The Toxic People In Your Life

Many people with negative emotional habits are the same as the people who impact your life in a bad way. You just have to mix and match these, but the effects are the same: the reinforcing of all of your worst emotional habits as well which, is a bad place to be in.

To avoid dealing with such people that drag you down - or at least to reduce the interaction with them to a minimum - you must learn to identify the 4 types of toxic people in your life and then decide to put distance between them and you. It needn't be a complete and total exclusion of them from your life, you just need to allow yourself some distance so their negativity won't affect you.

Many times this simple solution works wonders in destressing and decluttering your mind and life as a little distance can go a long way. Basically, they are still in your life. You still talk to them from time to time, but they're not so close and so dear that they end up dragging you down. At the very least, you're not so connected to them that you are stuck in this downward emotional spiral.

This being said, let's now take a look at the 4 types of personalities that are most likely draging you down as we speak and keep you from achieving greatness in your life.

Toxic Personality Type #1: The Black Hole

This person has deep and profound emotional needs. They're very needy people. You can't tell by their appearance, though. Some look very successful. Some are very attractive. However, when they open their mouths to somebody they're confident in, it's all about them. It's all about how they have lost out, what they need, how everything in life is against them, and so on.

It's as if no matter what you do, or how much you support them it's simply not enough. Even if you keep on giving and supporting it's still not enough because that's how needy they are. They are black holes. All they know and all they seem to be capable of is sucking in positive energy.

So, do yourself a favor and stay away from black holes. I'm not saying you should cut them out, but don't get so near. Learn when to say no. After all, we all have one life to live and it's not worth sacrificing it for people who don't care about theirs to begin with.

Toxic Personality Type #2: The Judge

Do you have a friend or an acquaintance who's constantly putting everybody and anything and any situation into neat, tidy, little boxes? This might not seem all that negative at first. However, this habit of theirs can be quite bad because life is not black and white.

When such people see you they might say "you're a loser" or, on the contrary, they might go "oh, you're a winner." No matter what type of label these people put on you many times it's easy to be influenced by their labeling.

For some people it's tempting to think that they're losers (or winners) when they come across this sort of judgment.

But what if I told you that both these labels are equally toxic? Why, you might ask...

Well, it's because people are people. We change all the time. We have different dimensions. We have different aspects. There are so many sides to us and to reduce somebody to a one-word description really strips them of their complexity (ie. humanity).

If you say to a friend that she's ugly or she's stupid, you reduce that person's being to just one attribute. Maybe they're just behaving stupidly in that one moment of their life, but for the rest of their life they're acting like complete and total geniuses. So, does it make sense then to dismiss them as idiots?

And the same applies to physical appearances or income mobility or the ability to increase one's net worth.

Unfortunately, none of this nuance matters to the judge. This person derives a tremendous amount of comfort in making his or her world as black and white as possible. Everything is extreme. Either somebody is a loser or somebody is a winner. There's no in-between. There's no middle.

Stay away from these people, as well. Again, you don't necessarily have to stop being friends with them, but achieve some sort of distance because, sooner or later, you start adopting that black-and-white mindset, and this is a very corrosive mindset to live your life by. The world really is not black, or white. And it's not gray either. It has many colors, figuratively speaking. It's so rich, so vibrant and so beautiful that you just can't see it as black or white.

Toxic Personality Type #3: The Stylish Hoarder

The style hoarder is a person who looks at different people's lives and tries to find trends or styles that they can collect. When you talk to this person, they're not really interested in the real you. They couldn't care less about your hopes, dreams, fears, aspirations, insecurities. None of that matters. Instead, they look at what you are doing. They're obsessed with all sorts of trends. These can be technological trends, fashion trends or any other trends really. Regardless, it's stuff that other people are doing.

They then use this as some sort of grid when they're judging you, and they say, "Ah, this person, does he think this way? Does he share in that trend? Does she have this fashion sense that is kind of trendy?"

That's their value to you. You basically vindicate their judgments regarding tends because they're extracting a large sense of their self-worth and ego from that. They feel good about being able to spot these trends. They feel good about being part of the right crowd or people who think the right ideas.

However, these people are usually very shallow. They collect. They grasp. Conversely, the motivation is very shallow. It's really all about making themselves feel good, feel substantial and feel worthy. Unfortunately, this is all at the surface level. They don't really have the core conviction, or the substance of the trends that they are so obsessed about. And when you hang out with these people, you become superficial as well. You start slicing and dicing people based on where they are in terms of politics, cultural sensitivity, ideology, personal style.

Fortunately, human beings are greater than the sum of their parts. You can take one person and strip that person to different layers, but guess what! When you put all those layers together, they don't add up to that person. Something's missing.

Maybe we can call this the soul. Perhaps we can call this the essence of that person. Regardless, the truth is that you can't just strip people based on these trends and reassemble them into a complete person. You missed the point. You missed the person.

That's how the stylish hoarders think. That's how they look at the world. They see it as layer after layer of stuff that they can reconfigure, recombine, and slice and dice, mix and match.

If you hang around these people long enough, you become like them. Unfortunately, that kind of thinking falls flat when it comes to reality because, ultimately, people are not like that. We're worth more than the sum of our parts. We're not just thin, superficial layers.

Toxic Personality Type #4: The Troll

Trolls are annoying and you probably know this already. However, the problem is that they're not always obvious. In fact, one of the most common forms of trolling involves flattery.

There are people who think 180 degrees opposite of whatever view or opinion you've stated. They couldn't disagree with you more, but you cannot tell based on their response. It seems like they're supporting you. It might even come off like they are egging you on. However, what they're really doing is trolling you because they don't agree. Whatever opinion you shared doesn't line up with what they actually think and believe.

So why are they doing it then?

For the laughs. They get a (sick I might add) sense of satisfaction in being complete and total liars. But the problem is that trolls eventually reprogram themselves, and that wouldn't be bad had humans not been designed to influence each other mentally and unconsciously. But they have been designed like that, and this is one of the reasons why being around trolls is never recommended.

It's not uncommon for a troll to get such a kick out of getting people to agree with things that they themselves hate because this makes them hate the person or ridicule the person in their minds. Eventually, they get so trapped in their decision that they no longer know what the truth is.

The whole point of their game is just to get a rise or a reaction from people. They're not really invested in whether things are right or wrong, or whether things are proper or unjust and unfair. Instead, it's just the emotional rush that they are getting.

"This person is agreeing with me, he's a complete and total idiot and bigot. I gotcha!" This is how a troll thinks. And they might seem harmless, but who do you think pays the bigger price? The person who is honest with his, or her opinion - as unpopular or unpalatable as it may be, or the one who egged him on?

If you engage in this behavior, you are really trading in your soul, and by soul I'm not talking about some quasi-mystical component of your life. I'm talking about your integrity. You're lying basically. The worst part to all of this is that the lie eventually seeps in and becomes you. It becomes part of you. You reach a point where you don't even know which side is up.

