Enhance Your Looks and Feel More Confident (By Amardeep Anand)

Many people just say it for the sake of speaking that looks do not matter. But the truth is that we are all very conscious of our body image. Some people get the thought of recreating one's looks with the ongoing trend but they might ignore it after some time because of their laziness. But for most of the time, we do care about how we look. Have you ever gone to a wedding party wearing your night pyjamas, a rugged t-shirt and face unwashed? This example itself is enough to speak that we all are self-conscious when it comes to looks.

And if at all you are one of those who do not care about their looks, it is time for you to start doing it. It is a well-known fact that when you looking good and groomed, your confidence always shoots up and that makes you look furthermore charming.

For all the Ladies

We do not really need to think much about when we need to go to the parlour. So we must keep the following things in mind:

1. Keep your body always waxed: Waxing is more a matter of personal hygiene. Waxing too has a good amount of its own benefits like you can get rid of your tanning if you get waxed at regular intervals. And moreover, we girls should always be ready for a party. Go sleeveless. Go with your hottest dresses and dine in the finest restaurants and coolest pubs.

2. Always go for a good fruit facial: Fruit facials are required to give your face a natural glow. Also, your skin requires some vitamins and minerals. Fruit facials fulfil that need of your skin. They also keep your skin wrinkle free.

3. Do not ignore your feet and hands: Go for regular manicures and pedicures. Your feet too need to look good. They are not hidden always behind shoes. So next time when you know that you are going for a party or to your office, do not think that people are not looking at your feet. They always do. If there are cracks on your heels, get them fixed. If the upper surface is tanned, get it all de-tanned. They too are a part of your body. So do not ignore them.

4. Haircut is not always about having short hair: Get your hair trimmed at regular time periods. The dead ends do not do any good to you. They might look like you have a good hair length, but the viewer does not really see it as length. He sees it as just dead hair. And also, never go for a haircut because of the fad, but do what suits your face. Haircut impacts your facial looks. So pick sensibly while you are going for a particular hair style.

For Men

Salons are not only for women. Even men need their share of grooming. Whatever you want to look- rough and tough or a well-groomed gentleman, you also need to visit the salons. Consider the following tips:

1. Go for Regular Shaves: Do not be a hairy animal. You must go for a shaving session every time you think that your beard and moustache are growing in odd patterns. At least get them fixed in the right style if you do not want to be clean shaved.

2. Do Not Be a Mono-Brow Man: If your eye brows are joined, then please get them separated in a good salon. Threading is not just for girls, even you need to keep yourself looking handsome!

3. Get Yourself De-Tanned: You don't need to look like you were burnt in the oven. Looking hot is different, but that has nothing to do with getting tanned and looking of different colours in different parts.

So always look good and feel more confident about your life. You should pull best online deals and discounts and salon deals to save money and get good looks at the same time.

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How to Deal With a Body Image You Are Not Satisfied With

We live in a society today that teaches us the correct body image. Actually, there is no such thing as the correct body image, just like there is no such thing as a correct smile. If you think your body image is incorrect for you, you might look at it from a different perspective. It may be easier to change how you interpret your body image than going through a torturous process to reach the right weight, right looks or the right posture. This article will explore how the state of mind that you are in determines how you judge yourself.

Judgments are usually based on and shaped by what other people think. When we have the ability to not be limited to the cage of other people's judgments, we may find the ability to have unconditional love. Often, when we think of love, we think of loving other people. Although that is valuable in our life, we need to love ourself unconditionally. That means that no matter what you think other people think about you, you have to go deep enough to be free from judgments.

The way you know that freedom is to look at your breath. All of your worries, stress, guilt and fears affect your breathing. If you find that state of mind where your breath flows through you without any resistance, you will be free of judgments. I call this the Easy Breath. The reason is that this breath is not limited by your mind. It creates a perspective that allows you to see things without any judgments, without any shoulds, but to accept just as it is.

When it comes to your own body image, can you see it with unconditional love? You may think this is impossible, but look at your focus. Your focus is on the thought, your interpretation and sometimes how other people would interpret you. This may seem like a giant step, to go beyond your thoughts, but it is as easy as just focusing on your breath.

