Helping a Family Member or Friend With Drug Abuse and Addiction Problems

Everyone around an addict knows that he or she needs help with addiction, but often the addict cannot see it. Many die just like that. Our goal is to try to provide the family with as much information as possible regarding the intervention process.

An addict often knows in the back of his heart that he or she needs help to break the cycle for enough time to receive the necessary help. An example that is very common is when an addict encounters a major problem (for example they arrest him, throw him out of his house, lose his job) and at that moment he is perfectly willing to discuss his addiction with his loved ones. Unfortunately, if this opportunity is not quickly taken advantage of, the desire to consume the drug and the overwhelming environment will force the individual to use it again and it will be some time before he or she finds the strength to embrace rehabilitation.

What are the reasons for the addict?

The addict has things in their past or in their present that seem like devastating events that have something to do with substance addiction. An example is an addict who has lost his best friends because of his addiction. Another example is a person who loses his wife and child for drug abuse. A family member can look at the life of the addict and see hundreds of reasons why the addict should give up drugs, but unfortunately these reasons are not REAL for the addict. There are, however, problems that the addict finds to be real or significant in the life of the addict, which the addict sees as reasons for giving up the use of drugs. It is important to identify these because they can be used during the intervention to remind the addict why they should seek help.

What pressure does the addict feel now?

The addict does not necessarily have the same reality about his addiction as the non-addicts may have. For example, he or she may have half serious health problems, no friend or work or income, but feel like things are "more or less okay." Many addicts have actually overdosed and been close to death, and are using drugs the very next day. This may seem crazy, but it is actually only part of the addict's pain.

With this in mind, the addict occasionally encounters additional pressure, which forces him to make a real decision on whether he gets help or continues to use. Pending legal fees that can easily lead to jail, threats to lose your husband or wife, loss of pending work, are all possible situations that can put enough pressure on the addict to fight drug abuse and addiction, and seek help.

Although a particular one may not work in your situation, there are pressures that may have weight and that will help stimulate the addict to a decision to seek help. It is easy to assume that the addict is simply "trying to avoid going to jail" or some other evaluation that is in many cases true. The fact is that an addict will only seek help when someone or something pulls him out of his "comfort zone of addiction" and forces him to make a decision. Addicts with access to money, a place to live, and people who agree with their use and no legal problem rarely seek help. They "have no problems". It is very important to understand this and will be crucial in any attempt to intervene.

Who should be there to help?

One of the biggest considerations in the intervention is choosing who will be there. We must think this matter out in advance. The number of people present is less important than who is there. If possible, the person the addict respects the most must be present. This person is an opinion leader for the addict and has to be there to give full support to the fact that the person receives help and should be well-informed about the actual agenda.

As many family members as possible should be there as long as each and every one of them fully agrees about the fact that the person needs help and supports the overall agenda. If there is someone antagonistic in the family against the addict and is not able to control themselves from presenting arguments and accusations, then you may consider leaving that person off.

Generally, the addict has many enemies and has done wrong to the majority of the family but the arguments and the indisposition do not benefit the cause of making the addict seek treatment. In fact, it usually results in preventing this from happening because the focus of attention is placed on the discussion and not on the issue that concerns us.

There are also ways to introduce the addict through some 24/7 Helpline support. This kind of support passively drives the addict to realize their problems have solutions, motivating him or her to take the first step.

https://ezinearticles.com/?Helping-a-Family-Member-or-Friend-With-Drug-Abuse-and-Addiction-Problems&id=9662253

Five Thoughts You Think Before Giving Up

The hardest part about making the decision to give up is that there is always a fine line between the give up and success axis. We have all been on both ends of the spectrum; the times when you finally broke through and achieved your goal; and the time when you have quit just shy of the goal line. Perhaps the most influencing part about going one way or the other on that line is the thoughts you think right before that decision. Here are 5 of the most common thoughts people think before giving up on an intended goal.

"This is just too hard"

This one is heard all too commonly. Everything is fine and dandy until its gets just hard enough to reach your breaking point where the brain says this is too uncomfortable and I am at my limit. So then your brain signals to your body to just stop working on what ever it is that you are doing. It's not your brain's fault as this is what it is designed to do. The issue is though, is that goals and accomplishments worth doing are almost always hard and difficult to accomplish, but that is simply what makes it worth the hardship you'll go through; to see the glory of the other side.