That's how confused trolls are. They become some sort of self-fulfilling prophecy. It all boils down to feeding insecurities because they are very insecure at some level or another. That's why they get a kick out of getting people to say stuff that they hate, or say stuff that they deep down inside want to say but can't. Thanks to their behavior, encouragement and underhanded tactics, they get people to voice out stuff that they wish they could say or stuff that they hate.

And just like with the previous 3 types of people, hanging out with trolls brings out the worst in you, as well. Moreover, you end up being friends to somebody who doesn't appreciate you for who you are. And if you're not careful sooner or later you end up becoming like them.

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Are You Justifying Your Safety and Money Worries or Getting Free From Them?

These days on our planet, two primary worries run rampant-safety and money. You wonder if you can move about safely and get the resources you need and want.

Because of world events in the recent past, you might feel justified in feeling afraid for your safety, security, and well-being. News and politicians tell stories of who is to blame and who can be trusted-and you side with the stories you believe.

Yet what if these stories simply justify your worries rather than offering relief? Politics generally operates as a fear/guilt/blame game-which is an endless circle leading nowhere. You only see facts that support your current viewpoint and vehemently oppose those who see things otherwise. Nothing changes.

What we need is insight into what lies underneath our worries and how to heal them. Applying mindful attention to my own insecurities, I've discovered four helpful insights that create positive change.

1. Acknowledge the part you play in what is happening by the stories you tell

How are you participating in perpetuating the way things are? Do you have worries about safety and money? Because of these worries, how are you assigning guilt and blame? What stories are you participating in?

The stories you participate in hold you captive. They can keep you stuck in fear. To get free, you need to identify the stories that buy into fear as a basic orientation.

For example, do you buy the story that the world is filled with people who want to harm you? Do you buy the story that the economy is rigged for those who have against those who have not?

If you follow the news, it would be easy to buy into those stories. As a society, we are fascinated with trauma and drama-and somehow entertained by it-so, that's what the news provides. However, if you pay attention to your daily interactions, do these stories reflect the majority of your experiences with others?

If those worries were justified, most of the activities you take for granted would not be possible, such as driving safely to work, standing in an orderly line for checkout, and enjoying a night out for dinner or entertainment.

I'm not downplaying the fact that many people suffer horrendous acts of violence. This certainly happens. There are things we can do to work for peace, safety, and opportunity for all. But, supporting a mindset based on fear, guilt, and blame is not one of them.

There are close to seven billion people on the planet. How many are intentionally harming others? Conversely, how many are doing the best they can to live a good life and make a positive contribution?

What does your direct personal experience tell you about the majority of your interactions? Are the stories you habitually tell about the way things are justified when you look at a wider range of facts?

2. Insert a mindful pause and stop feeding fear

You perpetuate your worries by justifying them. When things don't go the way you want them to, out of all the facts available, you will likely choose those that support the stories of fear, guilt, and blame you are in the habit of telling.

What if you choose not to do this? After all, if you keep telling yourself the same stories using the same limited set of worn-out facts, you'll keep reliving the same experiences. What might happen if you pause more frequently before you enter the fear/guilt/blame game and decide not to dive in with your usual opinions?

3. Feel the emotional pain under fear and forgive

When you choose to mindfully pause instead of jumping into fear/guilt/blame, you open space to feel what is underneath your insecurities. Underneath fear is emotional pain.

All of us have a history of hurt we would like to forget. All of us have had moments that made us feel threatened or poor. When in the past have you felt unsafe? When have you not had what you needed and worried about how and if you would get it?

Perhaps your parents or grandparents lived through wars or the Great Depression and passed on stories of danger and poverty?

Perhaps you pick up on the stories you've heard on the news... And, you don't want to be one of those victims you've seen on the news!

When you face emotional pain, are present with it, non-judgmentally-and just feel it-something happens. You realize you can handle it-especially if you stop telling a big story about it. When you stay present with emotional pain, it shifts. It begins to dissipate, resolve, and heal. You gain insight into effective action to move forward.

One of the most effective actions to move forward is forgiveness.

Forgiveness frees you. It frees you from hanging onto the past and letting it determine your present and future. It frees you from repeating the same old stories of fear, guilt, and blame over and over again. It frees you to live in a fresh new moment. It frees you to see life in a whole new light, so you can make new choices.

Who, including yourself, is involved in your stories of pain, fear, guilt, and blame? Is it possible you and they were just doing the best that you could, given what you all knew at the time and what you'd all been through? That's not saying that what happened was O.K., good, right, or that you condone it. Just the opposite. Yet, what if hanging onto that pain perpetuates it?

Are you ready and willing to forgive yourself and others involved in your pain, so you can move forward?

You may or may not be ready to do that now.

When you are ready-and choose to forgive-you open space for different possibilities to emerge.

4. Have compassion for yourself and others

Once you identify stories of fear/guilt/blame, decide not to participate, feel the emotional pain underneath fear, and forgive yourself and others, you may be ready to do something new.

It can begin with simple appreciation for yourself and others in all your diversity of strengths and weaknesses. Once you've mindfully experienced the emotional pain underneath your fears, you are more sensitive to the pains others feel. Being in touch with the pain underneath fear, you naturally feel compassion, rather than fear, guilt, and blame.

You feel a natural desire to appreciate others for who they are and what they've been through. Instead of going through the day looking for reasons to worry, you look for opportunities to love. Love is courageous action. It dares to stare down fear and replace it with compassion.

The more we act from love and compassion instead of fear, guilt, and blame, the more our planet becomes a safe and abundant place to be.

Enjoy your practice!

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Hate and How It Destroys

HATE

Hate gobbles up our ability to love and accept love.

Hatred drains us of positive energy.

It also depletes our immune system; leaving us open to illness of the body, the soul, and the mind.

Hate clouds our judgement and erodes our thoughts.

Hatred is reflected in our words, our actions, and our expressions.

Hate steals time; in the past, in the present and in the future; in essence, it shortens our lives.

Hate makes us ugly, inside and out.

Hatred is a leech that latches on and can never get enough of you.

Hate gets bigger and bigger, while your life essence progressively dwindles away.

Hatred blinds us to all that is beautiful, good, positive and wholesome.

Hate robs us of compassion and empathy.

Hate steals our dignity and self-respect.

Hatred prevents us from loving ourselves and loving others.

Hate is a killer, foremost to the host, where hate's strength is dominant.

But, hatred thrives to share itself. It causes the host's deep-seated rancor for life to shoot out tendrils to everyone around the host: probing for entry into anyone primed by weakness - designed to make all prospective hosts as miserable as it has made its primary host.

In so doing, hate does not weaken by planting spores of itself into others, it expands in size and potency.

Hate must be forcibly removed by its host. Removal is painful, because hatred has become such a part of the host - to be almost a unity of two into one.

So how do we rid ourselves of hate? First, we must acknowledge hate's presence within us.

We should then reflect on what it has cultivated in us; weighing the ugly negativity hate has created and infused in our being; and how that hate in us has hurt and damaged not only ourselves, but everyone we interact with.

