Yes: Consistency. Now there's an abstract word for you. Why would I present my readers with such an intangible term?
Because consistency applies to each and every one of us if we want to get confidence on a permanent basis.
Well, thank you for asking!
Consistency basically means a constant regularity in whatever it is that you do.
For many people, especially those with low confidence and self-esteem, keeping up a critical amount of consistency can be an uphill battle. This, in part, is because consistency in itself is worth little to nothing without the necessary confidence and resolve to pursue one's wishes.
However, achieving a certain amount of consistency can very well be the much-needed success which, then, becomes the tipping point towards unstoppable momentum.
Well, that sounds great. How does one do that?
Well, thank you for asking once again!
First, we need to make sure we have the right kind of consistency. By this, I mean that we need to be doing the right things.
Sounds obvious, yes? Well, it's definitely NOT that obvious when you look at how far too many people spend their free time fidgeting away on their smartphones or watching TV instead of improving their lives in any way.
Many of us have consistency in getting up and going to work every morning, because we know that NOT doing so would have dire consequences. Just imagine if we could apply the same consistency to any goal of ours...
For example, let's say you want to lose weight. Here's some hand-picked do's and don't's for weight loss:
- Cardio exercise
- No sugar, starchy carbs or saturated fats
- 7-8 hours of sleep
- No smoking
- No more than 2 units of alcohol in one day
- Whole grains, fibres, legumes, and vegetables galore
I'm certain that by far most of you could meet all of the above in one day. Just one.
But how about one week? Or one month?
This is where having a strong confidence comes in handy. This is, amongst other things, what I help people do.
Now, it's extremely important to know that we DON'T need to be some sort of superhuman who adheres to a set of criteria like these every single day for the rest of our lives. We need some variation; we need to go on holidays every once in a while. Hell, we need weekends to let loose and recover.
But if we don't do certain actions on a sufficiently regular basis, we'll never have the consistency we need to achieve the lives we truly want.
1) Pick just one action necessary to reach any goal of yours. Make sure it's fairly compact and easily manageable; preferably doable in 1/2 hour - like with cardio exercise.
2) Do this action Monday, Wednesday and Friday the next week. Schedule time in your calendar this Sunday.
3) Repeat upon completion.
4) Repeat until you've done it for one month. Then, do it for another month.
5) Congratulations. You've just developed a habit supportive of your success.