Showing posts with label helping. Show all posts
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Doing Good Is the Ultimate Stress Reducer



You're probably aware of the many personal benefits of volunteering, not the least of which is that volunteers tend to enjoy longer, healthier lives. You are no doubt also aware of the already hefty demands on your time: your job/s, spouse/significant other, children, aging parents, relatives, friends, your need to stay physically fit, politically informed, keep up with social media, your boss's latest mania, etc.

Don't Put Off Volunteering Until You Have "More Time." Volunteering may seem to be something uniquely suited to retirees and seniors, i.e., those with lots of time on their hands. Something you figure you'll do "when I get to those years." A laudable ambition, for sure. But you're missing out on a wonderful, easy, cost-free way to increase your health and longevity by deferring volunteering until you've run out of things to do.

The misconception is that volunteering requires hours and hours of committed effort. It certainly can, but it doesn't need to. The essential benefit of volunteering comes from the support that you give to another human being. Someone in need. It's less a matter of the time involved than it is of the giving of self.

Helping Others Leads to Less Stress. Recent research published in Psychosomatic Medicine concludes that people who give social support (fancy words for helping others) are less affected by stress. Now, in case you missed the news flash - stress kills. Namely, stress depresses the immune system and can wreak havoc with our cardiovascular system, both of which tend to shorten our life and/or make us miserable. The less affected you are by stress, the more your overall well-being increases.

If the benefit of volunteering comes not from hours and hours of selfless devotion, but from the "giving of self," how do you do that in practical terms? How do you give of yourself when you barely have time to breathe?

One simple way is to smile. Yes, smiling at people for no good reason is a way to support them, and give of yourself. Smiling at someone to reassure them that things are going to be all right is even better.

Give someone a hug. It doesn't have to be the love-fest of the century, just a simple acknowledgement of someone's feeling lonely, or bereft, or upset, a way of saying, "I'm with you, it's OK."

Listen. Listen without texting, tweeting or drifting. Listen with your ears, brain and heart. Listen with your eyes. Listening to someone with genuine appreciation or empathy for whatever they are going through or wish to communicate is one of the most powerful ways to support them. Try it with your teenagers, with that co-worker you don't like, with your partner. even when you're tired. Listen.

Making others feel better without interfering in their lives, fixing things for them, or enabling their drama - just offering a smile, a hug, your full-on listening - makes them feel supported, not as adrift in whatever upset/unhappiness plagues them. It doesn't take any more of your time, simply your full attention. In return, you get to feel valuable. You benefit, whether you realize it in the moment or not, from the simple act of supporting someone.

And if you can see your way to giving an hour of your time once a week or even once a month to whatever cause rocks your boat - do it! An hour at the local animal shelter helping out, an hour spent at your local library participating in a children's reading program, an hour distributing food at the homeless shelter - great! You'll feel good about yourself, which is good for your mental and physical health, as you do good for others.

Even adolescents benefit from volunteering. Research published in the journal JAMA Pediatrics showed that when Canadian tenth-graders in a recent study began volunteering at an after-school program for children, the high schoolers lost weight and had improved cholesterol profiles as compared to their non-volunteering peers: "Adolescents who volunteer to help others also benefit themselves, suggesting a novel way to improve health."

You're may not be that far away from adolescence (OK, several decades, but who's counting?). Maybe what benefits teenagers in such a measureable manner can benefit you too. It's worth a try.


http://ezinearticles.com/?Doing-Good-Is-the-Ultimate-Stress-Reducer&id=9684666

Plant Now, Harvest Later


Nowadays, it seems that everyone wants to be treated with respect and kindness, but tend to forget how to treat others in an appropriate way. We should remember that the things we do to our fellow should be the most important things of all. Anyone can perform good deeds for publicity sake. However, if we do it wholeheartedly, there is no need to have witnesses of our actions.

People should never forget to do good deeds, because a good deed is a nice opportunity to show the real beauty inside us It would be easier to live if we do good things to other people. For example, by trying to inspire people around us with optimism and teach them how to move on with life, without realizing it; we can also get sympathy and encouragement from other people when we are down.

When we do a good deed, we are helping someone. Besides helping someone, doing a good deed lighten our burdens and makes us feel good about ourselves. Helping others gives us a new perspective because we are focusing on someone other than ourselves. We are reminded that we are not the only one in the world who have problems. There are some people whose problems are worse than ours. We have to help without expecting any return at all.

When we perform a good deed, there is a possibility that someone may have seen us, or may have been told about our good deed. By doing so, we are able to develop a good morale that could sometimes wiped out some of our other flaws. Just like anybody else, each of us have imperfections.

When we share what we have, we may find that the rewards are so great because of the feeling of a sense of self-satisfaction and self-gratification. We are able to help people in their times of need. It's incomparable. We may not have all the material wealth but our moral support can also be of great help.

In addition, our good deeds may influence our children and other people in our community to follow suit. Without having to convince others, just by simply by doing, we influence and lead others by our example.By building a reputation as an honorable person, we feel powerful and able to stand taller, and present ourselves as someone who is worth loving, caring, even hiring and promoting. When we are generous with our fellow, they will, in turn, be generous with us.

Instead of wasting time and energy in complaining about other people's misbehavior, we can start assessing ourselves and then be a role model to our friends and family. By leading a good example to help, the world will become a better place to live in. By encouraging others to move on, we can truly feel some comfort in knowing that when we ever need help, there is a good chance that there will be someone out there to help us in our time of need.

In doing good deeds, we are attracting other people to do the same. If we plant it now, we will harvest its fruits later when we encounter the same predicament.

If we invest good deeds today; we will surely harvest the return of our investment in the future.