Willingly, we must choose to rid ourselves of hate, as any person would who - struggling with a life- threatening habit - elect to free themselves of it. Look to the Creator, and ask for His help.

Doing this, liberating ourselves of this deadly toxin, may prove quite difficult; like fighting to kill off a deadly disease. But the win, the success, outweighs the struggle.

And as you have overcome and killed the parasite that is hate; that moment will truly be the first day of the rest of your life.

And, with your "new" feather-light soul, look to the Creator again - and thank Him!

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When Will I Learn From My Mistakes

"I never learn from my mistakes." A sad truth that this article will explain why we continually make the same mistakes again and again.

We actually do learn from our mistakes, but we learn bad habits. In every event, we are accumulating knowledge of a process; action, reaction and a result. This is exactly the same thing that we have been doing since we where born. An action leads to a reaction which leads to a result and the whole process gets stored in memory. When a similar action happens again, we automatically search our memory for an appropriate reaction that we think we should have, based on a previous event. This will produce a result and that result will be stored in memory.

The problem is that all we are doing is accumulating information as to if something happens, how did I react and what was the result. It does not teach us how to react to get a different result.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

If I ask you how much is 2 plus 2, you do not go through the mechanical process of counting one and one and one and one and get four. No, you think very quickly 2 plus 2 is 4, because you already know that answer. This is a very useful ability to save time and is good in many situations, but not in finding Love and learning from past relationship mistakes.

In order to find that perfect relationship that will last without fights and pain, we must learn the reason why we make these mistakes.

Our problem lies in desire. We desire certain things, which means we require a certain outcome to all situations. It is extremely rare for us to meet a new person and be completely open to it turning out how it will, how destiny or circumstance will determine, rather than how you want it to be.

In our relationships, we often have arguments and get angry with another person because even though Jack told Jill his situation, Jill did not want to hear it because it did not fit in with her desires. This is the cause of most conflicts, most fights, most disagreements.

You where given information either verbally or subtly, with hints that your intuition was capable of interpreting and preparing for if you were in a completely objective state and listening to what the other person was really trying to say. But you did not hear it because it did not fit with your plans. Often a person cannot properly formulate or verbalize their thoughts, but if you are attentive and open enough, you can see what they are trying to express. Sometimes they just do not have the courage to say it.

This applies very well to new relationships when fear of being alone enters. How many characteristics do we close our eyes to when meeting a new person because we want the relationship to work out for any number of reasons.

If you close your eyes and go into a room, you have no right to curse the furniture when you stub your toe. Even moving the furniture around is no help because the next time you enter the room, if you still close your eyes, you will hit the furniture again. The fault is not in the furniture, the room or the lack of light, these are all parts of the mind.

We repeat our mistakes and never learn because we do not know the correct way to react to a situation. Every situation is different. It would be impossible for anyone to learn the right reaction to every possible event. If anyone gives you a guide or list of; 'if this happens, then do that', is preparing you for disaster.

What if it is a bomb disposal instruction said; "cut the blue wire before the red", but the guy who made the bomb mixed up the wires?

Rather, the solution lies in developing a completely objective mind that is open without placing its desires in your own thoughts so loudly that it drowns out common sense and to your ability to interpret the clear signs.

Once you have developed the ability to be objective and allow all things to happen freely, you will not need to control things, or to try and alter things to your desires. You will have developed an ability to be prepared for all events before they happen because, along with being objective, that ability brings flexibility and adaptability so you will be able to adapt to all situations with complete equanimity.

You will no longer need to force things against their nature, because that is only a temporary change. Eventually nature will take its own course, and that is the moment that it slaps you in the face.

In this way you will be able to adapt to all situations, prepare in advance for most difficulties and events and you will be right in the perfect spot to gain the most benefit and live with the most ease through all situations and, finally, you will have learnt from your mistakes. Not the event, but the manner of dealing with the events in your own mind.

EXERCISE

To become objective you must realize and accept how very subjective you are, then change it. The solution to every problem can be found in accepting the objective reality of the situation. That is all. Once you have that, you will have attained equanimity and can be the master of your own heart and mind which means, you will no longer have fear of opening your heart and feeling the love we all desire.

Stop putting your desires, ideas and concepts on other people. Listen to them instead.

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Boredom and Impatience Are Trying to Tell You Something

We live in a culture that beckons us to constant productivity, consumption, and stimulation. In the face of this momentum, the idea of taking time away from work, shopping, or entertainment seems like a total waste of time. This shows up very clearly if we try to do something like meditate. It's common to quickly get bored, restless, or impatient with what might seems to be "doing nothing." What's the point of this? What am I getting out of it? I could be doing something productive!

Yet what if boredom, restlessness, and impatience signal something deeper, something important to acknowledge and deal with? What if, instead of being prompted to rush off to more feats of economic prowess, accumulation, and stimulation, we use these feelings as indicators to dive deeper?

What if boredom, restlessness, and impatience arise when we are ready to make changes, especially inner changes that ask us to step beyond our current comfort zones?

Let's begin with a short story that demonstrates what might lie beneath restlessness.

Restless Legs, Restless Thoughts

This story comes from "Meditation: An In-Depth Guide" by Ian Gawler and Paul Bedson. They describe a meditation student John, who had restless legs and equally restless thoughts. (p.114, MAIG)

John was a very active guy, who loved sports and being in the gym. He had a "go get 'um" mentality and came to an 8-week meditation class ready to "master meditation." "However, he found it very difficult to even sit still; he had a nervous habit of constantly jiggling his legs up and down, a common form of restlessness. The movement of his thoughts matched his restless legs.

After two sessions John came to Paul and told him he wanted to drop out of the class, saying, 'I just can't do it-it's impossible for me to sit still!'" (p.114, MAIG)

Paul advised John to see if he could just notice the restless feelings with a gentle curiosity. Instead of seeing them as a problem, was it possible to just pay attention to them in a non-judgmental way? Could he refrain from self-criticism, from thinking he was failing at meditation, and just witness what was arising in his mind, without buying into it?

Would it be possible to be present with the thoughts "I can't do this, it's too hard" and "This is stupid and I'm not getting anywhere!" and "If only these thoughts would go away, then I could meditate!" (p.115, MAIG) without taking them seriously and without believing them?

For John, who was a proactive, take care of things, make things happen type of guy, this was a novel strategy-yet it worked! In just a few more sessions, he was able to just "sit with his feelings" and he became much more at ease with himself. As a result, he began to experience more of the inner peace he was looking for.

Sometimes that's all it takes to tame your restless mind-a little self-observation followed by a little self-acceptance-until a new state of being arises naturally. This state is hidden by the way you are looking at life and your feelings of boredom can prompt you to dig deeper to discover it. This is a good first strategy to deal with boredom and impatience in meditation and in life-recognize them, accept them, be present with them-and soon they resolve to reveal a new insight or way of being.

Yet, what about times when this strategy doesn't work? What about restlessness that cycles stronger and sucks you in deeper? This can signal a deeper defense you are ready to dismantle.