Look at our society today; there are thousands of diet clinics and techniques to help you attain the body image that you want. These are great tools and can definitely help you, but you have to look at how you use external resources. When you are in a clear state of mind, free from anxiety or disappointment of how you see yourself, you will have a better ability to tap inner resources to help you use external resources. Approaching them with self-doubt, the attitude "I just can't do this," or any negative self-judgment means these external resources will not be as effective.

The first step of any path to improve yourself has to be the state of mind that you start from. This path may not be so easy, but dealing with your own self-image in your mind could be the easiest thing on this path. Most people think that is an impossible task to control, but it is your own resistance that makes it difficult.

Think of someone that loves you unconditionally and imagine them accepting you exactly as you are. Now since you imagined that, your mind created that experience. & show that love to yourself. When you accept that love, notice your breath. Relax so your breath effortlessly floats through you.

Practice this before you go to sleep and upon awakening, do this imagery for about 10 days & this will become a useful habit. Then, when you need that unconditional love for yourself, just take an Easy Breath and feel loved.

The solution to the question of how to deal with a body image you are not satisfied with is simple; look at yourself from an unconditional, loving perspective and do not judge yourself.

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How to Deal With a Body Image You Are Not Satisfied With

We live in a society today that teaches us the correct body image. Actually, there is no such thing as the correct body image, just like there is no such thing as a correct smile. If you think your body image is incorrect for you, you might look at it from a different perspective. It may be easier to change how you interpret your body image than going through a torturous process to reach the right weight, right looks or the right posture. This article will explore how the state of mind that you are in determines how you judge yourself.

Judgments are usually based on and shaped by what other people think. When we have the ability to not be limited to the cage of other people's judgments, we may find the ability to have unconditional love. Often, when we think of love, we think of loving other people. Although that is valuable in our life, we need to love ourselves unconditionally. That means that no matter what you think other people think about you, you have to go deep enough to be free from judgments.

The way you know that freedom is to look at your breath. All of your worries, stress, guilt and fears affect your breathing. If you find that state of mind where your breath flows through you without any resistance, you will be free of judgments. I call this the Easy Breath. The reason is that this breath is not limited by your mind. It creates a perspective that allows you to see things without any judgments, without any shoulds, but to accept just as it is.

When it comes to your own body image, can you see it with unconditional love? You may think this is impossible, but look at your focus. Your focus is on the thought, your interpretation and sometimes how other people would interpret you. This may seem like a giant step, to go beyond your thoughts, but it is as easy as just focusing on your breath.

Look at our society today; there are thousands of diet clinics and techniques to help you attain the body image that you want. These are great tools and can definitely help you, but you have to look at how you use external resources. When you are in a clear state of mind, free from anxiety or disappointment of how you see yourself, you will have a better ability to tap inner resources to help you use external resources. Approaching them with self-doubt, the attitude "I just can't do this," or any negative self-judgment means these external resources will not be as effective.

The first step of any path to improve yourself has to be the state of mind that you start from. This path may not be so easy, but dealing with your own self-image in your mind could be the easiest thing on this path. Most people think that is an impossible task to control, but it is your own resistance that makes it difficult.

Think of someone that loves you unconditionally and imagine them accepting you exactly as you are. Now since you imagined that, your mind created that experience. & show that love to yourself. When you accept that love, notice your breath. Relax so your breath effortlessly floats through you.

Practice this before you go to sleep and upon awakening, do this imagery for about 10 days & this will become a useful habit. Then, when you need that unconditional love for yourself, just take an Easy Breath and feel loved.

The solution to the question of how to deal with a body image you are not satisfied with is simple; look at yourself from an unconditional, loving perspective and do not judge yourself.

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Seriously, Let's End The War With Our Bodies

        

I have a big dream (some may even say lofty) that I want every woman to love the skin they're in. Yep, every single drop of who they are. This may sound like a tall order, but I believe it's possible.

The negative self talk, pressure and criticism; let's finally tell it all to take a hike.

If you're thinking, easier said than done, I know. I'm no stranger to the pressure women put on themselves to fit the mould.

So I'm going to share a little insight with you, into my roller coaster relationship with my body …

First, the day I decided to no longer be at war with my body; my life was forever changed.