"This is not worth it"

Most that use this one are the ones who have been in the trenches so long that they have lost sight of the real intended goal and more importantly the reason why they started in the first place. At this point in their mind, the struggle of working towards the goal now out weighs the intended emotion received with the accomplishment of the goal. In this case the best action to take is to stop the work and go back to look at the reasoning of the intended project and the outcome that it would accomplish. Most of the time that feeling will be reinvigorated and struggle will lessen enough to complete the task; finishing the goal.

"I can't do this"

Closely related to our first reason with some subtle differences. The first reason dealt with the brain's defense mechanism to activate and give reasons to stay in that comfort zone; this reason though is a direct reflection of self worth and the judgement on which you give your abilities to complete the task. You have deemed yourself unworthy by your own accord to be the one who has success at this goal. Simple way to reverse this is drop the letter "t" off of can't and turn it into I can. Simple positive affirmations go a long way in overcoming the "I can't" plague, and the results it has can be pretty amazing too.

"They didn't finish, why should I?"

Another easy justification to let yourself off of the hook. If others put in effort and didn't make it, what makes me think I can make it? This is the age old trap of putting yourself on the level of everyone else and limiting your personal power to join the average crowd. When you level yourself to others who have already given up, you essentially say "I will only ever be as good as them and nothing more". It takes all of your own individual talents and gumption, and throws them right out the window. It should not matter what anyone has said or done, you are not everyone else nor do you ever have to be. Show your personal ethics in such a way that that average crowd turns around and beings to marvel at you, now making you the standard that they follow and not the other way around.

"I'll do this later"

Some may argue that this is not necessarily a thought of giving up; it essentially is though. While I warrant the sometimes this can be used in the proper manner without the thought of never returning to it; it is mostly used in the negative way. This is a synonym for 'I give up'. Putting a task off for "later" means that your brain is using one of its many distractive techniques to keep you in a comfortable state and not challenge you. You know that later never comes, and therefore the goal never gets done. Instead, perform at least a little task that can be completed in a short time, ensuring that you will get it done, since you have already started.

Giving up develops a habitual nature of negativity that will consume your daily life if allowed. Remember these 5 thoughts the next time that lazy monster rears its ugly head, pushing you from giving up and sending you into victory lane with all of your goals and dreams.

https://ezinearticles.com/?Five-Thoughts-You-Think-Before-Giving-Up&id=9971782

Three Ways to Get UN-Stuck

We all get stuck. We get stuck on a task we can't get past or over-analyzing what we're doing. We get stuck in a rut. We get stuck on getting stuck! It's one of the most frustrating feelings to be stuck. Sometimes we know what to do but we don't. We're either at a loss for what to do or how to do what comes next. Sometimes we have no idea why or desire to do what we should be doing.

There are three primary reasons we get stuck.

Don't know what to do next.

Don't know how to do what's next.

Don't know, or care, why we should do what's next.

Let's look at how to get past these causes for getting stuck and how we can get past them.

What - When we don't know what to do next, it's like being a rudderless boat in the middle of the ocean. We have no control over our course, speed or destination. The simple solution is to go back to our goals and compare them to where we are now. It should be pretty obvious what the next step is. If it's not, go back and work on your goals some more to refine them. If you don't have goals, now's the time to set them.

How - Sometimes the task in front of us is so large, it's not conceivable that we could tackle it. The best remedy is to break down the task into its sub tasks until you can't break it down any farther. Now you should be able to understand them and see how you can achieve them. Then start at the beginning and work through them. Other times we simply don't have the knowledge. We can see what needs to be done, but literally just lack the know-how or skills. If so, we can get the training, either online or in formal classes or books, or get someone else to do the task who does know how.

Why - It happens when we lose our motivation and apathy sets in. It's when we're in the greatest danger of giving up. Not failing. Giving up. It's OK to fail. You have to have failures in order to learn from them. Giving up teaches us nothing at all. When we lose our Why and stop caring, we can go back to our goals and see what we put down as our Why when we set them. Are they still valid and motivate us? Are the rewards still there? Or is it that the goal itself is no longer important? That happens more often than we realize. It's OK to let go of a goal. The key is to create others to replace it or change our focus to other goals we're keeping. If we don't, we're giving up. Don't give up.

https://ezinearticles.com/?Three-Ways-to-Get-UN-Stuck&id=9530325

Giving Up Is for Losers

If you ever feel like giving up, here's a little something to think about: What do 100% of everyone who give up have in common?

Please read on as you ponder this question.

When I claim that 'giving up is for losers', I'm not being pretentiously cynical. On the contrary, I'm being as literal as possible.