Identifying Your Deeper Defenses

When simple observation, acceptance, and presence don't free you from boredom and impatience, try to go a step farther. Your mind may be signaling you to become more conscious of a deeper defense, so you can release it to move forward to new possibilities.

Three steps can help: Label the thoughts related to your feeling of boredom and impatience, identify the beliefs behind them, and notice the consequences of this way of thinking. These three steps bring your defenses to light, dissolve their subconscious hold on your attention, and enable you to make new choices.

Step One: Label the type of thought

Thoughts can be categorized according to what they are doing. For example, you could be planning, worrying, lamenting, judging, criticizing, blaming, and so on...

In Step One, you simply name the type of thought you're having when you feel bored and impatient by giving a one-word label describing what the thought is doing.

Step Two: Identify the Belief behind the Thought

Beliefs are thoughts you invest with emotional significance. They are thoughts you strongly identify with. These are not just thoughts you think are true, they are thoughts you think are "you." At some level, consciously or subconsciously, you define "who you are" by these beliefs. Therefore, these thoughts become identified with your very existence, safety, and well-being.

Behind repetitive thoughts you can't seem to shake are deeply ingrained beliefs that originate from experiences of deep hurt. You don't want to experience those hurts again, so you learn thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that keep you from harm. These hurts and the accompanying beliefs are deeply defended in your subconscious.

For example, you might think: "If I just keep quiet and don't make waves, I'll be safe." Or, "If I don't make a big effort or commitment, I won't be disappointed." Or "If I don't express my true feelings, I won't get hurt."

Yet, these defensive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors also keep you from peace, joy, love, vitality, growth, learning, passion, and purpose you long for. They keep your body in a defensive mode that limits you from doing what you truly desire and from connecting deeply with others. That's why it's important to consciously recognize and release them.

In Step Two, you see if you can identify the defensive belief that is behind the thoughts that are cycling through your mind.

You can recognize these defensive beliefs in a couple simple ways:

-They tend to be strong judgments signaled by words such as "should, have to, ought to, can't, must."

-They tend to catastrophize, making everything seem bigger and more dangerous than it really is. They make everything feel huge and overwhelming and often come with the words "Always" or "Never."

Putting these together you get beliefs such as "You should never rock the boat," "I should always keep quiet," "You just can't show your weakness, ever!" "I'm never going to make it," "I'm never enough," and so on... Defensive beliefs aren't always phrased so strongly, but the underlying feeling about them is strong.

In Step Two, you seek the underlying belief that gives rise to the type of thinking you're mind is engaging in. You can recognize these by the strong emotional charge behind these inner statements. You can get at these beliefs by asking:

What belief am I using to protect myself, to keep myself in a safe comfort zone?

Step Three: Notice the Consequences of these Beliefs

The original purpose of defensive beliefs is to keep you safe. They keep you in a "comfort zone." Defensive beliefs have two primary consequences. They either make you "rigid," in "fight or freeze mode," or "retreat," in "flight mode." As life-long strategies, defensive beliefs are severely limiting.

Life is always asking you to learn, heal, and grow. Defensive beliefs cause you to resist growth, to guard against, to fight it-or to retreat in the face of the pressure. In other words, they put you in a state of distress. In fact, defensive beliefs make your life into a series of stressful events.

You can identify the consequences of your beliefs by asking two questions:

What is this belief accomplishing? What is it preventing?

When you consciously and clearly see the consequences of maintaining defensive beliefs, you naturally want to be free from the stress they cause. You want to be free from that suffering. You also see how they are holding you back. With those twin insights, you may naturally become more willing to investigate other possibilities.

You become more open to doing something different. When limiting beliefs have worn out their usefulness, when you are ready to grow beyond them, you feel bored and impatient.

A Two-Fold Strategy

So, when boredom and impatience arise, see if you can pay attention with curiosity and acceptance. See if you can let go of self-judgment and simply sit with these feelings. Notice if something shifts as you mindfully pay attention.

If boredom and impatience persist, investigate them more deeply using three steps:

1) Label the thoughts that accompany boredom and impatience by noticing what they are doing-planning, worrying, lamenting, criticizing, blaming...

2) Identify the beliefs underneath these thoughts.

3) Notice the consequences of thinking this way. Notice what this way of thinking is accomplishing and what it is preventing.

Are you satisfied with the way you are living?

If not, you can consciously choose to let those thoughts and beliefs go and pay attention to the deeper inspirations calling from the Core of your being. Ask yourself, "What is Life calling me to do in this moment?"

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How To Be Lucky, In My Reality (Opportunity Knocks)

Opportunity comes in work clothes and looks like lots of work, and ends up a genuine opportunity, right? Most of the time. When I thought of the premise of this article, I thought of all of the opportunities to grow and genuinely win that have come to me in life that sort of looked like set backs at first. In my life I have had much to be thankful for, and not lament about ultimately. Sure, I admit, that sometimes I do complain sometimes, indeed. The way I generally look at things though, the smarter I work, the harder I work, the luckier I genuinely am. It is in the order I just mentioned, too.

Smart work includes self-observation and honest and unbiased self-analysis. So, I do my best to look at the bitter as well as the sweet with objective and honestly realistic eyes, including letting myself feel the complaints and stuff, letting them go through me without getting attached to them.

For example, I told the story about my sister who passed on a few years ago without fear, attachment or genuine bitterness like I usually do to so many who ask about her to me. That is a prime example of what I am writing about. A person should not let bitterness or fear fester within you and become a "beast", it should be handled correctly and with class, honesty and realistic patience, understanding and tolerance.

The other day, I was reading an anecdote in "The Law Of Success" by Napoleon Hill about tolerance with the picture of intolerance in the form of two male deer with horns interlocking trying to impress a female deer, and ending up dying with horns locked while that female deer moved on. That is how life really is, if you do not have tolerance for reality, you really do have nothing but bitterness and the sweet, good things can never enter or grow to enter the heart of the person wanting to end the bitterness.

So, opportunity comes in work clothes and looks like work most of the time, and to grasp it, we need expert knowledge like the diamond miner who recognized the rough state of diamonds in the Russell Conwell essay "Acres of Diamonds" when he went to the Kimberley Farms where the diamond mine was and recognized the stone where the farmer there just thought it was just a "pretty rock".

So, reality works like this, you (and anyone) needs patience, understanding and tolerance to recognize "luckily" any genuine opportunities life has to offer or miss them. Myself, not being one to mince words of play games with them, I can only end with, I have patience with me, I understand me, and I have tolerance with myself and all of my "stuff". That is most fortunate of all for me in my reality.

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Start by Prioritising Your Happiness

Some people treat happiness as their main goal. When you ask them what they want in life they say, 'to be happy'. But happiness can be elusive. It creeps up on us when we least expect it, when we find ourselves smiling at a beautiful sunset, a table laid for a family meal, succeeding in a challenge, watching our friends laugh at a terrible joke.