Every single aspect of my life.

I had spent close to two decades calling myself fat, ugly, flawed, worthless and every other brutal and cruel name you can think of.

Unfortunately, this is not uncommon among young women.

I thought once my body felt and looked perfect; I would finally feel as ease. I would finally accept and love myself; because perfection would make me worth loving. This affected my work, my daily interactions with people and certainly, my love life.

The day I realized that was all a lie and total bullshit, I flipped my world upside-down. I made a promise to stop looking for the flaws and talking shit about myself on a daily basis.

I decided to be my own best friend.

It took a while to change the habit of defaulting to what needed to change about my body, to simply being happy with whatwas. The comparison game of looking at other women — what does she have that I don't? — came to a screeching halt.

So how did I do it?

I consistently chose to love myself over and over again ... even when it felt uncomfortable. I was determined to not be the woman in her 80s sitting around with my closest girlfriends looking at photos saying, "What the hell were we thinking? We were beautiful."

I wanted to appreciate my beauty now, with no strings attached.

And not for the vein reasons you may think ... I wanted this because I wasted more hours than I can count trying to control my body based on punishment. By doing workouts I couldn't stand, eating foods I didn't like and trying to be someone I'm not ... all to feel accepted and loved.

I realized that all of those wasted hours could have been spent fuelling my interests, learning about art and my other creative passions and caring for others.

We all know every moment is precious. How we chose to spend them shapes our lives.

Now, those hours are spent nurturing my family and being fully present. Now, I pour my passion and so much energy into a career I love and one I'm proud of.

Now, I look in the mirror and I love who I see.

Since I made this decision, everything in my life feels more rich and fulfilling. I love more deeply in every single one of my relationships.

I spend time on what's truly important to me. I rarely get caught up in the bullshit. I have meaningful conversations, daily.

Sex is a million times better because I allow myself to enjoy the pleasure and I'm not insecure in my body.

I look at other woman and genuinely appreciate their beauty and tell them so.

I no longer look for flaws. I used to be told that wasn't possible.

IT IS.

Our bodies will inevitably change quite a bit throughout our lives. We can bet on that. Yet, they're the hosts of our soul; so why not embrace and learn to love them? Once we do, we inevitably free up our energy to focus on what we're really here for — to love.

It always come back to love.

Let's join forces and help other women stop the war against their bodies. Together, we can encourage self-love. We can engage in positive and uplifting conversations about ourselves; rather than negative and depleting self-talk.

If you hear a woman deflecting a compliment, you can kindly say, "Please accept my compliment; it's genuine."

Or if she's talking shit about herself ... gently stop her and say, "Let's not go there; let's talk about your amazingness; I am much more invested in that."

We can then redirect our focus on living our passions and giving back to the world with our unique gifts. While supporting each other, every step of the way.

This is a much more valuable way to spend our time.

I hope every woman, not matter what size, weight or colour, can embrace and love themselves right now.

For we have no guarantee about how long we're here this go-around. We might as well love our bodies, the place we call home.

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Do You Feel Sexy? Your Answer Makes a Big Difference

A ground breaking study proves how body image affects sexual satisfaction.

In today’s beauty-dominated media, particularly for women, you might expect that women who feel bad about their bodies also feel less sexually satisfied. Feeling that they don’t measure up to cultural ideals, women who aren’t willow-thin should, we might anticipate, feel inadequate in the bedroom.
Although obesity is linked to poorer health outcomes, normal or slightly overweight women who don’t fit the mold of the fashion model should have no reason to feel that there’s something wrong with them. Yet, everywhere you look, beauty is equated with thinness. Victoria’s Secret, long known for its idealization of Barbie-like figures, has now begun to advertise workout wear. Apart from the fact that their outfits are impractical (short-shorts for yoga, for example), the models sporting these scanty items are as unrealistically thin as those photographed cavorting in corsets and garter belts. It’s great that women are being encouraged to exercise, but the ads continue to emphasize the need for a woman to be a perfect “10” in order to be attractive.