You see, when you give up on something, losing is inevitable. Losing, by definition, is a direct consequence of giving up.

We might have many a good reason for giving up on something. We might find out it's not what we really want - or need. Maybe we don't want it bad enough to hone the necessary skills. Maybe it didn't align with our personal values.

But whatever the reason for quitting, it will necessarily mean not succeeding.

So, reversely, does this mean that simply keeping at something will necessarily result in success?

Actually... Yeah, pretty much!

Of course, there are parameters that need to be in order. You gotta know what you're doing. You gotta do the right things, and preferably in the right sequence.

But you're not gonna succeed unless you keep at it, and never, ever give up.

This is what having a strong confidence will help you do.

Think of it like this: Hypothetically, if you have exactly ZERO confidence in yourself, how far are you going to get in life?

Yeah, pretty much nowhere. Because, if you believe you literally can't do anything whatsoever, why would you even bother?

But just imagine what it would be like if you had the highest possible level of confidence in the world.

Man, you'd be out there. Struggling. Sucking up blow upon devastating blow; getting on your feet over and over. Making no excuses; persisting no matter what.

Winning!

Because you'd not only think, but know that success was inevitable.

And you know what? Sometimes, this is kind of what not giving up feels like. (And, just to clear all doubt: It feels terrific.)

By now, you might have guessed the obvious answer to the initial question: What do 100% of everyone who give up have in common?

That's right: THEY LOSE.

Does this mean that you shouldn't abandon any project that no longer serves you? Of course not!

I kept holding on to my education for years. Because there was a part of me that would feel like I'd suffer defeat if I didn't get my master's degree. But when I finally took the decision of letting it go and becoming an entrepreneur, it was the best thing I'd ever done for myself.

Now, I'm not taking any responsibility if you all decide to drop out after reading this. But I'm saying that whatever we need to never give up on should, ideally, be something that matters so much to us that giving up on it really would be a defeat.

There are enough losers as it is. Don't become one.

Now, as for what you should be forever devoted to, that's entirely up to you.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Giving-Up-Is-for-Losers&id=9762774

Feeling a Little Off? Try These Affirmations

Everyone has days when we're not feeling 100%. I get tired, or grumpy, or just irritated with stupid people/things/circumstances. And I get impatient with the things that I really want to change that haven't yet. I wonder if I'm ever going to get out of my office job... which every single day feels more like a prison. I don't feel quite so young, or invincible. Do you ever have days like that, Dear Reader?

It would be easy on those days, to stay in bed, and eat donuts...

I don't recommend it, however. That just feels too much like giving up, and it goes against every fiber in my body. Instead, I have a checklist of sorts, that I run through to guide me out of self-indulgent wallowing, and back to what I think of as "myself."

Let me digress, for just a moment, and tell you what that means to me. I think the way we view ourselves is such an essential part of the way we interact with everyone else. I see myself as a buoyant person, someone who rises to the top in any given situation. I am happy, positive... I'm passionate, and determined, and unstoppable when focused. That's how I see my "true" self.

But on my grumpy, foggy days, I'm not quite so sparkly, and I'm less focused in general. I do well when I know why things are happening. So, my first order of business on off days, is to figure out the reason(s) I might be feeling this way.

• Did I get enough sleep?
• Am I hungry/thirsty?
• Is someone bothering me, and why?

Sometimes, something someone said/did or something I said/did will bother me and I'm not really sure why. Sometimes, it's because I'm not entirely sure if I've offended someone. Sometimes it's because I'm afraid I may have made a fool of myself. Sometimes, I'm irritated because I've perceived some slight or insult. And usually, unless it's pretty blatant, it'll just sit in the back of my head like a little piece of sand that is irritating without being really obvious. But if I think about it for a minute, and I realize what's bothering me, it's much easier to let that embarrassment/irritation go. That's weight I don't need to be carrying around. If it's something I know I need to apologize for, then I do it. Usually, it's a matter of sending a quick text or email, or making a call. An apology goes a long way. And if that's not really necessary, if I just need to forgive myself or forgive someone else for being inconsiderate, or rude, or just plain dumb, then I take a deep breath, and let it go. I imagine a bird flying right out of the top of my head. Give it a try, it's liberating.

Most times, the reason for the fog I'm feeling can be addressed by one or more of those questions. Next, I get to work pulling myself up by my bootstraps. Because why would I want to waste time feeling anything less than amazing? I walk myself through a series of affirmations. I love affirmations. You're the one with constant communication with yourself, that's a powerful tool!