Happiness is rarely about expensive gifts or acquisitions. So when planning for a positive, fulfilling life it's important to start by prioritising your happiness. Let's look at what this entails.

- Practise daily gratitude. This doesn't mean settling for second best or sitting back on your laurels, but is about being grateful for what you have and finding a balanced, grounded approach to life. Appreciation of others, valuing the lessons learned from challenges and setbacks, the relationships in your life, the food, air, roof over your head, running water, all can all be taken for granted but are things many others don't have.Those people would be happy to be in your shoes.

- Happiness comes from being inspired, so ensure you have things that motivate you to improve, to be better, reach a higher level. This may be learning new skills, expanding your area of expertise, focusing on a new direction, something that elevates your vision, stretches you and brings a sense of achievement.

- Leaving our familiar comfort zone can be scary and exhilarating, yet often results in us feeling happy and proud of ourselves afterwards. Even trying new food, another route to work, having a go at something we're apprehensive about can prompt a positive shift in our thinking and a happier sense of self.

- Being challenged is important to happiness too. Being receptive to new ideas and initiatives, being prepared to say, 'yes' even when unsure of yourself. Why not say 'yes' first and work out how to do it afterwards! Self-improvement and development bring their own happiness and fulfillment.

- Do things you do well. Being challenged is often a good experience but if life is already stressful making time to do something you know you're good at can be an important reminder of how competent and capable you are. And we all need a little window of success in a stressful life. Enjoy it, even if it's icing a cake, putting up shelving or supporting an elderly neighbour.

- Rewards can bring happiness. Yes, we deserve to be rewarded for our efforts financially. We need to live and pay our bills. But also reward yourself by ensuring you have a space, a place where you go and feel secure, able to relax. It may be your bedroom, with lovely prints, cushions, flowers and music. When you're there you close the door on the world, destress and chill.

- Being involved with others can bring happiness; teaching, mentoring, coaching, volunteering are often fulfilling experiences. And the people we're involved with may bring new ideas, inspiration, suggestions of their own that add value to our lives.

- Don't follow the crowd. Others have their own stories, motivations and limitations. They may begrudge you your energy and drive, preferring that you don't remind them of their apparent lack of ambition, but we're all different and each of us have needs and wants that evolve over time. Reflect on those relationships and consider if it's time to reduce their influence in your life.

- Mix with people who like, support and encourage you; they're your fans and ambassadors. People who like you treat you with respect, may challenge you on occasion, but they're in your court and you're in theirs. Nurturing 'your' people allows you to be vulnerable, wrong sometimes and able to discuss any problem areas in an accepting, non-judgmental arena.

- Indulge your senses. Happiness comes from incorporating smell, taste, touch as well as music and beautiful art and colours. Make time to enjoy nature, your pets. Visit the beach, the forest and stimulate your senses; feel the sand underneath your feet.

- Give yourself regular free time. Happiness is about ensuring there's balance in your life. Prioritising time for fun, sport, exercise, reading is important. Sometimes work may require extra attention, but aim to regularly give yourself time out, perhaps just to sit with a coffee at the mall.

- Insist on being treated with respect by those you come into contact with. Good boundaries matter. Unhappiness can occur if we feel disrespected, treated dismissively or are taken for granted. Intercept bad treatment at the outset and be firm about good manners and consideration. But equally remember to invest time and attention in your good relationships.

- Deal with your demons. Happiness is about being at peace with ourselves, forgiving any failures, past mistakes or errors of judgement. If you're struggling therapy could be a good way to heal and recover from negative patterns and ways of thinking. Be gentle with yourself and move on from unhelpful self-talk. It can make all the difference to your happiness levels.

Look after yourself. Eat well, exercise, commit to regular sleep. Practise these tips, prioritise your health and happiness will follow.

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Your Beliefs Control Your Destiny, Whether You Like It Or Not

Are Your Beliefs Serving You?

Your beliefs control your destiny because they are the imprint upon which the future is cast. Take a moment and reflect on your current beliefs. Think about how you acquired them in the first place and whether they have changed over time? Many of us form beliefs when we're young and hold on to them with strong conviction. If our beliefs are challenged, we respond angrily because of their importance in our lives. But what if our beliefs are not working for us? For instance, I recall growing up, the importance of working hard to earn a living. This became my belief for the past three decades. However, my parents immigrated to this country in the late fifties and worked hard to make a life in a new country. From their perspective, working hard equated to the success required to thrive in their new surroundings.

Nowadays, with the tech boom we have seen countless young entrepreneurs become multimillionaires and billionaires overnight. The painstaking hard work approach my parents were familiar with has been replaced with big ideas and innovation. The point I wish to make is: we must upgrade our beliefs as our life circumstances change. Many beliefs are passed down from one generation to another and are rarely questioned. What about you? Are your beliefs serving you? How do you know? You need only look to your present circumstances to see whether your beliefs are working for you or against you. For example, how would you rate your relationships, whether they be intimate, friends or otherwise? What is the state of your finances or career? What is your health like? We need to be honest and score ourselves in each of these areas to see whether our beliefs are empowering us or working against us.

Be Willing To Upgrade Your Beliefs

Fate does not influence our destiny, our beliefs do because they control our actions. Take for example my mother who rarely drives into the CBD because she believes it is difficult to find parking spots on the street. On the other hand, I have worked in the CBD for years and known parking spots are readily available around town. If I were to drive into the CBD with my mother for a couple of weeks and point out the parking spots, I'm certain her belief would change. There's a passage that reads: "You must believe it before you see it." Regrettably, for most people the reverse holds true and this holds us back in areas of our life. Can you see how your beliefs decide what you experience?

Sadly, many people go to their deathbed having lived a less than optimal life and call it fate or destiny. We have far more choices about our life than we recognise. Therefore, we must be mindful whether we are choosing from a place of fear or a place of love. If our beliefs are flawed, we will choose accordingly and call it fate since we don't know better. A well known example is seen in dating where many people hold a limiting belief along the lines of: "There are no good men or women to date" or "All the good ones are taken." Have you heard these beliefs amongst your friends or perhaps even yourself? In this instance we are perpetuating a limiting belief based on fear. However, if we buy into this narrative, it will prevent us from taking action to be in a loving relationship. We might avoid putting ourselves out there or build a wall to protect us. Therefore, our belief becomes a double-edge sword where it keeps us safe, yet it prevents us living a richer life. It might be better to create a belief such as, "I am open to being in a relationship with a suitable person at the right time." We must upgrade our beliefs and challenge them until our life circumstances change. Is this something you're willing to do? Are you prepared to step out of your comfort zone and challenge long-held beliefs that might be holding you back?

A practice I have used for years involves writing in my weekly journal any limiting beliefs that I feel are holding me back. I challenge the belief and look for evidence where it appears in my life. I then create new beliefs and affirmations to support the shift in awareness. We must change our thought landscape if we wish to change our model of reality. If we don't do the work, we are likely to call it fate or destiny and lament our missed choices. After all, as the great Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung knew well: "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."

