Anger management is an important and difficult part of self control.
Everyone has been angry. It is pretty much impossible to go through life without getting mad at something at some point, making anger management a mandatory skill for anyone who wants to interact with people.
Sure, some people have less anger than others, but everyone will need to learn to control or manage it at some point. These steps should help you work through your angry in a healthy manner.
The first step in anger management is to figure out what caused it.
Some people have anger as their first reaction to anything because that is how they were raised. Other people end up hurling things around when they're angry simply because that's what they saw when they were young.
Still others end up being incredibly angry because of a recent event that has weakened their self-control.
Some people end up mismanaging their anger simply because they're not looking at the real issue.
Finding out what is really behind your anger and how you express it can help you focus on the issue at hand, rather than lashing out.
Once you've identified what makes you angry, put it on a list. While it isn't so much the anger that causes trouble as the way it is expressed, not getting mad altogether can keep you getting in trouble in the first place.
Think about your daily routine and when you get mad the most. You can either adjust your routine, or if it is part of a job, better prepare yourself for the oncoming storm of stress.
You should also identify the symptoms of rising anger, such as clenched fists, pacing, or even seeing red, as it can help you identify new triggers and prepare accordingly.
The next step is learning how to cool down when you're all riled up. You know when you get angry.
You know the signs when you're getting angry. It's time to learn how to get down when you're getting mad.
There are a number of things you can do.
• Exercise: Anger involves the fight or flight response. You can use exercise to work through all the excess energy that you suddenly have.
• Counting until you calm down: You don't have to count anything in particular, you just need to occupy your mind with something monotonous that doesn't anger you until you regain your self-control and composure.
• Deep Breathing: Slow, deep breaths can slow down your heart rate and calm you down.
Some people have unorthodox methods of calming themselves down, so if you find something that works for you, don't hesitate to use it.
The last step is finding a healthy way to express your anger.
Anger is energy, and if you can find a way to channel that anger into inspiration and change, then not only have you managed your anger, but you've turned a negative into a positive. Some people paint. Other people write.
Find what works for you.
At the end of the day, anger management is about putting yourself in a position to deal with your anger and to make smart decisions in the heat of the moment.
Determine the cause of your anger, calm yourself down, and then make a decision. You don't want to regret something for the rest of your life simply because you couldn't calm down.