Emotional Dependency: Why Being Emotionally Dependent Is Unhealthy

Do you need someone to purge your emotions? Do you always need a shoulder to cry on? These kinds of emotional dependencies can be unhealthy. Why? Read on to find out.

It is unhealthy because you always would be needing someone, be in anticipation of someone, waiting for someone to express your agonies and woes. And that can be stressful and exhausting. That is why it is unhealthy. It is a lot to take in.

How about telling yourself that you can be okay in two minutes? And let yourself cry and drain your emotions. You actually take less than two minutes to change your mindset. After you cry for one minute or less, take your time to tune your thoughts into positive ones.

So why do you need someone to cry out your woes? As I have shown you can stand on your own two feet and let yourself cry privately. No one needs to know what your sorrows are about as long as you can deal with them yourself. Of course, you can share with best friends but the best thing is to drain your emotions yourself. Why show your sad face to the world? Tune into happy thoughts, and starting from a stoic poise to a happy one, you are ready to face the world again.

There's nothing wrong in relying on friends for sharing your upsets. But your friends like to see you happy and smiling. Besides, not everyone is good at sympathizing and consoling. Apart from that, you are good to cry by yourself. I don't see anything wrong with it.

To make yourself feel better, start watching a comedy movie or reading a comic book. You won't be able to concentrate at first. But gradually yes, you will get into it. Yes, you will be interested in watching or reading it. Now is the time to call friends and tell them what a great comedy movie or book you watched or read and recommend it to them.

Nothing is so serious so long you feel yourself in the present. Right in the present you have no problems. Just let yourself be in good spirits and be solution-oriented. Think of how your problems can be solved. Find a way - maybe more than one way because where there is a will, there is a way.

Implement your solution(s). Something will lead to another and finally something will work out. So you see there is no need to cry or feel helpless in the first place.

Only negative thoughts are the sources of your problems. So try to think positive as much as you can. Do positive things such as, cooking your favorite dish, listening to your favorite song or writing a chapter of a book you intend to author. There are hundreds of ways of thinking positive and doing positive things. The more you think and do positive, the fewer your problems.

I will end on a lovely note - always remember:

"Laugh, and the world laughs with you;

weep, and you weep alone."

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