Regret is not a proactive feeling. It is situated in disappointment, sorrow, even remorse. However, repentance is different. When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. But sometimes disappointment makes you stronger. It becomes a motivation to write the next book. There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
Disappointment is inevitable. But to become discouraged, there's a choice I make. Depression begins with disappointment. When disappointment festers in our soul, it leads to discouragement. No one else can go to the buffet line for you, you won't get what you want if you let anyone or anything else select the main course of your life.
Take the time. The answer is proactive living. It has been something that I believe many people hold within themselves and it hurts like hell. It's a double-edged sword. I had regrets, though. I had not taken care of myself. I had not been responsible for myself.
Preservation is very interesting. It is the best and worst. Setting the goal to change is one thing. I believe that paying the closest attention to the harmony of what our core is telling us to do is where the bedrock of success in anything is nurtured.
We can all be very powerful if we choose to be. Take the time and realize that the answer is proactive living. Right now this is the only life you have. Commit yourself to the process of finding and following your dreams, wants and desires.Make a list of all the moments in your life where you felt proactive.
Alternatively, if you felt proactive when you first used a computer, was it doing something new, achieving a goal or actually working with technology that made you feel proactive.Keep a journal for a week and notice when you are feeling the most proactive.
Look for the lessons on how to handle or overcome regret. What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn about someone else? What patterns do you see? What are you noticing about your reactions and responses? All situations in life are rich with learning.
Rewinding time is not possible but "do-over's" actually are. Of course we cannot get a do-over of the exact same situation, but the universe will deliver to you similar situations where you can learn. The first time it happened you didn't know any better.
Take action. Is there support you need? Is there a conversation you need to have? Regret is a reactive response. Reactive responses keep you stuck; proactive responses move you forward. You want to move forward, don't you? So, forgive yourself! This is the most important and the most challenging part. We all make so-called mistakes. Remember, you are a human being so stop placing an expectation on yourself that you are supposed to get it right all of the time!
Remember that you did the best you could. Breathe. Take it in. You do not have to suffer from regret. You can stop beating yourself up; it is not serving you. Learn, take action, forgive and stop looking behind you. TURN AROUND. See what is right in front of you... and, better yet, what lies ahead.
This is about living without regrets no matter what our situation in life is.