Men are far from immune to the media’s portrayal of perfect physiques. Although there are plenty of ads picturing 20- and 30-something men with slight paunches having a rich and rewarding social life, the iconically handsome male is shown with "six-pack" abs and rippling biceps. And while researchers in the field of body image tend to focus on the female form, they’re starting to recognize that men can also suffer from disturbance over their appearance.
This question, then, is appropriate to ask for both sexes: Can distress about your bodily appearance translate into less satisfying sexual functioning?
To discover some answers, University of Guelph’s Robin Milhausen and her colleagues (2014) conducted a survey measuring body image and composition as well as sexual satisfaction and functioning. Their sample consisted of 143 Canadian emerging adults (18-25 years old) all of whom were involved in heterosexual monogamous relationships. Milhausen and her team set out to control for relationship satisfaction, known to be a factor related to sexual satisfaction. They also measured actual body fat among participants.
Numerous studies have shown that body image concern is higher in women, that negative body image is associated with a number of psychological and relationship problems, and that people with poorer body images are more likely to engage in sexual risk-taking. Their sexual self-esteem tends to be lower, they engage in less regular sexual activity, and they have higher rates of sexual dysfunction. Body composition affects both body image and sexual satisfaction, though body image has a stronger relationship to sexual satisfaction than does a person’s actual amount of body fat, although there are some conflicting findings on this last point.
No studies prior to Milhausen et al.’s actually looked at all of these possible relationships among body image, body weight, and sexual and relationship functioning, and none had examined both males and females. The field was ripe for an investigation which could help to tease all these inter-related factors apart.
The participants’ average age was 20 years old, and most were in college. Over half had a body mass index (BMI) in the "normal" range. Each participant came into the lab for body composition assessment and completed a series of questionnaires measuring sexual satisfaction, sexual function, body image, and relationship satisfaction. Regarding body image, participants indicated how much they liked their bodies; whether they tried to avoid showing their bodies to others (e.g. by wearing baggy clothes); and how self-conscious they felt about their bodies during sex (such as whether they felt they looked larger while lying down than standing up).
The results of the analyses showed clear sex differences:

• For men, all three components of body image were associated with sexual satisfaction. Also for men, their amount of body fat predicted poorer body image with regard to how they felt about their bodies and whether they tried to avoid showing their bodies to others. Men who were self-conscious about their bodies during sex also had lower sexual satisfaction.
• For women, however, body image had no relationship to sexual satisfaction. Instead, women’s sexual satisfaction was related to the frequency with which they had sex and their overall relationship satisfaction.

Milhausen and colleagues looked at several possible explanations for their findings, all of which seem plausible: First, for women but not men, concern over body image is such an accepted fact of life that women don’t feel there’s anything wrong with themselves for feeling that they don’t measure up to society’s ideal standards. This is a rather sad fact of life—women have become so used to thinking of their bodies as inadequate that it’s simply a part of who they are.
Another possibility is that since these women were all in relationships, they weren’t as worried about how their appearance would affect their sex lives. In fact, the statistics the authors compiled took relationship satisfaction out of the analyses so that it no longer played a role. Men, however, didn’t benefit in terms of allowing the fact that they were in a relationship to negate their body image concerns. Even in a secure, romantic relationship, men’s worry that they’re not attractive can interfere with their ability to enjoy sex with their partner.
Actual amount of body fat did play a role in influencing sexual satisfaction—heavier men and women were generally less satisfied with their sex lives. However, for men, body fat had its influence via body image. Women who were heavier felt more self-conscious during sex than women who weighed less, but this didn’t affect their sexual satisfaction. Men who felt heavier not only felt worse about themselves, but also had less sex and were less sexually satisfied.
The upshot of the study is that body image concerns in men are very real, and can affect their sexual functioning and happiness. If men only engage in sexual activity when they feel they’ll look attractive, it stands to reason that they will feel less sexually fulfilled. Nevertheless, it’s important to remember that the Milhausen et al. study also showed that the strongest predictor of sexual satisfaction was satisfaction with the overall relationship—for men and women. We need to start admitting as a society that negative body image can be detrimental to men’s mental health. However, the good news is that once you’re in a relationship, working on the quality of that relationship can enhance the fulfilment of both partners—in and out of the bedroom.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201409/do-you-feel-sexy-your-answer-makes-big-difference