The way you talk to yourself is a central, key part of your attitude and ultimately, your success. Now, if you've never talked to yourself intentionally, it feels a little funny at first. A little practice goes a long way!

Most of us don't even realize how we're talking to ourselves. The things we think about ourselves are a result of habit, and what we've taken from what other's say about us. But the reality is, we each have tremendous power, and it starts with how we're speaking to ourselves. If you're not intentional in what you say to yourself, it's time to take control. Here are some of my favorites.

• I am a beautiful person. I think so many times we (especially women!) can think this and include everything but our physical bodies. Dear Reader, I believe everyone can be beautiful, physically, and spiritually. It all starts with how you feel/think about yourself. Women struggle with this sooooo much. Ladies, you are beautiful... and your men agree with me! Be brave, little piglet... go to the mirror, and find three things that are beautiful. Every morning, I wake up and I'm grateful for a beautiful body that is strong. I'm grateful for beautiful hair, and skin/teeth/nails. And I tell myself all those things are beautiful. Does everyone have to agree with me? Nope. I'm speaking to myself here... and here's the important part, I let myself believe it and feel that it's true. That's where the magic starts to happen.

• I deserve to be happy. In fact, I deserve everything I want in life: love, happiness, success. This one gets after my habit of shame and guilt, and I can tell you, it's been a long road to actually believe that I deserve those things. But I am worthy (that is such a charged word!) of all of those things and so much more. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that one. Feel it in your roots, it feels amazing.

• The universe is full of infinite abundance, and opportunities. There's plenty of room at the top. This one is aimed, in particular, at my competitive side. Here's the thing with competition, it teaches us that there's only room for one at the top. It teaches us that when one person succeeds, it means it's because everyone else did not. But that's a myth, Dear Reader. It's just not true. That's a limiting thought, and I don't have time for limitations. There's plenty of room for my success at the top, and that's where I'm headed.
• Each of those is very personal. Your affirmations should be tailored to your weaknesses, and your goals. Taking that first step of taking control of the messages you're sending yourself is a huge step in the right direction. What do you do that works for pulling yourself out of a funk?

http://ezinearticles.com/?Feeling-a-Little-Off?-Try-These-Affirmations&id=9329396

5 Stupid Excuses for Giving Up

There's a saying that goes: "If it's important to you, you'll find a way. If not, you'll find an excuse."

Boom. Love it.

If a project is neither necessary or interesting for you anymore, there's no shame in abandoning it. But otherwise, there are only excuses for giving up on working towards our deepest dreams and desires.

And I wage that there are only stupid excuses for giving up the project of building one's confidence.

With that, I hereby line up five of these excuses and debunk them one at a time:

#1. "I've tried everything"

First of all, no you haven't. Because if you did, you'd have succeeded.

Second, let's even say for a moment, hypothetically, that you'd literally tried everything and still not succeeded. Ask yourself what's most likely: That A) somehow it just doesn't work for you out of everyone who's tried everything, ever, or that B) there's one or more steps which you simply haven't done properly.

#2. "It's too hard"

Too hard for what?? Nothing is "too hard" if you do it in achievable magnitudes. In other words: Break it down into smaller bits and don't do more than possible at a time.

Even if you're about to take on a major endeavour, you gotta start wherever you're at. And all the better if you start slowly and accelerate gradually. If you're gonna run a marathon, you're not gonna start off by doing all 26 miles at once. But if you can run 20 minutes three times a week, you're off to a decent start.

Wanna start your own business? Read the three best books in your field and you'll be way ahead of the vast majority.

#3. "I've given up on everything else, once more won't make any difference"

This isn't something we say out loud, but a piece of inner dialogue. It's habitual thinking out of habitual action - or lack thereof. And it's a painfully obvious result of low confidence and self-esteem.

If it's important to you, it does so make a difference that you don't give up. And that, plus the fact that you've given up on "everything else", even if it's an exaggeration, is all the more reason for you to not give up on this one.

#4. "I haven't got the time"

Just like the "I've tried everything" mindset, this mindset is one of limited resourcefulness. It's probably the most common and reasonable one on here. - But it's still no more than an excuse.

You see... WE ALL HAVE 24 HOURS EVERY DAY.

There is no such thing as "I haven't got the time". There is only wrong prioritizing and lack of energy, and these are amenable obstacles.

Getting a coach is a hugely effective way of solving this.

#5. "It feels safer and more comfortable doing what I'm used to"

Like #3, this is one of those unsaid excuses we only tell ourselves, and that is just eerily close to its origin in fear, insecurity, and low confidence/self-esteem.

