Well, don't we always get into certain situations, even very simple ones, in which we lose our temper? Be it not finding the shirt you were planning to wear, or being stuck at a traffic jam or even spilling coke on your jeans - such trivial situations, with such simple solutions, but still some people absolutely lose their temper - not knowing how to deal with it.
It is very crucial to manage your anger. A person who doesn't have control over his anger can never deal with difficult situations in life. They will always believe that the world is "conspiring" against them. One who can't manage their anger in a positive manner needs to learn how to.
Life gives a person many difficult situations, sometimes only to teach us patience which is important in our professional & personal lives.
Why professional life?
Let us take a scenario. You have worked hard for the promotion you really want and you believe you deserve. But, the "not-so-efficient" colleague gets the promotion.
Now, the reasonable approach to deal with this situation would be to work harder and be happy for the colleague.
People who tend to have anger issues may abuse or even resort to physical violence to get the promotion- as they believe they deserved it more.
Why personal life?
We must have once in our life come across such a situation. If you have a younger sibling, all attention, importance and hopes are with the "younger" sibling, as they are usually the 'poor little things' and can't take care of themselves, even when they are adults they are treated the same way. In some cases discriminating between girl and boy. This enrages some people to no end and rightfully so. However instead of screaming and shouting and bringing the whole house down there are other ways to handle the situation.
How to deal with it?
Dealing with the situation positively would be to prove it to everyone that you are also important. Work hard and excel. Not for them, but for yourself too.
But, how do people normally deal with such a situation? They get jealous. They tend to see the negative aspect of the situation and give up.
So, seeing the above scenarios, these are basic things we deal with every day or things we have to deal with in life - it is crucial to deal with your anger.
But, how do we manage our anger?
Here are a few tips one must always follow to manage their anger.
1. Count to 10.
Think you're going to lose it and yell at the world? Count to ten. Relax your mind. Breathe.
2. Take a deep breathe.
Take long breathes and say Om. Repeat this 4-5 times. It relaxes the mind.
Meditation is actually a very simple way to gain peace of mind and lessen the anger one feels.
Try to think about the situation in a practical manner. Are you over-reacting? Can it be solved? Is it worth it? Analyze the situation instead of getting angry.
5. Go for a walk.
Nothing works better than taking a stroll in the park when you feel you're about to lose it. It makes you forget the situation or analyze it from every angle.
6. Talk it out.
When things have calmed down, take time and discuss what upset you about the situation and instead how it should have been handled.
So, here you go! These are the main things I keep in mind when I lose my temper. So have at it! Learn to live peacefully.
As Lord Buddha has Said, "You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger."