In his bestselling book <The Psycho-Cybernetics>, Maxwell Maltz once said that, "The self-image is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self-image and you change the personality and the behavior."
When you develop a positive self-image, your confidence will soar and so as your ability to handle new situations.
The best thing is that the world tends to accept the self-image you place on yourself.
When you have a strong, positive, self-believing self-image, others are going to accept that frame of mind and behave differently for you.
The first step to increasing your self-image is to know yourself.
Know thyself, Socrates intelligently said.
Not only do you need to understand your current skill levels, strengths and abilities, you also want to determine your weaknesses, disadvantages, trigger points so you can improve upon.
Never beat yourself up for discovering the ugly side of yourself. Flaws can always be turned into gifts if you work on them long enough.
Also, determine what parts about you are most crucial and urgent to change and focus all your energy on those areas.
There probably are aspects you don't concern that much and won't have significant effect on your self-image. Ignore those.
You want to concentrate all your power to change those with most leverage and impact.
And frankly, sometimes you should just accept those insignificant parts of your personality and move on to greater things.
Change is a constant. Success is change.
If you don't feel good about the current version of yourself, you must be willing to overcome the inertia of staying in the status quo and step up to take the tough challenges of changing your identity.
It's NOT going to be easy I guarantee. Our brain will do everything to sabotage your intention to change because of homeostasis. It always wants to make things as stable as possible.
But you do want to boost your self-image right? Then you must commit to taking consistent small imperfect actions to slowly shift your set point. It's totally worth it.
One of the fastest ways to boost your self-image is to upgrade your style.
Yes, I am talking about upgrading how you look, how you dress and how you present yourself even BEFORE you speak and meet any people.
Upgrading your looks and outfits is a huge challenge to most of us because we are not used to seeing our sexy, handsome, beautiful selves.
So if you can afford an image consultant, hire them and let them design a better style for you.
Want to know the secrets why most celebrities are so confident?
It's because those image consultants are trained to make people look good, feel good and develop massive self-love and confidence.
It's an uncomfortable process when you dress differently, but it's the fastest way to embrace a new identity and boost your self-esteem.
Remember that elevating your self-image is a process of change.
Stop living your life based on what others believe, like or think.
Stop comparing your back stage with successful people's front stage.
Stop pleasing others and sacrificing your own happiness.
You are the only person who knows what's best for you.
It's up to you to uplift your self-image and raise the standards of the game you're playing at.
When you change, everything changes. When you improve, every aspect of your life will improve.
I look forward to a newer, better, greater version of you soon.