Look... :

The biggest risk is to bet your entire life on fear-based habits and instant gratification.

We're here once. No reasonable basis for thinking otherwise. So let's establish all the confidence we need. Let's not waste our only chance by letting fear and insecurity get in the way.

Let's stop coming up with dumb excuses for giving up on our true goals.

http://ezinearticles.com/?5-Stupid-Excuses-for-Giving-Up&id=9762780

Prioritzing Making a Difference in Someone's Life

Choosing well today is important, isn't it? That's what that word "prioritizing" that people shy from is all about! I've found that you change your life by changing your thinking.

Thinking in ways that get me doing - taking action! - is what choosing well today means for me.

I can only do a little bit. But I can do a little bit!

I'm healing. I'm facing big challenges. Yet I'm doing things.

The way I do is by deciding that giving up is not an option.

When I'm thinking, okay, I'm going to do something? I'm choosing from possibilities that are before me right now. From what's in front of me, as Mother Teresa used to say!

It's not that we can do what others are doing. It's that we can do what's before us right now. What's in front of us.

That's what choosing well today is about. That's what prioritizing gives you. It gives you the ability to see what's in front of you right now.

By noticing what's in front of me right now, I can change my thinking and change my life.

I've been successful. I've even been successful after major disabilities I've learned to manage; now I've got more. But it's the same thing: it's a matter of looking out at what's before me and of recognizing what's within me.

I've succeeded against dramatic odds in the past. I've helped people and made a difference in this world. I like doing that.

I'm finding ways to do that now. Using who I am and my experiences, as well as by using the ability to choose well today.

One of the things I do is reading. It helps inform me and give me suggestions of other ways of thinking and information that's useful.

Another thing I do is I write. I blog! Slowly. I am slow, here and now. But you know what? I'm doing it!

I'm doing and I'm being and I'm making a difference in this world. And if I can, you can too!

This week I looked at another PayPal sale! It's exciting to sell. But it's also exciting to think that I can make a difference in someone's life.

Choosing well today has to do about building a foundation for me. Building a foundation by taking action. Building a foundation by knowing that my purpose really is to make a difference.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Prioritzing-Making-a-Difference-in-Someones-Life&id=9641427

Why Keeping Problems Secret Only Make Them Worse

... and the Number One way to bring them out into the open.

Is this you sometimes?:

• You hold it all together until the last person is out of the house and then you break down crying. Life is too hard. You think, “How can everyone else be doing so well but I am failing? What is wrong with me?”
   
• You get ready for work and show up determined to have a good day. But then your annoying colleague punches all the wrong buttons and you slump at your desk for the rest of the day unable to really focus. You snap at others, and you wonder why everyone else is successful while you are struggling.
   
• You put on a brave smile and find the energy to get your kids ready for school. You drop them off at school and then find all your energy goes with them as they skip to their classroom. You think, “How does everyone else stay so focused and happy?Why am I so alone?”

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Here’s the deal: You are not alone.People all around you think these thoughts and feel like giving up, all the time. Others that smile at you in public later go home and sit in a chair and cry, or yell at others, or just go back to bed.

Life can be hard. We may be grieving for loved ones who died. We may be struggling in a marriage. We may be missing children who are off doing their own things. We may be torn by hurtful comments from people we thought were friends. We may be facing a serious illness. We may be worried about family members who are destroying their lives. We may be struggling to be patient with work colleagues who make our lives miserable and there is nothing to be done about it. The list goes on.

No wonder we get down.  

You cannot avoid having trials in life. What you can do is learn to reach out to at least one other person so you do not feel so alone.

When we keep our pain and grief tapped down, it will seep out the cracks in ways we don’t always recognize. It helps to have a friend or support person who will listen. You don’t need everyone to understand, but one person listening can do wonders. 

When we feel shame or guilt, it helps to share thoughts with someone else, because keeping our shame and doubts hidden only allows them to grow. By voicing those thoughts or asking questions about why you are "the only one" struggling, you can get them into the light of day and realize that they are less powerful when they're not hidden in the dark. When you have the right person to share those struggles, you often learn that he or she also has trials. We connect and realize that we are not the only ones hurting. This person may be a friend, family member, clergy member, counselor, co-worker, or support group member.

Finding a good person to confide in can be hard, but keep trying. Be willing to show some vulnerability. You may be surprised to learn that the other person needs a friend, too. And if you try reaching out to people only to be hurt by them, understand that they may be hurting even more deeply than you and not able to connect at that level. Protect yourself from them in the future, but don’t give up on humanity. 

