When we're waiting in line at the supermarket or an ATM, when our YouTube video is taking forever to buffer, when you're trying to teach your grandmother the usage of technology or when you're stuck in traffic on your way to work. Does picturing yourself in these situations enrage you?
If the answer to that was yes, then you're on the right page. The one characteristic that we lose foremost in trivial situations, is patience.
We tend to say and do things we regret in haste, out of pure restlessness or lack of composure. While there are plenty of consequences to being impatient, maintaining peace within, learning to stay calm or controlling the restless within is a lot easier. Developing the character trait of patience helps you stay more focused, make better decisions and most importantly it helps you with understanding, empathy and compassion.
Distract yourself: When you're in a situation that makes you feel restless, anxious and impatient, one of the best ways to maintain your inner sanctity is to find a healthy distraction. For example, let's say you're on the road, you're in a hurry and unluckily so, you're stuck in a traffic jam. As a result, you're honking, looking at the cars on the opposite side drive by or counting down for the traffic signals to change.
Let me tell you that this is not going to help. Focusing in-depth on the activity that's triggering impatience within, isn't going to make it go away. Instead, the next time you find yourself stuck in a jam, pull your mobile up and check your mails or go through your Social News feeds or maybe turn the volume up and play your favorite song - the traffic is going to clear up before you even know it!
Don't stress over what you can't control: As much as we'd like to believe that we can control everything around us, let's face it - we can't. Every now and then we're going to find ourselves caught up in situations that are far beyond our control. Let's say you just got fired / you're awaiting an exam result or you placed a bid for your favorite painting at an auction.
There's a lot of uncertainty about what the future holds for us in these situations. When we're pushed into scenarios we can't really mold with the mindset that we can control everything - we tend to live in denial, we certainly struggle and it tends to get ugly. The key to being patient in scenarios out of reach is to start developing an understanding that we can't control everything and that's completely okay.
Talk to yourself - listen to your inner voice: As silly as this might sound, at a moment of impatience - there's always a voice in the back of our heads telling us we're being irrational. We tend to mute that voice out whenever the scenario befits us - when what we really should be doing is paying attention to it.
The next time you're about to lose it and yell at you co-worker for messing up - pause for a second and pay attention to the voice within. It's probably saying 'No, don't shout at him. You're going to regret it - everybody is watching.' Our irrational, impulsive side is always overpowering the logical reasoning within us - in the heat of the moment. The voice within you is almost always more composed than your exterior. Pay attention to it. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself to calm down, take a deep breath and let it go.
Recognize when you act on an impulse: When things get heated up, we tend to act on an impulse and later regret it. Let's say you eat a bowl of ice-cream on a whim - despite being on a diet or you trade a stock as soon as the market opens up and later realize that you'd be a lot richer if you held onto your stock for a little while longer.
Acting on an impulse tends to mess situations up more often than never.
The next time you're about to buy ice-cream, you could consciously remind yourself about all the hard work you put in on the diet and stop yourself. The day you realize that the choice you're about to make is impulsive and choose to wait it out is the day you start truly taking a step forward.
Once you're done reading this article, take a moment to think about four things that trigger the impatience within you and match one of the four techniques above to each of those triggers. Remember to practice a technique or two the next time you're on the verge of losing it and I can assure you that you will not lose anything.
Not only will this article tell you how to maintain composure in situations that tend to make you feel impatient, restless and helpless but it will also enable you to understand various techniques on how to truly put the advice you receive into action.
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