly disrupts the second half of the sleep period. So, if one stops drinking, he/she will not have any sleep disruptions.

4. Suffering from tedious hangovers gets over: Hangovers are dreadful and one will rejoice not having it after drinking is under control. Headaches, nausea, vomiting tendencies and dehydration that accompany hangovers will be a passé once the person stops drinking.

5. Social life is possible without alcohol: It is true that there are many who grow up in a culture where alcohol is the norm at parties or at any event. But there are many others who abstain from drinking or have not drank at all. It might seem awkward at first, but a non-alcoholic drink, or mocktail can also offer the same fun and enjoyment. The difference is that the next day one can remember whatever happened the previous day and smile about it.

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Why Sex Is Good For Your Health (Infographic)

So, we all know that sex can be super fun, is often an excellent way to relieve stress and is an essential part of maintaining intimacy and a deep connection with your partner. But did you know that sex also has some truly amazing health benefits?
Well, the kind people over at EVOKE have sent this infographic, which is chock-full of information on the health benefits of sex, from soothing migraines to making us live longer ... here are just a few more reasons to get it on!