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Uncomfortable, Edgy, Indecisive? Access Your Emotional Centerline

What do you do in moments when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you're not quite sure why or what to do about it? In this article, you'll learn a simple technique to get to the heart of what you're feeling and discover the message in it, so you can take action to move you forward.

So, what's your first inclination when you feel edgy? Do you want to take something to make the feeling go away? Do you distract yourself by focusing on something else? Do you look for something that happened, something you did, or someone to blame? Do you analyze it until you come up with a story that makes sense?

All these are natural inclinations which can have value. These strategies may alleviate or take your mind off of symptoms in the short run. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of this very same feeling again and again. Identifying with the stories we tell about our experiences can make them stick and repeat. We tend to believe our stories and tell them again and again, so our life replays in a self-fulfilling loop.

So, what can you do in these uncomfortable moments that would change things, guide you forward, and initiate something new? Here's a simple technique called Accessing Your Emotional Centerline.

The moment you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, instead of jumping right into analyzing it and coming up with a story to explain it, see if you can just sit with the sensation, be present with it, and get underneath it.

Try these four steps:

1. Insert a mental pause, let go of thinking, and pay attention to the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: from your neck, through the middle of your torso, to your lower abdomen. Putting your palms together in prayer posture, as in the picture above, can help you tune into this centerline. Focusing on sensations along your Emotional Centerline quiets the thinking mind and enables you to access your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.

Inquire into the specific sensations within this area of your body. Is it tight, compressed, blocked, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, empty, raw, tingly, fluttering, rising... ?

2. Pay attention to these sensations mindfully. In other words, see if it's possible to accept the sensations completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can become familiar with the felt sensation without telling a story about it or being consumed by it.

3. See if you can label the exact feeling the sensation represents. You'll sense a "yes" when you have the right label. Is it anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, joy, excitement,... ?

4. Once you've identified the emotion you are feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the sensation along your Emotional Centerline and address your question here. Notice what comes into your awareness. It could be a nonverbal knowing, specific words, an image, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something... Just notice what arises, stay with it, and allow it to grow in clarity. See where it leads.

If nothing arises in this moment, see if you can maintain an awareness of your Emotional Centerline as you go about your day. Notice what you become aware of as you do this.

As you practice these four steps again and again, you'll find you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in uncomfortable, edgy feelings or overly-identified with your usual stories about what they mean. You'll discover there's a deeper guidance under the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of what you need to do in this moment. Sometimes this wisdom is vastly different from the stories your mind is in the habit of telling.

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Rewriting Your Life Story

While going through a high period of stress your mind and body are often geared towards responding in fight or flight mode. Due to how pressured you feel, you reach a point where you are determined to change yourself to suit the circumstances better. Even after doing so, when you see no change in the behaviour of others or the situation, you decide that the only option left is to exit the situation and begin again.

This sounds like an effective step and in many cases, it is one that works. However, your life may not always have space and opportunity for you to remove yourself from a troublesome situation for good. When this happens, how can you address your mind's monologue that has decided that everything has been tried and giving up is the only option left?

Wouldn't it be better to develop an alternative narrative where you are kinder to yourself? Here are some ways to actively change how you tell yourself and others your story:

1. Use externalising language - The issue you are facing is not who you are, it is separate from your self-worth and capabilities, it does not define you in any way. It is something that is happening to you and affecting you."When this happens to me I get (... )", "This doesn't occur often but at certain times it decides to (... )", "It is very troubling and unsettling" are some examples of externalising language.

2. Considering social and political issues at play - Is this issue something many others are also facing? Look at what factors of this day and age make it possible for this problem to have the power it does over so many people.

3. Unique outcomes - Have there been times in your life prior to this when a different issue with similar qualities or similar stressors sprung up? If yes, how did you deal with it? Were there previous times when you were able to manage an older issue better than you are managing the current one? Look at what were some of the things you did then that could help you now. Doing this will help you figure out that you probably already have the resources to handle the issue.

4. Find a support system - It is important to have friends who are familiar with how you are rewriting your story and changing your narrative. Sharing your strengths that have helped you combat older issues before can lead to instances where your friends are able to remind you of these resources in times of distress. Sharing with them your new way of talking about the issue is also relevant because it decides how others talk to you about it, how you talk about it in the future, how they offer suggestions and inquire about your well being.

5. Expressive arts (e.g. painting and dance), and journaling are activities that continue to help in externalising the issue. This way, the effects of the issue do not seep into your personality as something that you find yourself constantly thinking about. The energy put into these activities is a way to channel your thoughts creatively, to give yourself the freedom and peace of mind you need to see things objectively and with much required distance.

These activities can help you in stopping to see yourself as the key reason that leads to disaster. By doing this, you are more likely to find hope and motivation to improve those parts of your life that you find are most affected by the issues you face.

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Motivation in the Workplace for Optimal Results

Nowadays, It's a constant challenge to keep others in the work environment motivated and productive. It is truly said that what drive one person can be quite different than what drives other. Some people are principally spur by the simple belief that their job is secure and the reassurance that their work won't become too hard or overwhelming. When inspiring someone like this, accept their limitations and avoid pushing them toward advancement. Assuming that their work is satisfactory however, continue to assure them of their security by maintaining consistency in their tasks, so they remain capable of sufficiently doing their jobs.

In our society compensation via salary, perks or other tangible rewards and benefits is obviously the most common form of stimulus offered; and for some employees, it's enough to motivate them maximally. Such employees or coworkers respond best to such things as raises, bonuses, time off and better benefits.

INCITEMENT AND PRODUCTIVITY

There have been multiple studies that concluded that there is a link between employee rationale and productivity. But,I'm sure that no one really needs empirical evidence to attest to the veracity of this statement. We all know that we perform better when we are highly motivated to do the task at hand!

Let us discuss how to build reason in the workplace

Below given are some points that we should follow to build motivation in the workplace.

1. Creating a great company culture.

2. Set clear and reasonable expectations

3. Provide regular and positive feedback.

4. Use the appropriated leadership style for the situation and individual you are leading at the time you are leading them.

IMPORTANCE OF INDUCEMENT IN THE WORKPLACE

As we all know, workplace fun will increases the business efficiencies, it's like having a well functioning machine. In fact, if you are having a well with your computer at work and its causing you to experience some slow down in performing your task, you would call up on IT to get that fixed and you can definitely make the argument that if the organization doesn't fix your computer they will be losing money as your rate of work would be reduced.

Well, the same is true for humans, but the lack of inspiration isn't something that is easily perceivable and thus not easily measurable! However, more and more organizations are realizing the importance of the workplace goal and are taking steps to increases the employee workplace positivity. One could wonder about the motive for doing so, but I suspect that it's more to do with increasing profits, then having an altruistic motive.

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Easy to Follow Tips to Deal With Alcohol Cravings

Taking the decision to quit drinking requires a lot of courage. Once decided, it takes a strong resolve to navigate through cravings and maintain sobriety. Sometimes, even after taking a long-term treatment, people become vulnerable when they find themselves in circumstances where it is hard to resist alcohol.

