We all hold others in high regard. When we give all of our love and devotion, we expect others to live up to the same expectations. When we call others to catch up or to show our concern, we expect the same when we are going through things as well.
When we reach out, you shouldn't have any expectations of anything in return. When we love, we give of that love freely with no expectations of receiving love in return.
Everyone views every situation differently. Every situation is unique just as we are. We all evolve differently according to our own divine timing. The closer a person is to you your expectations of them become higher. The truth is, you can't expect anything from anyone. It is up to each individual to feel and be able to express how they feel.
Divine timing, is when something happens when it should without being rushed. It is when someone realizes what they lost, or almost lost or even better... realizes what they have.
When you go through things in your life, there are circumstances which make you feel so loved, there are times when you feel unloved, and there are times of joy and pain. Each event raises your awareness of who you are and what you have and what you want and don't want. Each life event makes us grow. It is up to us on how we grow.
How do you release expectations? If you think about it, you only have control over one thing, yourself. You cannot control the way someone else thinks or feels! You internalize things that might not even faze the other person. It is no one's fault. You can expect certain things of yourself but not of others. This is not a bad thing, it is a time when you evolve and they just haven't yet. So, if your phone calls do not get returned, instead of breaking the ties, give it a little bit and try again. You never know, their divine timing might make them realize how much you were missed.
As with everything in life, there is no handbook. There is plenty of good times and pain in each moment. You make the best of all of it as best you can. You continue to reach out because that is who YOU are. Keep giving love and expect nothing in return. Your moments can change someone else's; sometimes we're just not aware of it.
Fear might also play a part in your own expectations or someone else's. Sometimes we stand in our own way of reaching our own goals and expectations.
When we release all expectations of others' we see them for who they truly are. For an example, when you meet a stranger you smile and maybe have a small conversation and you walk away smiling. When you see an old friend you might carry the hurt from unfulfilled expectations that you put on them. Accept them for who they are. Don't judge someone by the way they respond or don't respond, we all think differently and each of us carries the weight of our own joys and burdens.
Release the thought that someone can live up to your expectations when their own expectations of themselves might be totally different than yours. Don't give up hope, just keep being YOU.