Self-Sabotage and How to Avoid It

If you are unable to attain your goals, consider this: you may actually be really good at hypnotizing yourself to fail!

Here are 3 ways we psychologically sabotage ourselves:

Firstly, the subconscious part of us will tend to repeat the behavior with the strongest emotional charge associated to it, whether it is "good" or "bad" for us. Usually, if it feels or tastes good, we'll want more.

By the same token, if you're stressed out about biting your nails, then you'll probably end up biting your nails from all the stress. So often we invest more feelings in what not to do or spend time worrying about the problem... and then switching to being in denial that the problem even exists. That is why bad habits are so hard to break; the habits become our story, the one we can't seem to alter. The more we repeat bad habits, the harder it is to break them.

Secondly, as Frenchman Emile Coue once said, "when imagination and reason are at war, imagination always seizes the day." This is how our greatest fears tend to be realized: we allow our imagination to stray into what could go wrong rather than on what could go right. The effort to use creative imagination sometimes feels insurmountable, especially if we are undergoing a period of low energy or recovering from a health setback.

Thirdly, the subconscious part of us does not respond to negative framing. Telling yourself what "not" to do is like trying not to think of a pink elephant, trying "not" to smoke, or trying "not" to eat French fries; what are you thinking about? Pink elephants, smoking, and French fries. So circulating in a negative thought pattern gets you nowhere.

That is why motivation based upon aversion often fails or only works temporarily.

Fear, anxiety, and guilt are stressful and unhealthy motivators anyway, and decisions made under stress are usually not good decisions. Nobody wants to live with a dark cloud over their heads, stuck in a rut.

So how do you hypnotize yourself to succeed?

Well, winners don't win by running away from failure!

Self-Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy can help you stay focused on your success, motivating you to take action in a positive, sustainable way, without dwelling in negativity.

Over time you can begin to intentionally associate and amplify stronger feelings to your goal, eclipsing the unproductive and sometimes overwhelming feelings associated with the unwanted behavior that keep you stuck, giving you the metal edge you need to succeed.

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