“Look on the bright side!”
Sure—in a perfect world.
1. Switch gears.
I love to ballroom dance. It motivates and inspires me. I’m best at the flirtatious dance of Rumba, but the lively Samba gives me a bit of a trouble. During one practice, I was especially frustrated with a turn called the “Alemana” in a Samba routine. My professional dance partner, Dmitry Savchenko, suggested that I switch to the Rumba—my comfort zone. After taking a mental and physical break from the Samba and doing something with similar pattern movements that made me feel good, I was ready to again tackle the Samba and its version of the Alemana. I nailed it on the first try.
2. Press pause on frustration.
Do you ever feel like throwing your computer at the wall? Or feel like throwing everything on your desk away? In times of extreme frustration or feelings of failure, stop and pause.
3. Identify patterns.
Once you are in your “happy” place, look at your problem with fresh eyes. You may find that a solution arises that you didn’t see before, or that you are better able to master a new skill now that you have changed your mindset. Do you notice any patterns in the times that you feel focused, alert and engaged?
4. Reward yourself.
It sounds obvious, but make a list of ways to reward yourself for a job well done (or a positive attitude maintained). It could be a coffee run, a guilty-pleasure TV show, a favorite dessert or simply quiet time to yourself. During a particularly hard dance practice, I pushed through in anticipation of the post-practice reward of my list—a massage. Rewards are personal and should motivate, excite and stimulate a person. Whatever fits the bill for you, make sure to integrate it into your daily life.
Every day is a new day and deserves a fresh approach, a chance to focus on those “good” patterns. You’ll find that trying to replicate your positive experiences throughout the day will provide lasting motivation and excitement.