I had a weekend of lectures on in Depth Psychology by lecturers from ISAP Zurich. This is my third year and delighted to be still on the journey of learning.
Over this weekend, we had the most intriguing of lectures, with a focus on Complexes -- from an inferiority complex, mother complex, and so on. The lecturer Isabelle Meier shared that: Complexes arises because our basic needs (from childhood) are not met.
Our basic needs include attachment (all babies/children need an attachment figure), autonomy, self-worth, play & spontaneity and meaning. As I think about all the people I know, including myself, I can see all kinds of complexes and how they all play up in our lives! And they do stem from one of those basic needs not met.
In today's sharing, I like to touch on Inferiority Complex and how this plays up and the impact it has on our journey towards our life purpose.
OK, so some people may come up with this notion that having an inferiority complex is part of the purpose. But let's not go there. I do not think that making everything that is in us, as part of the purpose, helps us to move past them. It sounds a little like a cop out, at least to me.
For the sake of this discussion, I like to see one's purpose as separate from all of our f***ed-upness (can't find a better word to describe this!)
Think about this, if one suffers from an inferiority complex, there's a very high chance that they also suffer from a superiority complex. Because these two are polarized and the human mind has a tendency to flip-flop. To experiment, I like you to imagine yourself in a situation where you are very good at what you do, and that the people around you are not quite good at the same task, you may feel good about yourself, proud maybe, and a tinge of superiority over others? Or you may go to the other extreme of expressing excessive self-effacement.
Or let's say another situation you may find yourself in for eg. a networking event and you do not know anyone, and you are not really dressed for the occasion. Now if you are not prepped with self-confidence, there's a chance that you will feel uncomfortable, not just emotionally but physically. And when you meet someone who is less confident than you, and perhaps dressed even more shabbily than you, your self-confidence suddenly goes up!
This is a sure sign that you have not come to a space of complete ease with self-confidence and that the complexes are still acting up!
The truth is, most of us experienced what I describe above in our teenage years, but many have not moved past that stage. With all the latest technology to our avail, it makes it even easier to be harder on ourselves -- comparing ourselves with others, trying to one-up each other on social media, or trying to look better in selfies and so on.
With all of these opportunities for vanity, we need better-coping strategies and spiritual-psychological practices to stabilise ourselves internally and not allow ourselves to flip-flop between inferiority and superiority complexes. This will help us to go further than just personal development because how we give back to the world through our life purpose is also dependent on it.
I'm sure you have come across people who use their life purpose as a way to feel better about themselves. They may be speakers on the world stage suffering from a chronic case of superiority-inferiority complexes. I have come across too many. While I appreciate what they do, I personally feel there is so much more within themselves waiting to be unleashed and they have more to offer to us all, if these complexes are better managed.
Our soul or spirit, or whatever you want to call it, holds so much to give and share. We could well be the bottle-neck and the barrier, barring our full potential to be expressed.
There are many strategies to deal with this - and you may like to speak with me personally on this, I'm open to sharing via a 20min video conference call. Don't worry, I won't be selling you anything! But I will give you suggestions to do something eg a book, a course, see someone. Go here to sign up: https://meetme.so/Shamala (do check your spam box in case the confirmation email goes right in there!)
Anyway, in essence, my message to you today is to be aware of your inferiority/superiority complexes and how it is impacting who you are, and what you have to offer to the world today.
Peace.
https://ezinearticles.com/?Inferiority-Complex-and-Your-Life-Purpose&id=10013165
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