Reach out to people in person, not just on social media. You might also connect with people through helping others in difficult situations. You don’t even need to share your specific struggles. By helping others, we can feel better about our situations.

Connecting with others will not magically take away all your problems. They are small steps. They are moments to help us catch our breath. And even though it is hard to believe, those people next to you who seem so confident and happy need others, too. They also have doubts and trials. 

You are not alone—and you have gifts and support to share with others. Take a chance and reach out.

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/freedom-grieve/201511/why-keeping-problems-secret-only-make-them-worse

Thinking About Giving Up? Read This First

We all become discouraged. Before you throw in the towel on something you've been working toward, remember that every difficulty is an opportunity in disguise.

What do J.K. Rowling, Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Vincent van Gogh, Thomas Edison, and Dr. Seuss have in common? They all failed miserably before they became successful.

Edison once said, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. I am not discouraged because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward."

Dr. Seuss's first book, And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street, was rejected by different publishers 27 times.

Einstein didn't speak until he was 4 and didn't read until he was 7, after which he went on to win the Nobel Prize and become the face of modern physics.

Van Gogh only sold one painting in his lifetime, and that was to a friend. Even so, he kept painting and finished more than 800 pieces. His most expensive painting today is valued at $142.7 million.

J. K. Rowling was famously rejected by 12 publishers before Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone was accepted.

Walt Disney, according to legend, was turned down 302 times before he got financing for creating Disneyland.

So before you think of quitting, think again:

1. Think of the why.

Remember why you started in the first place. What did you want to achieve? What did you want to accomplish?

2. Don't do what is easy.

Anything great is worth fighting for.

3. Remember it's not over till it's over.

Some people fold after making one timid request. Don't be that person. Do all you can to succeed, even when the odds are against you. Even if it's late in the final inning, you can still win it--unless you quit.

4. Mind your attitude.

Negative thoughts create negative results. Do what you can to turn it around and replace negativity with positive thoughts.

5. Take responsibility.

You can't always control the results. But you own your efforts, your ideas, and your perseverance against obstacles.

6. Keep learning.

Everyone makes mistakes and goes through rough patches. But if you learn from the things that go wrong you can redeem your failures. It's not about avoiding adversity, but knowing how to handle it.

7. Believe in second (and third and fourth and fifth) chances.

Just because you didn't get it right the first time, that doesn't mean you won't get it right the second.

One of our principal missions in life is to figure out what we really want and go after it with a vengeance. So before you quit everything or give up on anything remember that, while you can never go back and start a new beginning, you can always start now and make a new ending.

http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/thinking-about-giving-up-read-this-first.html

Doing The Right Thing Versus Giving Up

Sometimes doing the right thing is hard especially when there is no pathway to do it. It almost becomes a fight against yourself. Do you keep doing what you know in your heart and gut to be right or do you give up because it's just so gosh dang challenging? And honestly, it's just easier to give up.

It's a remarkable dilemma. You keep going, putting one foot in front of the other. Making call after call. Talking to person after person, yet no one is giving you the answer you seek. Do you give in or keep staying true course? Do you dig your heels in deeper allowing these rejections to motivate you even more? After all, you only need one "Yes" to be on your path to success, but all the "No"s keep beating you down.

It's easy to say, "Yes," I'd keep going, but with rejection after rejection, no after no, it gets harder to motivate yourself to dial another number, to speak to another person. What do you say to yourself to keep moving forward?

Just like you, I can talk myself out of anything. I can find something better to do or just do nothing. Then I kick myself in the bootie for not doing what I know I should have done. So, I've found what works best for me is to literally say, "Jessica pick up the phone," "Jessica just do it," or "Jessica stop putting it off."

Once I do one action, the next step is so much easier. Once I pick up the phone, it's easy to sit there and wait for someone to answer. Once she answers, it's easy to say who I am. Then the conversation concludes, and I feel accomplished. Wow! I did it, even when I didn't feel like it or think I could go on any more. I did. I was able to do just one more... and then one more... and then one more.

Stop analyzing (coming from a major analyzer I know how tough that is). Stop putting it off. Stop second guessing yourself. Just go with your gut. Do what you know is right, and don't let anyone tell you something different. You know what's best for you. So now all you have to do is take action on it and follow through. Oh and put one foot in front of the other to make it happen. I believe in you, so just do it already.

http://goarticles.com/article/Doing-The-Right-Thing-Verus-Giving-Up/9829306/