Why should we worry about what others think of us? Do we have more confidence in their opinions than we have in our own? To build a true self-esteem, we need to concentrate on our successes rather than the failures in our lives. It is not our obligation to justify to ourselves to others, why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes. It's none of their business if we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable in doing such things because it adds quality and beauty to our life.
People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people's minds, as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself, then, no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are completely either your good or bad attributes and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different.
Whatever life you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. But remember, life is a matter of choice. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage and perseverance.
Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one's best and live life to the fullest.
Although there are times that I miss my old self, but I love myself more now because I am stronger and tougher. After the setbacks I had in my life, nothing can break me down anymore. Every time I fall, I see to it that I can really rise no matter how hard the struggle maybe as long as I learned something from my past; then that's enough motivation to move on with life.
Our positive self-concept determines what we become not because others expect us to be. Very often than not, change of self is needed rather than change of environment. No matter where you go or whatever you do, if you always think what others think about you, it would always do you no good.
Our successes and failures are not measured by how others perceive us but on how we handle them wholeheartedly.
Instead of looking outside of ourselves and concerning what others think, we better focus on how to develop our positive self concept. Self-esteem is the reputation we acquire within ourselves.