However, with a little foresight and planning, one can manage to steer clear of the cravings and continue the sober journey. Here are some tips which can help keep cravings in control:

• Throwing out bottles of alcohol from home - During cravings, it is natural for a person to reach out for alcohol available around. If stored at home, it will be like an open invitation to drink. One must discard all the bottles of alcohol from home and bring in nonalcoholic beverages.
• Staying away from risky situations - It is important to steer clear of risky situations, like one should avoid hanging out with the friends who consume alcohol. Even visiting bars and pubs should also be avoided for socializing. Many places in the United States have bars that do not serve alcohol and one should visit these places to hang out.
• Calling up friend - Whenever the cravings are unbearable, it is prudent to reach for a friend who supports one's sobriety goals. This way, one will have someone who provides support at a critical time. It is important that this friend doesn't drink and perhaps is someone who has been through similar circumstances.
• Eating something sweet yet healthy - The reason people start putting on weight while drinking is because alcohol has a lot of sugar. When people quit alcohol, they also grapple with sugar cravings. It can be handled by keeping handy something sweet but healthy. The options could be fruits of choice, dark chocolate, energy bars, energy drinks, frozen yogurt, etc.
• Feeling relaxed - During stressful situations, people are often tempted to reach for a glass of alcohol to calm their nerves. It is thus important to stay calm and collected, which can be achieved by practicing yoga, meditation, tai-chi, qigong, and mindfulness. One can also learn some art therapy, read self-help books and listen to soothing music.
• Joining support groups - It is important to have positive influences in life. This can be achieved by joining online and offline support groups that offer alcohol addiction support. One must be regular at the meetings as these groups offer a platform for communicating effectively with the group members, give vent to pent-up feelings and overcome the negativity.
• Eating nutritious diet - It is important to eat balanced and fortified meals to stay physically and mentally strong in order to avoid a relapse. One must drink plenty of water to stay hydrated and include fresh fruits and vegetables in diet. Complex and whole carbs available in wholegrain bread and pasta are better options than white flour or rice. Consuming healthy fats readily available in avocados, fish and nuts is also a healthy practice.
• Exercising - Physical activity is known to regulate hormones like serotonin and dopamine. Besides, it helps one stay focused. Brisk walk, running, swimming, yoga, workout, etc. are really beneficial.

Road to recovery

Sometimes, despite best intentions, self-help techniques fail. In such cases, it is important to enroll for alcohol detox treatment under trained professionals who can help one achieve sobriety.

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You Will Never Succeed More Than You Fail And That's A Good Thing

We Will Never Succeed More Than We Fail

How do you define success? Think about your answer over the overcoming paragraphs, since our thoughts about success may not be entirely accurate. For example, most people believe success is about winning and fewer failures, where in fact it is the opposite.

I was watching the American television presenter Steve Harvey, recently who said: "I have failed far more times than I have succeeded. You will never succeed more than you fail... That's just not how it works. I've pitched over 200 show ideas in Hollywood, out of those 200 they have picked 5 in 33 years of pitching."

So what Harvey is telling us is that his success rate within the last 33 years of pitching ideas to Hollywood is 2.5%. Yet, he is one of the most successful television presenters and comedians, with a net worth of $200 million USD.

To present a similar example, consider the following quote from the basketball legend Michael Jordan: "I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

Are you getting the sense that success is not about repeated wins, but not giving up until we achieve our goals or dreams? How about you? Have you experienced success that changed your life?

I'm not talking about fame or financial windfalls but the success we experience with our health, relationships, career or finances. The one common denominator, as Steve Harvey points out, is that we will never succeed more than we fail; and that's a good thing. We've got to be working away at our goal, to have any chance of achieving success.

Failure Sharpens The Saw Of Our Character

In a recent documentary hosted by David Attenborough, a pride of lions living in Africa were followed by a camera crew over twelve-months. In it, he mentions a lion will fail 9 times out of 10 when hunting prey. A lot can go wrong during a kill, which forces the lion to abandon the hunt.

Therefore, it must try more often in order to feed itself and the pride. Success is the same where it requires commitment and perseverance to achieve our goals. Even then, there are no assurances we will prevail. It takes a strong mindset to achieve success. If we experience repeated failures and setbacks, it can affect our self-esteem.

Have you experienced this with a goal, whether it be personal or professional? It is my experience coaching people over the years; it is rare to meet someone who has the resiliency to keep going in the face of defeat. We need to have a powerful vision for our life, if we want to achieve success. Chances are, the failures and setbacks will stop us in our tracks if we are not committed enough.

To paint another example, the Navy Seal BUD/S program is designed to weed out those unfit to serve on the front line. The attrition rate is 80% and higher, and that is just the selection process to get into the program.

The attrition rate is high because the program aims to select those who are mentally, emotionally and physically skilled at frontline warfare. I appreciate our lives are not as demanding as the Navy Seals program, but success also has a high attrition rate because of the resiliency required to succeed.

According to the American author Stephen Covey, failure sharpens the saw of our character because it boosts our personal growth and resiliency. Covey spoke of the need to establish strong habits, and hence why he called it sharpening the saw.

Success Leaves Clues

Are you getting the sense that success is about who we become, which determines whether we succeed? Zig Ziglar said: "It's your attitude, not your aptitude that will determine your altitude." Those we regard as successful have accumulated a lifetime of personal growth to get to where they are.

When I read their biographies, the common denominator is the setbacks they experienced, such as repeated failures, delays and insurmountable odds to reach the pinnacle of their field.

The thing that stands out the most is their strength of character and the resiliency upon which they create their life. We must fail and fail often, if we wish to achieve any form of success. Moreover, we must examine our failures to see whether we are growing in proportion to them.

However, we mustn't consider ourselves a failure because failing is not indicative of our self-worth. Failure is a signpost we are trying and the more we try, the greater our chances of succeeding. It bears repeating: we've got to be doing the work to have any chance of success. We've got to be in the arena doing the gritty work no one sees or will praise us for.

Knowing this, I invite you to consider an area of your life where you are hoping to succeed. What do you think is holding you back? You might say economic conditions, the Coronavirus pandemic, or something else. May I remind you Jeff Bezos' wealth grew by $90.1 billion during the pandemic. Bill Gates and other notable billionaires' personal fortunes also grew during the pandemic.

The point I wish to make is that even during a global crisis, successful people thrive and we can use that to propel us forward. So, take out your journal and write 3 to 5 recent failures you experienced, whether personal or professional. What have you learnt from them? Write how you can use the growth to succeed in the future?

There's a well-known quote attributed to Tony Robbins who said: "Success leaves clues." So what clues is success leaving you? Could it be that your failures are sharpening the saw of your character? Journal your answers and take an introspective look within yourself, to see where the opportunities exist. After all, you will never succeed more than you fail because life shape us into the person we wish to become, when success finally arrives on our doorstep.

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YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE MORE LOVE - Says a Heart or a Mind?

"There is a wisdom of the head, and a wisdom of the heart"- are words by Charles Dickens. Said this, a mindful love might had travelled you to your own frantic hands. A situation such where you are unable to twist nut out of bolt- unable to sense if it is coming up or going down. So, after having given the little time you decide to leave it annoyed. But if you go by wisdom of your heart, in case of love, with timely patience you shall see the nut out of bolt, easy on its way.

Well, anger does not always wise up to a good judgment. In your past, it was likely to happen that your love could not reach its destination. Curse- the circumstance. My words would not take you to probable reasons behind why you gave up on love, but reasons to believe in giving love. Be it having qualms about its meant-to-be receiver or self-anticipated resultant aloofness with reference to your or other's past- do not stop giving love. All mindful and heartfelt destinations deserve to be bound for love. You reach there and figure out if it is livable in future. Not all journeys are pleasant but they teach you where not to go.

Not even taking you to universal perspective, but our neighborhood have become rambunctious about the biggest and smallest, wealthiest and poorest, celebrity and follower. Soon after you wash your hands of this taste, you feel the no-love-return investment has hit you while all materialism. Period. You knew how beautiful it was to give love. Coward is those who are unable to express what they feel. Love is unbound for feeling of care, respect, joy of togetherness and intimacy. Tethering to some prolonged grief for the beloved that left you due circumstance needs disintegration.

Often in love, mind is friends with perceived reality, while the heart with boundless optimism. Situation stands solvable by wisdom of both. Relevant is the extent and applicability of either put right. This should ultimately call for disembarkation from any relationship that does not respect love, but not from power of giving it. There are things and people who need love to grow and feel belonged to the world. It is your beauty- show it, your strength- build it. Give more love to yourself and to the universe. It will come back to you in all forms, sooner or later.

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LAW OF ATTRACTION: You Get What You Give

The law of attraction simply says that what you put out into the Universe you will receive back. That means, if you go around feeling angry and negative then you are going to attract more angry negative events. If you go around smiling and giving compliments and putting out feelings of joy then good things will come back to you.

Now, most people may say I can think whatever I want to think and my life still sucks. It's because the law of attraction is always working. It is working on the things you are even harboring deep down in your subconscious as well as your conscious mind.

How do I make the law of attraction work for me? You can make the law of attraction work for you by using affirmations, prayers, mantras, gratitude or simply anything that activates feel good energy inside of you. What you read and view influences what you think about which therefore affects the energy you emote into the world. Therefore it's important to monitor what you watch and the environment in which you navigate. You want to be around those that inspire not those that conspire to steal your joy.

The power of repetition is the number one tool to produce results from using the law of attraction. The thoughts you repeatedly put in your mind will become automatic thoughts. We never forget the things we learn as a kid, such as the Pledge of allegiance, because the words became imbedded deep within the mind because of the repetitive habits we used to learn it. As we repeat something we move toward mastering it. Repetition creates habits. If you're consistent in a habit and truly stick with it over time it becomes more and more automatic.

The documentary, The Secret, is made up of great minds coming together to explain the law of attraction. The movie started the shift into mindful thinking that has exploded globally. Creator Rhonda Byrne researched and brought together incredible teachers from all walks of life to share the benefits of the law of attraction and it touches on ways we can practice it. It is a great reference for anyone that would like to know more.

Many great thinkers and philosophers have tried to bring the secret of success to the mass population. The book Think and Grow Rich by author Napoleon Hill shares the concept and many successful people today credit this book for their success. This is another great reference for anyone that is searching for more information on the subject.

I personally have actively pursued and used the law of attraction. The good news is that it actually works but it is always in motion so self-awareness and mindful thinking are crucial in attracting what you truly want.

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Finding The Meaning Of Your Life

All through existence, finding the meaning of your life is a question that follows you like a shadow. There is no escaping it as all of us feel like leaving a mark in this world at one point or another. You are not just a cosmic accident. Life is not only about existing but about living well and with purpose.

What if you lived your whole life only to discover it was wrong? Do you know why you are here? Are you ever asking yourself what will be different if you followed what is really important to you?

Well, if you do not know the reason why you are here, then I encourage you to find out what your purpose is. Yes, there is a meaning to your life. Your existence is fragile. I do not want to be a 'killjoy' but, in truth, your light or mine could just flicker out and we could be gone in an instant.

"There is not one big cosmic meaning for all; there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person." - A. N.

A sense of Purpose is Key

When you realize that you only have a limited time; that tomorrow may never come, and are always moving toward death, you start to understand that life is precious. So, therefore, you should not waste whatever days you have at each moment is a valuable gift.

Thus, you have to take time to stop and reflect on your existence. Ask yourself if you are doing the right thing. With what is happening in the world, you must begin to look at what are the things you love to do. And do them!

Finding the meaning of your life and your sense of purpose is the key you need in your life which will help and direct you to the right path.

"The man who regards his own life and that of his fellow creatures as meaningless is not merely unfortunate but almost disqualified for life." - Albert Einstein

Finding the Meaning of Your Life

You have to use the powers that you possess for what you love. The reason is that too many people go through life never discovering or using their real meaning in life. Most people go to their graves with their greatness still in them. So, what is it that gives your life a sense of purpose and meaning?

If you know what it is, I encourage you to start working on it. If you cannot do it all at one time, just do a little bit of it each day. Work on it step by step. And if you do not know what your reason for being is, I want to inspire you to find what the meaning of your life is.

Once you discover that, it puts you in your natural power place. Each day, 85% of the people in this world are going to jobs they hate. If you work in something that does not challenge you and you get sick just thinking about going to it. Then you are on the wrong road!

Living a Meaningful Life

When you go to a job you already know and dislike, you already grasp how far you will go. And you can see you have a limit of natural achievement. Simply put, you are in a dead-end position. It just eats away at your self-esteem. And it creates an inner turmoil and emptiness in you that only purpose can fill.

Therefore, I believe that in your existence, it is worth finding the meaning of your life, so that you can live an extraordinary one. You do not want to look back and realize that you worried about stuff over and over for years. It is not the things you do in life that you regret but the things you do not.

So, you do not need to take things for granted, surely in your life. And, most importantly, you do not want to die with remorse, guilt, and regrets. Especially concerning stuff that you did not do because you were either scared of doing or a prisoner of your own thoughts.

Pursuing the Meaning of Your Life

Now, imagine if you will, being on your death-bed. In lying there, you see the ghost of the dreams, the ideas, and the abilities given to you by life all this time. But for whatever reason, you never pursued any of those things. You never acted on those ideas or even never used those gifts or skills.

And there you are, staring at yourself. You think of what you could have done but now, all of it must die with you forever. The real question now is "If you die today, what dreams, what gifts, what abilities, and what ideas will die with you?"

So, find the meaning of your life and pursue it, wherever it may lead you. You will be a much happier person for it and live a greater existence. And in doing so, you will be amazed at the good deeds you can accomplish for whatever is dear to your heart.

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